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^^^ You are a bad lady, am even ashamed to call you an African sister, your view are full of hate and dislike, you have no compromise in your book, people have now come to know and avoid you in Nairaland Jennykadri.

Gayi:
@MOBO999:
From your tone, i believe you are an unmarried male and probably not of age, i wld like to throw in a word of caution here, people like you that think this "man's world" really have it going for them tend to be hit badly leaving them with trails of disappointment. Make constructive criticisms, learn wherever you can and always have an open mind. Thank you for your contributions.

Well too bad if that your view, all I did was tell you the truth in black and white, you can pretend all you want, in Nigeria men most men have numerious wife or they have girls friends, you not the only one in that boat, the culture in Nigeria ia bad enough, you must stand up and listen to reason, it was this altitude of your that made your hussy cheat on you for over a decade.

A widower comes here to talk dust and look at what people are saying, we have our own nature given talent, we cant discuss everything on nairaland, am fed up with people bringing all topic to discuss here.

@ Poster, be careful cos there is little difference between salt and pepper, for you to have brought the issue of your matrimonial home to discuss with strangers here on Nairaland shows you have failed, even the bible says let no man put asunder, You must have a role to play at some point for your husband to become this wayward, maybe you denied him sex for like 2 or 3 months years ago, that why they advice all women to be careful.

Tell me if you divorce your husband, what kind of kids will your children turn out to be, they will keep on seeing different men coming to see u and spend the night, and forget about getting married again, you know it is almost impossible.
Learn from David Beckham wife, she knew her man cheated, she acted maturely and saved her marriage, but look at Ashley Cole wife, she divorced the Chelsea football star and now she is back with him, she has found out there is no greener grass out there, to be honest women were made to stand and understand such things, men will be men, if your husband was the president of Nigeria, will you be here saying such, am sure your man earns little and that why you re here ranting.

@ Poster, most of the ladies here saying you should do this and that are single and not even married, most of them are even in secondary school and spend all their time on nairaland,well their time will come, life is short and long, aint it.'

queenesthr:
I tend to agree with with richvkunt's words but the problem is that at this stage, I doubt if she can still bring herself to make love this type of man who has so thoroughly broken her spirit.

Men can make love to any woman they see but most women can only make love to men they love (or at least have some feeling for). That is why some women "deny" sex to husbands who don't or can't provide for their family. It is not that they are "denying" him sex, they just cannot bring themselves to perform that act. Permit me to say that "Its a woman thing".

@poster, trust me, a lot of women are in your shoes. Men cheat all the time but the bad thing I see in your case is that he is not even being discreet at all.

Try and avoid catching HIV or STDs from him and face your children. Don't let his actions bother you. Just channel all your energies towards your children and keep up your strength for them. They will be your reward.

This is so low of you, so cos a man cant provide for the time been till things pick up, then the woman deny him sXe, well the young shall grow, well the man has grown, and all the while you deny him sex, there are so many ladies out there ready to ope their legs for him,the wife can sit there and cry all day, but there are other women ready to do her job for her, am so so ashamed of most of the remark of the black ladies here, a man will be a man and let it be.

Wislet:
@serubawon, LOL. Yes i wz kinda ready to do dat. Haha. Dat guy is one comical (at times) character here, but dis time he overstepped. Hope u're doin good? And your babies? God bless u.

Overstep my bound, now, now, now, this just goes to show what you stand for and how you will fall for negativity, you gold digger.

chaircover:
@serubawon, dont bother wasting time on Mobo. He deliberately winds people up and many of us just ignore him.

I agree with you, his comments this time are very distasteful and disrespectful and he has stepped over the line between his dry and boring black women insults and tainting the memory of a very much loved one. However, dont let him get to you because that is what he wants.

I think you have/are doing really well under the circumstances. You are not the only widower/widow on NL, and I am sure that this thread has been a source of encouragement for many.

This should be the last time you try to belittle me, I have been watching you and your I know all altitude for 4 years now on Nairaland, have had enough of you.

debrief08:
Poster you are moving in the right direction, I survived a cheating husband too, divorced and moved on, people will tell you there is no life outside divorce but my sister living with a consistent cheater is not living at all. The physical, mental and emotional stress involved is not worth it.

Hmmm, if really you are divorced, well too bad, you may just be one of those divorced fustrated ladies i bed here in England, looking for a male to warm their bed, how do you like your single life now, I bet you re fustrated and would love to go back, but he wont take you back, are you married now, so you now see that all men cheat as there is no greener grass, you were greedy and selfish by not allowing him to do his thing, can a minister or even commissioner wife tell her man not to cheat in nija, maybe your man was a poor struggling man so you decided to move on, if he was rich would you have left, well you single now anyway.

Women, women, women, what is wrong if he cheats, what if he decide to marry a 2nd wife, a weaklin like you will do nothing so dont even start, look at Victoria Beckham, she know David Beckham cheats and she lets him do his thing, how many wife did your father had if I may ask, why dont you women let we men be and just let us do our thing, it a male thing aint it.

^^^ Why will any good thinking and smart lady bother with a widower and 2 kids, tell me the ladies that dont love new or good thing and a widower is not a good thing or a smart move, am also disappointed in all the ladies on this post, this just goes to show how cheap Nigeria women have become, am loving my life in England and have sinced moved on.

Now at poster am sorry for your loss, but to come over here to NL and post how life is tough as a widower, how u lost ur wife, how women hunt you down in pack, how scared you re of relationship, how financially well off you are and how u finding it not too rosy bringing up your 2 kids is just plain silly and cheap, please, please, please, please, this will do the memory of your late wife no good and this I know you will be ashamed to show your kids this post of yours when they grow up.

One will think as an intelligent man you should know what to do (Did I hear the brother say YES) and please, please, please there are so many single and attractive loaded black brother out there financially, so dont for one moment think those rags of a women hovering all over you are worth their salt, why will any lady worth her salt hang around a widower with 2 children, please wake up and face reality, this rag post has got 7 pages now, dont desecrate the memory of your wife.

Funny it not even September and this year alone we already have Egypt crisis, Tunisia crisis, FIFA bribery, Japan earth wake, Libyan crisis, Greece debt, Cote D Ivorian crisis, PIGS debt (Portugal, Ireland, Greece, Spain),Bin Laden death, Lagos flood, Abuja bombing, Ryan gigs gagging, News of the World Hacking, Boko Haram bombing, South Sudan independence, Somalia, Ethiopia and Kenya drought, Norway Killing, Amy Winehouse death, Italy crisis , England riot and looting and considering it just August.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.

ssemire:
^^^^am in salford, there is a police station at the precint and cctv everywhere so i think they are more on the alert. miss selfridge don burn o and that is in the city centre

Hope Salford is safe, I work in Manchester picadilly, portland road, please i need to be at work tomorrow, things should be settled quickly.

Well since she has been caught, if she does not get atleast 12 months to 18 months in jail, that country will see no light.

It a sad situation.

June 24th it all came to an end, We have watched from a distance as the entire country became engulfed in the butchering of the late sky bank employee (Don’t want to call her name for personal reason) by her Husband, may her soul rest in peace, She went to the same University with me, same faculty, same department, just that I was one or two years ahead of her, may her soul rest in peace.

The Husband have been called names, everyone has washed their hands off him even his family, friends and his Church, but we have tried to see what went wrong in this once happy family, most people now hate the Yoruba race with passion as red as blood itself.

(1) He lost his job, looked to his wife for understand and support, found none in a marriage already in doubt.
(2) He began to ask her for financial assistance, she gave, gave pocket money for Mr Biggs, we know women, don’t we.
(3) He lost his friends, family neglected him, Wife deserted him, he now questioned the marriage (Her mistake).
(4) She lost respect for him, leaned closer to her family, talked and gossiped about him with her sisters and relative.
(5) Her family no longer respected him; he was now a nobody in their eyes, cos their daughter is now holding the cheque book.
(6) She came home late most time, we know how bank jobs are like, he refused to understand, the fight started.
(7) He started cooking his meal himself (her mistake), hanged out with other low life and crossed cultured.
(0) She focused more on her job and money making, Husband Found solace in the bosom of other women in Lagos, (They re all over Nigeria, such women), marriage disintegrate further.
(9) She became a big girl, lots of phone calls, he got angry, she shopped at big boutique, he got infuriated, She got promoted,has large salary, he hated her.
(10) She refused to show concern to his flight, he has nowhere to turn to, frustration turns to recession.
(11) She no longer consult him, she now takes decision without telling him, but when he was working, they both worked  and planned together, recession turns to depression.
(12) She now goes to wedding and other occasion alone, she has a big car, she brought with a lot of money, He dies within emotionally.
(13) The insult continues, the fight wont stop, she told him to be a man and get a job (but we all know the Nigeria economy, don’t we).
(14) He now does the House husband job, feed baby, bath baby, cook for baby and take baby strolling.
(15) His bank account goes red, wife refused to top it up, It tough in Lagos when you don’t have a job.
(16) Things get worse, she packs to her family house, he goes more frustrated, she return after lots of begging and family intervention, he lose his pride.
(17) She takes flight to other state for bank training and conference, he takes Okada and use wify car when she allows.
(18) Love making stops, he is now too small for her.
(19) She sometimes make divorce threat she knows very well she has no intention of acting on, just a threat to spite him, he hated her more.
(20) Family from both sides comes in from time to time to settle them after each fight, he lose more face,
(21) She buys shares, plans to build a big flat somewhere and make travel plans to the United State of America for vacation, he need money for his Master at Unilag.
(22) She now gossips him to neighbours and colleagues, that he is not a Man, he keep going down.
(23) His birthday approaches’, more quarrel, more fight, more insults.
(24) His birthday, she comes home, no care, no card, no kiss, none concern, more insult, more be a Man, more curse, he snapped, He lost is, it was Murder.

We all know when a Nigeria woman (most of them anyway) get married they will then want to start hiding money, taking caere of their mother, fathers, brothers, sister, do you know how many Nigeria women have died in the hand of foreign men and how many of these foreigh men have died in the hands of Nigeria evil women, well google and see the link below.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/africaandindianocean/gambia/6496039/British-millionaire-murdered-by-young-Nigerian-wife.html

http://www.thetidenewsonline.com/?p=4243

http://www.ligali.org/article.php?id=575

@ Poster Mrs Potato, as much as i do admire you stand and view,you forgot to add the rubbish Nigeria women are doing in Italy, France, Spain, Greece, Austria, Libyan, Benin,Togo, Senegal and other countries, talking of prostitution, please dont even go on this ride with me telling me the vitures of Nigeria women, re they the only once from poor home and have relative to take care of, go to Cameroun and even South or North Sudan, there is no such thing, but come to Southern and Eastern Nigeria then all you get is LovePeddler, tart and prostitution.

Goldieluks:
haha
will you ever grow up?
even with your white bearded face,you still speak like a CHILD.

Such a cheap charlatan, cant even paste her pic, using a model pic for her profile, lots of complex issues with you i see.

^^^ Go to hell, you single retard, why re you so angry with the truth, maybe due to your unmarried state.

@ Poster, you amaze me, re you resident in England, were do you live in England, you have to think smart.

Nobody asked you to marry a husband that is older than your father.

This is a sad, sad, sad situation and the shame and evil of most Nigeria Black women in general women knows no end, recent discovery has now shown that most Nigeria women are ashamed to show their husband to the world.

Most of my female friends from secondary school and university got married to very old men, some married to widowers and some married to impotent men (got cured by Viagra) with an age difference of like maybe 20, 30 or even 50 years, some of them married for money, some family pressure and some due to approaching old age themselves.

I have been able to keep in touch with most of them ladies and they refused to put their husband picture on face book, there is even one that just put almost 200 pictures of she and her three kids, (no husband pictures), some even go to church alone, here in the UK it is even worse as we no wonder who is fooling who, it is common in Peckham, London, Gorton and Moston in Manchester, Chapel town in Leeds, this shame must stop as other countries are now wise to the antic of Nigeria women, it was even announced in a Zimbabwe church recently, this is very bad from Nigeria women.

^^^ Let me add one more, I have been in the UK for 3 years now and have never heard a gun shot, too bad I lost my friend in Benin to cult gun shot just one month ago (May his soul rest in peace), Nigeria is filled up with guns and bullet, becareful before you go back home.
Armed Robbers,
Kidnappers,
Police Crooks,
Customs crook,
Army thieves,
Political Walaha,
Boko Haram bombing,
School strike,
Jamb wahala for the kids,
NYSC killing nation wide,
Yahoo boys everywere,
Bank folding up,
The list can go on and on.

Well as a Nigerian staying in the UK, I must admit that it is a tough place financially, but to survive in a place like the UK, you need to have a wife or partner, that’s why most of them have partners, so you can share the bill, you can save one of your salary and spend the other persons (wife) salary or you can both make 50% donations of your salary, you also need to reduce your taste, buys a smaller car for cheaper insurance, move to a house within your salary, look for a better job, you can do 2 jobs.

 As for Nigeria, it is good to return home, because to start with Nigeria don’t even have an economy, our government for decades don’t even know it left from right, it is also common with most African economies, that’s why our economy is easily exploited by foreigners, but do not compare the UK to Nigeria, as for going to New Zealand, I can tell you it is tough there, even tougher in Australia, the UK like most world leading economy can be survived by been married or having a partner, just like the arranged or economy marriage we have in Abuja.

Looking at the things the UK give you in return, like good roads, security, good education, free medical care, constant power supply, information, easy access to other foreign countries, now unless you are a loser, why Nigeria, re there no other countries you can honestly try to relocate to, think again.

In all honesty I think it is very wrong for the ex to be calling him at such hour of the night, the ex even have no right to call him.