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@poster, i really understand Ur situation but would like to tell u dat u can get a good job with ur 3rd class degree.
i also graduated with a third class degree in accounting and did not have hope of getting a job but i held on to God and prayed . i also began to see myself doing the kind of job i desire.
i daydreamed about the job and also step out by distributing my CV everywhere and make sure i tell everyone i met that am looking for a job.
luckily for me God sent me an helper of destiny (a woman) who decided to help me and thats how i got exactly what i av always dreamed of a good job in a white dominated company here in Kano where i served.
God helped me and singled me out am happy and am planning to go for my pgd this year.
would like u to put Ur trust in God and don't look down on yourself.
my boss believes in me because i put in my best at work
and this is just the beginning , because am even believing God for a much better job in future.
ALL THE BEST.

MY DAILY BEAUTY/ MAKEUP ROUTINE:

GET OUT OF BED AS FAST AS POSSIBLE, MUST NOT BE LATE FOR WORK
SAY MY PRAYERS
BRUSH MY TEETH
WASH MY FACE
TAKE A SHOWER
USE D TOWEL AND RUB MY CREAM-PALMER'S COCOA BUTTER(ABSOLUTELY CREAMY)
USE DEODERANT AND PERFUME
WEAR MY UNDIES THEN CLOTHES
OIL AND COMB MY HAIR,THEN SPRAY OILSHEEN
FIX MY JEWELRIES
APPLY MAKE UP-LOOSE POWDER&LIPGLOSS
GET INTO MY SHOES AND GET HOLD OF MY BAG
ON MY WAY TO MA OFFICE


:do i really do all these in half an hour

is this a joke or something else.
is it the kano am living in or somewhere else.
this is terrible
the height of ignorance, infact i can't believe this
oga fun awon aboki yi oooooooooooo
allah kiaye!

holy child college, obalende ,lagos

Can't help but laugh at d babcock guy.
finished from unilag but not allowed to make comments.
proudly akokite

@ OLANAJIM , if the new guy can not forgive her he would not want to marry her in the first place.
he wud av been so dissappointed that she was invoved in pre-marital sex or fornication by having 2 kids outside wedlock
i think this guy truly fears God am being neutral here cos some of us that still very single don't come across people that accept u 4 who u are just like that .most guys already av a profile of d kind of woman they want and if u r not 70% of their profile they look for excuses to dump u. they don't know that we av different temparaments and av to accept u like that.
so it's not a born again thing but having God at heart and loving people unconditionally

well i think all she wants to do now is to watch out on her ex if he has really changed and now sincerely have value for her now while still hanging on with her new guy.
she has also decided  not to move in with him without proper apology to her parents and approppriate marriage .
also , she also wants to find out what made him come back to her and if it is as a result of a heartbreak by another girl and not because he still truly loves her  and the kids, if  so ,the answer is NO. cos it wud be an everlasting tragedy to go back and resume d torture and bring up the kids in a riotous home.they wud blame their mum for it in future cos she can not give them her best when sad.

FOR THE NEW GUY- she has decided to hang on till she gets a satisfactory result from her findings.
and if nothing good comes from her ex, she would go on and marry him but would definitely have an arrangement for her kids. And would also ask him if he can really cope with whatever comes up in d future on the custody of the kids.

SHE IS DETERMINED TO FACE IT ,WHATEVER WAY ,HER KIDS MUST BE HAPPY AND SHE MUST BE HAPPY TOO.
AND HAS PROMISED HERSELF NOT TO HAVE A FAILED MARRIAGE,SHE IS GOING TO GIVE IT WHATEVER IT TAKES

@ almondjoy, thanks ,she just read ur post and feels she needs to be happy as u av said
but something just came up the new guy just called her that he is on his way to see the bishop on their relationship and wedding plans.
And she is just confused and do not know what to tell him. Even though the new guy is so excited ,she is still thinking !

me i no know how to handle this case ooooooooo

@ every one, thanks my friend has not concluded yet, she is still thinking.
she has read everyone's view but has not drawn a conclusion yet.
it's not easy and the situation is really affecting her and i do not even no what to say myself.

@ fabiyi,her ex would not release her children to her, whether she gets married or not but can only allow her to visit them, that's one of the reason why she took the kano job. so this new guy has nothing to do with the children.
if they get married ,the new guy is not nursing them cos their father would NOT release them to her.

@ olanajim. pls be sincere, would u take the said lady that hurts u back if she begs for forgiveness and changes her attitude? would u give her a second chance?

@ oanajim, thanks  the fact is that my friend is not sure if her ex has changed cos he is still not a serious xtian and the only reason why she would go back to him is because of the kids.
she does not have feelings for him anymore cos anytime she comes across him ,she remembers all the unkind words he uses against her then like "she is a waste in his house", a uselesss thing e.tc.
she loves the new guy but would only go back to her ex for the sake of the children not cos shes loves him and she wonders what sort of life that wud be !unless u want her 2 pretend
SHE IS STILL THINKING AND SCARED OF DUMPING THE INNOCENT GUY THAT STOOD BY HER WHEN THERE WAS NOBODY AND WHEN SHE WAS JOBLESS.
@ FABIYI,they were neva married

@yemivictor ,the infidelity was on the part of the man

I mean she accepts her fault, she was not submissive in the relationship which could be as a result of her immaturity at that time and her age.
and has outgrown some childish attitude she exhibited in the relationship e.g unnecessary malice and crying.
she has grown now and her faith has made her more humble and lively.

@teriba, the guy's mum is aware and support her son cos he is also from a broken home and was raised by his mum.

@ his grace, why do u talk without thinking, she is a good mother, the guy insisted on having his kids cos she has to go for nysc in kano, should she drag 2 kids to nysc camp or how can she be reposted to lagos without a marriage certificate.
and moreover, the kids her being taken care of by her ex sister not him and she visits lagos bi-monthly to visit her kids and spend time with them .she just returned from her 2weeks easter holiday to celebrate the birthday of one of them.
Also ,she is a young lady of 27 not an old mama,if she did not open her mouth to tell me her story i would neva believe she had one child not to talk of 2. she is beautiful inside out

@ almondjoy, thanks but she is not using prayer as an excuse not too think but to ensure her decision now would not bring regret in future.so she needs God guidance.
so far i think she wants a fresh and real marriage now with the new guy.
@ olanajim, the trial marriage was not planned but happened cos she wants her child delivered in her (baby)father's house not with her own parent. And she did not just quit but had to be taken out of his house by her grandma cos the pain was just toomuch.
Finally, do me a favour, ask her what the problem she had with her ex is and what the thing the man did that made her quit. Post it. Maybe they are minor, or unpardonable, who knows
well, from what i know infidelity was one of the problems and he complains about everything and anything.
also late nights and on her part he complains that she does not respect him and not submissive, which she has worked on now.

THANKS EVERYONE COS MY FRIEND HAS BEEN READING ALL CONTRIBUTIONS AND HAS DECIDED TO PRAY MORE B4 TAKING ANY ACTION.
@ TERIBA,THANKS, SHE IS NOT SAYING THIS NEW GUY IS A SAINT BUT THE DIFFERENCE BTW D 2 IS DAT ONE HAS A HEART FOR GOD AND LOVES HIM THAN THE OTHER. AND I ALSO THINK IT TAKES GOD FOR A SINGLE GUY TO WANT TO MARRY A MOTHER OF 2.

@AKINGIRL- YOU GOT IT RIGHT SHE ABSOLUTELY WANTS HER CHILDREN TO GROW UP IN A PROPER FAMILY SETTING AND HAS ACTUALLY GONE ALL OUT TO BEG THIS GUY COS OF THIS B4 NOW BUT HE REFUSED. ONLY GOD KNOWS WHY HE IS COMING BACK NOW.
@OLANAJIM- SHE WANTED TO GET MARRIED TO HIM BUT HER PARENTS INSISTED IT SHOULD BE AFTER HER GRADUATION.WHICH LED TO HER MOVING IN WITH THE GUY AGAINST THEIR CONSENT CO SHE WANTS THE BABY DELIVERED IN HER FATHER'S HOUSE."WHICH WOMAN WOULD NOT TO GET MARRIED TO A MAN SHE LOVES."
SHE HAS GROWN UP NOW THAN THEN AND HAS REALISED HER SHORTCOMINGS WITH HER EX.
SHE NEVER ENTERED FOR ECONOMIC REASONS BUT PURE LOVE,SHE IS FROM A COMFORTABLE HOME



BUT ABOVE ALL, SHE IS PRAYING FOR DIVINE GUIDANCE NOW

A friend of mine fell in love with a guy who was ten years older than her and got pregnant for him after 4years of wonderful relationship in her third year in d university at 21.
after which she moved in with him without marriage and they lived together with the hope of getting married legally but got pregnant again,thereby having 2 pretty girls for him after which he changed and became something else.
to cut the story short they broke up after 3years and my friend had to go back to her parents after so much emotional and physical torture,while he took over the children.
Then ,she was posted to kano for her nysc and was offered employement there
which she took as an escape route out of her problems and so had to stay in kano while her children are in lagos with their dad.
while in kano ,she joined achurch and served wholeheartedly and along the line met another guy who is just ayear older than her,this guy proposed marriage and my friend had to tell him her story to chase him away but to her amazement the guy was so touched by her story and insisted on marrying her,which she accepted, but after 8 months in the relationship her ex shows up again to apologise.
now she is so confused ,she is in love with this new guy and really want to marry him because he is God fearing but on the hand loves her children and would want to take care of them herself cos they are young -3and 5 years.
Pls nairalanders , i don't know what to tell her ,kindly advise cos the new guy wants to marry her as soon as possible.

ALADE OGO,ARIBIRABATA,OBA TO NGBE INU WUNDIA SHOLA
TO N GBE INU ADELEBO SEWA, OBA TO GBE ORUN SOGO
ORO TO GBE INU OMO ENIYAN FO OHUN
MO SE KAAAAAAAAABIYEEEEEEEEEESIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
ONLY YOU IS WORTHY OF MY PRAISE, OH GOD!

why would u keep underarm hair ?are u keeping it for braids or what
abeg it's a dirty sght for both men and women.
can't stand it odour or no odour.

i call him my love

My love and ife mi

Don't try to abort that innocent child,just ask God for forgiveness and direction.
u guys can get married if u r still in love but don't let the pregnancy be the main reason
for getting married. u might not be happy thereafter.
Am talking from experience.

i sincerely bless God for all he has done for me in 2007, i discovered that there is nothing too hard for him to do,
first, i finished my N.Y.S.C successfully,
then got a job immediately
also my own accomodation
and most of all, met my dream man.
LORD AM SO GRATEFUL AND I OWE IT ALL TO YOU.
THANK YOU LORD because 2008 WOULD BE MUCH BETTER

i call him ife mi (my love) and he calls me temi (mine)

WHY NOT! MY DAD HAS FACIAL MARKS THOUGH NOT VERY OBVIUS COS HE IS DARK AND MY MUM MARRIED HIM .
THEY ARE STILL IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER, SO I DO NOT SEE TRIBAL MARKS AS A BARRIER

On monday morning, my phone rang and it was my german boss apologising to me.
he said he is sorry and really respects me ,and that my type is very rare to come by. because he was told that nigerian girls sees dating a white guy as a priviledge and an opportunity to make money . But now he knows better.
HE also ask me if i want to come back to work but that he would have to transfer me to another branch office of the company and i told him to give me sometime to think about it.

I still can't believe it, cos i have forgotten about this job, but i think i would go to another branch cos i love the job and do not have an alternative presently. praise God.

a million braids,it took the whole day and my friend made it for me.

I just got a job in a construction company as a secretary to a German boss. And 3 days into the job he wants to sleep with me and when i told him no, he asked me to leave for now that i would be called upon later.
which i think means quitting.
I have been home for two days now and i feel terrible and sad, am also confused i do not want to fail God and i also need a job desperately.
somebody please advice me on what to do, i hope he would change his mind and call me back cos i love the job.

@otunoye
men also,u can never detect a man's true character until u leave together.
To the groom, best of luck and know that as u head ur wife, u are also subject to christ , so love her whole heartedly and u would have the most submissive wife on earth.

am 30th of september,my mate should contact me.

hi, send ur price list to me also.

Absolute rubbish, she should av walked on the street naked