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ITS GOING TO BE A FESTIVAL OF EXQUISITE AND EXOTIC FABRICS!
Are you thinking of where to get exquisite fabrics at affordable prices for you and your loved ones this Christmas then THEASOEBIJUNKIE TEXTILE FAIR is the place to be on the 6th of December 2014.
There will be sales of different kinds of exquisite fabrics: Lace, Ankara, Brocade, Chiffon, Silk, Cotton Fabrics etc
Also sales of colorful and quality aso-oke fabrics and gele like Sego and even bedding, curtains and much more will be at the fair.

Creative designers will also be there to showcase their crafts as well, so you can buy fabrics and pick a designer at the fair.

If you are having a party and you need to organize aso-ebi, then you must not miss this fair because there will be lots of amazing aso-ebi deals from various vendors to choose from and you also get help with color combinations from them.

Also there will be a free gele tying session for all so that you can learn how to tie amazing gele styles to parties all by yourself.

Another tip is that the first fifty shoppers gets a fabric goody bag!
Save the date! See you there! Don't miss it!

Do you love fabrics? Are you thinking of where to get exquisite fabrics at affordable prices for you and your loved ones this Christmas then THEASOEBIJUNKIE TEXTILE FAIR is the place to be on the 6th of December 2014.
There will be sales of different kinds of exquisite fabrics: Lace, Ankara, Brocade, Chiffon, Silk, Cotton Fabrics etc
Also sales of colorful and quality aso-oke fabrics and gele like Sego and even bedding, curtains and much more will be at the fair.

Creative designers will also be there to showcase their crafts as well, so you can buy fabrics and pick a designer at the fair.

If you are having a party and you need to organize aso-ebi, then you must not miss this fair because there will be lots of amazing aso-ebi deals from various vendors to choose from and you also get help with color combinations from them.

Also there will be a free gele tying session for all so that you can learn how to tie amazing gele styles to parties all by yourself.

Another tip is that the first fifty shoppers gets a fabric goody bag!
Save the date! See you there! Don't miss it!

Hi all,

Please i need ideas on venues to host shopping events in Lagos preferably on the island.
Contacts can be dropped please.
Thank you

please can you state the hotel rates in Ghana? i mean affordable ones

uzoo: Well being the last of six kids i have to say that i did a lot of hand washing and cleaning for everyone at home that if i were to meet with the inventor of the washing machine if still alive i would hug and kiss the living day lights out of him/her. DAMN!!!!! where do i even begin .

First it was the harsh detegents and bar soaps , then the starching of clothes for my brothers, and then came along the bleach (Jik,parazone) for whites and uniforms . Never again!! Now all i've been doing for the past 5 years is carrying hand creams and body butters in my hand bag to take care of the damage.

Don't get me wrong i used to think the same way too but there's a process to using the washing machine.

First you have to sort out the clothes , blacks on one side , multi coloured on another , and then whites on another side.

start by treating them individually with the different detergent and treatments you have , for instance for stains on coloured clothes you spray on the stain remover treatment on the spots like arm pit,collar or any stain you have on them .Leave on the fabric for the required time before throwing into the machine and using the appropriate wash cycle.

The next thing to do is soak the whites in water( water which bleach has been added to )for at least 30 mins before you throw them into the machine and then using the ''WHITE'' cycle on the machine to wash the whites . its also best to set the cycle to a hot temperature for the water that goes in to the machine.These days they make these machines with heating elements like the LG model.

I would suggest using a detergent for automatic wash like Persil ,they have them in Bio and Non bio detergents and they remove stains too ,but i wouldnt say the same for tough stains .(you need a stain remover for those). There are also tablets which you can throw into the machine . I think i prefer those ones.

then lastly ,in the middle of the wash pour in your conditioner, some people dont see it as neccessary,but i think its good on clothes.Feel the touch of clothes washed with fabric conditioners and the ones with out and you'll see the difference.

#Team-Washing-machine

pls can you give me the names of such tablets. and thank you for your comment because i just got a new machine and do not know what kind of detergent to use. for the conditioner is comfort a good one?

@sidvinc, how much is the nexus gas cooker?

tomzman: Christianity has seriously been battered. A 'pastor' living in immorality for 7 good years haba! Those that still attend that 'church' need serious psychiatric checkup.

As for the family members, they should be ashamed of themselves. Bunch of greedy cretins.

please becareful what you say about people. i dont know this man and am just hearing abt him online but still would be careful abt what i say based on online info.
are u sure the man did not pay her bride price before the legal wedding?
someone also mentioned here that he just got bornagain in 2010 and that was when he got married before being a pastor.
this man is dead! pls respect that and becareful of what u say or type.
he might be in heaven now, are u sure of where u will spend eternity yet?

HI ZHUKAFA, NICE THREAD.

i wud also like to travel to cotonou at the end of the month for 3 days with my husband and lil girl

i wud use your directions to get there.
but can u give me any other hotel name in cotonou town where i can easily get to the beach, market and other tourist places(pls mention places or malls).
can i also use my atm inside cotonou town or just at the border?

HI ZHUKAFA, NICE THREAD.

Jesuspikin87: Yet to read the write up. According to the heading,Why write a letter to Jesus when you can simply talk to Him in ur closet?

her own way of having a relationship with christ is bringing it online.
very soon her prayer request will be online.
cos she needs the internet to be free from "guilt and sin"

biolabee: if he accepts yes,,, he shd go for a time in the wilderness to seek redemption

he shd not be on the pulpit for a season... remember nebuchadnezzer n wale oke

Then Jesus should have killed judas or peter that betrayed him then
you do not have any right to determine who should or should not be on the altar

am a christian and i understand the mercy of God and his unconditional love
just to let you know this man might have confessed to God and his wife immediately after the act and God has forgiven and cleansed this man. which is what ese should have done
cos if the whole world applauds her and she is being condemned by the Almighty, then am sorry for her

how come her guilt surfaced after some yrs ? why not the same week, month or year of commiting the sin?

p.s: am not a coza member nor do i support adultery but i know and have experienced God's divine mercy and unconditional love even when everyone turned their back on me!

Kollins12: So you people would now crucify the poor Girl for owning up and turning away from old bad ways while at the same time pampering hypocritically the so called man OF god who should av known better,who should av acted better and who should av confessed his sins louder:any way I don't blame you Guys! ur Religion promotes incest and sexual perversion such as the exploits in homosexuality and eventual global endorsement and promotion in the open pulpit.
Go ahead randy Pastor,ur Fans dey hail you

what owning up?? well you are not a christian so i dont blame you
christians dont confess their sins to the world online
they confess their sins quietly to God and he forgives us no matter how large our sins are!
ese is not confessing her sins because the cyber world can not make her free but God only
and who told you the pastor has not confessed his sins? because he did not come online to confess what happened some while ago cos this affair is not recent.

and please christianity does not promote incest and sexual pervesion, do ur research well before typing jargons

IbukaDantata: May your children be hypnotized and sexually abused so that you will understand the pain IJN. Amen

excuse me, ese is not a child but a full grown adult
she was neither hypnotised nor abused.
she went into the hotel room to meet a married pastor when she was fuly conscious and she knows an hotel room is not a praying ground or deliverance centre.

am not a memeber of coza and i do not support the pastor's action which i feel he actually did but pls stop all these hypnotised or abused blah blah

one question i wud like to ask this girl is if she had never fantasized abt sleeping with this man
am a woman and i know beta,she fell for this man easily because she had lust for him at one time or the other........

Eneze1: GBAM, the pastor should come out clean, its either yes or no, simple as ABC

and after the yes or no answer, what next?
what do u stand to gain? will that free efe or change the damage done to his family by both of them.
am not supporting anyone but whats this craze abt him answering.
if he says yes, what wud you do?
are you God that wud forgive him or how will it affect anyone of us and does that imply he wud change or be renewed?
also if he says no, what will it change?
pls lets leave the 2 of them to God!
one thing i av learnt in life is that either u are a pastor or church goer if you admit your sin to God not the internet, He is filled with unconditional love towards us and would forgive.
we all can condemn ese and pastor biodun, if they both obtain mercy and move on with their relationship with God , then they have a straight ticket to heaven even if the whole cyber world condemns both of them.
so my dear work out your own salvation. the theif on the right side was condemned by the world Jesus saved him
only God knows what happened to those that crucified him in eternity.

when someone sorts out himself or herself with God, y'all can continue your bashing on both ese and pastor or support one party against the other. bottom line is they av been forgiven and God has forgotten about their mistakes.

Nichobabe: My Sister the beauty of Ese's confession is that she has freed her mind and asked for forgiveness from God. Justice or not She has been freed. God judgement is not man. Like she said he didn't forced her but she was used and she later came back to her senses and agreed to confess her sins to Man and God. I don't think she did the confession to bring justice to the pastor (no be naija we dey?)

I give her thumbs up for that.

am not a coza member nor pastor biodun's supporter but as a christian that understands God's mercy
i wud tell u that ese's confession publicly can not make her free from guilt. i have a strong believe that she is telling the truth but that this wud help spiritually is a lie the best she could have done was to confess to God and pastor's wife and she wud have been totally free. now she has brought pain to the innocent wife and children who was not there when she walked into the hotel room for 7days in the name of being manipulated.
i am a woman and i tell u , if this babe have never had lust or fantasized abt sleeping with this man b4 she left naija it wud be hard for her to fall for his 'manipulations' for a whole week.
she needs to deal with herself and ask God for mercy cos all this internet saga is not too good for both of them.
this event took place a while ago, who knows if pastor biodun has confessed to his wife and God before now and has obtained mercy. i wud have clapped for efe if she had felt guilty after the first night and brought this to the internet but no she kept quiet until she came to naija and was ignored by pastor who could have confessed to God, moved on and does not want to have anything to do with her anymore.
secondly, everyone keeps screaming that pastor biodun should say yes or no
i think the story is true, but after pastor biodun admits that its true publicly what wud happen? everyone wud keep quiet and says thats better.story closed!
and ese would be asked to move on with her life?
pastor biodun might have slept with her and others and may come out to admit it, it wud not affect anything
we all wud just keep shut and face our lives.
lets leave this matter to God and to both of them.
my 2kobo

yellowpawpaw: It seems like some men have bedroom problems a lot.
C why I like bein a woman, if I hv problem no one will know. Just open my legs,chikena!
If the place is dry,enuf lubricatin jellys.
Except a woman that can't conceive, we r practically safe.
Men dey suffer o!
Small time it will be big d and small d wahala.
If childbirth expands a woman too much,hospital here she comes!
Me,I wouldn't want to be a man in my next world o!(If there is anything like that) una wahala flenty flenty.

na lie o! some men also complain of having rigid wives that are not ready to explore all sorts in bed.
but most of these men always choose the easiest way out= get another sisi.

some women just lie like log of wood in bed and do not react to their husbands 'moves'
some dont even moan........

parisienne: Op u said u buy everything but u didnt tell us how u get the money to since u lost ur job.

Someone made a very valid point. [b]How did u treat this ur wife when things were good for you? [/b]Her actions might be bassed on that. Its hard to tell.

he opened a boutique for her when things were good!
read the post again abeg

mzkomsy: U talk abt disemmination do u no f dey can afford t?der is a diffrnce btwn avn a child of ur own n adoptn one.obviously she neva had an affair outside n wen she did she found out she was pregnt so she new fully well she dint av problms.[b]did u reason mayb d doctor n d husbnd had collided 2 tell ha dey where both ok n e isn't??[/b]u av 2 b reallistic here n put tins 2geda.may God neva put us n tyt situations dat we myt av 2 go against our own well n make us make decsns we will 4eva regret ooo.

The bolded was what i was pondering on.
and even the mum-in-law might be in the know that her son cannot father a child but decide to put pressure on the woman so that she can get pregnant any which way.

the pain of a barren woman in a society like naija can lead to taking rash decisions
its easy for those living outside naija to scream over infidelity. am not in support of it. its wrong but lets be real these things happen all the time.
women are different and the way we react to pressure and frustrations are different also.
in the bible, sarah even after being promised by God that she's going to have a child could not withstand the pain of being called barren and so asked her husband to sleep with his maid (it was not written that God punished sarah or abraham forthis) but on the other hand a woman like hannah(strong woman) kept going to shiloh and crying to God to give her a son and waited patiently for God's time.
my point is we respond to pressure differently and am proud that this woman admits that what she did was wrong and thank God her husband knows the truth now. its up to her to sort herself out with God who i know is full of mercy and would forgive her .
Being barren is very sad and the only person i wud agree with in castigating her is anyone who has being in her shoes(barren for 8yrs and above) and survived the same storm.

p.s: I DO NOT SUPPORT INFIDELITY

mzkomsy: U talk abt disemmination do u no f dey can afford t?der is a diffrnce btwn avn a child of ur own n adoptn one.obviously she neva had an affair outside n wen she did she found out she was pregnt so she new fully well she dint av problms.[b]did u reason mayb d doctor n d husbnd had collided 2 tell ha dey where both ok n e isn't??[/b]u av 2 b reallistic here n put tins 2geda.may God neva put us n tyt situations dat we myt av 2 go against our own well n make us make decsns we will 4eva regret ooo.

The bolded was what i was pondering on.
and even the mum-in-law might be in the know that her son cannot father a child but decide to put pressure on the woman so that she can get pregnant any which way.

the pain of a barren woman in a society like naija can lead to taking rash decisions
its easy for those living outside naija to scream over infidelity. am not in support of it. its wrong but lets be real these things happen all the time.
women are different and the way we react to pressure and frustrations are different also.
in the bible, sarah even after being promised by God that she's going to have a child could not withstand the pain of being called barren and so asked her husband to sleep with his maid (it was not written that God punished sarah or abraham forthis) but on the other hand a woman like hannah(strong woman) kept going to shiloh and crying to God to give her a son and waited patiently for God's time.
my point is we respond to pressure differently and am proud that this woman admits that what she did was wrong and thank God her husband knows the truth now. its up to her to sort herself out with God who i know is full of mercy and would forgive her .
Being barren is very sad and the only person i wud agree with in castigating her is anyone who has being in her shoes(barren for 8yrs and above) and survived the same storm.

p.s: I DO NOT SUPPORT INFIDELIY

coogar: how did you come to this conclusion?
is it not obvious she had a self-centred mother who would rather buy jewelries or expensive dishes instead of contributing to the welfare of her kids?

if i have a mother like hers, she won't get one penny from me.

thank u coogar.
its hard to believe but we actually experienced that and till now she has not changed
my dad is late but he struggled to leave some inheritance for his family. which we dare not ask our mum about
she is in control of everything now even though she did not contribute a kobo to support him while struggling to put those things in place.
i know most of these things cos am the firstborn and very close to my dad.
i remember when he told me that he married for beauty cos my mum is very beautiful and did not check her character.
i miss my dad everyday and wish he was here so that i can make him smile daily

Ujujoan: so so cold . . .

Then I guess that's where we are different . .

I don't quantify my mum's love with material things! I don't hold a grudge against the woman who bore and nurtured me the best way she can, just because she didn't buy me shoes.

When dad had to work late nights, who was there for me? When I was scared and lonely, who was there for me? Those sickly nights nko, who was there to hold me through the night fevers? These are things that no amount of money can buy!

My dad is late as well and every dime I spend on my mum, I spend it gladly because I know that if he had been alive he would have done much more for her. You see not only did he provide for us, his children, he provided for her as well . . . Even though she was working, Dad provided for her every need the best way he could. OF course she had to go without a lot of things because our upkeep came first. As an 'ori aku' , she had to let go of so many luxuries because of us and she did that gladly. That was her own way of making sacrifices and we appreciated it.

Dad's dream was for all his children to become independent so that he will have enough time and money to take care of the woman he loved. HE never got to actualize that dream . . . so we all do it for him, the best way we can!

So yes, she may not have been a big spender, but she is the best mum ever!

Anyways, our situations were clearly different, cos while mum was a civil servant, Dad had a successful law practice. So I guess he had the money to spend!

my dad was the best dad ever, yes my mum bore us and am also a mum of 3 beautiful angels but wud neva leave it all to my husband. never! ever! even if he is dangote.motherhood is not just about bearing children but nurturing them which my dad as an educationist was an expert in. he would pray for us all from 12am to 3am everyday (am not lying) but my mum wud rather issue curses on u at every mistake u make. he wud follow me to my jamb centre and wait till i finish my exams while my mum wud be at a party or biz. i tell u there are women like that! i can go on and on am not holding any grudge against her but my dad was our father and our mother. i remember when i got admission to a university abroad, my mum told my dad to use the money to buy a car and allow me attend a university here in naij abeg i dont want to go all out. my point is its not spiritual, its an attitude

hmmmmmnnnnn! am about 80% choleric and am often misunderstood
but thank God my patner had to do some research on my temparament so as to know how to deal with me.
the strenght of a choleric woman can not be overemphasized. we are great, hardworking, super sexy, nice,selfless and strong women but our weaknesses makes us come across as terrible,stubborn and some people mistake us for being wicked.

we are difficult to understand but when u get to understand us especially in marriage, we make the best of wives.

Ujujoan: Not contributing towards her children's welfare doesn't necessarily make her a bad mum. As far as the kids don't lack anything, she might not see the need to contribute.

Remember that many women were raised to believe that financial needs of the kids are the sole responsibilities of a man, after all they are 'his children'. Where I come from, a man owns the children 100 and if the marriage goes south, the man takes them, no contest!

So women tend to believe that the man should take care of them financially, 100%.

The truth is that we've only heard this posters side of the story. I don't think it's possible for a woman to spend her money on her relatives while her own kids starve . .

Even though my mum was a working woman, she never spent money on us. Everything was sponsored by dad . . . feeding, school fees, pocket money, clothing e.t.c. When you are broke, you don't call her, you call dad. And she was the best Mum anyone could have asked for.

That being said, I don't subscribe to that mentality. A man shouldn't have to shoulder all the financial responsibilities while madam is left with extra cash to throw around! It's just wrong . . .

if ur dad was a rich man, then its no problem
but in this case, this man needs help!
and the children no matter how young they are understands all thats going on.. she wud pay for it later in life when her relatives wud even accuse her of doing nothing for them.
my childen are my life, they are my future. i dont care how much their father makes , i love them so much that i wud sacrifice my all for them to smile not because i want to be paid back in future but becuase i love them selflessly.

Princess zoe: OP, if you are telling me that she nags , i will believe you. If you tell me that she disrepects you, i will agree. If you tell me that she does not value you or have feelings for you again, i will definitely believe you but for you to say that she does not feed her children or take care of them as a mother would do even in the midst of your predicament, i will not believe that. A bad mother is far more better than a bad father and this is a proverb(wise saying). I disagree that a rich woman whose husband does not work nor do business will not take care of her own children. Unless i see or hear that from her presentation. I know very well that when husband and wife are quarreling, they will be exaggrating their points or even lying against each other to draw supports for themselves. Except if your wife comes here to paste the same story, only then, will i believe this. But if its actually true that you don't have a job or even a business but she has boutique and still refuses to even take care of her own children that she carried for nine months, then is not normal. Spiritual powers may be at work here. Something is completely wrong somewhere. OP you are to engage God to assist you. Please this is not normal. And you are the target here so if you divorce her and move over to another woman, you may be signing your death warrant or sponsouring your own failure and heaven too maybe against you because divorce is only approved on the ground of infidelity which you can still forgive. I bet you is not going to be funny for you at all. This woman may be your heaven appointed wife and devil wants to use some people to push you into wrong decision which you will regret later on. You should seek solution to rekindle the fire of "life" in your marriage and not seek divorce. Involve God and let Him take over for the bible says "i will fight your battle and you will hold your peace". When God takes control of this issue, your lost glory, lost peace in your marriage, job and your finances, must be recovered and restored, just involve God. Don't try it, just do it. Get God involved now.

they are lots of women like this out there. i beg to differ from ur opinion that its a spiritual thing. when a woman is self centered its a character or attitude that can hardly be changed. my mum is one of such, while growing up my dad pays for everything up to salt and water. our school fees, bags and even socks.My dad was just a school principal while my mum had a good business but whenever we go to my mum for anything, her reply wud be "is ur father dead"? and so we av to go back to him for everything. we are grown now and doing very well but each time i give anything to my mum cos unfortunately my sweet dad is late i always tell her you did not deserve this gesture, the man that paid for all deserves much more. so its just for the op to pray and may be talk to her cos my dad did all these but it did not work. he died a sad man and always advise us to be careful in making marital decisions

neroflo57: sir are you talking about something like this?

How much are they? am also interested

i find it hard to believe this story.

dont believe she actually wrote this to be published online after her death. is it to punish d man or what?
why did she stay in d marriage till she died? why didn't she not come out and let the whole world know the kind of man the pastor is and what she was going through when she still had breath?
lots of questions on my mind
i still find the story hard to believe sha

kufre2010: Deeper life members were not allowed to watch television but now they can watch. God is now a changing God.

almost fell of my seat with laughter.

PRICE PLS?

nice thread.
i want to start an online store very soon.
how do i make publicity online? and also 'offline'?
need to know other cheap ways of advertising apart from distributing fliers too.
tank you

i am starting an online store and i need a good website. where people can make online purchases and also online payment. e-mail is dupemr@yahoo.com

whats d price range? am interested

konami001:
My brothers and sisters, this is bigger than JEG, i know many of you will start shouting and talking ops, but if you know history and world politics, real world politics not the one CNN and BBC tell you people, then you will all agree with me that this is the hand work of people who are in working in affiliation with the CIA and the US, Yes, some people here will say anything about my claims, but all you have to look at, is the history of the CIA and the US Military Machines and see that this falls in directly with their modus operandi, they have infiltrated this Country and its just a matter of time before they send down their predator drones to start the killings, to sell weapons of destructions and to loot our oil, look at what is happening in Libya, they have an agenda for Africa, planned years ago, CIA officials have been caught red handed in Pakistan handling bombs to militants, US Government sold more than 2,000 high powered guns to the Mexican drug cartels to boost the drug fight, a deal signed by Mr Black President, They want their military bases in all parts of the World, they blow hot and cold at the same time, deceiving the people while perpetrating their evils acts, Palestine is a different story, Open genocide by Israel, financed and sponsored by the US government, killing of babies and innocent children in Pakistan, Afghanistan and Iraq, The current situation of Iraq is now worse off than when saddam was in charge, lies, deceits, killings, wars ==== this is the business of America, Turn your eyes to Libya and you will see US again, They are killing independent Journalist who does not work for their brainwashing media corporations like the CNN and BBC to stop the truth from getting out, this is so sad and pathetic, The US Government is an asset of satan, and they are winning! They are winning because 99% of the people, people like you and me, cannot believe that CNN or BBC can report lies, so we argue all day long, slanging each other while the wheels of satan continues to turn and advance towards us, but If we just joined together, if we can just realise the truth of what is really going on, even if we cannot save ourselves, but we could put up a good fight!

true! God help naija