₦airaland Forum

Seun:
If a woman sees that you really love her and are determined to have her, but refrains from saying "I do" because of the opposition of her parents or your parents, then maybe she's not yet woman enough to be a wife? Maybe a man who does the same is not yet man enough to be a husband?

I agree with that statement... my SO and I are going through stuff now with his parents though they haven't met me... they already disapprove of our relationship and have refused to meet me and we've been together 2.5 years.. but we are just graduating college in may 06.

monister

im getting married to a younger man (a couple months younger ) but even if he were younger i would still want to marry him... my first bf was 1 or 2 yrs younger than me....


monister

my father started dating my step-mother like 6 months after my mother's death.. they got married 1.5 years after my mother's death..(they had been married for 13.4 yrs) my dad already had 4 kids from my mom and his current wife has no kids and they have no plans for any... i say diff strokes for diff folks...

IAH:
Love is all about making sacrifices and compromise. One of them should be able to compromise his/her stand for the other.

the guy isnt asking for a compromise here, he is asking for her to sacrifice all her dreams to be with him...i dunno if thats love or just being headstrong and selfish..

well if you are nigerian, you would know that nigerians are a very tribalistic people and they would much rather prefer for their children to marry within their tribes.

how is the guy responding to all of this? in my opinion, the guy shold let his parents know in no uncertain terms that (if tat's the way he feels) that this is the girl he wants to be with and they would have to accept her or risk losing their son and any grandchildren that might come from the relationship. if the guy is only a little bit unsure of what he wants from his relationship from the girl that is all that is needed to wreck the relationship. also what stage of their relationship are they in, are they still boyfriend/girlfriend or has the guy decided that this is the person he wants to marry and taken it a step further by proposing to the girl? he should let his parents no that this is non-negiotable and that they need to get over their prejudices...

im in it right now.. its been 2 yrs and 5 months

monister