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Portharcourt is alright in my opinion. Although it may have its peculiar problems just like any city in Nigeria, congestion, traffic hold ups etc. But I believe those are part of the stuff that makes NYSC an experience and you will be serving with a lot of young nigerians coming from different parts of the country who have various backgrounds, cultures, experiences etc so it should be a challenging and fun ride. Just like some posters mentioned you should not come with the expectation of having an Alice in Wonderland life style.

I worked in Shell Portharcourt for about 6 years before relocating to UK and I enjoyed it. I am from the Northern part of the country, but I made it my home learnt new things, learned to cook the local food, visit some of the villages, learnt about the culture of the peope and respected their culture and mode of life. I still believe Corpers are given due regard by the communities they are posted to.

When I did my NYSC I was posted to Benue state, even though I had never been there before; i ended up enjoying my service year beyond measure. I was also offered a job then, but because I wanted to do other things I did not take up the offer.

So wishing you all the best

Definitely a nigerian man can be happy with an english wife. Your current situation is a perfect example of how a marriage or relationship based on love and trust and respect for eachother can withstand all obstacles.

My own case is also towards the extreme, i am from the Northern part of Nigeria in a serious relationship with an Igbo lady from the Eastern part and we also come from different religious backgrounds and I was raised by a white Irish family, all her family i.e sisters, brothers, parents have willingly accepted me and cant wait for us to finalise our wedding plans. I think what also helps is that when anyone sees us its like there is something wonderful in what we have i.e our happiness, love for eachother shows outwardly.

I could never ever think of hurting a hair on her head, and I think what helps is having trust, level headedness and understanding in the relationship.

I wish you and your family all the best

regards


MOOTS

Hi.

I would agree with one of the respondents that said you should try and discuss with your other half. This involves finding out what actually is the matter, and reasons for this change. Relationships are like investments, once in a while they take time to mature and have there ups and downs. You have already invested some time and from with said its like you know eachother in and out so why not take some time to discuss and listen to what each one of you is trying to convey (and also what is not said, but can be observed).

Kind Regards and take care of yourself