egojiokwu:
A woman can become scared of marriage may be because of rape or some other abuse. But no man is afraid of marriage. He is indirectly telling you that he really enjoyed all the sex you have given him so far, but doesn't love you. Indirectly telling you that he will marry another woman when he gets ready. It's to your benefit to move on with your life. If you force him, you will suffer at the end after maltreating you. He will definitely cheat on you.

The bold words are not true and will never be.
How did you know all the indirectness?

Does love alone sustain a boy/girl relationship talk more of marriage?
Do you know how many families built on 100% love that broke up due to irreconcilable differences and infidelity?

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

I need your opinions please.

Please don't be confused and answer this question honestly...If your man was rich/wealthy(giving the fact that you both are good to each other) will you accept his proposal?


FACTS...

1: No matter how much you hate the truth you can't deny that marriage is not for everyone. If every man takes one woman and the Muslims are mandated to take 70 wife's each there will still be single girls/ladies/women in abundance.

2: About 50% of both the men and woman judging and condemning your Man for his choice will either give birth out of wedlock or father a child out of it.

3: More than 50% of both the men and woman judging and condemning your Man for his choice are single and not in any meaningful relationship

4: Marriage like one poster said is the next honorable thing for a woman after celibacy(Virginity) not the man.

5: Marriage in our time is basically means security( financial or protection) for women.

6: T&C applies to so many things in life and more than 50% of both the men and woman condemning your Man for his choice on here will change their stance and jump into it if the conditions were favorable to/for them i.e When a man/woman is rich/wealthy everyone wants to have a piece tying them to him/her hence no moral evaluation before becoming baby mama's of daddy.

7: No matter the climate and continent women are more favored by laws and policies so you might never understand how and what it means to be a man.

8: Sex is overrated and more than 50% of baby mama's and daddies never planned to be one.

9: Kids raised by single parents don't end up useless like most people think. In the western world many grew up with their grandparents. (is loosing a parent at a very tender age now an excuse for not been successful in life?)

10: The day most Nigerian ladies will value what their men go through to provide for their entitlements is the day their emancipation will start.

11: Most of all the ladies/women and menies/weaklings condemning your man instead of simply advising you don't actually know what the responsibilities of a married Nigerian man is. The man is not marrying you he is marrying your family and it's extensions and in cases where he is not extending to them he's auto blacklisted and wicked without considerations.


I can go on and on with these facts (which are arguable and can be disproved anyway) but its a whole lot to discuss. My advice to you is to take sometime off and evaluate yourself. Take a personal retreat not only to examine yourself but examine your time with him objectively, in other words know yourself and know your man. If you truly know your man you will be in the right position to answer any questions you have right inside your head and not your heart.

You have a heard what nairaland has to say right? Sieve it, digest it then use your brain logically and objectively before making a choice you have to live with and not nairaland keyboard warriors and ninjas

SEX is over rated so don't feel like if you stop having sex with him as many advised that you have cornered him. Your girls are the worst hypocrites and I don't need to teach you that after Madam Linda dealt with them...chopping gbalash steady and selling a different menu to you lot only to become a baby mama. Many of these ladies/woman masturbating seriously and condemning a man who is matured enough to be honest on this thread are those who claim they don't need man and only want sperm donors if they become successful before getting married.

Empirewizzy08:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2855784921196440&id=1266424546799160

Honestly I really think NL needs to be sensitized and sanitized as well. People just enjoy commenting regardless of what their comments means or portray both to the topic of discussion and the country as a whole.

So many channel unnecessary anger and hate towards themselves which is totally uncalled for. A topic is raised/ A thread is created and instead of reading, digesting and evaluating the information, they will quickly rush down to the comment section and spew trash. I am personally asking this forum what we teach and learn here? We don’t dissect issues nor offer reasonable solutions to the greater problems but are so active to abuse and degrade ourselves.


This little girl in question has the intelligence of going to the police in the first place, why not wail and hold the police accountable first before derailing the thread with tribalism and bigotry ?
What would it cost the police to do the needed investigation and do justice to the accused? Heck that cos she’s a little girl and knows not what she’s saying and the level of the accusation she is on. How much will it cost the police to take the young girl to a hospital and examine her first to determine the amount of damage done on her before releasing the accused on bail?

We all including myself spend most of our energy and resources on misplaced priorities and cry foul all the time as if we don’t know the root of our problems. I think the owner and moderators of this site/forum has lots of questions to answer because the amount of tribalism and bigotry coupled with the insults that fly around here in a a day is enough to set the western world ablaze and spark wars that can end the world. If I can ask what is the job of the moderators of/in this forum? What is the owners actually doing to curb of this abnormalities? Or is good business as hate and other vices actually attracts we lots and that means more traffic and increased revenue ?


We have other nationals in this forum and we blame those in diaspora and claim their actions alone coupled with the govt degrades us but the informations and irrational thoughts and comments on this forum is enough prove of who we are and how we are.

Change my brothers and sisters, change before expecting change from your leaders and the world at large.

Hanks0000:


I love you so much for this response

Cheers man... hope you had a sane and good day? Enjoy

anonymous1759:




That's why I said democracy is not for everyone. If we'd an automatic loyal and honest Nigerian leader people will obey law and order . Most countries ain't ripe for democracy Libya and Afghanistan for example needed leaders like Gaddafi and Sadam but the west wants everything to go their way or you must bow down to them.

Marshall law or traditional method is what the average Nigerian understands they fear police station, military Barracks and shrines more than anything else. But we left our roots and wants to copy democracy. My personal opinion Nigerians would have been more honest and faithful is our laws are governed by shrines. But that's the first thing that was destroyed by the colonial masters.
An average Nigerian won't dare lie in front of shrine because we know the implications.
If Nigerians are sincere with each other the colonial masters wouldn't record much success. Corruption gave them an upper hand. They replaced our shrines with police you can see the results today . That's why I don't blame China and other countries who resist any form of Western culture they're learning from Africa's mistake. Whatever maintain peace and stability in your country goes for me be it authoritarian, democracy or traditional way.

True. I agree with you to some extent bros and like I said we can disagree to agree so we fit morzz normally for the same table without fear if egbesun.

But to be honest I think you’re underrating the corruption in Nigeria heck why I pointed out that Britain is our slave masters earlier. Anything when dey happen for this our nation na the black version of Wetin dey happen for Britain, it’s just different cos theirs is the white version

For that shine and traditional matter no just make that mistake at all. Infact dem save us from traditionalist. Yes I agree with you that different people have different ways of going about their business and reasoning but you see that shrine matter cancel am bros.

I can affirmatively tell you that most of those shrines na scam, do you know that the very shrine in Aro ( that shrine is I am not mistaken is called something Abiama but Na where their Chukwu Abiama originate or something like that) last last scam enter am. Read about the judicial process of that shrine and you will find out that later the powerful and elders began to use it as a route to kidnap the villagers and sell them to the slave masters bross. Dem go kill goat pour the blood for the other end e go flow reach the other side people go see am cry say the god don Kpai the accused and go cry to lick their wounds. Do you also know that there is an antidote to any charm bros? Some people go Jazz better food still follow you chop am wella or drink pass you sef if na drink una share but wen result show na one persons or the intended victims go die bros.

Let’s not go down that route and I must remind you that China, Russia and co are nothing like saints but for the fact that they hide informations from you makes you feel and think all is well bro. The west maybe good in media propaganda but these people at least get freedom of speech which is why a lay man can easily challenge them and go scot free Sir and you and I know that it’s not overly possible in exemplary countries. No be today that particular two countries don bad o and I can tell you that America is who there are today is because of freedom of rights and so long as that remains you can’t take anything away from them

Bros black man rule America for 8 years o. I will tell you this...I am not absolving them from anything or crime or impunity which you have listed but bros they are some sort of saints compared to those countries you’re using as examples of good governance. Never forget that all that glitters are not gold. The blacks always cry foul in America and you can’t blame them cos of the mentality they got from back in the days of slavery and what they had to pass through to survive and get to where they are now but bros I dey tell you now say if dem give you quarter of the life dem dey give dem for there wen dem dey cry updandan dir media so for here haba!!!!! Na steady morzzz and jaiye we go dey bros.


Imagine a junkie been paid to feed from tax payed money so as not to die lol. I agree with you on many things though and it feel good to converse with you bross.

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anonymous1759:




Mature comment. I'm not pushing it too far. Like the western media does to other countries who don't Asslick them. I'm just trying to let people know over here that no country is perfect, every country has its ups and downs but the west has painted that puncture that sees them as angels and any other country that don't dance to their tone as evil that's out rightly wrong and what they use most times is the media houses.

I always tell people here to listen to different news Agencies and use their personal knowledge to digest it.
I was once a slave to the west thinking all they do is right and whatever any nation does it's false . my aim to make people reason from outside the box and be more exposed, seeing the world through the western media is not healthy to arrive at a judgment.


You already said it face book and Twitter and all America news Agencies serves America and the west interest and that's what people use mostly to judge North Korea, Russia, China, Iran and all Leader who are not in good terms with them(the west) do you think that's fair?

What I preach is equity and tolerance. The fact Democracy works for you doesn't mean it'll work for another, we should learn to tolerate each other, once you're not allies with West they'll look for a way to tarnish your image slap sanctions to make things look bad for leader of that country but if you look closely it's for their selfish gains.


A nairalander made one comment that got me (a loyal and honest tyrant is far better than Democratic puppet for the west)

Colonialism is still on going any country who resist the western dominance it's either a terrorist or a tyrant . The same West that supported Oman leader the oldest serving Monarch in the world ousted Gaddafi that's hypocrisy at his peak.

They Criticise Iran that they Islam is radical but support Saudi Arabia the home of Islam. I don't dislike the west I'm speaking my mind.


We're not facing sanctions and media trial in Africa because the west is still in Control in Africa. The Arab Gulf countries are scared of the west that's why they still asslick them. Mark my words the day Saudi Arabia or any Arab County breaks it's Alliance with the west, the same fate that befall Iran will be on them. Everything going on in this world is Political. China, Russia and North Korea securing their media aren't stupid they know the danger it poses that's why Facebook blocks you immediately you make a negative remark on them. Lastly there's no free lunch anywhere so forget it when you say America is open.( CSR) is at play.

Good to read all you have said Mr, I agree you have valid points in there in as much as I don’t agree with all but we can agree to disagree

About Nairalanders

My candid advice: Read and run along bros, I repeat...read and lol for your own peace and mental health. It has always worked for me as I have been very much a lurker here and can’t still explain why I actually commented today.

Your response made me smile and cos of that I did not regret commenting today, bros you suppose drink bottles for my head. Maturity is not rocket science indeed

But abeg o na beg I dey beg you bros, no be everybody dem dey give gun o!!!! Na me talk am. Our Nigeria so ehh if dem get nuclear like this so you for no why world power dey hustle make no be everybody go get an. Shooo you know how many people dem for don kpuff for his forum like this so with all the tribalism and bigotry wen dey romance for here so bros. Shebi some people go break national law dem go dance like python come use their eye see finish abi but some other set go still run the same matter dem go change an clear you say their matter na later days bross.

Abi no be person kill en friend and street neigbour cos em say make e no watch tv that day bross.... e been dey watch before ooo but just make em no watch say matters dey town so....Oshare use en eye see immediately use en blood baff coal tar for street abi

Reason am o

amaniro:



Allow them. I see on Nairaland some miscreants be hyping Kim and NK. Those guys ain't shit that country was built on lies and propaganda. If North Korea become a democratic state one day we'll all hear the lies of Kim dynasty .

Honestly I doubt it will ever become a democratic state anytime soon. Those same people on this forum refused to read and learn that it was the defunct Soviet Union that took over NK and installed what ever form of government they have today. They have refused to read and learn that while SK were free to choose how to run their new republic NK choose KIM the 1st who trained for years with the Soviet troops

Tell them now and they will be the first to pour obscene words and insults cos they are too weak to have a good conversation or unbiased debate

9jaDoomCountry:
For those of you talking nonsense, Kim Jon Un is not a threat to America rather he is a threat to the people of North Korea.


It takes billions of dollars to execute war and North Korea is being plagued by hunger. Forget nukes, nobody is using it soon. Reason is that once used people far and near are affected. Even the closest allies to him won't find it funny with him.


Great leaders provide his citizens with food through creation of opportunities not threatening other nations. But funny enough some idiots here are singing praises for that boy that is behaving like an overgrown school boy because of their unfounded hatred for Trump. They hate Trump for cutting the senile man at Abuja to sizes by calling him lifeless one.


In a nutshell they are bohari supporters but the good thing is that USA is not bothered. So make more noise.

You must live long Sir/Ma’am

I just tried to point this out to someone in the other thread few minutes ago. USA is basically interested because it’s their official duty to always protect SK. People go on and on about propaganda and western media and how American has contributed to the present situation in NK but won’t invest little time to research and learn.

They won’t point at Japan, Soviet Union but will be quick to boil on US at any given opportunity and blame it on western media propaganda

Live long

whitemand4:


I have been expecting this and you are right because you don't know me and how my nickname "whiteman" originated. this is the media propaganda we have been talking about. Judging things based on what you see/hear rather than actual fact even my moniker is giving you psychological stress SMH.. you ought to have asked why the moniker ? Trolling is not the best option for you

Jeez!! Bro don’t be quick to anger, nobody is trolling you unless you have other definitions of a internet trolling.

Back to the matter Judging your interpretation and defense, I can say then say you’re Judging things based on what you see/hear rather than actual fact Sir. I can tell you that you’re not living or haven’t lived in all the African countries nor are you in NK presently to say all the things you have said.

Blame it on media propaganda

anonymous1759:






It's obvious you're a western lemming. You cry of racial discrimination all the time because of the history we've in the past (slave Trade) hope you know what USA did to North Korea?

How will you feel if your enemy is surrounding your territory that's the highest form of Aggression. Won't you put up a fight? The USA have bases surrounding North Korea and you expect them to keep mute. Funny enough same people who blasted Abode for not standing up against Tinubu but praise obaseki for fighting oshiomole will criticise North Korea and Iran for putting up a stiff resistance against their slave masters.

North Koreans don't need to be on face book and on twitter to make a better living. Sensible leaders like putin, kim and xi are blocking western propaganda through her media and you're saying order wise.

Try criticize the united states on face book if you won't be blocked but you can criticize, Russia, North Korea, China or any other country, that's enough reason to let you know it's tool they're using. They know the effect of media and the psychology behind it.

North Korea is not the threat to the world but the west, when more countries start pulling off from their shackles you'll see war all over. What's keeping them calm Is because of their dominance.

North Korea is the villain to the world but how many countries have they destroyed lately compared to your slave masters? Britain is our slave master and never forget that so channel your angst to the right people cos were are still slaves and haven't been Liberated Sir.

If you're Fan of equity i don't see a reason you'll not support all countries having a nuclear weapons who have the resources to maintain it.

I don't try to sound intelligent or different, all I do is think and read from different sources and digest it with my mind personally I'm not a lemming and will never be, it's never a crime to be different.
Take a look at this pics Who's the Aggressor USA, iran or North Korea?

Hello Mr Anonymous1759,

I might be wrong or might be right but I really think you're somewhat pushing this anti-America propaganda too far. America is and will remain the best country in the world IMO. Which country has the highest number of immigrants assimilated wholly in to their system? America. Which country has the most diverse and cultural mix in the world? America. Listing and giving you reason's why America is at the apex the is like writing a whole new page and I must remind you that the day Obama a black man won the Presidential election in USA history was made and that history stands to be seconded till who knows when Sir. I stand to be corrected but all your examples only supports your arguments and hides the whole other side of the matter for example.... Facebook is owned by an American and you can't tell me they are supposed to allow you a visitor to insult or go against them in their own threshold Sir. You can't go to a social forum or website owned by Russia, North Korea, China or any other country and freely criticize their various countries respectively and expect not to be blocked Sir.

Now to your question...what USA did to North Korea? I want to personally ask you what the US did to NK? Kindly go back in time and know all the countries that played their respective roles in marking NK and SK what they are today (SK is better than any if not all the African countries put together under this America you so criticize) my little research holds that NK was under Japan from the beginning and were oppressed to the extent of enforcing that their second names must be Japanese Sir. Korea as a unified country was simply a collateral damage cos of the Soviet-Japanese war and if you take your time to research and study you will realize that America's recent interest in NK is basically to protect SK. Read and stop making every one believe America is ugly cos no one is uglier than your own statesman enslaving you and I believe you haven't done much to salvage that Sir. You call leaders like Putin, Kim and Xi sensible yet have failed to see that a fraction of their nationals respectively are not overly cool with them but are choice less just like we are in our country. Every one of those leaders are not democratic and you know it. A lot of effort has been made to unify Korea but the citizens themselves aside other factors has made it unfruitful and if you don't know about 400.000 moved from the North to the South when they still had the opportunity

Reading so many confusing and illogical comments on here makes me have a whole lot to say but I don't want to derail this thread any further so I will rest. This is my second comment on this thread and forum cos I always try to read and run along to avoid the tribalism and bigoted insults that fly around this forum but if you can avoid that then please feel free to engage me in this discussion.

whitemand4:


God bless you. Why should any country be bothered if I am strengthening and protecting my country ?

I hate Africans with their mentality

You really do hate African's and their mentality but your moniker betray's signify's the opposite

I guess you hate yourself too right?

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