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saggitarius01:
Good evening dear Nairalanders. I'm sorry I had to create a new account to post this. I am getting really worried about how my life may turn out. I'd be straight and brief as possible so please read and give me any advice you can. Thanks.

A brief rundown about myself.

I am going to be 25 in no time, growing up I felt there is only two paths a young lady should tow...either to forget being a fashonista and all trying to be neck deep in her outlook or calm down, first things first, work hard and make money (if possible be a millionaire before 25). I choose the later and as God will have it, my dream turned a reality.

Now, while I was in this journey of not turning out to be a lady who will never be able to foot her own bills, I forgot everything about being girlie. I never what it means to have female friends or hang out with any, I don't care so much about knowing the latest party and posh places or even taking all the posh pictures like the ladies in my age bracket would. I was focused to a fault. I saved to a fault.

I might not have everything I desire but I am indeed comfortable for a young lady who made it out of the ghetto life of Igbogbo.

Now my pain..

I do most of my jobs from home and therefore I am mostly within the confines of my apartment.
No boyfriend, no fiance talk more of a husband.
I don't have any friend and I don't know to make any friend for as a result of I trying to find my feet in life, I have had, experienced, seen and heard nasty behaviours of human. I keep people at arms length. I am afraid of an average human for I believe anybody can do anything even things you don't expect of them.

I already observed that slaying and all the girlie ish is obviously not a part of me as i prefer to brainstorm and think of how to expand my business which I know an average lady my age, that is the least of her worries.

I know I need a man in my life. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I think ages 24-26 is the right age (as i have made to believe) a woman should at be at least settled Maritally. How do I go about getting a man to date and marry? Where are the places I should go to? Remember I said I have NO friends so no wedding invitations.

Am I stressing myself? But I am almost 25 and no man and truly in my hearts of hearts I know I want to be a wife someday and have a good family so need to lie about anything. Where do ladies meet their boyfriends? Not the playboys or those with pulled down shorts.

Please what do I do? What are the places to go? I tried hanging out to places for drink but you know how it feels and looks for a young lady to sit out on her own.

P.S. Yes I am not desperate but I am concerned.

Did i make a mistake by holding my life first instead of being all what the social media ladies are?

I just opened an Instagram account yesterday and still don't know how to use the app or what to do there. You can imagine the kind of lady I have become. Yes I can dress neat and combine my wears. Forget ugly, I ain't. I could do a nice make up on my face when ever I have 2 hours to spare. Never a boring fella. I just don't know how to find someone I could share all the happiness, joy and street wise advise with.
Please help me. I am so lonely. I only come on nairaland whenever I am bored. Enough said.

I am open to questions. Any at all.

madenigga:
6. Once this is done, and u get a number or numbers.
7. Go to all the hotels with a good sketch artiste and tell the receptionist to give u a description of the killer while the artists draws on a book, if the faces like 2 or 3 receptionist describe is accurate to one get it down into a face then show it to the receptionist if it looks like the man.
8. Make your hunt and interrogate

Carbon2Oxide:
To get the serial killer is very easy..

"Before anyone leaves the hotel regardless whether you lodged or came to see someone or you want to get something outside. You are mandated to be escorted to SHOW YOUR ROOM to the security officer"



[b]It might be stressful, but with time they will get HIM/HER[/b]do u think his kills are carried out in the same hotel

Lamanii22:
It's not about spoiling their business... It's murder we are talking about here oo... And again they've got right to live.... What would police do... Nothing!

IGBOSON1:
I bet the police didn’t protect the crime scene from contamination, and call in the CSI dept to dust for fingerprints! This could have been used to compare with previous similar murders in hotels in Port Harcourt to see if it’s a serial killer we’re dealing with!

MrBrownJay1:
The fact that you believe that relationship have one purpose only is your 1st FAIL of the day...not all relationship have the same aim. Some need it just for emotional relief, others as a rebound, many just for sex and entertainment and a few aim for marriage.

Your 2nd FAIL is thinking that what YOU view as a valid reason to date or a waste of time, should be everyone's view..... while we all understand that people are different and therefore may not see relationships as you do. Let each and everyone date for whatever they desire AND, so long ans they are both happy, who are you to claim otherwise.

Your FINAL FAIL is to actually claim that there is something wrong with a relationship solely based on sex (aka fornication to you)...what a joke!!! Both are getting sex, both get their groove on, both are sexually rewarded and both are NOT forced into doing what they do. So as much as you may not like what they do, most people indulging in these sexual r/ship certainly don't care what you think.

Do whats best for YOU and let others happily live their lives

Kazeemakeem:
what does some lady goes to do at shoprite standing without having and biz there ,if some lady wants to buy two coke they will go to shoprite looking for big guys to clinch with,