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MoNickk:
I swear down...I don't blame the girl. she made her intentions known from the start but the op kept on hoping his being nice to her was gonna change her mind. some guys are pathetic(no offense op). tell them u have a bf n they'll be begging to be a side bf. after all your bf doesn't need to know. that's when I activate my delete button for such desperation.

i clearly stated i left her when she talked about having a bf. i met her months after again. this time ...no bf talk...it was lets see how it goes....she said she wasnt seeing anyone again cos i asked specifically.

Lotechi:
a working class guy that earns good cash should not be stressing for girls!!!!be wise

i wasn't stressing for girls....

i was stressing for a "girl"

jamela:
Dear MrLP, this isn't a bashing just incase you decide to read this, but having seen some of your replies to some ladies on this thread, I think you need to change your attitude towards women for real, just like your 'little damsel in distress' told 'old superhero' you.

1. Avoid battering words with ladies, its not manly, and I don't know a lady who likes a man that is not manly. Even if you're right, there are a lot of things silence or fewer words (when used appropriately) can fix.

2. Some guys can easily turn from admirers to die hard pests. Now while I don't support some of her selfish inclinations, still, it doesn't matter if she has 75 messages on her WhatsApp, or if she was travelling to meet her boyfriend, you don't have a right to be jealous at this stage, she has a right to decide who is good enough for her, you aren't even dating not to talk of ringing her finger. For now you are only friends.

3. She can, just as any other of your male or casual friends ask you to help her buy some grocery or if she could hitch a ride with you to somewhere they really need to be. You also have a right to decide not to offer any assistance. But when you talk of how you would not use your ATM just because she was probably going to see some other guy? even though you aren't sure? I'm sorry but that sounds selfishly judgemental and I'll tell you what, If she is what you think she is, and you had game? she probably would be spending money out of some other guy's ATM to come see you. I hate to say this but I think you have a classic case of the 'I wish he dates more women so he knows how to attract me'. But how many women would stick around until you actually grow a pair? Its true that women need someone to love us, but we also need someone to love.

Get dating more often and when you feel more comfortable with hot women around you, you would see clearly enough to decide what you really want, because right now you seem to be persecuting a young lady that you happened to help occasionally and therefore expect her to adore the very ground you step on.

OP you asked for advice, no vex if this is a bit tough to sink in.

No i wont use my ATM cos i am not yet her bf...and i already took her out the night before....i we as also kind enough to go drop her off after driving around for an ATM despite being inconvenient for me. i never exchanged words with any lady here. 73 messages on whatsapp is nothing? like seriously? you sincerely believe this. is her number pasted on a national bill board or something? I was already ready to end the madness at the slightest provocation. and she played right into it. She actually gathered all the admirers and choose to respond to any one at a particular time trying to be smart with as many as she can. thats whatsapp. dont even know about bbm. thats why she can use 24hours and claim work...like she never ever entered into bbm all day.

DipoDee:
But the Mummu refuse to let her be, like a stray, he keeps hanging around despite all her not-too-friendly body Language. So she has to send him on errands now, or what do you do to people whose common sense is zero...you send them milk and sugar na

Blame MrLP abeg, not the girl who obviously has no use for him or his love advances but he is waiting for a miracle.

so all babes u asked out where friendly from day 1? ride on champ....

MoNickk:
I swear down...I don't blame the girl. she made her intentions known from the start but the op kept on hoping his being nice to her was gonna change her mind. some guys are pathetic(no offense op). tell them u have a bf n they'll be begging to be a side bf. after all your bf doesn't need to know. that's when I activate my delete button for such desperation.

I said i saw her months after. i left her when she insisted she had a bf. 2nd time we met...nothing like that....she just kept saying lets see how it goes. i have to be sure. and i specifically told her if she was seeing someone and doing this with me....she is cheating on the person emotionally.

Vikky014:
tell me ur real moniker please

you want to expose me bah? lol.

TheSixthSense:
The amazing thing about a faceless forum is that everyone always know better than the OP, even the virgin teen boys and girls. I see the Magic Don Juans, love-vendor Cs are all out of their closet tonight. Shout out to the OPs who put up stories and posts for us to read only to get more abusive comments than sensible ones. Life is learning guy, you did nothing wrong because honestly when it comes to matters like these, there is absolutely no right way as humans are diverse and unique.
From what I see here, I do not think the girl likes you and you love her already so I think you should try to back off a little and see if she'll miss you or something. It could also be that your story doesn't portray the whole issue. Do what you think is right, that's what matters because at the end of the day, it's your decision.

You are not far from the truth...i simply ignored their bashings....there are other sensible comments

sonnie10:
Op people pay flight ticket for working class Nigerian ladies from uk and USA to come visit them in Nigeria, so no big deal. Heaven will not fall if you do it. Those people did not go broke because they paid for the flight. You are talking about talking her to club, do you think there is any club she would want to go to that she won't go free of charge?

oh yeah....for a babe that haven't said yes. thanks for you advice....when you have the money...you can even pay for a flight to Australia. Besides...she was travelling somewhere else...
what if she was going to see another man...i would have also sponsored her trip too.
thanks again for the advice.

Nubian113:
What are you on about!?. If all you see is hungry girls, and the world is a mirror of you, then the problem of hunger comes back to your doorstep. Hungryboy

You have been noticed...you can move on

Nubian113:
Face your matter. No wonder you lost your girl. See how you talk and deal with the opposite sex? Nigga you have no game therefore the problem is you.

she wasnt my girl....

asking how old i am cos she is of the opinion i should have give a babe "transport fare" to travel for xmas.

Yeah thats how i deal with hungry girls. thanks

maiahsaiah:
Dramaking!!!

i just took a look at your profile pic. then i understood better. campus babe...
little wonder....

maiahsaiah:
How old are you?

forget it. old lady

you could as well tell me to be giving her tp to work every morning.

thanks for your contribution

maiahsaiah:
Even if u didn't want to give her d money, u would have just put ur card in d atm and eject it, tell her its not paying, sh'l know u tried, instead of driving around town looking for atm

you are inconsiderate. we went out just 24th till early 25th....and i dropped her at her house 3am out of respect. she insisted i did that and not take her to my bed. with a raging hangover whilst still sleeping when i was rudely awakened i went to pick her up still. haba....

Gracito:
You didn't. I'm a lady but some ladies sha know how to piss men off. You made no mistake. You got rid of a mistake and I'm glad you did. . She doesn't like you at all. .

thanks. everyone seems to be a relationship boss online. always a lion online but in reality they do worse things. i have read the sensible comments and ignored the bashing which i know are mostly from....

maiahsaiah:
So when you marry her now, because she works in a bank, you won't take care of her. Start planning your life o

At this stage of your life you are still setting and modifying your life to be taken care of by a man?
I was even just still a "toaster". I didn't know I even have to pay are tp to work every morning. plz swerve!

maiahsaiah:
U didn't give her transport money to travel, what did you expect, u were busy looking for atm, rubbish!

lol. birds of a feather. A lady that works in a bank still needs money from an admirer to travel. young woman we were out till 3am. I would still have had to use ATM too which will still make me drive around either ways.

sonnie10:
You dey mind the yeye boy? I said it before that there was no need looking for any ATM. All she wanted was small pocket money to travel. Which girl will take serious after you drove around town looking for ATM?

maiahsaiah:
My dear

i am a yeye boy for not giving her transport fare to travel? interesting..a lady that works in a bank. even after taking her out the night before....
What makes u feel i am meant to have cash on me after going clubbing the night before? I would have had to use ATM too either ways. anyways thanks fkr your contribution.

Obudupikin:
Except you delete her number from your phone,you will likely contact her again.
Well,ur decision to forgone her is probably the best. You can concentrate your attention and affection to someone that deserves it.

i already did all that...if u scroll up. i just have the grabs on my phone because i sent it to my guys that have met the babe.

Obudupikin:
Dear OP you made two mistakes;

The first was,through your actions, you showed the girl that you love her a lot even before she got used to you. Therefore,she took advantage of that.

Secondly,that mssg you sent her was a wrong move because it only made her indignant and more defensive.
It's obvious the girl has lot of admirers and she saw you as one of them. Therefore,what your mssg implied to her was that you saw yourself as something other than that.

But the damage had been done,here is what you should do;

1) Send her an apology text without explicitly seeming sorry. E.g,"although your attitude was childish,I shldnt have sent such mssg to you. For that,I apologise"

2)Ignore her. Don't communicate with her again until you see her face to face.

These two moves have their purposes but I can't start explaining here.

If you really LOVE(emphasis on love) the girl,I'd like to help you get her.
We can do PM's.

Note; No girl is above you. You just need to know her thumbscrew.

Thank You.

i already made the decision of not calling her again...and i will simply ignore her when i come across her again. i posted this online after i made that decision. the essence of the message i sent was to see her reactions. if she was for real...she would have defended hersef instead of blocking and deleting me. at least at first... i think she knew i was tired of her acts and decided no point keeping me in abeyance. the truth is if she really gives a damn.....she will call or text sooner or later. aint making any moves again. after the screen shot below. she blocked me on whatsapp too. she swore i will never get a babe cos of the way i talk. that was y i sent the below. she said my exes came and went cos of the way i talk....that my words are too heavy. i have only had 2/serious relationships which i told her about. first left me cos i graduated and i was an hindrance to her concentrating on religious stuffs and studies. she came back a yr late...thats after she graduated but it was too late. 2nd went to serve in ABJ...that was were she got lost. i wonder what she meant by they come and go cos of my attitude.

ColeworldMD:
OP either you're ugly, rich & extremely patient or u're just well.. A GOOF!
Rule no. 1 thou shall not profess their love too early until the opposite sex admits to the same or shows positive signs of interest.

OP u're obviously a learner, these are experiences u should have gained in skool. I was once in ur shoes & I know exactly what u feel, unfortunately not all of us are born with such charms & charisma. I mean u didn't even insult her, rather only stating the obvious. I think she saw u as immature & easy so she took advantage of u. Now she feels like she's tired of u besides since she's working she doesn't really need ur money.

My advice is to let go, if she had any atom of like for u she will come back and if she does try to be friends first before escalating from there. And never forget rule number one. The fact is it's difficult to convince ppl to like or love u what u can do is hope there like u a little and then build on that.

Nonetheless if I had the type of ur patience bro I would rule the world talk less of girls.

i am a normal average Nigerian and i am far from ugly. this babe have not said yes hence anything i do or choose to do is my business....she wasnt forcing me. i have seen guy go tru much more stress and later have the babe to their full control. if we were "dating"i would have understood most of what the guys are spilling here. this is not about maga...what have i spent? It's normal for babes tk be difficult at first....
i sent that message to her when my level of patience expired. that message was too see her reactions. she is still childish with her acts...i really liked her so i have to cope to a fault with her childishness. afterall im the one after her. thanks bro

StPete:
25 actually. She'll be 25 dis yr and before u say Jack! She go don clock 28. My advice? Like Olamide, fvck dat shii

wow....it was dec last year truly. lol. you are so smart. i wish her luck......

moving ahead..deleted all her contacts and all messages so i dont get tempted to call again. even call records. the only way i can have any of it back again is if she ever calls me or i ask for it again in person. which is most definitely not likely...

StPete:
Truth be told you goofed, like WTF!

I guess u initially tried to impress her wit ur car and by doing some quick few things for her without her asking. She just blatantly came out to tell u that her love cannot be bought with money and that since u hav it to flaunt, let her spend part of it.

On her part, I think Her attitude is what results in some girls being single for a long time without any possible suitors. Now she's playing hard to get, in a few years, she'll be running around for attention and going to pastors to pray on her head against delayed marriage

Impress with car? Nope. Impress by doing things she didnt ask...that is normal. As for the, she is carried away with so much attention she is getting. she is quite cute and beautiful. She is just 24 so i cant blame her orientation

Vjcray:
[size=14pt] boys, you deserve a 32 inches flat screen hot undiluted slap for this meandering stupidity. ... .

How can a girl colonize your brain to such level?

Last time I checked there are billions of girls in the world... if one rejects you they are many more who will welcome you with open arms....

As for the girl, next time you see her tell her that I said she is not even menacingly Close to being a human being material....

Just forget about the girl and move on because from what you typed up there, that girl does not have an atom of love for you...



Cheers [/size]

you can not love 10 billion girls. There may be 1 triillion girls.....it will still take u time to love just 1

StrawberryCream:
Goof?? Meaning pls

did i make a mistake...goof means mistake

Hello Nairalanders,

Pardon me, i had to create another moniker just to post this.
I am in love this babe i met in my estate, but i got frustrated and let out a piercing outburst which has made her delete me on BBM, blocked me on Whatsapp and have made her refuse to pick my calls for 2 weeks now. I will attach the screen shot of my outburst below.
In other not to bore u with some long stories, wi just state what actually led to this.
I have been asking her out for a while, i met her in my estate some months back. i left her when she told me she was seeing someone. I later saw her again walking home in my estate while i was driving by. I knew i still liked her, decided to try again as i was not in any relationship too.

We got talking again, but she is always not there. claimed her job and all that. sometimes takes up.to 24 hours to revert my messages even sometimes ti pick up my calls. There are sometimes i see her online on whatsapp, while my message remains pending on BBM. Its always excuse of work,being tired and all that. I had to take it like that afterall am still just an "admirer".

But i noticed one thing, its when i want to get something from a store...she remembers she needs something too. There was a day i was getting a bottle of beer in a shop in my estate, that was when she knee she didn't have milk and sugar at home. She told me to get her milk and sugar. i saw that as odd. " milk and sugar" well i got it. The other day i wanted to recharge my phone, she suddenly remembered her unit was low too. I got for her, she never even called me with it. I dont need to say much, you guys already have an idea. I kept on asking her out and telling her I loved her and all of that. But it was frustrating because we mostly see Sundays, and my Sundays too not always free, as i may be on duty. Her sub finished, my messages weren't delivering, i was able to get her on phone and she told me her sub expired. When she hung up, I immediately recharged her line with quick Teller. it took me about another 48 hrs to even let her know i have recharged her line. She wouldn't pick her calls she wouldn't call back.

This time she acts like she is tuning in with me, next time she acts strangely. To cut it all short, she is been telling me she wished to go clubing. 24th was a public hol though i went to work, but she didnt. Called her and told her, ok today we are both free....what about clubbing? she said fine. Called me like 3 times before i got home. Its only when something is at stake she calls. Told her will come pick her by 9pm then we chill somewhere till late, when club will be opened. At past 9, called her i was enroute, she started complaining it was already late, i was like late at past 9? which club opens by 9. she said she is not going again, she is even hungry, just come pick me to eat and drop me back home. I was like WTF in my mind how can a lady be home since morning and tell a guy to come pick her and buy her food at past 9. Those are things we do on campus. I told her no...we are going clubbing, she will eat along the road. Hung up and met her outside her gate. she was dressed casually with simple slips. I was surprised. so she actually meant it. She entered the car and i drove off...told her she will enter the club like that, i will try not get her bounced. lol. She was boning and angry...i gnored her, picked my friends and drove straight to an hotel that hat a restaurant and lounge. Got her her meal, then we went to the lounge later. Told me she was traveling next day, and i have to drop her at the park or something since i will make her wake late. I agreed, she insisted i dropped her home, as a gentle man i did just that around 3am. Waited till she was safely in, before driving back home.

she called at 8am, and i was still sleeping, i picked and she started saying, you are still sleeping when you know you to drop me off. please come and pick me, i am late. and hung up. I was upset but went to pick her, it was then she remembered she needed to use ATM. I became a driver looking for ATM. we didnt get to use, its either crowdy or no money. That was when she said she can manage with what she had. Dropped her and went back home. Didnt hear from her, no thank you, she didnt even tell me she had gotten to her destination. When i asked and told her how was missing her...took another 9 hours to reply. and it was just a line. i got pissed and exploded.

meanwhile night out , someone was calling and calling she refused to pick. eventually turned off her phone. i later collected it and tuned it on...she had about 76 unread messages on Whatsapp. Phone was locked. I just gave her back...because she was getting angry i was holding her phone.

This made me wondering if that was how she turned off her phone when i keep calling. No calls returned but phone eventually says switched off. Excuse is always work and being tired.

Below was what i told her....becaue i couldn't take her games any longer...But i cant stop thinking of her still. I really like her....and i am almost regret blasting her. But i can't let feelings manipulate my normal sense of reasoning. she is a working class and should stop behaving like an hungry campus girl.

I mean while gather all the admirers and respond to whichever u please to at that time.... I find it strange, whats the gain?

But should i have been more patient?