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LilMissFavvy:
Now that I've given you free counsel, you are saying it's because I'm a lady . Do what you wish o, I'm done.

Alright. Thanks all the same

LilMissFavvy:
So you think you will win the case? With a good lawyer she can get ideas on what to say to counter your accusations, and will not pay you a dime. I feel your pain, but it's better to let go, save yourself from court stress and move on.

Lol. I'm not surprised it's coming from a lady.

exposition:
How much did you do the test and where?
Asking for a friend!

130k

Union Diagnostic Center

kingreign:
Drag that case to court. Let the deceitful mother pay for the crime. Its paternity fraud.

That's what I'm planning to do. If she can't repay, she should serve jail term.

It's a bit lengthy pls bear with me

I met a lady through 2go in 2014. I asked her out online and she accepted, weeks later, we met one weekend and had sex on the first day! The sex wasn't great, I stopped half way and went to shower. The following day I snooped and discovered that she already have a boyfriend and the guy is in the same school with her. I dissolved everything between us and left for my lodge (I was schooling too but in another school but same state)

She didn't call to apologise and I also locked up. Fast forward 6 month later, she messaged me on Facebook that she was 7 months pregnant. I did my calculations and Instantly knew something was wrong somewhere. I denied being the father, she went on my friend list and dug up my my uncle's profile and chatted him about the pregnancy. My uncle messaged me

Calm me down and request I go see the baby with my parent. We went to her parent house, saw the baby immediately started investigating about dna test. I was humbled by the price of the dna test (200k as at then) because there is no way I was going to raise that kind of money while in school.

Long story short, my parent and I have been taking care of the baby ever since then, I finished school around 2017, travelled out of the country almost immediately after graduation and assumed responsibility on my own.

I came back late 2019, I requested we do a dna test upon my arrival. I went straight up to a known diagnostic center and made enquiries of the price and what to bring before the dna test will be done..

I was told to bring any official means of identification for myself, the birth certificate of the baby and the mother will also have a means of identification too and she will also be present to sign the consent form.

I told her about the requirements and ask her if she had any means of identification herself. She said No! I went back to the diagnostic centre and told them if there is any substitute, they said she can present her NIN slip. I told her immediately to get the NIN slip, days later she told me there were too much people on the queue and that she can't continue to waste her time endlessly. We went back and forth about the NIN slip till the whole of 2020 ended.

The beginning of this year I told her that I'll stop giving her money for the baby's upkeep if she can't provide the NIN slip. With as low as 2500 she can get hers from the local shops.

She called and called for me to send her money for the first 3 months of this year. I didn't budge. I kept to my words. No dna test, no money. School fees time came, she called, I was forced to go back to the diagnostic center this April and pleaded if there is a way we could do the dna test without requesting any form of identification from the mother of the child. They called the head office in lag and told me that we can do the test without the mum's mode of identification. I was elated and called her to bring the baby with her on the 5th of April (Easter Monday) to the my shop, then from there we will go to the diagnostic center. She said OK.

I waited for her to bring the child over, she didn't. She called me 3 days after saying that she went for a church program. I was furious. I told her to show bring the baby the following day (Thursday) she said she will come. Again she refuse to show up. She called 5 days later to tell me that she's sorry. I ended the call and told her that she isn't serious.

She rang me days ago to tell me that the baby is not feeling too well and that she want to see me, she urge me to pls send her something to take the baby to the hospital for treatment.

I'm in a dilemma, I don't know how to go about this. It's obvious that she is deliberately not allowing me to go for the dna test and I don't want to be a deadbeat dad either.

How do I lure her to go for the test? I don't want my daughter to have a bad perception about me that I wasn't there through her childhood (if eventually she turn out to be mine).

Help!

https://www.nairaland.com/6623547/dna-test-palava-what

Modified :

I posted this last month and I have done the dna test. The test turned out negative and that I'm not the father.

I don't know where to start from. I don't know what to do. A part of me what to drain her even till the last kobo I spent on the child and a part of me also want to let go (make dem sha carry their wahala dey go).

What do you guys reckon?

Qatar2022:
Sorry to say this but you are a fool and a fool at forty at that, how can woman be playing you like this and foolish you has been falling for her , oga man up, go down there and take that child to hospital for a DNA test , know where you stand,. That child is not yours and she knows it, you're such an idiot

You can actually state your point politely without being abruptly rude.... it undermines whatever valid point you have made.

HardWork29:
How much d dna

120k brother.

Login your Gmail account with your new phone and go to playstore, Unsubscribe all those apps or better still visit your bank to deactivate your card, you can request for a new card afterwards.

gentlestdude:
how person go mumu reach this stage mehn... I am ashamed for u chai.


well it is well, this world go surely get foolish people as well as the wise, to make it balance, so ride on in your foolishness bro.. bye

Get lost abeg. No be your fault. Jesus christ the 2nd. Sinless creature

gentlestdude:
you have no sense ode.. make I no vex abeg

Oga vex.. Who you help? You can actually state your point politely without being abruptly rude.... it undermines whatever valid point you have made.

AfroKnight:
MrOposter

You know the truth, but you want to act the fool. Better get serious. Tell her if she doesn’t bring the baby in 24 hours, she should never contact you in this life. Let your parents know too.

You’re not asking for anyone’s advice or permission. You’re stating your terms. You cannot be funding the upkeep of another mans child. How can you allow one silly girl use primary two manipulation tactics on you?

Also, when you obtain proof that the child is not yours, threaten to sue her for a refund of all monies spent on the child. She must know that she is not to contact you under any circumstances. Stay away from that scammer.

If it were me, I would wreck her life small but you appear to be kind.

Thanks bro. Much appreciated

LIVINGICON:
I hate hearing stories from weak ass niggas. U are a man, for God sake act as one. That child is very likely not yours. No dna test no upkeep money simple as that.
Keep your emotions aside.

Thanks �

phenzy:
If you truly have sense that is according to you o, you suppose know say that babe dey use your head.

ok

phenzy:
Baba said he went to the university lol he only said he went to school and mind you the school could be polytechnic or college of education

Oga if you want to drop an advise, drop it and leave. The fact say I come post something for here no mean say you get sense pass me.

It's a bit lengthy pls bear with me

I met a lady through 2go in 2014. I asked her out online and she accepted, weeks later, we met one weekend and had sex on the first day! The sex wasn't great, I stopped half way and went to shower. The following day I snooped and discovered that she already have a boyfriend and the guy is in the same school with her. I dissolved everything between us and left for my lodge (I was schooling too but in another school but same state)

She didn't call to apologise and I also locked up. Fast forward 6 month later, she messaged me on Facebook that she was 7 months pregnant. I did my calculations and Instantly knew something was wrong somewhere. I denied being the father, she went on my friend list and dug up my my uncle's profile and chatted him about the pregnancy. My uncle messaged me

Calm me down and request I go see the baby with my parent. We went to her parent house, saw the baby immediately started investigating about dna test. I was humbled by the price of the dna test (200k as at then) because there is no way I was going to raise that kind of money while in school.

Long story short, my parent and I have been taking care of the baby ever since then, I finished school around 2017, travelled out of the country almost immediately after graduation and assumed responsibility on my own.

I came back late 2019, I requested we do a dna test upon my arrival. I went straight up to a known diagnostic center and made enquiries of the price and what to bring before the dna test will be done..

I was told to bring any official means of identification for myself, the birth certificate of the baby and the mother will also have a means of identification too and she will also be present to sign the consent form.

I told her about the requirements and ask her if she had any means of identification herself. She said No! I went back to the diagnostic centre and told them if there is any substitute, they said she can present her NIN slip. I told her immediately to get the NIN slip, days later she told me there were too much people on the queue and that she can't continue to waste her time endlessly. We went back and forth about the NIN slip till the whole of 2020 ended.

The beginning of this year I told her that I'll stop giving her money for the baby's upkeep if she can't provide the NIN slip. With as low as 2500 she can get hers from the local shops.

She called and called for me to send her money for the first 3 months of this year. I didn't budge. I kept to my words. No dna test, no money. School fees time came, she called, I was forced to go back to the diagnostic center this April and pleaded if there is a way we could do the dna test without requesting any form of identification from the mother of the child. They called the head office in lag and told me that we can do the test without the mum's mode of identification. I was elated and called her to bring the baby with her on the 5th of April (Easter Monday) to the my shop, then from there we will go to the diagnostic center. She said OK.

I waited for her to bring the child over, she didn't. She called me 3 days after saying that she went for a church program. I was furious. I told her to show bring the baby the following day (Thursday) she said she will come. Again she refuse to show up. She called 5 days later to tell me that she's sorry. I ended the call and told her that she isn't serious.

She rang me days ago to tell me that the baby is not feeling too well and that she want to see me, she urge me to pls send her something to take the baby to the hospital for treatment.

I'm in a dilemma, I don't know how to go about this. It's obvious that she is deliberately not allowing me to go for the dna test and I don't want to be a deadbeat dad either.

How do I lure her to go for the test? I don't want my daughter to have a bad perception about me that I wasn't there through her childhood (if eventually she turn out to be mine).

Help!