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computerboy:
I've said it that feminism makes u reason from ur anus. Bride price is biblical u fool

LMAO@bride price is biblical. .

No damn wonder "christians" are bleeped up!

computerboy:
and now you're using presidents and their vice as example. so a president and his vice are equal? ? answer me you confused she goat.

I guess everyone isn't hip to metaphors!

Pardon ne! (Motions the area boys to kill)

slimmy05:
You wish you have those smiles in your life. So sorry dear, you're such a waste.

LMAO. This nigga is burting.

slimmy05:
You wish you have those smiles in your life. So sorry dear, you're such a waste.

LMAO. This nigga is hurting.

If anyone got a divorce because of something I said on NL....please kill yourself!

slimmy05:
go and handle your dead marriage you have successfully frustrated and stop dragging people down the line

Go find a chicken that would marry your broke and dumb ass!

You wouldn't have time to worry about other people's marriage if you have one. Lonesome bish!

slimmy05:
You are a dunderhead and you keep exposing your crass ignorance. I don't even know who is listening to this associate degree holder.

The associate holder would be you. If you couldn't come up with an intelligent retort then say so but all that cerebral epistle isn't necessary.

Next.

computerboy:
you're contradicting yourself. The man is the head and the woman is the help mate and yet you're claiming a feminist, seems you don't even know the meaning of feminism

Law have mercy! Can somebody please call Yaba Left!

Did you read my post with both eyes or you were drunk? I said in a CHRISTIAN FAMILY..the man is the head and the woman is the help mate.

Feminism is about gender equality and even presidents rely on the help and understanding of the vice president!

This cerebral motherfucker said I contradicted myself. Gotdamn#

klarke:
Soon u'll also be against the entire teachings of the bible. Umu ajuala!
Why didn't u stop ur husband frm paying ur? SMH

Bride price is a cultural thing not biblical. Get it right. Stop my husband from paying what? My husband is a grown man and I am not his mother.

Beface:
I thought you were even bearing your father's name to justified all what you've said.

I don't t have to justify shit to you and anyone else. Stay out of my marriage and focus on yours. (If you got one)

Secondly, I have said it several times and I swear some of you mofis are cerebral. I said a woman can choose to keep her father's name or take her husband's name. If she doesn't take her husband's name it is her choice! Not one time I have said women shouldn't take their husband's name. If many of you weren't so quick to be at your chest like apes...you would comprehend that!

ayoku777:
Psalm 45v9-10 -Kings' daughters were among thy honourable women: upon thy right hand did stand the queen in gold of Ophir.

Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; FORGET ALSO THINE OWN PEOPLE, AND THY FATHER'S HOUSE;

According to scripture when a woman is married she is now married into the lineage of her husband, she no longer belongs to the house of her fathers. She's now Sarah the wife of Abraham, no more Sarah the daughter of Terah.

Her wife role now trumps her daughter role because she's now one flesh with her husband not her father. So she's named after the person she's a wife to, no more after the person she's a daughter to.

Isaiah 4v1 -And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.

These are women who can't wait to be married and to stop being called Rachel the daughter of Laban; they long to be called Rachel the wife of Jacob.

According to the bible; to be married is to be called by the name of the person you are a wife to; no longer by the name of the person you are a daughter to.

Men who want their wives to bear their names are in line with the scriptures.

Shalom

The bible said slavery is just..do you mind being a slave?

The bible said thou shall not commit adultery, bear false witbess, obey your parents, do not use God's name in vain; and covet they neighbor wife....do you think a person should be killed instantly if one of these are committed?

The point is people can quote scriptures all day long and only 2% of you are following the scripture like Jesus Christ. It is good to throw scriptures out that benefit you but are you following the tenet of the ENTIRE bible?

Tell the truth!

Beface:
I have one question for you. ARE YOU BEARING YOUR HUSBAND'S NAME OR YOUR FATHER' NAME?

Both.

slimmy05:
I know frustrated folks like you. Keep ranting.

Yeah...I am very frustrated with dumb ass posts I have read on this thread! Manbish crushing I will continue to do!

slimmy05:
Go and sit your butt down hypocrite and you had no other thought than to create MrsChima? Get your egoistical self outta here.

What is the Bleep are you smoking? Because I created Mrs. Chima moniker...I must not say women have a choice?

Foolishness!

computerboy:
MrsChima, I've taken out my time to go through ur posts on this thread and I've come to realise that you're so drunk in feminism that you refused to reason with your brain.
First of all, in igbo land when the fathers properties are being shared, girls are excluded because the family already know the girls will answer another man's name. Hence problem arises in most families without male children.
Secondly, how can u compare a woman changing her surname with a man changing his? For Bleep$ sake how many guys have u wooed, how many guys have u spent on, how many have u proposed to, and most importantly how many have u paid their groom price? Its the man marrying u not the other way round. You waited for him to propose and equally waited for him to come and see ur parents and wen it's time to change ur surname u now know that the two genders are equal.
thirdly, as I already know you're a feminist. The sad news is there can never be gender equality--never. stop dreaming. Even the bible made it clear in 1st corinthians chapter 11. Read the whole chapter and u might as well tear it out from ur bible. The bible said the head of man is Christ and the head of woman is man. Further in that chapter, it said that man wasn't made for woman but woman was made for man----unless you're not a Christian and doesn't believe the bible.

One thing I hate about you feminists is that wen it gets to physical issues, you'll run, financial issues, you'll run etc but wen it's about gains, that's wen you'll come out and start blabbing about gender equality.

To the topic, I can only allow that if my wife have carved out a niche with her name (eg Linda Ikeji) or had other
reasonable reasons, if not I wonder why she'll keep her father's name wen her father had already counted her off. How can she say she's maintaining her dad's name wen the name will die with her and the kids bear mine forever? Her father have sons who will carry his name too so he doesn't need the girls for that.

P.S you don't have to reply this but if u must, then give me a reasonable reply and not those hateful feminist comments that makes no sense
am out

What are you on about? I have said in my posts that Christ is the head of the Christian families, the man is the head of the house,and the woman is the help mate. I also said it applies in Christian families and not other religions. Why are you being redundant?

I am a feminist until the end of time and being a feminist has nothing to do with a woman's choice in
her life. All feminist aren't women and all anti- feminist are men.

Live your life and if your woman takes your surname....clap for yourself. Good riddance!

Abaccha:
We know women can carry their luggages, but i remember you peoples model Chimamanda once said that men couldn't even help her with her luggages one of the times she visited Finland. Finland being one of the places where feminism is thriving very well. Now is that not hypocrisy?

Men are not by force to carry a woman's luggage and she is crazy to think such!

I am a feminist and don't think men should carry luggage if they don't want to and i have better things to be fussing about!

boynigeria:
yea, its all around the globe, its what people do to feel beta about themselves even when they are worse
i like ur reasoning, ure intellectual, smartest person ive spoken to on nairaland and ive spoke to so many people here

Thanks dear! Let me go kick this manbish down on Romance section!

Apina:
They are no longer two but one. Little things are little things, but they are the foundation on which d bigger picture leans.

If you read my other posts I have spoken about man and wife becoming one. It has nothing to do with surname though.

Abaccha:
Before you toll the feminism lane, remember the following:
1. No man opens the car doors for you again
2. No man helps you with a heavy luggage
3. No man initiates sex with you first
4. No man approaches you for a relationship first, if you admire him, you must open up to him, since it's an equal world.
5. No man foots the bills for you again.
6. No man pays your bride price again
7. Etc

Men are holding doors for women? I dey laff oo

The bride's family is getting the money...not the bride. Women can carry their own luggage and foot the bills...what is the issue?

Dragonking:
This is reality of life..Why do you think the husband always want a male child? That's because the male child always carry the father's name while the female don't...I have said it b4 and will say it again, most ladies doing this always have issues with their marriage.

What does a child have to do with the woman I know plenty of women with hyphenated names and their children has the father's name.

I don't see what is the issue here. If you think a married woman with a maiden name is a sign of troubled marriage...please don't get married and if you are...divorce the vixtim!

Foolishness!

boynigeria:
Honey im not being judgmental im just saying it how it is
i dont give a damn abt anyone's relationship, im simply stating u facts
just telling u its as natural as it is, not societal
at the same time i do believe every relationship has a uniqueness, im anti-cliche, i like it when people find themselves and build something original
so if it makes u feel any beta, make it work for u
in the end, nobody really changes, we can only become a beta version of ourselves so why will anyone fuccken judge

Yes...why would anyone judge is the question of the century but Africans (non-Africans) do!

Dragonking:
Thank u jare, and don't mind mrsChima, if she is truly married.. women then were willing to bear their husband's name once they get married and marriage then was far far better..but since the coming of gender equality and femism, divorce has taken over the land.

LMAO. I know you would love to know if I am truly married or not...try minding your business.

Secondly....if feminism is the reason why divorce is rampant then why are dumb as men talking about they divorced their wives because of cheating etc?

You blame cheating on feminism too? Foolishness!

mmsen:
Now you are lying - I didn't add or alter anything.

Either you cannot read or you did not read it properly.

What I wrote was very clear and very concise. It's not a difficult concept, like I said, your reading comprehension might not be up to scratch.

You used the word 'choice' and I used the word 'may' but you simply repeated what I said whilst claiming to say something different.

Just accept that you were in a rush to argue a non-existent point.

You did add to your original post and it's not that serious. I won't change my response to your original statement.

Jobos:
I am waiting for the day women will began to pay groom price, this subject will not be an issue. Don't turn culture upside down cos of education. It will only increase the number of unmarried women.

I am AGAINST bride price and think it is stupid. No need to pay someone to take their hands in marriage if it wasn't an issue then so many men wouldn't be bishing about it!

boynigeria:
sweet to say with mouth
it all comes down to the practical
my dear thats what u all say till the trailer ends and the real movie begin
ive noticed that females with this ideaology are tryna prevent going through the same maltreatment their mum or aunt or sista went tru but it doesnt have to be dat way though
u still need a man to be the alpha male, doesnt mean he is above and beyond, its just hes duty to take charge
feminisim is just like dwalfs tryna play basketball, they will look very cute but no one will take dem serious

I don't run people's relationships and don't want people to run mine. I don't care if women want their men to be alpha males...I don't care. What I am concern with is misogynistic bulls hit spewed on this thread and many others. Why do YOU and other people worry about others relationships and how they like to live it?

Why are Africans so judgemental but yet preaches the bible every chance they gets not knowing judging someone is a sin!

Every relationship isn't the same and what YOU LIKE doesn't have anything to do with the next couple. People should focus on their own relationship if they have one!

Dragonking:
How many women had their maiden name and married name on their documents then? Let's stop deceiving ourselves, we love coping the whites and that's why there are so many divorce cases in the land.

If you leave the village maybe you will see it is not a new trend. Secondly, I don't worry about what other people do....I don't run their life. Try it.

Beface:
Go and read the bible verse,you will find out it's futuristic and it will also interest you to know that the women will be willing to clothe and feed themselve,all what they want is to bear the man's name. My friend, you and i known it is happening now.

I have read the bible verse and I said the women would bear a name of a married man just to be married. What you just said is redundant to what has already been said and applied.

mmsen:
Where did I say that was all feminism was about?

Your reading comprehension skills are atrocious if that is what you took from my comment.

The question was about surnames. The reason why feminists argue for double-barrelled names is because they believe that women should not be forced to lose their own identity - that is a choice that should be available to married women.

If you re-read what I wrote you will see how silly you have been.

You need to articulate better if you want us to understand you better. You added the last paragraph after I have responded to your post Instead of being an asshole and questioning reader's comprehension skills..you need to first make all of your points instead adding after people have responded.

I have responded to your original statement which was on point!

If you have issues accepting it then that is not my issue.

simdam500:
But at least I brought the bride price and it was publicly seen that I brought, which they refuse, reasons best known to them

No reason for her to remain her father's alongside mine, name unless reason best known to me

Who are you? You are not God or some deity known to other religions. You can't dictate what another human being does to their name and it doesn't matter if you paid bride price ...that's on your own stupidity.

Teempakguy:
are you a feminist. That was all i asked. The sermon was unnecessary and boring. Meanwhile, NOT taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING either. So . . . Your point is . . . Pointless, i guess.

I said what I wanted to say and your dumb ass didn't have to read the "pointless" response and it was so boring that you had to respond to give me your review.

Next.

mmsen:
How is what you different from this?

"A feminist idea that a woman should be able to retain her identity after marriage."

You do your cause no good by arguing for the sake of it.

Feminism is about women have the right to choose to do what they want in life. It is not focusing on surname and that other shit people ranting about.

That's the difference. I suggest you don't argue for the sake of it as well.

boynigeria:
hold on with all the feminist load of crap
u wanna be feminist, start paying for meals and drinks on dates
u wanna be feminist, start doing ur own heavy lifting
u wanna be feminist, stop waiting for the man to step up to the challenge all the time
u wanna be feminist, be the alpha in the relationship
its not just the society its how it is dear
ive dated a so called feminist and at d end of the day, she just went to being a woman dat she really is
feminist ideology is just like lil kesh tryna speak british english on tim westwood, we all kn its all decoration and fake

Stop with all that mysognistic _crap! I don't know what kind of women you have been with but it wasn't me!

I have no issues with women paying for food and drinks on dates.

I have no issues with women supporting outside the home.

I encouraged it but will you let your pride turn you into a whining boy if women were to do what you said above?