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Beface:
The bible is talking about the significant of women changing their surname's to the husband's name. Am not talking about quality of life here rather am talking about WHAT OUGHT TO BE DONE. Talking about women's right is retaining your father's name part of it?

If you can accept that it is talking a woman taking a man's surname only to signify that she is married...why can't you accept that being married back in the days was a mean to quality of life for married women?

Taking the surname was the only way to show that the woman is wife to the man. It was about status and class which is the same thing the bible speaks of!

Beface:
I did'nt see any hypocrisy rather you are the one getting it all wrong. The wife is to Submit to the husband while the husband is to love the wife. The word submission is used when one party have authority over another. So in this comtext the man is the head of the house or except you want equate a woman with a man in the home which i know you won't cause if you do, i just can't help but to imagine what your home will look like.

I can imagine what YOUR home appears to be. Don't worry about my home and my husband is the man of the house and I am the woman of the house. We do not have any discord in our home and we highly respect each other!

Now getting back to what you appears to be confused about and that's why I like fighting with Christians who think they know the bible only to regurgitate what others think a family home should be. As I must add not every family is Christian. The bible doesn't work on those of Islam or Buddhist faith to name a few.

Genesis speaks of the parties leaving their parents home and cleaved as one...it also said that Eve was created from a rib..not toe or heel hone. She was created to be a help mate to Adam who was alone with other creations. Genesis clearly states equality between man and woman.

Now going back to Ephesian 5, which is an example of a Christian family. It doesn't apply to those who are not Christians. Chris is the head of the body, the man is the head of the family, and the woman is his help mate. The man is to submit to God and when a man submit to God, a woman submit to her husband as a reverend to Christ. The man is to love the woman as Christ loved his Church, which means that he is to have unconditional love for his wife and DIE for his wife.

Remember Christ died for those he loved so they can have grace before God.

Now Genesis states man and wife is ONE and ONE is interchangeable with each other. We can't pick and choose what is applicable when it is clear that man and woman is one=equal.

dyabman:
Somethings are being done right before we were born and few of those things in marriage as we are speaking of has affected us positively with pride as couples. We youth of today try to do something new something different and right now such improvised idea of putting your surname even after you are married as a lady seems disrespecting and distracting to the union. #myopinion.

You said it right...your opinion. It has nothing to do with God.

Beface:
Even the bible said seven women will fight to bear our name (ISAIAH 4:1). It's a pride for ladies to forsake their father's name and bear their husband's name.

Isaiah 4:1 speaks of women will marry a married man just to say that they are married and to bear his name is a sign of marriage in those days.

When it spoke of seven women. It was given an example number of how desperate women were back in the days to marry. It has nothing to do with honoring a surname.

Women didn't have much rights back in the days and for a woman to live well.. she has to be married. If she was unmarried by a certain age she was considered not marriageable.

It was a fit for survival back then and I am willing to bet those seven women didn't love that one man that they "fought" to bear his name. As I said....taking a surname doesn't improve quality of life nor marriage

mmsen:
A feminist idea that a woman should be able to retain her identity after marriage.

To be honest I have no issue with it.

She carries both names, not just her father's name.

That's incorrect. Feminist stance is that a woman can choose to take her husband's surname or not. The key word is CHOOSE

dyabman:
Egberaga l'oun siwaju iparun..Well Its a pity when women of these days don't understand the word " submission " religiously. Asha ka sha gba l'oun be l'aye siyin.

Submission in the bible indicated BOTH parties in the marriage...not just the woman.

The bible also speak about loving the woman as Christ loved the church...do you think Jesus will forsake you if you choose not to do some things in your freewill? So whys the hypocrisy?

Dragonking:
Didn't your mother take only the husband name as surname? Why the sudden change in recent times? That's is what the OP is asking.

My mother has her maiden and married name on her documents.

It is not a new trend obviously.

boynigeria:
who cares, if u like add all ur fore-fathers name, im still the man of my own house

That's right.

donbenedict:
kpomkwem

Thought so!

First niggas bish about women asking them for things and depending on them but then complaining about women making her own money and not depend on men for support.

Make up your fucking minds niggas! Pick one and stick to it! Gotdamn

Teempakguy:
are you a feminist?

I am a woman who don't conform to the mass idea of how one's should live their life because society say so.

I am a feminist of gender equality. Most females have their father 's name and if feminism has to do with surname..we will be advocating for women NOT to take their father's surname which is NOT the case.

My stance is women do not have to take their husband's surname if they don't want to and taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING.

sagitarius:
That's why I said it should be agreed by both parties madam. Why do children bear the man's name as their last name? Because He's the head of the Household (And this is biblical) The wife bears the name of the husband as his wife. If you're married, your name is changed from Miss (which ends with your Father's name) to Mrs (Which ends with ur hubby's name) as a change in status to bear that name of the Head now. Marriage is all about understanding and communication. If that will bring about problems, then the wife shouldn't insist on bearing her Father's name at the detriment of a Peaceful home.

If a marriage suffer because of a surname then thar marriage is useless!

The bible says nothing about taking of a surname upon marriage....that is a man's idealogy. Jesus Christ is the head of the Christian family and you don't see men bearing the name of Christ as their surname so why expect women to do what men won't do themselves, Exactly.

donbenedict:
who is she? Am payn d bride price to her father as a sign of ownership..

if the father doesn't take the bride price..she doesn't have to take your surname?

How would you like to be sold like a cattle?

donbenedict:
If I just catch my wife doin dat eh, she will tell me who paid her bride price and hw many husbands she has.. Nonsense

So if she doesn't take your bride price..she doesn't have to take your surname?

yorubaboiy:
hmmm......emi ma ti ronu yipada.....toto ni awon nkan ti ..Hollamydey so sha

It is okay not to believe in change but all change isn't bad or cancerous!

sagitarius:
If it's not agreed by both parties, then it's not right. These are some of the 'little' issues that can cause marital conflicts. If you're married, you've left your Father and Mother, then you and your spouse are now one. Stop all these modern-day trends in marriages.

Where is it in the bible that say a woman must take the man's surname because she left her patwnt's home. There is no such thing as modern trend marriage. Marriage is marriage regardless of the season. If it is not a big deal for a woman to take the man's bame....then it shouldn't be a big deal for a man to take the woman's ,name. Simple.

yorubaboiy:
sha ma gbadura ko ma lo fe iru mi......tori emi o nigba......nigba to ti je wipe emi lo fe ti ko de kin se baba ire...oruko mi ni ni iyawo temi gbudo je

Just because you give her a ring and say I do doesn't mean she has to take your surname upon marriage. There is no law in it both land and scriptural.

I don't think that it's an issue to take husband's surname and keep maiden name. It won't change anything if you do and your marriage shouldn't suffer because of it.

Men likes to feel in power and important so they requires women to take on their name. I don't see women going around shouting "take my father's name" so why are the men shouting?

There are more important things to worry about than surname. It won't strengthen or kill your marriage. . Stupidity will!

A man told me that he left his wife because she didn't take his surname and felt she didn't love him so. People nowadays don't have a clue what marriage is and why it was created in the first place!

Prettyvhickie:
Girls,would you let your guy peck another girl?speak the truth

No. Chima won't even let me hug another dude let's alone peck him!

I don't play when it comes to my man.