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babyosisi:
@ mrsmith,during one of my mom's visits,she complained of some symptoms and wanted to see a doctor for a check up ASAP
She was going to stay 6 months so I took my time with regards to this appointment
My mother hounded me everyday,I told her I couldn't take time off work to do that yet and that she should be patient.
Every couple of days she will remind me and complain her symptoms were worsening,no do no do ,mommy started using Igbo proverbs similar to " a stitch in time saves nine" and often add that she needs immediate surgery before something catastrophic happens to her.
I took a day off and took her to a local hospital for a check up since in her eyes the condition was unbearable despite my reassurance that it wasn't anything out of the ordinary for her age.i knew she was exaggerating.
Mind you mom retired at the pinnacle of a health care profession.

I was right in there when the doctor examined her and asked her on a scale of zero to ten,zero being no pain/ discomfort and 10 being the most severe,where does she place her condition and my mom said 2 or 3.
I turned and looked at her in disbelief and she smiled.then she asked the doctor if she needed surgery and the doctor said No.
On the drive home I was very upset as you can imagine.
Do you know her response?
" at least now that a doctor has seen me and confirmed it's not bad,I feel better"

Chai

I have a feeling your mom is exaggerating,many mothers do that.

Lol
Thanks
Is just the early morning call and she was crying that I don't care that got me angry becos there is no month I don't do the little I can

tpiadotcom:
You were saying something about licking your partner's anus.


if you need to adjust the post, go and do so.

How does my sexual fantasy relate with my finance

What I do on my bed with my partner is private and personal. I'm straight and not gay so .......

You don't do oral?

Stillfire:
Lol, mrsmith. Most of them are the same o. Our mothers do not stay one place.
Who knows where mine is now? Probably in Benin republic, doing missionary work.
Just see the church thing as their extra curricular activity, abeg. They are bored.
Help her create a budget and be firm whenever you send her money that you don't want to hear stories.
If an amount would stretch your budget, don't do it. Family should be able to understand.

One thing I have observe with people in nigeria is that don't live by budget that why they are always broke before month end
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Kanw ;DuliaJara:
It will never be enough o!
That na 'bottomless pit'!
Just do your best and wait for CHANGE from APC!
Muchechechechechecheche

The MESSIAH-MALLAM is here!

Doubting thomas PDP....

cococandy:
Well let her know you aren't finding it as easy as she thinks it is.
By the way caring isn't about money all the time. Even when you don't have money to send, you can keep calling often to remind her she still has you and to be patient until you can afford to give more.

Ok
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tpiadotcom:
Would have commented but I read the op's post in sexuality section.

Can't reconcile the two scenarios so I'll pass.


Lord have mercy.

Lol
So in the sexuality section I said I throw money around or ........

No be people be Gay and pope said they still have a role to play in church

cococandy:
lol @bold

She use am sow seed.

Anyway you know you also have a responsibility to your own family. So being a man doesn't mean if it isn't convenient for you,you must do above others because you're a man.
Sometimes you can explain to her too. I believe she will understand.

She is so particular about me......

The reason for this post is what happen on good friday(easter friday)

My mum called at about 8am here which I think will be 7am in nigeria at that time.......she started by saying that I don't even care for her,she is suffering ,she doesn't even have money for hospital then wot got my attention is that she started crying on the fone that I have abandon her, that suffered to raise me and now I don't care for her and so other things she said I can't remember

I have been thinking about it. I just have a mix feeling about the whole thing

MRBrownJ:
before asking all these pointless question, you have to ask the poster if he can manage to send more than what he is currently sending. i mean, that is about 150€, while some people dont even save that much every month after paying rent, food and transport.

so the important question to ask this OP is: can you afford to send her more? and if he can then "why should you care how much strangers on NL send their parents?"

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I don't think I can afford to increase it because I don't know if I can maintain it.I also have children(a daughter n a 8months old baby)
I have sisters who send her money from time to time as well
The reason for this post is what happen on good friday(easter friday)

My mum called at about 8am here which I think will be 7am in nigeria at that time.......she started by saying that I don't even care for her,she is suffering ,she doesn't even have money for hospital then wot got my attention is that she started crying on the fone that I have abandon her, that suffered to raise me and now I don't care for her and so other things she said I can't remember

I have been thinking about it. I just have a mix feeling about the whole thing

babyosisi:
If all your siblings send 30K a piece,that is 90K
I believe that should be enough for her monthly expenses,many people survive on less with more responsibilities.
Are your other siblings not helping out or the 30k is the total she gets monthly
No pension or other income sources?


Do a little homework before increasing the amount
Sometimes parents will take on other responsibilities and start giving money to relatives and other kids and then increase the burden on the ones sending money.make sure that's not what's happening here.
Some parents have been known to give out money and bags of rice and beans to so called men of God in the name of sowing seed forgetting that the seed is coming from your pocket.

Well, we r actually four abroad but d youngest is schooling and married with 2 kids so she not consistent in sending money home so that y I said we r three(3).

The three of us r consistent in sending money to her and my eldest sis who pay her well has not be consistent since last year because she gave birth and stop working due to some reasons but she is back to work now so I don't hw consistent she is of today

The second daughter was also consistent,I think she send 40k every month but january this year they reduce her working hours and she has 2 daughters here so I don't know if she still send money every month end

I'm the third and consistent with my 30k but they always say am the man so .........apart from this month end money I do send other once in awhile for any issue arising(hope u understand what I mean)

My mum has about 6 flats she collect rent from ........

If you talk about. Seeding sowing in church then it was have been good but she travel round nigeria from revival program to another

Sometime last year,she called me and said she need 11k to see an optician for her eyes then I sent her 20k only for me to call her the next day she told me she was in ibadan for a church program.
A week after she came back she started complaining her eyes r dropping water or so that she need to see a dr that she only bought eye drop of 6k the last time not knowing it didn't work

Chillisauce:
500 tassan naira per month .

You should know that there are variables to consider.

You can't base your decision to increase you mums allowance by knowing the average money people here send.

She is your mum. find a way to care for her without comparing with others.

In efemenaxy british accent *Fenk you*

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I live abroad and every end of the month I send my mum 30k as allowance but it seems its not enough from the way she talk sometimes

Please I do like to know from others that live in abroad an average allowance they send to there parents for upkeep on monthly basis

Note: we are about three (3) of us living oversee

I don't why people keep replying/commenting on this post. If the woman doesn't know what to do then is her luck.
Since xday I read this post have been very angry anytime I come across it again
If she can't take action or defend her child since her husband is foolish person who allowed such abuse on his daughter so be it
I know tomorrow she will come to say her brother in law just raped her and NL should advice on what to do since the mother in law and husband said is a family matter

Hissing

I don't why people keep replying/commenting on this post. If the woman doesn't know what to do then is her luck.
Since xday I read this post have been very angry anytime I come across it again
If she can't take action or defend her child since her husband is foolish person who allowed such abuse on his daughter so be it
I know tomorrow she will come to say her brother in law just raped her and NL should advice on what to do since the mother in law and husband is a family matter

Hissing