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This is a personal experience.

My late dad's sister passed away in the late 80's and subsequently her husband decided to remarry. He didn't have a child with my aunt (cos she suffered numerous miscarriages) and my dad did not have any problems with him remarrying because he brought the lady to meet my dad for his blessings. However a few months after the marriage, he and his new wife came to visit my dad one evening. He came to tell my dad that his wife was having issues with my late aunt's belongings (pictures, personal items and equipments she used for her business) still been kept in his house so he wanted to hand over her belongings to my dad so that the new wife could be comfortable.

My dad listened to both of them and did not argue with them. He just asked where the items were and was told that they had packed them and brought them along with them. He got up, left the sitting room and went to the kitchen where he got hold of a knife and pestle and proceeded outside the compound where he first deflated the tires of the car the couple came in and smashed the windscreen. He then told the couple that they were free to leave cos the car also belonged to my late aunt which was his wedding gift to her and if they were not comfortable with her belongings been kept in the house, they couldn't also be comfortable using her car.

The couple and infact no one was expecting that and they left in shame. To the best of my knowledge, the man did not have any child with the 2nd wife or any other woman.

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[quote author=Mumsluv post=110361611][/quote]Ok. Please what other options do I have minus the Corolla? Thank you

GAZZUZZ:
Good choice.

But because of air-conditioning concerns , I would rather go with a Corolla instead .


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Thanks for replying and stating the issue. I don't really like the Corolla. What about a 2009 Honda CR-V? Thank you

Good morning Gazzuzz. Please I want to get a 2007 Toyota Yaris. Is it a good buy? I will be using it for my daily commute to work 70km daily Monday to Friday. Thank you

Go to the registry of the Federal/State high court where you reside and swear an affidavit declaring that you were married under native law and custom after which you will be issued a DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE which you will use for official purposes. Hope this answers your question and by the way the traditional marriage is the most important marriage ceremony to be performed. Cheers!

Its alright for babies to sleep facing up but they sleep better and for longer stretches when laid to sleep face down on their belly. But you have to always ensure that nothing is covering the babys nose. And always ensure that the babys face is not directly on the bed (i.e when the baby is much younger & cant turn his/her head effortlessly).

When a law graduate applies for admission into the Law School, you are required to fill in all the campuses but its in your order of preference but that is no guarantee that you will be posted to the state of your choice.
If a married woman wants to cheat she will do it anywhere so also a man but if you believe in yourself & know what you are in school for you will not be tempted by a temporary fling which can bring shame & disrepute. The KEY is to RESPECT YOURSELF & VOWS. In any school environment you find married men & women cheating but in the same environment you find those who know what they came to school for. Its really just an individual thing.
Your friends wife may not have any negative thought in mind maybe shes just looking for a place where there will be less distractions from home.

After your 10mins of lustful pleasure WHAT NEXT? Are you so myopic that you want to ruin your FUTURE because of your PAST? Is it all about kisses & s/e/x? You could have as well gone to stand at a redlight district so that you can get more than enough of that instead of tying a poor man down in the name of marriage.
Your ex is wise not to give you his pin so as to avoid contact with A MARRIED WOMAN but you are here degrading & belittling yourself by lusting after him. SHAME!!!.
Wake up girl and s*c*r*e*w your head back on your neck cos its very obvious that theres a loose nut somewhere. YOU NEED A REALITY CHECK!.

reinedamse: I love ur illustration..I think I'm really beginning to see things in a new light.thanks for ur advice.

You are most welcome. Goodluck!!!.

My dear, permit me to say that "YOU WANT TO START OFF ON THE WRONG FOOTING". Hiring the services of a house help SHOULD NOT BE ON YOUR TOP 20 PRIORITY LIST. Its akin to saying "since i am about to get admission into the university and we all know how stressful school can be & i want to have loads of free time on my hands to look good, party etc, i'l have to pay someone to do my registration, attend lectures for me, write my notes, do my assignments, read for me, write my tests & exams then when a good result is out at the end i jump out and take the credit".
Its really early in the day to think of a help. When you get pregnant (heavily) and still feel you cant manage your home then you can begin to consider it. But in the mean time, sit down with your fiance and re-discuss the issue on how you both will join hands together and clean up after yourselves ( it surely cant be that bad). Inviting a third party (A STRANGER) into your home immediately you say "I DO" is not the wisest decision you should consider.
THINK TWICE OR EVEN MORE!

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I'm still trying to comprehend the LOW IQ of the poster after all the good advice that has been given to her which a SANE person will have utilized effectively but with her ANNOYING response to each advice, i beg us all to kindly IGNORE her.
@OP- you are free as a bird to do what you like & as you like.

Why are you looking for trouble where there is none? Why are you seeking to give yourself high blood pressure for no just cause? Why cant you find something constructive to do with all the free time on your hands? Dont you have meals to prepare, children to take care of, salon to go to, work to go to, School runs and a host of numerous things to do to keep you busy instead of descending to the level of SNOOPING? Oya sharp sharp arrange a girl to tempt him then when she has successfully stolen his heart then let us know so that we can give you more advise on what to do with a cheating husband!.
PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW THE devil TO USE YOU TO WRECK YOUR PEACEFUL HOME WITH YOUR OWN HANDS!!!.

I dont have anything against C/S, i'l recommend it if its to save the mother & baby but to voluntarily go under the knife as against normal delivery is really mind boggling. Why would you want to go through the stress of pain for weeks, inactivity, fear of infection and high medical bill as against normal delivery where the pain ends as soon as the baby is born? If its in an EMERGENCY, the baby in a breech position, pre-eclampsia, prolonged labour etc no problem but when you are physically fit to deliver naturally why not? You can as well say you wont get pregnant again & save yourself pregnancy related stress or you choose SURROGACY as an option. I see & hear would be mothers rejecting C/S as their only option for delivery, they confess positively to giving birth naturally then you on your part want to choose that as your own option? Its really strange. Pls remove this FEAR from your mind and pray to GOD to grant you safe delivery. All the best.

Personally i dont take pap & dint give it to any of my kids & 90% of the kids i saw been fed with it were underweight especially those that claimed that they added crayfish, soya beans etc to enrich it. I used canned cereals for my children (nutrend and cerelac and later golden morn which are all from a known quality brand (nestle) and it worked wonderfully for all of them and it is readily available & dont stay long on the shelf before they are sold off. This eliminates the problem of expired products. Its when we tend to be adventurous with foreign products that have no ready market that we encounter expired products that the dates have been changed cos it has stayed too long on the shelf & the trader does not want to loose. But in the long run you give to your child what you feel is best for him/her.

No mother is LITERATE / ILLITERATE when it comes to her child. Motherhood is a thing of joy. It is a special exclusive role God has given us to enjoy & no mother has the right to castigate the way a fellow mother takes care of her child. You can give a subtle advice but its left to be accepted or ignored. You can not treat a child better than its mother. Insulting a mother for refusing to follow your path is akin to insulting yourself cos you are never 100% right in any situation. No mother is perfect. We are all in a very long learning process. Its really frustrating when a child refuses to eat thats why different ways have evolved on how to feed children. But the most IMPORTANT thing is that NO MOTHER INTENTIONALLY SETS OUT TO HARM HER CHILD DURING FEEDING. Its an act of LOVE for a mother to dedicate time to feed her child & WORRY when her baby does not eat. Pls lets all act maturedly & sheath the battle swords.
@op- babies love breast milk & dont just jump into eating solids. Its a gradual process. My advise to you is a case of "DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS". I'l advise you put whatever you eat into your sons mouth inorder to acquaint him with different tastes but fish(mashed titus) is very good for babies. When trying out canned / tinned baby foods look for the one that encompasses all what your baby needs. Personally i did exclusive (6months without water) for my kids but put soup in their mouths even before 3 months & at 9months introduced cerelac & later golden morn but they ate every other meal with me. This made them not to reject conventional meals. Goodluck as we all enjoy motherhood experiences & pray that our HOPES, DREAMS and ASPIRATIONS for our children come to pass in our lifetime cos they are all SPECIAL. Cheers!

@poster- i am igbo & we all know that the most important ceremony is the traditional marriage. Your fiance has accorded you & your family the ceremony that belongs to you which is the traditional marriage. The church wedding ceremony is the exclusive preserve of the groom & his family. After the traditional marriage you have become part & parcel of your husbands family & so they dictate where the church ceremony takes place. Where the church ceremony takes place in the brides church is where the grooms family wants the couple to have a free hand in handling the ceremony especially when both families live in lagos but if the groom is based in the east you have to respect his familys wish & save yourself unnecessary wahala from them in the future. All the best.

Thanks all for your honest & sincere advise. I have stayed home for 8years cos of my kids & i feel its time i also consider myself but i dont want to expose them unnecessarily. Its not easy been a mum cos you make a lot of sacrifices. I'l consider the job nearer home at least till when they are much older( but they always remain as babies in our eyes). Thank you

Hi mums in the house. I am in a fix presently cos i have a serious decision to make. I am about to start work but in a delimma on where to choose cos of my young kids. I have the option of working close to home(5mins drive), doing sch runs & not earn much or working further from home(20mins drive), putting my kids on school bus(dreadful thought cos of the way they pile them in the buses) & earning better. I really want to stay close cos of my kids but i also really want to earn more at least to support my husband cos of the economic situation in the country. Pls i need serious mature advise only. MODS pls kindly leave this in the family section. Thank you

@JAkpayen- i have gotten it. Highly appreciated. Thanks alot

Those roaches are really annoying cos they breed alot & our everyday insecticides cant even get rid of them effectively. Go to any supermarket and ask for SNIPER. It works like magic. Put it in every corner of the house & get ready to sweep a huge pile of dead roaches the next morning. It also eliminates mosquitoes. Send a feedback on your result after using it. Cheers!

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Gracie1818: moremi2008. The problem here is that i took her like my own younger sister but wait a minute. The things i do for her, i wont even do for my own sister.

@op- you have to know when to draw the line so that boundaries are not crossed. Like i said earlier, call her & talk to her the way you would to your kid sister & if you know how you relate with your kid sister do the same with her but do not bring yourself too low so that she doesnt ride you. You have to strive to maintain PEACE & HARMONY in your home but that RESPECT must be there. So handle her firmly but maturedly. Goodluck!

I'l advise you not to inform your hubby yet so as not to escalate issues. As long as you are older than her you have to call her & talk to her the way you would to your own younger sister. Do not sound overbearing or confrontational because the way & manner you bring up the issue with her will determine how she will respond to you either as a senior sister with respect or this is my brothers house without respect. I dont expect you to cook a separate meal for her when she is not handicapped or lying ill in the hospital. If she does not give heed to what you have told her then you can involve your hubby. You have to look beyond today so that you dont have a strenous relationship with your inlaws tomorrow. Goodluck