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Jasmine00:
Is it too late to join

hello jasmine

Proudgorgeousga:
always try to read and understand articles before you comment so that you don't sound stupid.

Please tell this to @DeeTus

Frenchfriez:
Nigerians are losers. Just take a look at the comments and you'd realise that our average level of intelligence is street level. Zero comprehension skills.
Op you have said it well, a greater number of out youths get married for one or more of the highlighted reasons, and when they fail to realise these in the marriage, they become depressed, frustrated and trapped.
Pathetic folks.

don't mind them...little wonder it is said Nigerian graduates are not employable. ...
Words written in plain English o.

Proudgorgeousga:
always try to read and understand articles before you comment so that you don't sound stupid.

Word!

bukatyne:
I am sure a lot of peeps here does not understand/ did not read the OP

She is not against marriage; she is telling us four wrong reasons to get married.

Another way to put the thread is don't marry for sex, security/money, emotional security or loneliness....

Na wa!

@Mzflexydeeva: Sex is one of the major reasons for marriage.

Sex, kids and companionship.

I agree the lonely people shouldn't get married; people who are alone should.

Your head dey there jare.....

Movies and games

They all get dammed at some point, it's only a matter of time

DeeTus:
Not getting married does not give you the absolute right to discourage other women here.

Your thread is absolutely nothing to write home about.

Clap for yourself.....simply cos u don't understand a write up doesn't mean it's my fault

DonnyE:
Hello people

hi hi

igstars:
Hello all...
Guess I missed all the action....
How have you all been?

madam!

DeeTus:
Stop acting silly. You shouldn't turn it around. You just have to respond to questions here.

really? Say who?
The only silly one here is you

DeeTus:
OP, are you single or married?

Why do you ask? What difference does it make

Marraige is a sacrament, ordained by God. A covenant between two people who love each other and have decided to live together as one through thick and thin. It's not a game to see who gains the most scores or a competition to see who is a stronger team. It is a union where self denial is most important, where your sole aim is making you partner happy. It's a union that should be filed with love and respect for each other.
In our world today the concept of marraige and family life is lost in the greed and selfishness of our human nature. Leaving one to wonder if marriages are still conducted among individuals for the right reasons.

1.Sex- many find it hard to believe that sex is the last thing to get married for. Yes! It's true. Some people enjoy sex more before they even get married... why is this so you might want to ask?
Level like is said has changed. Things are different, you see things in a different light, now you want to plan, ensure your family is comfortable, ensure there's enough money to meet basic necessities, you have to worry about your wife, your family (parents & siblings) and even your performance at work. Sometimes these worries get you drained you just want to rest. You find that you who was once a sex freak is no longer interested since you are lost in the everyday hustle to make things right. Again when kids start coming, your sex time automatically reduces especially when they are still very young and you are overwhelmed by the gift of your own child.

2. Security- when security is mentioned in this context, the first thing that comes to mind is finances. It is no longer news that money is the driving force of most relationships. An essential lubricant between two people else the friction tears them apart. Is this really a good enough reason to get married? Wealth is no assurance for a successful marraige. Money we know can do a lot but can it sustain that much? It is always good to know that money is good but not a good enough reason to get married. Does anyone ever have enough money? No!
Like it or not, there's nothing like "my money" when compared with "our money".
Emotional security-some people are deluded by the fact that marriage keeps them emotionally stable but I beg to differ. The best test of your emotion is marraige itself. It test your limits, questions your beliefs and in some cases makes you doubt yourself.

3. Loneliness-how interesting it is to hear people say "am so lonely even with you by myside". This is a common saying even for the married. Loneliness is a response to isolation. If you think your partner can take that away solely then you have got it all wrong. To be truly happy, you have to overcome your loneliness on your own else you be lonely even in your marraige.
Find out what gives you that feeling and work through it but the solution isn't always getting married. Sometimes it requires you to build yourself and your confidence.

4. Peer pressure- gone are those days when peer pressure was attributed to the people we walk with or stick around. In this day and age, peer pressure is more of a psychological rather than physical effect. In this era of social media and the Internet, peer pressure is everywhere. The rate at which people of a certain age group known or unknown influence each other is rather alarming. People tend to be defined these days by what they see and read not necessarily what they hear. No wonder a lot of people get planning when they see the latest prewedding shots, getting rings even without a boyfriend, paying for gowns they havent been asked to wear or even giving a man a time limit just because they are under the impression everyone is getting married. Again, we are hunted by the words of parents, mockery of friends and gossip of enemies. We concern ourselves more with what others think rather what we believe, we trade our freedoms for slavery just to be among the so called "married". We indirectly label ourselves "not good enough" because those we thought had nothing to offer find their ways into marraige. We compete even when there is no competition and finally we regret because all we did was follow the wagon of wedding bells not realizing we just took a wrong turn.

Marraige on its own is difficult even when the intentions are right just imagine how much more devastating it could be when ventured for the wrong reasons. Marraige is worth enjoying, be patient, prayerful and most importantly, be you and you would find yourself in the marraige meant for you.

Alot of people miss the true meaning of dating. I was always of the opinion that long courtship wasn't worth it. Truse me when I say people can pretend. No matter how long you date for. Again, alot of "ladies" see marriage as the final stop. Once u get in, u can do as u like. It's like doing an msc program, u read because u know it's for a short period of time, u r willing to do what it takes to get the certificate. Once u get it, how many people hold b on to the books from msc? They toss it away, now acting like the masters holder.

Naomi14:
Over 3months? Go and register ma'am! Hope you have been taking folic acid.

yes o. Taking for over 6months sef

Giddyperson:
12 weeks is a good time to register, 20 weeks is late

thanks alot, I will do that dis week

Happy new month lovely ladies. Greetings to everyone here. I have been a silent follower or let's just say this has been my obs/gyn clinic for a while. First baby, Not Registered, Over 3 months. Though a friend advised I register at 20 weeks others are shouting I run to register now. Just confused on what to do basically cos am super anxious

0neal:
Hello Mzflexxxxydeeva

How are you doing

Hello people

africaflozy:
Where is Mzflexydeeva?

present ma

Laredojohn:
Hello all, it's being being while here...our amiable Op, Howz family and oga @d top, am still my self...lanre, work and do biz, lagos based. Here to make cool friends, feel free to contact me,

how are you doing? Longest time. Hope you have been good

maeshal:
pls how was the questions? Was it theory or multiple choice question? How many questions together

multiple choice. About 300. True or false

Ferdyboss:
Hi dear.......Really been a while. I guess everyone become too busy. Life happened to us all. Really nice to hear from you

you can say that again

igstars:
Hi everyone...
Urmm, who missed me....
Ouch!!! I missed the wedding bells...
Big congrats @mzflexydeeva... Now a Mrs...
Where are all my chat buddies... Ferdyboss!!!

Babe thanks jare. Where have u been?

Yewandequeen:
Hmmm.
Just the thread I need.

Yewande how is that

luvlyADESUWA:
Nice group...
My name is Adesuwa, i reside in Benin city, m a graduate of Economics and statistics, UNIBEN, done with NYSC too...
I believe this group is more than just friendship and dating.

Me, i am a job seaker, I really need a job, at least helping each other with job is also part of friendship...or don't u think so people??(lol)

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Hello namesake. How are you doing. Finished from Uniben too.
Hope we can be friwnds

donp14:
you er nw mocking me

not at all

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Hey folks, sorry it's coming a bit late. How did you guys celebrate your birthdays?
Hope it went smooth?
God bless us more and help us continue to grow positively in Life.

Cheers birthday mates

Thanks a lot. Went smoothly

Lovely Valentine people

donp14:
was a bit scared. u know how u girls act most times.
bt its for real tho

hahahaha

donp14:
Mzflexydeeva
Mzflexydeeva
Mzflexydeeva
Mzflexydeeva

For real...... You should have told me earlier

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