My dear brother, take it easy, it is well. Actually Law is a very good and rewarding profession. The secret is very simple. You have to work hard and never expect overnight riches. Its a profession that first you have to earn experience and dexterity and after that, jobs will be chasing you. Again, there is so much untapped area of practice that people haven't even scratched. All the poor guys i knew that studied Law are all very rich people today. The ones that have remained poor are those who failed to work hard, but were busy looking for fat salaries in other industries without even learning the trade. Please my friend appreciate what you have. Just give yourself 2 years of hard work and focus and you will become very comfortable. Thank you

Quite an unfortunate situation for both parties. Ordinarily, a child should be a cause for joy, so sad that this isnt the case here, merely because both parties arent ready. Since the lovely innocent child is born-and we thank God for his mercies at safe delivery, what parties should be looking at now, is the way forward, and the interest of the child should supercede that of the parties. in this case, the man should take the lead and bear greater responsibility on how to resolve this matter. If the issue for him is about the paternity of the child- ok, let him resolve this by the DNA test and if the result confirms that he is responsible, then he would have eliminated every doubt haunting him and consequently he wouldnt have excuses to take excellent care of this child- who by the way-may be one of the greatest persons on earth-someday. On the otherhand, if the DNA proves otherwise, then his mind is also put at rest and then the next thing for him to do, if indeed he has been dating and being intimate with the lady, is for him to be a true friend. The lady needs love, care and understanding. Occurances like this make people stronger. She is still young and has a very promising future ahead of her. Finally, children are a priceless. Its a beautiful gift and they must be cherished.

there is nothing wrong with it at all. in fact what better assistance could you have given to someone that close to you. i think the reason why some opinions have been negative about your question is because those opinions are based on the erroneous view that people date just because of sex. on the contrary people date for deeper and more noble reasons and infact the bond that exists between some partners in relationships is similar to that of brotherhood/family love. now my question is this- wouldnt you assist a friend or a sister to get a job that she so badly needs? how would u feel to see this lady dying of lack and joblessness and you refuse to assist even though you could?
please go ahead and help this lady. i have seen many instances where people did same and they never regretted it. what is important here is that your conscience is clean, not what people think. take care bro.

when food is served and most of the time it is rice, big size chicken and juice
when a hospital scene is shown and you find a can of berverage (mostly Milo), a can of powdered milk and a packet of Stlouis sugar on display
when the actors shout while talking
when the domestic staff is always spoken to harshly and the gatemen run down from their very nearby post simply to open the gate for the employer or his family members to use
when university hostel rooms hardly have a bed - the matresses are always on the floor
when doctors attending to patients in hospitals are always spruced up in suits or at the minimum, long sleeved shirts and ties like bank staff
when love scenes at the beach are usaually about man chasing the woman all over the beach and finally the guy catches up with babe and they fall down together and the guy says i love you

Hi. Its amazing how much one is willing to go when they are in love. i am passing through heartbreak as well and some of the things you cited in your story as per how withdrawn and passive your girl has become, also have been happening to me. it hurts so much when someone who used to love you and be your everything, suddenly takes away the love. In my case i have cried so many times even in her presence, begging her that we should get the feelings back, but she just watched me cry my eyes out and never said sorry. Instead she would accuse me of self centeredness.
Please take this advice; Do not turn brash wit her. just let her carry on wit her withdrawal while you keep showin her affection for as long as your heart can carry you. Trust me, if you try acting macho and allow your self to scream at her and walk her out, like you planned, she would have succeeded in staining your current blameless love. let your love be beyond reproach, stupendous and blameless, so that if it so happens that you guys parted ways, (and i pray u don't, cos i hop love grows back), your consciensce will be free and you'll always be happy that you once loved someone without limits.
meanwhile, please don't misunderstand me; your discoveries are still salient and on the basis of that you have proof to show that she is seeing another guy. what i am asking is that you shouldn't be the one to say the words that its over, let her fizzle out on her own, so that records will be stated in future that she walked out on the relationship. finally, this tough one. love is amazing and is forgiving. Chances are that your girl may in future (indeed, shortly) want you back. Trust me, its hard finding love, and in your case you have found out that you love her. If in future she comes back and you haven't found it possible to love another person, and she has actually atoned for her errors, wouldn't you take her back. Love is forgiving.

thanks pally. i've toned down on the marriage idea. i'm of course not desperate, i only talked about marriage in the first place because i don't believe in the messing around business once i believe someone seems right for me. Again, pls note that its not about an infatuation or obsession with any superficial thing about her, like some guys have alluded; i love her as person, its a deepseated feeling. finally, i'm not at the mercy of women. I agree that i'm far older than her but both of us have never seen that age difference that guys have pointed out to me on this forum as a possible source of issue. but thanks a lot for speaking your minds, all the views have been wonderful.

hi, first of'l thanks for your contribution to my post.
i'm so sorry you had this sort of experience, i can imagine how terribly hurtful it must feel. i wish i had some magic to make it vanish from your heart. take it easy.
well, unfortunately its impossible to tell the future, but my advise to you here is that you should be honest to yourself whenever it comes to the affairs of love. by this i mean, you should endeavour to listen to that very silent, feeble but yet the only rational voice remaining in your heart when the greater part of your reasoning faculty has been re-ordered by love, such that what should ordinarily be bad in your eyes, is seen as ok by the eyes. majority of us (including me)are guilty of this, once we are in love.
peace and i wish you what i wish myself

hi guys, i want to say a very big thanks for your contributions. this forum has been so kind and helpful to me. its not been a funny experience for me. i never knew finding love could be so hard. one very important thing i've learnt from all this is that love should not be begged for. if it is not flowing to you easily, then things may just not be right. i also learnt that i am not doing something wrong by lovin somebody honestly, but that it is just that, its not a good relationship if you alone do so much of the loving. thank you so much. i'll really appreciate more of your contributions.
meanwhile, she has not changed. she has not shown any interest in knowin or meeting my folks or friends, she criticizes me easily but to my amazement, when i had a heart to heart talk wit her about our future together, she said yes, she'll like to marry me.
on my part, i've been able to develop this new courage of considering a break up. yes, i love her no doubt, but i need someone whom i can laugh, smile, play pranks with and generally be able to act like a playful child without putting on airs or pretences when with his girl. i discover that i am unable to do this with her, because she's so critical of me, once i'm trying to be me. she hardly puts up with things that don't go her on way and would be so rude in the manner of addressing it. i love her, but you guess have made me think deeper. i want a marriage where i'm happy and friends with my wife.
having said all these, i'll like put on record that she is a very great person. she's very responsible, intelligent, ambitious, beautiful, God fearing and hard working woman. she's so much i really wish for in a woman. if it doesn't work out, i'll really miss her. but i'll take consolation that i once had someone so wonderful in my life. thanks guy, hope to hear from you.

i have mini laptops in large quantity for sale. price 30k. Its New and has webcam. great offer. pls call Dan on 08034059403

thanks guys for your wonderful contributions. now that it appears to many that i am showing signs of desperation contrary to my honest impression that what i'm doing rather is a sincere show of how i feel about someone i absolutely love, what should i do? i actually tried the part of staying off calling her for some time and reduced drastically my visits and this earned me the description of an uncaring guy. this was particularly so because,  unknown to me, she was down with an illness at that period when i was incommunicado.

hi folks, i'm so much in love with my girl and show this very clearly. i have proposed to her and she accepted my ring but has not been putting it on. the problem here is that she doesn't show passion about our relationship, she only just responds to my display of affection but never initiates it on her own. we have been dating for 9months now and at the initial stage, she liked me to be everywhere with her, but lately i observed that she doesn't miss me around her and often times when she calls for my presence, it often turns out that she needed me to help her out to do something. i am not desperate for her but certainly i'm absolutely in love with her and would love to spend my life with her-a fact that i have let her know. I recently made my worries and observations known to her and nicely told her that it was my view that her feelings was just at the level of a mere boyfriend and girlfriend relationship as against an engaged-looking-forward- to-the -altar- relationship thing and that she should feel at ease with that because it was not compulsory that our relationship must end up in a marriage(i actually meant this). However she got offended and wouldn't offer reasons for her being upset.
Now my problem is this, my girl is critical of me, she hardly ever tells me she loves me except i prompt her(which i have stopped doing), she does not display or use affectionate words with me and switches her mood from lovey dovey to cold ice so often. Despite all these she still subtly talks about us getting married thereby getting me confused as regards whether she really loves me or does not just want to be the party that caused a break up. Please guys, do i go on with this relationship in which my girl's level of passion is so inferior to mine? is she honest about her feelings or is she just trying to be nice? she's 23 and i'm 36. i am not seeing another person and i'm so sure she is not either. her folks receive me well and i like them.

Hi guys, i'm deeply in love with my girl. i am so passionate about her and would be so happy to be married to her. i always show her care and display my love to her without inhibitions. her family knows me and my intentions. on her part, she shows me off in her neighbourhood and to her friends. she also has accepted to marry me. i proposed to her and gave her a lovely ring, (she attested to it being cute, and same was corrobarated by her friends) but since i gave her the ring(2 wks now) she's not worn it except for one day. she also doesn't call me pet name, but addresses me by my name. whereas i  stored her number with a petname (Love) and her picture as my phone screen saver, she did nothing of sort on her phone. lastly, she has never initiated the move to meet my folks but has allowed me meet all of hers upon my prompting. the confusion for me, is this, and i need your candid advice: she is not objecting to marrying me, but yet she is not showing excitement about my request. she has voiced out her wish that the marriage be next year against my desire that it should be this year. to be honest, i'm not a defeated person, as i have prospects for good dates if i choose to seek for one. but i really love her. however my dear friends, i am so psychologically set for marriage this year and nothing else beside that prospect of getting married this year(even if December) gives me joy. i'm 36 already, she's 23 and she's through with her education and is working. pls advice me, is she in the relationship with a view to marriage or is she just in it without interest to be married to me. am i better off, looking elsewhere? i will be devasted if this un-sure footed attitude of hers goes on till the year's end and i am left hard and dry. i am absolutely seeing no other person. i love her very dearly. she is sometimes harsh in manner of addressing me especially when i am not matching her expectations (for example when i make simple error such as missing my route while driving with her) we've been date for six months till date