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God will give u ur hrt desears in jesus name,but u av to be very careful ooo

Woow it is happenin here in owerri,the weather is gettin dark

Woow it is happenin here in owerri,the weather is gethin dark

Wow d weather av change here in owerri,about to get dark

Marriage is not  a bed of roses, as conflicts between husband and wife could bring worries and stress to the marriage. Issues and conflicts always arises  when two individuals are living under one roof as a husband and wife. it might be Parenting issues, jealousy, money issues,broken trust, boredom, poor communication, lack of appreciation and the list goes on.

Marriage is complicated and a mystery, so conflicts are inevitable and to keep your marriage safe you have to learn how to handle conflicts. Yes is true that every body wants happy and a long lasting married life but conflict cannot be avoided. So here are some tips on how you can handle conflict in your marriage.

Self assessment: The saying: “It takes two to Tango” In your marriage when conflicts arises, instead of pointing accusing finger to your partner, Simply take a good look at yourself and assess yourself. To handle conflicts in your marriage effectively, you have to look at yourself and your mistakes than stay their and keep blaming your spouse. Self assessment can help you build a long lasting marriage. By always taking a good look at the actions that cause the conflicts and think of a way to improve and avoid such.

Pride and ego: Discuss the conflict with your spouse, Pride and ego is very good in marriage but in the case of resolving issue with your spouse your pride and ego should take a back sit and be left alone. And don’t wait for your spouse to talk to you, be the first to initiate a discussion and you have to be sensitive with his feeling. For example Instead of saying “You made me feel bad last night by leaving just like that” which sounds like you are blaming your husband for what happened, it is better to say “last night because I was left alone”.  I think is best to start the conversation with “I” instead of “You”.

Listen to your spouse: Talk and refuse to listen cannot handle conflicts in your marriage. Lets say you want to compromise on something, your husband opinion is also important. Give him the opportunity to express his feeling and to be heard not nagging. When your partner is talking, Simply listen and don’t bring topics that are unrelated to the conflicts, all you need to is ask question. As marriage decision is made by two not just you.

Stay Calm: Never you allow your emotion to rule over you, as this can make marriage worse instead of handling the conflict. Stay calm and Do not yell as well as call your husband names and bring up past baggage  because nothing will be resolved with this attitude. And don’t lose your temper, you might say thing you will regret.

Be Positive: If you really want to build a long lasting relationship, Always bear in mind that every marriage go though rough times and conflicts. Every marriage see conflicts the main thing that matters is how you handle it. so simply keep to a  positive attitude to avoid getting stressed out or anxious.

Have You ever wonder why some women are man magnet and always make their husband to want them more, while some find it hard to attract men or even make their husband adore them? There are several factors that make a woman adorable and unique from other women out there.. Its not a rocket science to become an adorable but just a simple trick which is a must have and know for every wife. Here in this article i will list the qualities men (Husband) adore and if you have those qualities you will be an adorable woman every man would want to spend his life with. They are:

Good Grooming: Yes, Your husband may not be a fashion guru but he knows what is good and what is not good. To become an adorable woman you have to upgrade your wardrobes, you don’t need to wear designers to look good, just with the little you can afford upgrade your wardrobes and drop those out of fashion. Wear sexy clothes but not too seductive can make you look very adorable. And it is best to wear clothes that shows your full features, If you have good legs, show it, if you have great shoulders, do not hide them. of course note that you have to be comfortable wearing those sexy clothes. Know the hairstyle that suits you as well as do some exercise to keep fit. Men always adore any woman who grooms properly and who knows how to take care of themselves.

Take Your Responsibility for your own happiness: Men are always so happy and proud of their wife if he see you take responsibility for your own happiness and don’t solely depend on him. Yes its through that men are and can be source of happiness in marriage but you as a woman should know what you want and what really makes you happy. You have to stand-up for your own needs, Yes you can ask your husband for a favor but you can take care of your needs sometime and also let your husband know what he needs and what will make him happy as men are always focus on work and forget to think about their self, You can change his wardrobe, if you don’t have money, you can find another thing that will make him happy.. Do this and you will,your husband running home to see you, he can never stop think of you.

Be nice person you can be: Not because you are having bad day or some ugly situation, then you blame it on everybody around. Being rude or nag alot can kill your marriage. The best thing to do is simply act normal put a smile . even when your husband makes you angry just still be nice and you will see how he will adore you. Being Nice pays.

Know your worth and always have self esteem: This can make your husband or any man around you to adore you. An insecure woman who doesn’t know her worth is a big turn off. If  the reasons for your in securities is your flaws, then change them if you can but if you cannot? then you have to live with it and focus on the positive characteristics of yourself and always be proud of yourself. To become an adorable woman, Self esteem is the key.

All over the world, Gender equality have become a raging issue. The agitation that women take an increased role in all spheres of life. But there is an important but usually neglected dimension to this agitation. The Family dimension.

A lot of women tend to be “all about him” in a relationship or marriage. something that the Denver based clinical psychologist, Susan Heitler, PhD, author of Power of Two, a marriage skills-building course calls “appendage-itis,” a situation where the wife is basically being an accessory to the husband.

Now i wonder how we are gonna achieve the much talked about gender equality when there is so much gender inequality in the family which is the nucleus of the society.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that a woman should not respect his husband or be a little submissive once in awhile. My point is that some wives are too willing to give up on what they want which is a sharp contrast to the ‘all about me” attitude of men.

“Usually, many wives are afraid it could make a fight or some unpleasantness, or they just think somehow, on a subconscious level, in order to preserve the relationship, they have to diminish what they themselves want,” Heitler says.

The truth is that most women underestimate their worth. In their quest to make the marriage work, they give up on their dreams and things they really want. and most times, the marriage ends up breaking up anyway. This is because the feeling of hopelessness will turn to anger soon enough and eventually boils over.

Heitler went ahead to prefer a solution to this problem. And her solution is to Express your concerns about issues (be it housework, parenting duties or not having enough time for your husband or for yourself) rationally. As far as your husband loves you (which am sure he does), he will give your concerns a thought and make the necessary adjustment.

A woman  was created to be a man’s companion and support and not to be an accessory to him. A woman has the right to live her dreams, have what she wants while building a happy family with the man she loves

Many women don’t know what that some of the little and unexpected things can kill and ruin marriage, Here are 5 Things that can ruin your marriage, check whether any of this is available in your marriage or relationship, if so make some little changes..

Bringing Up Delicate Issue in Public Event: Bring up delicate issue in public can totally destroy marriage. Is normal couple do have conflicts, but if you are good of bringing delicate issues in festival, familly dinner and other public event..just know that sooner or later, you hubby will be very sick and tired of the accusation, This can trigger lots of problem which are very impossible and difficult to solve. The solution is just to pay attention to timing and adjust your way of life.

Favor Score: Quit scoring yourself of favors because you might face cold shoulder from your partner. If you are good at complaining of lack of appreciation, then you have to quit complaining and learn how to make your man to please you without blackmailing and other dirty trick.

Over Communication: Yes is a good idea for couples to always communicate and share issues together. But over doing it can get your partner very tired of you. You don’t need to talk too much or say everything, keep the precious idea and story for special occasion. Your man will appreciate you that most especially if you tell him, he is the only that knows some delicate things about you.

Sharing Your secrets with Friends: This one is a great marriage killer. Disscussing your love life and marriage outside with friends can destroy your relationship as one day they may use it against you. Yes, is good to seek advice from friends about your marriage but try to keep some aspect of your marriage for yourself and your partner. Men can feel extrememly vulnerable and irritated if they find out somethings from friends and not you. Try to solve and talk delicate issues with your partner rather than friends.

Confidence Issue: Be confidence with yourself not complaining about your figure all the time, it irritate men, I think is time you get rid of all this character and start to learn how to bring out the best in you and always believe him if he says you look attractive and you as well should learn how to make him feel attractive too.

In some marriage, I have seen good number of couples who don’t quarrel nor fight with each other as well as contradict each other, but despite how peaceful they are leaving, They are still missing something between them: LOVE.

Marriages are always at its best  when husband and wife  make some compromises. In some context, it is a fact that most of the marriage are not by love but arranged and some just married because they think is the right time- The both spouse are ignorant of each other  and have to compromise in some way to make the relationship viable. But these compromises shouldn’t be confused with love.

Yes is true that  love develops in a matter of time. Company becomes a habit. While Habit will  lead to feeling good and a kind of tolerance in its company. It might  happen that one of the pair may compromise till death. But staying together because it is habit is still not love and can never be love.

Togetherness, compromise and  habituation is not love. Love is a mistry, something extra;a divine notion, an ambrosial experience, a celestial feeling and totally unconditional. Love is above trust, above and higher than the earthly attraction and above all, love is logic. The barriers to love are ego, a taken for granted attitude and insecurity. They block the true path that  leads to you, expressing your feelings.

Examples:

In some relationships, Due to insecurity a husband will start behaving abnormal. For example a husband looking at how  pretty, young and beautiful wife is and may one day elope with  other fellow. Which will lead him to insecurity that will always provokes him to behave in a abnormal way. This insecurity will make him spy, guard and constraint all her financial activities and that that gives her joy with a preconceived notion. Which at the end sense of suspicion will occupied his love and family love.

Both partners will always  try their best to adapt  to each other or try to appease themselves. Which at a point in time, the couples will start blaming each other for not understanding their sacrifice, this happen because  love is being suppressed by sacrifice and sacrifice can only go for limited time.

In some situation either the husband/wife always fear that their love might be seen as weakness, making the other to overpower him/her, so the two try their best to hide their emotions, which by the time he/she realizes what has happened, it is almost over.

Mourn your partner or crying  before a picture means nothing. when he/she was alive, always ignored.. Some people only  realize how value your partner is, long after him. These barriers is a silent killer of love and marriage,  just like using carbon monoxide to replace oxygen from hemoglobin; the victim succumbs to death.

This is very simple,  discuss your problems, shed your ego, be frank to each other. That you are not  quarreling with your partner  does not mean you have no issues in your marriage, rather it is a sort of compromise. Note that in your love world, When compromise intrudes, Your relationship/marriage becomes conditional. This upsets equilibrium of love.

Grab the opportunity by putting 100% into that relationship. You both should Start enjoying each other’s company without any kind of expectation and you will see how you will be reciprocated and appreciated by your partner. Love seems to mature and grow bigger when it is reciprocated.

Every lady should be aware of those things men find irresistible in a woman, what they appreciate and what they don’t like. Thou is very difficult to find out what men think and wants because each individuals has its own understanding of how thing work. We have done series of research to find out those thing men find irresistible in a woman. They are:

Independent Woman: Men don’t like seeing women depend on them, they like those know what they want in life, have their own carriers and hobbies, as the family will be build by both efforts. This as well gives the man hope that even in his absent that his  (children) is safe and can be taken care of. This makes marriage very strong..

Best Friend: Men want their wife to be their best friend, some one they can trust, complain to and share concerns with. Any marriage where couples don’t share issue together is always compromise and always have problem in the short run.

Sweet and Beauty: Yes, This one is general with every man, they always want their wife to look beautiful, but in some extent they want sweet caring wife that can love and take good care of them, they also love a good sense of humor. If you don’t know how to handle problem with a bif smile, go and learn it.

Pressure Lady: Men don’t want to be pressured to do anything, they love pressure free woman, who will not always nag them, Every w=man should give the husband some privacy, so it will be great if don’t call or regularly send him message, chats, pings or call every minute and hour, its so bored.

Sexy: Men love their women to be sexy not trashy. This is one of the main thing that attract them to women. Every women have their best part of the body that they like and love most.. so highlight your best physical asset because that your selling point and also learn how to dress like a lady.

Well mannered woman: Nothing embarrasses men the most than that of their wife… go learn some simple ethics. Appreciate you man, encourage him to do more, show him unconditional love and support.

Your Reasoning: The most thing a man can appreciate from the wife is her reasoning, Try as much as possible to contribute ideas..Ask your husband questions and contribute your idea, as your idea may be the upliftment you are looking for.

Some pple will nt belive this,but it is true,repent and avoid hell

na waooo,if I see dis type of dog who know wat I will do....

The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has banned the importation of all foreign currencies except with approval.

This was contained in a statement signed by CBN Director of Corporate Communications, Mr Ugo Okoroafor, on Tuesday in Abuja.

It said that the move was sequel to the Bank’s withdrawal of the operating licence of 20 Bureaux de Change (BDCs).

The CBN alleged that the BDCs purchased and sold huge sums of U.S. dollars with no documentation to show details of the transactions.

The statement quoted the Deputy Governor, Economic Policy, Dr Sarah Alade, as saying that the CBN frowned at the existence of strong foreign exchange demand pressure from domestic sources.

She said that the CBN had observed a surge in dollar cash importation by banks and the huge cash sales of the dollars to BDCs by the banks.

She disclosed that the purchase and sale of the cash were not adequately documented by the BDCs.

Alade said that if the trend was not contained, it could pose grave threats to the value of the naira as well as the Nigerian economy which had gradually become dollarised.

She said the CBN Governor, Malam  Sanusi Lamido Sanusi, and his team decided to take immediate action to safeguard the naira and ensure its stability in the face of the aforementioned challenges.

Meanwhile, the CBN has also announced that the Retail Dutch Auction System (RDAS) would take effect from Oct. 2.

This followed the suspension of the Wholesale Dutch Auction System (WDAS) at the official foreign exchange market.

It said that the RDAS would allow only customers of deposit money banks to buy foreign exchange at the CBN through their banks.

This is against the WDAS where the deposit money banks bought foreign exchange at the CBN on their own accounts and in turn sold to their customers.

“The re-introduction of the RDAS is expected to prevent round tripping of foreign exchange purchased at the CBN official window to unauthorised channels.

“Also, a circular has been issued mandating all deposit money banks to redeem all inward money transfers in naira to the recipients at the prevailing inter-bank foreign exchange rate.

“This is in line with best practice,’’ it said.

The statement said that apex bank would continue to support the operations of BDCs in line with existing guidelines, adding that BDCs were still relevant in the foreign exchange market.

“To guard against stifling the activities of the BDCs, the CBN has authorised all deposit money banks to deal at the official foreign exchange market rate.

“It also warned that banks can only sell foreign exchange cash to BDCs subject to a maximum of 250,000 dollars per week per BDC.

“The CBN also advised all BDCs to continue to comply with the conditions of their operating licences, including the proper rendition of returns with respect to the purchases and sales of foreign exchange.’’

The statement said that the apex bank had assured members of the public of its commitment to maintaining price stability and the preservation of the value of the naira in accordance with its mandate.

CHRIST Embassy Church, during the week, flagged off its nationwide free distribution of over 30 million copies of Rhapsody of Reality, a daily devotional of the church and Bibles, in commemoration of Nigeria’s 53rd Independence anniversary celebration, reports PETER DURU.

Speaking at a ceremony in Makurdi, the pastor-in-charge of the church in Benue State, Gbuyi Olubitan said; “the free distribution of the devotional and Bibles is part of the church’s deliberate effort to galvanize the prayer life of Nigerians as we celebrate our independence as a nation.”

While pointing out that the church and its partners had invested huge funds on the project, he said , “over 150,000 copies of the prayer book would be freely distributed in Benue state.

“The Benue church will in the next few days also kick start its free medical outreach services in some communities in the state just as we will also embark on the completion of construction work on some blocks of classrooms in Makurdi town, all in commemoration of the celebrations,” he said.

Olubitan said the church had also undertaken to positively impact the lives of the youths of the state through periodic seminars and workshops that would prepare them for the challenges of becoming useful to themselves and the society.

According to him, “the church is deliberately reaching out to Nigerians as part of its social responsibility to people and the benefitting communities.”

In his speech, Minister of State for Trade and Investment, Dr. Samuel Ortom who was the spe cial guest at the ceremony, urged the various religious groups in the country to always uphold the tenets of religious tolerance and harmony, which he said was key to checking the security challenge facing the country.

Represented by his wife, Mrs. Eunice Ortom, the minister said, “our country is today faced with a lingering security challenge which is a strange phenomenon in our body polity; while government strives hard to check the menace, I urge religious groups in the country to eschew those tenets that tend to divide our people along religious and social lines. I would also implore other churches that do not reach out to the people to emulate Christ Embassy.”



ABUJA—The President, Christian Association of Nigeria, CAN, Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, has urged the Federal Government and Academic Staff Union of Universities, ASUU, to shift ground to resolve the ongoing industrial action embarked upon by the union.

This came as lecturers at Enugu State University of Science and Technology, ESUT, reaffirmed their support for the ongoing nationwide indefinite strike.

Oritsejafor, who spoke yesterday in Abuja at the celebration to mark the country’s 53rd independence anniversary, said to resolve the strike that would be 90 days old today would not be a ‘win-win’ situation, adding that the two parties must give and take, in the interest of Nigerian students.

“Government must shift ground and ASUU also must shift ground. If they will allow us, we can resolve it, we are prepared to provide solution, if they will allow us, it is possible,” he said.

Also, the CAN boss in a statement signed by his Special Assistant on Media, Kenny Ashaka, yesterday, in Abuja stated that as leader of the continent, Nigeria deserved more than she had attained so far.

Although the country is yet to achieve the desired standard of conduct and performance envisaged by its founding fathers, Oritsejafor expressed a strong hope that development would come as soon as all the challenges inhibiting its progress were surmounted.

He said: “We must keep hope alive; we are still together and would be together. There has been modest improvement and development. It could be better.

“But the atmosphere is not encouraging enough to hold those administering the country accountable, talking about the security challenges. We must all return to the path of sanity to be able to develop.”

Meanwhile, lecturers at Enugu State University of Science and Technology, ESUT, have reaffirmed their support for the ongoing nationwide indefinite strike of Academic Staff Union of Universities, ASUU.

UMUAHIA—PROFESSOR Mkpa Agu Mkpa, the Secretary Government of Abia State, weekend, survived a ghastly auto crash along Abiriba road, leading to his home town.

Mkpa was said to be traveling home for a funeral ceremony of a relation when the accident occurred.
However, details of the accident are still sketchy but it was confirmed that the SSG was rushed to the Federal Medical Centre, Umuahia, where he is receiving treatment.

The driver of the vehicle that collided with Mkpa’s was said to have died but Mkpa and his driver survived.
Mr. Ugochukwu Emezue, the Chief Press Secretary to Governor Theodore Orji, confirmed the incident and explained that the SSG and his driver “are stable and responding to treatment.”

Visibly shaken by the incident, Governor Theodore Orji, who rushed to the hospital, assured the SSG that the state government would not abandon him.
He urged the doctors at the centre to do their best to treat the former vice-chancellor of Abia State University, Uturu.

Emezue confirmed that Governor Theodore Orji had already visited them at the hospital where he consoled the SSG and wished him quick recovery.
Emezue said it would have been devastating for the state, in view of the fact that the state was still mourning the eight Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, members who died in an auto crash last month , but thanked providence for intervening.

Sympathizing with the family of the victim of the tragic accident, Emezue prayed God to continue to spare and safeguard the lives of government functionaries as well as all Abians.

NIGERIA Union of Petroleum and Natural Gas Workers, NUPENG, has warned Petroleum Dealers Association of Nigeria, PEDAN, and the oil marketers to fully implement provisions of the Collective Bargaining Agreement, CBA, and extant labour legislations to avoid industrial unrest.

The union spoke after signing a new CBA for the Petrol Station Workers, PSW, branch of NUPENG with PEDAN in the downstream sector of the oil and gas industry.

NUPENG in a statement by its General Secretary, Isaac Aberare, lamented that the former agreement was haphazardly implemented by some of the members of PEDAN, while many totally refused to implement provisions of the CBA in defiance to extant labour legislations.

The statement read in part: “NUPENG has signed a Collective Bargaining Agreement, (CBA) for the Petrol Station Workers branch (PSW), with the Petroleum Dealers Association of Nigeria (PEDAN) in the downstream sector of the oil and gas industry. The PSW branch of NUPENG comprises  pump operators, drivers, mechanics, watchmen, driveway supervisors, supervisors, book-keepers and station managers of petrol stations.

“The Union re-iterates that the former agreement was haphazardly implemented by some of the members of Petroleum Dealers Association of Nigeria, (PEDAN), while many totally refused to implement provisions of the Collective Bargaining Agreement (CBA) in defiance to extant labour legislations. The Union calls on Petroleum Dealers Association of Nigeria (PEDAN) and the oil marketers to use its best endeavour to ensure that the agreement is fully complied with to avoid any industrial dispute that can result to crisis in the downstream sector of the oil and gas industry. NUPENG states that there is tension and restiveness among its members, as they are tired of being denied benefits provided in the Collective Bargaining Agreement.”

The statement added that the union expected “prompt positive action in the matter to avoid any confrontation with NUPENG as this will not augur well for their relationship. The agreement which will remain in force for a period of two years was signed on behalf of NUPENG by Comrade Igwe Achese, President, Comrade Isaac O. Aberare, General Secretary, Comrade Roland Abu, PSW branch Chairman and Comrade Abass Adegoke, Branch Secretary. The Petroleum Dealers Association of Nigeria (PEDAN) officials that signed are Alhaji Kabir Umar, National President, Comrade I. A. Eze, National Secretary-Secretary and Mazi Sweet Asouzu, for the Zonal Vice Presidents.”



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Oooooooooo jeyovah!!!Lekwa ajuju,(see question)

Who is shoutin,I will shout and celebrate when dey remove d pampers dey re putin in,but for now dey re putin pampers

Nigeria will be 53yrs tomor but they are still wearing pampers..

MAIDUGURI  (AFP) – The death toll from an attack in Borno that saw insurgents dressed as soldiers set up checkpoints and gun down travellers on a highway has risen to at least 142, an official said Sunday.

“We recovered 55 bodies on Wednesday and 87 on Thursday,” Abdulaziz Kolomi, an official with the environmental protection agency in Borno state where the attack occurred, told AFP. The previous toll from the attack in the Benisheik area was 87.

The insurgents suspected to be from Islamist extremist group Boko Haram also burned scores of homes and buildings in the assault and left corpses littering the roadside.

The motivation behind the assault was not immediately clear, but Boko Haram members have repeatedly carried out revenge attacks against residents over the emergence of vigilante groups that have formed to assist the military.

Residents said the attackers singled out people from Borno, while letting people from other regions pass through checkpoints.

Benisheik was also the scene of deadly clashes on September 8 between suspected Boko Haram gunmen and vigilantes.

Northeastern Nigeria has seen an outburst of violence in recent days, leaving scores of people dead and casting doubt over the effectiveness of a military assault seeking to end Boko Haram’s four-year insurgency.



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Stakeholders in the Nigerian mortgage finance sector comprising operators, supervisory, and regulatory organs as well as key government officials have commenced moves to create an integrated web-based central mortgage asset registry system that will reveal properties on which loans have been obtained.

The proposed Mortgage Asset Registry System (MARS) is in line with the Financial System Strategy (FSS) 2020 plan on mortgage which aims to establish a safe and profitable mortgage market in Nigeria by setting up appropriate infrastructure/institutions; provide affordable and long-term mortgage to all classes of Nigerians and; enhance the use of market mechanisms to improve housing delivery system.

Analysts contend that a robust mortgage sector requires an efficient mortgage asset registry as the system would make it difficult for dubious borrowers to take multiple loans on the same property from different banks and Primary Mortgage Banks (PMBs).

MARS would be jointly implemented by Federal Ministry of Lands, Housing and Urban Development; Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN); Mortgage Banking Association of Nigeria (MBAN); Federal Mortgage Bank of Nigeria (FMBN); Office of the Surveyor General of the Federation; National Information Technology Development Agency (NITDA); and Security and Exchange Commission (SEC). The system is expected to link the Federal and States land and mortgage asset registries, facilitate due diligence for mortgage transaction and timely access to land and mortgage asset data.



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Woow intresting......

I dnt understand,wat re they usin fish and bread for,to mk money?

Ok I won't ask again

slim or no slim u still look pretty mama

na waooo

mmmmmmm?

I will tk my parents advice Dan a pastor,I knw why I said DAT because I av a reason