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Are you in for relationship games or you want to get married in the nearest future? Because all your writeup talks about EMOTIONS,EX and SEX....sammy na d name

MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

Brother man...you are jus bitter.....it pains that you have no opportunity just like this guys...wish them goodluck even if you hate their happiness

Coldie:
This is very wrong though, this should not be the criteria of rewarding people what they did is wrong me personally i hate it when men do all those stup1d waist dance.

Instead of giving people who are intelligent with no sponsors scholarship u are giving people who are dancing rubbish dance on the job scholarship.

If they want to dance they know where to do it, if they can dance as SECURITY men and get rewarded next thing even waiters and waitresses would start dancing too until everything cast

What good have you encouraged anybody in your life... Nigerians and hypocritism...

DoggoneDogg:
This is highly irresponsible from this tithe fraudster.

He is encouraging lax work attitide as many lazy brats will now seek to display unseriousness at work hoping to get sacked & go viral.

Sigh*

Ask Google

MajesticKris:
Who pays for the repairs now?? The car owner or the Fence Owner

Well make una leave that Guy, He dey speak e mind, or person nor dey speak e mind again....But to be sincere with all heart, The poor is not about those that dont have money but also to those lack wisdom...Well he lacks wisdom, and after the school, whats next, BRICK LAYER WORK.

in this recession in Nigeria, People still Show DOLLARS, well done Buhari, This man doesn't belong to any part of the kitchen,the other room, the bedroom, He's just the Owner