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sexkillz:
Nayah! Pls i need a yes or no answer format! Thank you in advance!

1- Yes, until he prooves me the contrary
2- Defensive
3- Yes of course he has to know my surroundings
4-It could be secrets about HIS life don't you think?, I rarely quarrel with him but when it happened that was really constructive, calls= when he needs me to talk

5-No pb, he can advise my husband too since he knows me well too
6- I don't cheat him, just talk this is different
7- I've already responded, I'm not selfish you can have a GF especially if you know her for long time
8-My best friend is my brother and I don't marry my brother

Hope it's clear now

heheh Mr Cork, glad to be compared to a motorcycle anyway thanks for the advise

lol I do prefer Desmond Elliott

^^ Exactly, this is about frustration and inferiority complex and this things have nothing to do with love normally

^^good afternoon the Bible said men have to cherish their wives is it always the case?
Again, for me there's no big deal having a best friend, because when your home is stable, and that you love your husband and if he knows it he'll trust you believe me, or the problem would be on his side for feeling insecure not mine

sexkillz:
Nayah Nayah. same old Nayah! Always trying to cleverly evade simple questions! now, lemme rephrase!

If he's searching for Job, while dating or propose, does that equate to having a Job?
Patience, Love, blah blah, is only applicable when you are married or already engaged! Not dating or about to propose! We are not talking of maybes here! Marriage has no time for maybes or if! Unless the title of this thread is not about marrying a jobless person, then your arguments can hold water! This is like going into a room that is obviously dark, and you are waiting for NEPA to bring light! When? Nothing like going into Marriage assured of your finances! It's categorically wrong for a Jobless man to marry a Woman, abeg! Be factual! How long are you willing to go hungry? And stop playing that husband and wife song! this thread is not for Jobless married peeps!

If i have a job and she is Jobless, no problem
If she has a Job, and i'm jobless, Problem aplenty!

"Love is good! but you need to be able to eat and pay bills, in order to love well"(Pendo89, 2011)

Sexkillz always trying not understand what's simply to understand
Brother! I repeat there's no problem marrying a jobless guy if you help him to find, and with your support he will, now I think it's clearer

sexkillz:
Nayah Nayah!
Do you trust your heart all the time?
Are you defensive or secretive about the relationship with your Male BEST friend?
Does your husband know you have a BEST friend that is Male?
Does he know that another man there knows all his secrets? How many times he humps you? How many times you quarrel? Cos if you insist on having a male BEST friend, it would quintessentially be hypocritical of you to also say you dont share secrets with your BEST friend! Am i right?
How would you feel, if your husband overheard your conversation with your Male best friend?
How would your husband feel after hearing your conversation with another man?
How would you feel if your husband kept a female best friend?
Why did you not marry your male best friend?

Nayah, pls answer these questions honestly and set us on a clearer parabolic trajectory!

I think I had responded previously with https my dear

https, I will reply you humbly that I do know what is having friends when you're in couple, my mother has one who's an uncle for me and they know each other since secondary with my mother and it took him about 10 years to get married after my mother but he saw me as a baby and my father respect him as his brother too, my parents are still together, so please try to take my opinion in consideration when I say it's possible

Now if you think you can't be able to resist this is different, but this is possible sorry

ahahaha Romance section

Age is nothing but a number, marry when you feel ready and capable to hold a home

Mashino, then I'll leave it's better

Ranoscky:
Hi Nayah! Im fine, my dear. And u?

Ya, I just have to be honest on this cos I know myself very well. I cant stand such (esp, when she put's on something tempting to my house)!

Definitely, something must go wrong, cos im a human being and NOT a ply wood!

I'm ok; you know as I wrote on the other thread about male friend, it could be selfish to say to my man " Don't want her to be there anymore" especially if you know her rather earlier than I, it's quite unfair

Now if I see anything which could threaten me, then I would talk to you and ask you to take distance: marriage is not prison
From your statement you already know you're not able to resist lol ( which is quite honest) so I can understand

https so if I follow you I have to leave my friends because we're married??
Sorry but I don't have this conception of marriage and friendship especially when we're like brothers and sisters, and I could never, exceot if I have prooves say to my husband " don't want you to see her anymore" it's a bit selfish, my life don't have to turn around my marriage, even though as wife I have to respect and love my partner

lol High Chief then you'll say "African women or Nigerian women are gold digger"

Http , I can make the difference between my husband "my half" and my best friend
Do you know that having a girl friend can be seen as well as dangerous for your couple? imagine if she talks too much or put ideas on your woman's head and so on?

All I'm saying is that you should trust a minimum your partner

blackmale:
@ NAYAH, what is respect and understanding has to do with all these, everybody in this forum is against it, and couple of guys have given you reasonable fact towards this, you re still defending it logically,,,,, well it might be working for you though!

Everybody doesn't mean this is absolute truth brother, remember GALILEE's theory
Understanding= before him you created a close friend network
Respect= as her wife I have to fix limits and always be faithful

If these things are fixed there's no problem, hope I made it clear now

pendo89:
Is waiting for him to get one a prob? For a start a man without a job is pychologically tortured.It will start showing in the way he talks and acts and the relationship will just suffer.
He will feel inferior even if you try your level best to encourage and support him. Now that can be emotionally draining.
What are his future prospects? is he searching? If hes doing nothing about it?? I have my reservations.
Love is a sweet thing.It just doesn't pay bills which can be overwhelming at times.

Always on point my dear habari my sweet sister  

sexkillz:
@ Nayah
Those guys in your story, were they jobless before marriage, or After?
And is there a difference between a Jobless unmarried man & A jobless married Man?
Jobless people have a right to be in love and be happy! But realistically, can you wait for a jobless guy to get a job, before you Marry him?
And for how long would you wait?
Things would be better? Can you actually sniff the air to know when?

I'm Romanticatedly Discombobulated sometimes, but a dose of reality helps to balance my emotional equations! now, no matter how much i love a lady, it would be quintessentially selfish of me to Expect her to marry me out of pitiable love, when i know of course that i cannot realistically live up to my responsibilities as a man, by taking care of her! If we are married, and i'm jobless, that's a different ball game entirely, for a separate thread!
This thread is incontrovertibly about Marrying a Jobless person, and NOT sticking with a Jobless Spouse!. . .

When you talk about realistic you talk about what happens very often right? so let me tell you something, the fact that yourself you've said you "can't marry if you're jobless" then you tend to give reason to some people who wants everything presented

As Pendo said where would be the problem if he's searching a job while he's dating you or propose?? if you love him you can help him first he could evolve: and these kind of stories are quite good because they consolidate marriage because you already know what difficulties are, and the meaninig of patience, love: all the things we ask as husband and wife

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Why do you want to start what you can't finish? having a male or female best friend is another way of commiting adultry, your wife or husband should be your best friend. All this i can control myself, bla bla bla is all lies.

There is no man or woman on earth that can predict what he or she can do or capable of doing; God said do not move near fornication, let alone doing it. Tell me what is the discussion will be like with a Male or female best friend? that will not go into your personal life in your marriage. Infact, the reason for calling someone BEST FRIEND is you discussed personal matter with them, that all; so you want to discuss about your marrieage and other things with someone is not good enough to be your husband or wife.

Why can't you marry this so called Male or Female best friend when you were still single?

People just come with different excuse to commit furnication and destroy their marriage, relationship and life.

Another way to be unfaithful?? sincerly I respect your opinion, but I totally disagree marriage is not prison, is about communication, respect and understanding

ebonyvibe:
well said couldnt have put it any nicer

Can we women really want equality? I mean I disagree, someone who's jobless isn't a human being who has the right to be in love or happy? well, not surprising some people say we're materialistic, of course wa can't leave in utopia and dreams but I know jobless guy (temporarily) who are married, and sometimes when they suffer to have their job they find a good one then the others start to look at him, quite strange

^^Sorry but I think among the others Denrele is the best not too much compare to a lot of

Denrele is the type of style I'll always be ok with, I really like classy women

Temporariy wht not but he has to show me he wants to work, being amitious ( the real sens not materialistic one) and wants to evolve in order to have a stable life with me

sexkillz:
I Repeat: Having a "male friend" & Having a Male BEST friend, are two different things. . .

I can accept the former, but the latter? HELL NO!. . . It's completely unacceptable, in ALL ramifications!

And the first one could take your friend away too, for me it depends on your WIFE not on the guy because a relationship is about 2 people, not one way love

Da Doctor:
sure! keep off this thread my love.

And it's start by understanding not ORDERING

Mrs, Chima:
Nayah!

You know better asking boys this type of question. Double standard to the fullest. I bet all of them contaminated their finger in over 100 toto.

HEHEHE Mrs Chima you're too funny loool

Da Doctor:
keep telling your guys same story and see how u will end. ANYWAY. IF U GET MARRIED AT AGE 45 IT ISNT LATE.

Babe ke? dont worry, little age is still on your side, when doomorange sets in now, u will begin to care.

Matured men? My type cant even date u. y? your colour looks so dirty to me. no offeinse

Da Doctor life is not always white or Black, you should learn to forgive or accept people without being too radical or critical because someone might love you while you're not so perfect, we call that "concessions" try to think about that

Kwanlo:
Y cant your husband be your "male bestfriend". Male bestfriend ko! I think as a husband, I can have a female bestfriend too. We can discuss stuff, go to the movies, share secrets, hold hands and do every other ridiculus activity we can think of while justifying myself that I cant do anything wrong as a married man. I guess its even more ridiculous as a house wife because u av more than enof bestfriends already in your husband and kids.

I think many brothers here are mistaken, I didn't say my husband can't be my BEST friend and of course I would have to cousult and talk to him, but BEFORE you got married you got social friend, and some became your brothers! so you have to avoid them because you get married? Well this is not my definition of loyalty and friendship sorry dears

Blackmale and Da Doctor it always have worked with me I've never had problem, on the contrary I knew some "close" couple who broke up because they were a bit fake, I think you can love someone and giving him some space, I said "some"

noble_gas1:
Realy? hmmmmm but you look Nigerian though. Do you live in france now?

Lol it's because we're in a Nigerian forum?? by the way first time people say that, usually they are mistaken I can pass everywhere lol
they talk about Carrabean, Guinea, Mali and so on but never Nigeria, Congo, Benin don't know, I'm African that's the most important
Yes I'm living in France

Creamish:
wow . . and cute one too . .  Nice .  

Thank you sister

partners before you coogar

Noble yeah I'm french, but Cameroonian and Tanzanian origins

^^ lol so If the female have guys before you and you think is too much then you'll refuse?