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Celebrities / Re: Nicki Minaj & Solange Knowles Speak Up For Nigeria by Nemma(m): 11:01am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Buh why are they bothering themselves when Oga Jona is busy compaigning and attending wedding ceremony dat "I don't care attitude" and I hear say one pdp spokesman talk say boko nah glabal thing dat is a big lie I believe that this is the right time to start handling them before it's too late besides Jona say make una give am chance again make in commot women wey dey pound yam for their husband for kitchen con turn them to global figure, help me ask am why he no do am when he get the chance and who go help take care of the home and the children when our women don turn global figure finish To my Oga, Gen Buhari thank you for entertaining Nigerians with those lies/false promises your own case no be the first Jona talk pass dat one |
Education / Re: University of Ibadan (unibadan)2014/2015 Post-Graduate Application by Nemma(m): 6:35am On Dec 22, 2014 |
Bro let's talk on whatsapp 07033658888. walexzreal: |
Politics / Re: Jonathan Can't Control His Wife, Patience- Wikileak's Report by Nemma(m): 2:45pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
GEJ say and I quote 'stealing is not corruption' pendy79: |
Politics / Re: Jonathan Can't Control His Wife, Patience- Wikileak's Report by Nemma(m): 2:43pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
pendy79: |
Education / Re: Solve This Simple Maths Question If You Can!:::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nemma(m): 7:47am On Dec 08, 2014 |
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Education / Re: University of Ibadan (unibadan)2014/2015 Post-Graduate Application by Nemma(m): 8:03pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
Despite all my effort, I had 48. Didn't finish all tho. |
Politics / Re: Amaechi's Police Kill 10 Protesting Youths In Rivers by Nemma(m): 7:14am On Nov 28, 2014 |
@OP. Don't be dogmatic! Now they are Amaechi police force (APF) Just because they kill 10 youths. SMH 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: FG To Buy Cooking Stoves With N9.2bn by Nemma(m): 7:24am On Nov 27, 2014 |
donmalcolm21: What is this one saying?.... Which policy are you talking about? |
Politics / Re: Obasanjo Rubbishes National Assembly, Says It’s An Assembly Of Thieves, Looters by Nemma(m): 7:12am On Nov 27, 2014 |
abagnalie: Are you satisfy with your present situation? 2 Likes |
Education / Re: University of Ibadan (unibadan)2014/2015 Post-Graduate Application by Nemma(m): 7:07am On Nov 25, 2014 |
fissy1st: I guess you make use of ur statement of result.. |
Romance / Re: Things You Need To Do After Break Up With Emotionally Abusive Woman by Nemma(m): 10:05am On Nov 20, 2014 |
Missmossy:Don't be scared dear!!. |
Romance / Re: Things You Need To Do After Break Up With Emotionally Abusive Woman by Nemma(m): 11:32pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
Rapsainot:Someone might need it if not you!! |
Romance / Things You Need To Do After Break Up With Emotionally Abusive Woman by Nemma(m): 11:13pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
DING DONG THE WITCH IS GONE! 1. Spring cleaning. Purge your home or apartment. Get rid of mementos of “the good times.” If you’re not ready to throw them away, put them in a box and store it somewhere out of reach. If she’s left personal belongings, tell her it’s fine if she comes back to get them later and then quietly pack them in a box on your own and ship them to her or, if you don’t know her new address, send them to her mother, her friend (if she has one) or her office. When she sends you a nasty email or leaves a nasty voicemail for doing so; ignore it. These women leave personal belongings behind as a way to keep a “foot in the door.” Your goal should be to firmly close that doo — for good. Furthermore, if she has any of your belongings or owes you money, either get them back on the day of the break up or kiss them goodbye. Your peace of mind and a life without her is far more valuable than a sweatshirt or $200. 2. Delete emails and all other electronic messaging equipment. Delete the 700+ emails you exchanged with her. They’re just something you’ll torture yourself with in the middle of the night when you can’t sleep wondering, “ What if I’d responded like this? What did she mean by that? How could she say she loved me and that I’m the greatest guy she’s ever known and then do x, y, and z? Look at how great things were between us for that hour on March 9th. Why couldn’t we stay like that forever? I wonder if she’s thinking about me as much as I think about her? Maybe I’ll just email her to say ‘hi’ and make sure she’s okay. . .” Don’t do it. Don’t do it. Don’t do it. Delete these emails unless you need them for potential legal proceedings. 3. It’s times like these for which Caller ID was made. You’ve got Caller ID, so use it. Screen you calls. If her name appears on the screen; don’t answer it. If it reads, “private caller,” “unknown number” or a number you don’t recognize; don’t answer it. It means she’s figured out you’re not taking her calls and has either blocked her number or is calling from a different phone. Let it go to voicemail and then delete it. 4. Avoid your favorite hangouts for awhile. Don’t go to the restaurant or bar you used to go to together. Go to the gym at a different time of day or join another gym if you think she’ll start popping in at your current one. Your goal is to keep as much emotional and physical distance between the two of you as you can. Granted, that won’t keep her from “accidentally running into to you” (i.e., stalking you), but you don’t have to make it easy for her. If you can’t avoid these places due to work, geographical limitations or that’s where your friends go, at least change your schedule. Change beer and darts night from Tuesday to Thursday. Go to the gym before work instead of after work. Park you car on a different street or in a different lot. Go to a different grocery store. This is for your benefit as well as hers. Sometimes all it takes for these women to start messing with you again is to see you drive past them on the street or if they bump into one of your friends. It’s much better for you if you can stay out of sight and out of mind. 5. You gotta have friends (and family). Get back in touch with the people who care about you. If your ex isolated you from your friends and family whilst you were together, reconnect with them. The same advice applies if you isolated yourself because you didn’t want to deal with the embarrassment of her nasty and unpredictable behavior. You need your friends’ and family’s support now more than ever. You don’t have to have weepy heart-to-hearts with them. Just distract yourself for a few hours doing things you enjoy together. It will help to debunk all the lies your ex fed you during the relationship like, “ You’re a loser. You don’t have any friends. No one likes you. There’s something wrong with you.” The reality is your ex is the loser that no one likes and, if she has borderline/narcissistic traits, there’s definitely something wrong with her. 6. Spill the beans. Stop lying, making excuses for and defending you ex to your friends and family. It’s time to be honest and expose her for the crazy, out-of-control abuser she is. First, it’s a good offense. Emotionally abusive, NPD/BPD women often begin smear campaigns against you after you break up and, sometimes, while you’re still together to play the “victim” and gain sympathy. Second, you’ll probably be surprised when the people you confide in are not surprised by what you tell them about your ex. Some of these women are especially adept at putting on a good front and making you out to be the bad guy, but most people can tell something isn’t right—no matter how well you think you hid it. Third, one of the things women like your ex fear most is having her nasty, crazy behaviors exposed. It will also make it more difficult for her to worm her way back into your life. Once your support system knows the full story, they can serve as “sponsors” à la 12-step program-style. When you’re feeling nostalgic for the few nice moments you had with her, call your friends and family for a much needed reality check. 7. Take good care of yourself. Get plenty of rest. Improve your nutrition. Exercise. Start doing the things you used to enjoy again. Establish a new routine without her in your life. Do everything you wanted to do that she bitched and moaned about while you were with her. Leave the toilet seat up. Drink directly out of the milk carton. Give yourself permission to be yourself again. She’s not around to come down on you for it anymore. 8. Take a break from dating. You need time to recover from this relationship. Rushing back into the dating pool while the wounds from your ex are still fresh leaves you vulnerable to other female predators. Like cats in the wild, these women can spot the antelope with the limp at 50 paces. Take some time to figure out what attracted you to this woman, what needs you were trying to meet, if this is a pattern for you and then educate yourself on how to identify this kind of woman in order to avoid another abusive relationship in the future. If this is a pattern for you, I encourage you to do some work and learn how to become attracted to healthy women. It can be done. 9. Distract yourself. Focus on your career. Strengthen your friendships. Take up a new activity. Take a class. Go back to school. Read all those books and magazines you’ve been meaning to get to “when you have the time.” You have the time now. An abusive, NPD/BPD woman is a huge time sink. She demands constant attention and, when you’re not showering her with attention, you spend the rest of the time thinking about what you did wrong and how you can please her so that she doesn’t go ballistic or give you the cold shoulder again. If you don’t find something to occupy the chunks of time she used to consume, you’ll inevitably begin thinking (i.e., obsessing) about her, what you used to do together and what she’s doing now. It’s like giving up cigarettes; you need to replace the unhealthy habit with a healthy habit. 10. Get real with yourself. Commit the following statements to memory: She won’t change. You can’t make her better. She doesn’t love you. Things really were that bad. You can’t be friends with her. She’ll keep abusing you for as long as you let her. She isn’t going to move on to a new man and suddenly be great and normal. She’ll continue to be the same miserable woman she was when she was with you, no matter how much she rubs your nose in how “terrific” her life is without you. THIS IS A LIE. A few wonderful moments don’t make up for how abusive she is the majority of the time. You deserve better. You had a life before her; you’ll have a much happier life without her. |
Celebrities / Re: Caroline Danjuma Blasts Girls Trying To Break Her Home; Lola Omotayo Replies by Nemma(m): 4:34pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
kennygee: B*tch*. Oya humble me |
Nairaland / General / Re: Facts For The Week by Nemma(m): 8:08am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Nice writeup |
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: A Thread For Coreldraw Users by Nemma(m): 10:23pm On Nov 09, 2014 |
Not perfect tho.
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Romance / Re: What Do You Think Guys? by Nemma(m): 8:31am On Nov 06, 2014 |
Another broke a$$ nigga You can easily do without ladies.... No love for the broke. |
Travel / Re: Funny Experience At The Us Embassy Lagos by Nemma(m): 12:19am On Nov 06, 2014 |
Could still recall my first interview... I got a denial... Its nothing to weep about. Moreover I thank God for where I am now. 1 Like |
Car Talk / Re: Pictures: Presidency Officials Now Use Innoson Suv's by Nemma(m): 8:41am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Saw this same car at the swearing in of ekiti state newly elected governor AYODELE FAYOSE. What baffle me about this post is that the car is 1 in a million. Several LEXUS, PRADO,RANGE and various SUV of different like but just 1 innoson SUV. 1 Like |
Gaming / Immersed In Violence: How 3-D Gaming Affects Video Game Players by Nemma(m): 8:12am On Oct 22, 2014 |
Playing violent video games in 3-D makes everything seem more real -- and that may have troubling consequences for players, a new study reveals. Researchers found that people who played violent video games in 3-D showed more evidence of anger afterward than did people who played using traditional 2-D systems -- even those with large screens. The higher anger in 3-D players was connected to the fact that, compared to 2-D players, they were more likely to feel they were "immersed in the game," said Brad Bushman, co-author of the study and professor of communication and psychology at The Ohio State University. "3-D gaming increases anger because the players felt more immersed in the violence when they played violent games," said Bushman. "As the technology in video games improves, it has the ability to have stronger effects on players." Bushman conducted the study with lead author Robert Lull, a graduate student in communication at Ohio State. They announced their findings on Sunday (10/19) during the New Horizons in Science briefings at ScienceWriters2014, an annual conference hosted this year by Ohio State. Bushman discussed these new results as part of his presentation "Guns, gender, race and violent video games: Searching for the roots of modern aggression." The study has been accepted for publication in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture. Participants were 194 college students, about two- thirds of whom were women. All of the students played the video game Grand Theft Auto IV for 15 minutes. Half were instructed to play violently (kill as many people as possible in the game) and half played nonviolently (they went bowling). They played on a 17-inch 2-D screen, a 96-inch 2-D screen or on a 96-inch 3-D screen while wearing appropriate 3-D glasses. Later, all participants reported their mood on a variety of dimensions, including anger. For example, they were asked to rate how angry, annoyed and furious (among other adjectives) they felt on a scale of 1 to 5. Results showed that for those who played nonviolently, it didn't matter if they played in 2-D or 3-D -- their levels of anger were relatively low and unchanged. Those who played violently showed higher levels of anger than nonviolent players no matter how they played, 2-D or 3-D. But those who played violently on 3-D were significantly angrier than those who played violently on the 2-D systems. Why did those who play violently in 3-D show more anger? Another result from the study gives the answer. After playing the games, participants were asked several questions measuring how immersed they were in the game. For example, they were asked to rate on a scale of 1 to 7 how much they felt they "were really 'there' in the game environment" and how much they felt like other characters in the game were real. Results showed that people who played in 3-D felt more immersed in the game than did those who played in 2-D, and that immersion was related to the increased anger felt by those who played violently. "The combination of violent content and immersive technology like 3-D can be troublesome," Bushman said. "This is something that needs to be considered by everyone involved --electronics manufacturers, video game developers, consumers, parents and content ratings agencies." SOURCE: www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/10/141021145316.htm |
Celebrities / Re: Google Restores LindaIkeji..Com Domain Back by Nemma(m): 8:47am On Oct 10, 2014 |
devigblegble:. Really, heard nothing like such, I think its high time I get a sanitizer |
Politics / Re: Defence HQ Press Release on The Purported Shekau Video In Circulation by Nemma(m): 8:56pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Old roger is dead and gone to his grave, hmm haaa, gone to his grave ! They snapped him many photos and posted it for us ! Hmmmm haaaaa, posted it for us, Now old roger got up to claim he is not dead, hhmmmmm haaaaa now Wat shall we do ? |
Politics / Re: Pictures From The Riot In Ado Ekiti by Nemma(m): 4:51pm On Sep 26, 2014 |
Waspy: Ekiti was silent and peaceful....... Till that Nigga came into the picture Who told you ekiti was peaceful b4 now?.... What about all the atrocities committed before and during the election.... (The murder of MOB supporter in ijan-ekiti, and the killing of a pdp supporter).... Sentiment, killing Nigerian since 1805 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: Attack: CJ Orders Shutdown Of Ekiti Courts by Nemma(m): 10:53pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
Kayraph: I'm very sure that Ekiti people would deny this issue as having any connection with Fayose. Chill, must you use insultive word.. Moreover I see no sense in your comment. |
Science/Technology / Earthquake Hits South Africa by Nemma(m): 2:57pm On Aug 05, 2014 |
JOHANNESBURG - An earthquake shook buildings in Johannesburg and surrounding areas in South Africa's most populous province on Tuesday. At least one person was killed and three were injured, medical staff said. The magnitude-5.3 quake was centred in Orkney, 170 kilometres (105 miles) southwest of Johannesburg, the U.S. Geological Survey said. One man died when a wall of a disused mining building fell on him, said Werner Vermaak, a spokesman for emergency responders working in the Orkney area, a centre of gold- mining operations. Mine managers ordered the evacuation of workers from shafts and there were no reports of casualties underground, Vermaak said. Another emergency responder, Russel Meiring, said later that the mining area had been deemed safe and miners were returning to work. Three people were hurt when the quake damaged a training centre at a mine, said Phoka Sefali, a receptionist at a hospital In Orkney. "The roof fell on them, but they haven't got serious injuries," he said. Quakes are a concern to mining companies that operate around Johannesburg, the biggest city in Gauteng province. Mining is a traditional pillar of industry in South Africa. Lindy Sirayi, a guesthouse owner in Orkney, said the tremor broke glass lampshades and cracked a wall, and that dogs started barking during the quake, which lasted about a minute. Aftershocks were felt, but the electricity in the guesthouse stayed on, Sirayi said. The quake was also felt in Pretoria, the South African capital, and Hartbeespoort, a nearby resort town. The area has periodic, moderate tremors, though the quake on Tuesday was one of the strongest in recent years. ©. www.lillooetnews.net/sports/local/earthquake-hits-south-africa-1-killed-buildings-shake-in-johannesburg-and-surrounding-areas-1.1295660 |
Politics / Re: President Jonathan With The Sultan, Emir Of Kano & Katsina (Pictures) by Nemma(m): 8:47am On Jul 25, 2014 |
ogbronx: useless politicians always fooling the gullible.. 'For the fool', just like you claim to be!!! |
Music/Radio / Re: The Free Feedback Thread For Your Music And Music Videos by Nemma(m): 10:21am On Jan 03, 2014 |
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