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Lock him up for good.

NOETHNICITY:
Thats completely untrue.
when I was little my did that to my mum a couple of times.
Now am grown and married and don't see anyhow it has negatively affected me psychologically, except that it has made me more resolute not to mete such treatment to my wife.
Been married for some yrs now and not even once have I hit my Wife.
And do u know something, my mum and dad are in their 60s now and still married with so much luv between them.
Many times all these relationship xpert theories don't work.

Your case is an exception, Research is clear, many children
who have an abusive parents will end up abusing their own
spouse as it is seen as a normal way of relating.
While it is not certain that children will take after his/her parent bad behaviour,
the chance of them doing so is very high.

There is wisdom behind the saying that "parents are like mirrors
to their children"

PenisCaP:
Shut up ur mouth. Serves u right.
When u went and marry afonja man..
Afonja men who are highly promiscous.
I knew ur marriage would end this way

I hope other stupid senseless igbo girls learn lessons from u..
Marry afonja at ur own peril...
My distand cousin lost her senses and was following one wayward afonja man who always goes to nude gals club to carry ashewo
she was lucky i talked sense into her head.

Another dumb tribalist, I guess you were blind and deaf when these event happened.

https://www.nairaland.com/3659965/emeka-ikes-marriage-dissolved-court
https://www.nairaland.com/3556604/marriage-muma-gee-ended-3

Get well soon!

emperorchedda:
If you had married that hustling young man with a bright future you may not have entered this mess

Every woman wants a ready made man that will shower you with gifts and cash, not knowing other girls will be attracted to him in other to enjoy the cash flow

No pity for you madam

Most cases of brutal domestic violence involve hustling young men,
in fact they usually go for the kill because they believe they are not
being respected because of their financial status.

Money or lack of it is not a predictor of domestic violence.

Edelweiss44:
I'm beginning to wonder if it's that you're not actually dumb, but that you know the truth and want to just do anything to castigate a man of God because of your blind hatred for pastors or that you are actually an accomplice to this Stephanie.

Stephanie told us that she took the Apostle home to meet her father for marriage introduction, the same father came out to deny any such thing ever happening, but you that is supposedly knowing about the news from what you are reading on the news is now the person to tell us that Stephanie went to do introduction but didn't meet her father instead she met other family members Either something is wrong with your head or you know something about this blackmail that you are trying very hard to ensure it works. But sorry to disappoint you and your cohorts; this blackmail is as good as dead! I have never met Apostle Suleiman and I'm not a member of his church, but I will not watch a stupid fool like that Stephanie play a fast one on my intelligence!

I have no interest in educating you since your teachers have obviously failed.
Get off my mention with your garbage.

The problem with this victim's story is that he chose to share it on the
international women's day, it won't be taken serious as it would if it
didn't coincide with women's day.

How can we reduce sexual abuse when victims keep quiet.

All those shouting "liar" aren't that bright.

Edelweiss44:
I have asked you before and you dodged the question; Pls tell us where in African culture you know it happens that a man can say he has gone for introduction without meeting the girl's father if he is alive or somebody delegated by the girl's father to represent him if for whatever reason the girl's father is indisposed? Where does it happen!!!!

This girl's father has openly denied ever meeting the Apostle how much more receiving him for his daughter's marriage introduction, yet you come here to tell us the man is lying. Do you know the man before? Do you know Stephanie before? Do you know Apostle Suleiman before? And you are here to tell us stephanie's father is lying?? Do you know the man's daughter more than him? You see, when I tell you that you are either dumb or filled with stupid blind hatred for pastors you will think I'm just insulting you whereas I'm merely telling you a simple fact!

Introduction doesn't mean ceremony.
Lovers meet some of their in-laws even before a formal introduction.
Not all parents are involved in their children's life and I will never trust
the word of a "father" who berates his ex-wife in public.
If you don't know this already, there is no way anyone can help you.

motherfucker:
Stupid muslim... you all have been put to shame. You always on every thread about this man. how much were you paid?

You are just another enslaved mind. It is a pity that a supposed "literate"
individual cannot stand his ground without throwing insults and making unsubstantiated
statements. Your life must really suck.

The topic should be "7 Hypocritical cheaters".
It appears the main motivation of these gods of men for founding a church is to
dubiously get any girl they want using the "power of the holy spirit".

seunlayi:
Let call a spade a spade. Something truly happened between them. The man of God is trying to cover up

More of "God of men", that is why his minions are defending him even
with the overwhelming evidence.

WeNoGoDie:
I don't trust a lot of pastors but many factors seems to make Ms Otobo's claims questionable which people hardly seem to notice:

It doesn't matter whether you trust a pastor or not, all allegations must be analysed on a case by case basis.

1. The lady claims there was a kind of introduction/traditional marriage. This is one area her claims flaws greatly. Someone as well known as Pastor Sulaiman cannot do a traditional marriage without it hitting blogs and evening newspapers at least. Someone among the attendees will certainly leak it.

Men who cheat don't announce their escapades on newspaper, it is done secretly.
Mind you it was an introduction not marriage and any meeting between a potential
inlaw and any member of the wife's family can be tagged an "introduction" , not
necessarily a ceremony.

2. Traditional marriage of that caliber must evidently have at least a picture or video.

Again, you are arguing a non-existent point that there was a marriage. No where did the girl claim that they
were married, it was an introduction!

3. A relationship that intimate as the girl claims should at least have one picture of the two together in loved up postures and not just a snapchat photoshop that says nothing.

Isn't it obvious that their relationship were mostly virtual and any
meeting that takes place must be very discreet. Remember the girl knows he already
has a wife. Only a dumb celebrity will leave behind a clear cheating evidence.

4. The girls dad totally denied her claims even when she involved her dad in her video testimony.

The girl dad is an absentee dad who is still bitter at his ex-wife, hence his attempt to ruin her
and the daughter close to her. The swiftness of the dad's testimony is an indication of a man
who has a score to settle or has been recruited just for that purpose.

5. How come all these things are happening at a time some powerful folks are after the downfall of the pastor.

Coincidence is never an evidence in any rational argument.

6. No fake Nigerian pastor will want to divorce his wife and marry a stripper because in an effort to hide their hypocrisy there are certain things they wouldn't publicly do.

He was lying like some dishonest men do, they promise heaven and earth but they deliver nothing.
This is nothing new, am surprised you don't know this.

All I'm simply saying is that the girls stories do not add up at all. Even when you listen to her video testimony, the way she's stuttering and fumbling and her lack of cordination easily showcases an individual trying hard to arrange lies.

A clear coordinated testimony would have point to a scripted event. If I am to talk of the relationship
with my friend it will never be smooth. All that matters is that the testimony is not contradictory and
consistent, not the delivery. Sitting down to write about something is quite different from telling it
as a story.

However I always leave a room for doubt if I hear stories like this in case I'm wrong.

Well, that is the right thing to do.

Jobless youths.
That pic is very authentic.
Making a poor clone doesn't
invalidate the original.

Freeze is on point.
A lot of Nigerians have been brainwashed by gods of men.

Another brainwashed sheep on the loose.

This lying cheater has no shame at all..
Fake pastors everywhere.

ok

Just another sheep being led to the slaughter.
Congregant will say anything to protect their pastor and church.
I remember how some parents defended the catholic priest who
sexually abused their children.

Drabrah:
If this drama turns out real at d end, my major surprise ll be dat d man left such a beautiful wife 4 dat worwor thing.

What most people don't understand is that people who cheat(men or women) do so
because they love cheating and can get away with it. Not because the wife or husband
is not beautiful , caring etc.

Folksyharry:
So the woman destroys property and call police for assault on her by the husband. There's always more to stories like this anyway.
It's nor easy for the wife to watch her husband marry another woman because she couldn't conceive. Even if the inability to conceive is from the woman the best thing to do would have been to adopt a child. It's not normal yet in our society but I think it's a better option than marrying another woman.
The man needs to understand that it will hurt any woman to see her husband marry another woman so he could have children.

You narrated the story as if you were a witness.
I fear you.

midehi2:
wow! well i feel for the wife without a child, but she should feel for the husband too to have a child, it supposed to be proper arrangement, sometimes the 2nd wife might bring luck to her to have her own child, i have seen cases like that, wild world!

There is no such thing as a second wife bringing luck. We have seen couples who couldn't
conceive for 10,15,20 years of marriage and the husband didn't marry a second wife.

People would have credit the second wife with the first wife's pregnancy had it been
the man took another wife.
One woman's fertility has no effect on another woman's own.

Smart woman.
More women need to put their feet on the ground in order to
curb cheating men's activity.

ok

ok

RadiantBae:
It's ignorance and the lack of exposure to basic education. Most importantly it's poverty. These families want the dowry and they can't feed the children they brought into this world. Most importantly it IS THE MEN to blame! The fathers and the pedophile grooms! This is why feminism is still needed today!

You are right the practise is driven mainly by ignorance and poverty.
As to the anti-feminist boys on nairaland, you need not consider them,
all you need is put out your message.

NemzySeries:
wuz ur brain aware wen u posted dis crap? who wud leave hiz own daughter to support anoda for wateva reason? learn to reasonably engage ur brain on small small tinz like dis na..... dis is 2017 & time is going ooo

You must be a kid to not know how vicious some parents can be,
whenever their is a war between a father and mother, the children
becomes pawns.

Next time you should seek advice before embarrassing yourself on an
issue you know nothing about.

tifany89:
I understand ur position but d girl made mention of an introduction right? R u saying d father isn't going to be privy of such info? Wat about pictures? In this day n age wen even a birthday party is given full coverage not to talk of an introduction ceremony, not even a single pics? Haba. Am a Catholic n I don't particularly v soft spots for pastors but as for Suleman I think I will stand by him

It is not uncommon for a hostile father/mother to refuse attending their children's wedding.
Nothing new under the sun.

Edelweiss44:
Your lack of sense stinks! You clearly read where the girl claimed to have taken the Apostle to her home for marriage introduction, and you clearly read where the father of the girl stated that no such thing happened and he has never met the Apostle before. So what then is your problem? Must you believe the stupid girl's allegation just because you naturally hate pastors? See how stupid hatred has blinded your eyes that you can't even see common sense again to analyse a simple matter like this

What a dumb comment, using the word "sense" in your post doesn't
make it sensible..
A father filled with hate against his ex-wife and
daughter says something bad about them and you believed him,
when it is obvious to smart people that such fathers are usually
not invited for their children's wedding.

It is so unfortunate that your attempt to defend your mini-god has blinded
to plain truth.
SMH

Codes151:
and u wise man think that girl ain't smarter than u!? Why no give her your account To start with?! Just seeing that girl u know her for what she is

A human must be judge on case by case basis nothing like "seeing that girl".
Justice for the oppressed!

ismart:
you are clearly a paid agent... this is making it 3 comment I have read from you against this Apostle. It will never be well with any of you because he spoke in favour of christians and against you murderous muslims

Common an ismart should be smart enough to count his own comments.
You have made at least 8 comments to defend the lying cheater, are you
a paid agent ?

OgaBossG:
U, are a Bastard!!!

Yet another yaba leftist on the lose.
Get well soonest!

ismart:
Bloody liar

You should have been bold enough to quote any of my post to support your position.

I accepted the declaration to post this comment

neocortex:
Using the norm at that time argument, most islamic laws and practices cannot stand.

Joseph or King Henry marrying underage is understandable and in
fact irrelevant in the 21st century world since none of them are seen as
"perfect example to mankind" and I am unaware of any person or group
campaigning and preaching for people to emulate Jacob or King Henry
characters and behaviour.


The problem with your explanation is that hijab,fasting,pilgrimage were the norm at that time,
how will you react if someone told you that they are no longer necessary for todays world ?

Now I put it to you that you are an ignorant christian who believes suleman is an infallible demi-god.
I know your ego has been hurt by the truth, just stop defending a cheating adulterous bully for humanity
sake.

A rat never confesses to stealing meat.

Stop dodging your responsibility, Mr. suleman!
Only the truth can set you free.