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[quote author=ADAMUdaCOWBOY post=56578977]HMMM. Our legal systems worldwide has refused to accept nagging as a form of domestic violence.

You know what to do ? Contest for the senate and introduce the law!
All legal systems in civilized recognises violence as a crime, it doesn't
matter if you prefix it with"domestic".
Violent people deserve all condemnation that they get.

[quote]I wish to state that many wife beaters today were not violent pre-marriage and never dreamt they'd ever hit someone, least of all their wives, but here they are!

So do many robbers,kidnappers and murderers, they never intended turning
to criminal means, but as we all know, it always start somewhere, sometime.

farano:
Deuteronomy 22:22 . ."If a man is found sleeping with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die"

That law is for the ancient jews.

@Op change your title to : "Things pastors love doing"

felixomor:
Just as we are not also born atheists.
It has been proven that humans are born to believe

You seem to be good in peddling half-truths, human are born to believe what exactly ?

savvy12:
Exactly! That's how I see atheists. They are people who don't want to live under the law. They want to do as it pleases them.
ITS BETTER TO BELIEVE THERE IS GOD AND DIE TO FIND OUT THERE ISNT THAN TO BELIEVE THERE IS NO GOD AND DIE TO FOUND THERE IS.
make hay while the sun shines.
ignorance is not an excuse for atheism. Even ignorance itself is a sin.

And you are the stellar example of human morality,
you don't lie, cheat, keep malice, see others as inferior ?
Get off your high horse and face reality.

The last time I checked, the most ignorant of humans are the most religious.

krispycash:
She knows that if you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything... A real man believes ... He has faith... He knows where he stands... Being a Christian is not a religion... It is a way of life with one universal rule... LOVE....
Your choice to be an atheist is not something I can condemn... But logic never answers it all... Somethings go beyond logic... Love is not a mixture of chemicals... Can u love her?? If yes, How can u love her and not love what she stands for
It is very simple... Don't do it because u want her... Do it because u love the next person who calls u a fool... Or slaps you... There is no shame is standing For Christ...

Tell me one thing you do/you don't do that differs from an average person ?
If you take your time to think about it you would realise you are living
in delusion.

Having faith is meaningless and smart people have long discovered that.

When dealing with humans, it is a potentially fatal mistake to rely on faith,
many have learned the hard way, so I am offering you this free advice.

ekhai:
SHE IS GOD FEARING BABE. THEREFORE SHE IS DIRECTLY OPPOSITE OF YOU. I PRAISE HER DECISION. GO LOOK FOR THOSE WHO SHARE SAME IDEOLOGY WITH YOU.

Christians behave the same way an average person does. They lie
as others do and also fornicate as others do.
If we are to judge christian based on the bible, none can meet up,
yet you had the audacity to qualify the girl as "GOD FEARING".
The only thing unique about christians is that they dance in church
on sundays.

klax:
I always wonder when a child born in Nigeria with Nigeria blood claiming atheist it surprises me a lot. Young man I guess you need psychiatrist examination and I really pity your parent a lot.

I was forced to have a glance at your profile to look at your picture definitely you look like lucifer for real now I realised truly anything of devil are always ugly look at yourself just go and get a better mirror look again at yourself you will see tru picture of lucifer Ll over your face. I love what the girl did and she must not date you.

If my sister come home with a guy like you I bet you your parent will not recognise you again by the time you will be release from.military gaurd room. I swear walahi.

You better give your life to God and stop being stupid. Atheist my foot, in fatct do you even know the meaning of Atheist Parent train your children this boy forming Atheist is another known lack of home training child I pity your parent a lot.

I descended on you so harsh because it has become so often of you talking Atheist all the time but this one I chose to do profile check on you and I'm not disappointed your picture says it all. You need help now I noted you.

Mod don't ban anybody for talking sense to this pot blacken face boy. People like him don't need advise much than talking sense to them and send them errand back to their parent at home.

You are nothing but a unreasonable tout. You are Nigerian, yet
you were deceived to abandon your forefathers belief for a
foreign one, what does that make you ?

And even worse is your proposed reaction to your sister's guest,
same reaction I will expect from an uncivilized brute.

Just move on, if she sees a problem in you being an atheist now, even
if you are able to convince her she might use it as a blackmail tool later.

Smart people date character while naive ones date label.

It was all gimmicks to force Sanusi's silence.

Unfortunately, the wife beaters and their supporters will turn to preacher whenever
they meet their match.
Phrases such as "blessed are the peacemakers" are often used to justify their cowardice.

Partnerbiz:
Everybody is speaking against domestic violence both here and on facebook.
When jungle justice happens, everyone speaks against it too.

I now ask, who are those beating their wives since everybody is against it.
People and fake life. They have no opinion of their own. They just follow the societal dictates just to belong.

See below shaa

Fallacy, many nairalanders and even people on fb support domestic violence by blaming the victim.
Never use "everybody" when you are not sure.

falcon01:
your moniker is not cool at all you are disrespecting other peoples belief.

Not really, no one can lay claim to the word god.
If he has said yahweh or allah, that will be a different case.

I can't make head of this story, it doesn't look like an accidental discharge,
it's like the place was raided.

Yahoo guys are utterly selfish; destroying the image and opportunity
of millions of people just for a few thousand dollars.

weedtheweeds:
Mr. Wisdom! You have judged a case and sentenced a party. You know the family circle better than the people in question. As long as it stands,
we are all third parties to this case. so, save your judgment for your own family

Some behaviours are repulsive regardless of the context.
Unless her life depends on it,which is obviously not the case, her comment was a
distasteful and unfortunate.

bedspread:
WITH THE WAY THINGS DE GO, IF I BE EFE, NA POLITICS I GO JOIN......

EFE GET FANS PASS BUHARI

Most of the fans will be on Nairaland and Instagram on election day posting comment
instead of voting.

martyns303:
The ultimate question is, why didn't I just leave the relationship, answer is, beside her bad moments she's a nice person. Plus I had to endure to keep up the relationship. Now it would be even more difficult for married people.

I believe the reason why you didn't quit is because she tolerates your excesses
and probably believe that it her fault to be abused and that plays
perfectly into your ego of being the almighty unquestionable man.

If she had acted with extreme violence the times you beat her, you won't have hesitate to
quit the relationship.

Well, any act can be justified by simply pointing finger at the victim.

ekems2017:
Mercy pls can you allow us hear from your man? Even though he doesn't have the right to lay a finger on you no matter what. He deserves a fair hearing.

I know the genesis of all this is that he slept with another lady.

Si suppose you are just waking up.
Search nairaland and you will find threads where Gentry defended himself.

Private citizens repair road all the time with no fuss was made about it.
This action does not nullify his malicious persecution of Kemi, whose only
offense was reporting a sex scandal.

SillyMods:
Whatever Kemi is going through, she deserves it.

You don't criminally go about slandering and defaming people's character and expect to be left unchecked all the time in the name of freedom of expression. This perhaps will teach her a good lesson about being responsible in her reporting.

I wish FFK and Fayose could be made to pay similarly for their many lies. Unfortunately, they've amassed enough stolen wealth to be above such treatment.

Useless social media liars.

Stop pulling facts from thin air, Kemi has not been convicted of
any crime.
She is being held because of the wicked bail conditions placed on her.
I am sure the pastor does not want a public trial because he wouldn't
want his secrets exposed.

He opted to punish her by using his political influence in Rivers state.

You will have to do as your parents are doing, waking up and breaking fast,
but you can stock your room with snacks to be eating at strategic periods.

cr7lomo:
Stfu abeg...do u even think b4 typing..typing contradictive statements...dint mercy deny dv and also maintained she loved him...love is love, it makes us do stupid things...infact love is a terrible sickness...u only pray u fall in love with a good person that can willingly sacrifice for you and considers u first b4 any decision he or she makes...mercy is a selfish woman and she is indeed the real cause of this pathetic drama...if danjuma runs broke now, that's when Carolyn will wanna run away inciting dv...that shows how manipulative most women are

Your rants makes no sense, why not post in pidgin ?
With the level of incoherent venom you poured out in your comments,
I pity your future wife.

Psoul:
My sister, u may not kw what this man may have bn going through in the hands of this woman.
I feel their problem is not the food.
This man's financial status has dwindled and the woman has enough money to take care of her problems. Cos of that she started behaving anyhow, disobeying the husband as she wish. Leaving the house wen she is not supposed to. Sleeping outside wtout the consent of the husband.
U cant imagine what dis does to a man's ego. It can be so heartbreaking.
Imagining another man bleeping ur wife and u are helpless cos u are financially incapacitated.

All the same, i dont support beating ur wife into submission. U can't achieve that by this method. It takes a real man to handle this situation. U must be very patient and pretend as if the woman doesn't exist. Pretend as if u are not even seeing what she is doing. By this u will break her down or at least leave longer instead of dragging public into ur personal life.\

Well done, story teller, you obviously live with both mercy and her husband.
She is disobedient and sleeps around, yet Gentry's first reaction when the
story breaks is that he still love his wife.
What a coward he is if your story is true.
What sane man will not want to do away with a useless wife ?

You have forgotten that your hero has divorced 3 other wives, I am sure
it is also due to his dwindling finances.

Arsenalholic1:
Stop tormenting us with news of this home break ups. We send them msg?

I pity this generation. And some girls will be writing "letter to my future husband" upandan on FB forming feminists and laying down rules for a man they're yet to see. You think marriage is 1+1?

At least, no matter how busy or high placed you are as a wife, there are times when you should be able to prepare your husy a sumptuous meal that reminds him of why he fell in love with you in the first place.

A busy career woman should be able to do these especially on days of celebrations like Easter. Abi she still dey go act on Easter day?

No. Some ladies just want to leave the cooking for their maids and still expect the husband to smile at them.

You made it sound as if it is only the woman that loses when a marriage crash
when it is clearly not the case.
It is this kind of entitlement mindset that ruins marriage.

No marriage is perfect and couples who value their marriage make compromises
not threats.

I hope the wife-beater enjoys his vacation in Kirikiri.

Akshow:



I beg to differ. U see, we are brought up with that false believe in Africa that our parents are always right. That's soooooo wrong. Parents Bleep up sometimes. On this, I'm with the girl. Why won't a father call his daughter on his birthday but runs to social media to post a birthday message. That's hypocrisy.

The analogy you use does not apply in this case, openly disgracing a father
is not a question of being right or wrong, it is a question of maturity and
sound judgement.

Children are taught to follow their parents counsel and leads because that is
usually the best way to thrive in a dangerous world and Arinze's post demands
nothing from her.

In this case, the girl's reply is uncalled for, she should have ignored him and if she must
reprimand the father, why not do it behind closed door ?

Liar, yet another cheap blackmail attempt.
It is unfortunate that the mob wanted to
pass judgement on an innocent lady.

Here are the two reasons Sanusi is being hunted:

He told the House that Sanusi had allegedly tarnished the image of the governor and some members of the Assembly while on an official visit to China. Gana further claimed that the monarch, on that trip, accused the concerned people of financial reckless and wasteful spending of scarce resources.

The lawmaker, who also accused the emir of bringing the emirate into disrepute when he sent his daughter to represent him at an official function in Abuja

How dare sanusi criticise almighty Ganduje about his financial recklessness.
To make matters worse, Snausi sent his daughter, a woman, to represent him
when her place is in the kitchen and the other room.

It is clear to all that the northern lords do not want the emancipation of their
slaves(the poor and women), that is why they are fighting back using every means
at their disposal.

Sooner or later, the Al-majiris will demand for a better life.

The kidnappers didn't realise that he may have 20 other accounts.