₦airaland Forum

donigspain:
Are you really at peace with what you wrote in the bolded? I mean, if it gives you orgasm, then enjoy.


So you actually feel hurt when a Yoruba elder is insulted but you, yourself, feel at peace insulting the totality of an ethnicity. Hypocrisy!

squaddy:
Cry us a river. We don't marry promiscuous ladies. Please kindly stick with men from your ethnic extraction. No be by force you hear? Cheer up

whatx:
@Bigfrancis21

Trying to observe nairaland rules, else i would have rained it on you.

You don't have to justify your culture nor comment on every post you come across.

If you don't have real experience, hold your peace. Am from the ibo speaking part of delta state and also a victim of such relationship.

Even being from the igbo-speaking part of delta state did not help me, as the particular family in question told my girl that it will be over their dead body.

On hearing the news i took time to strategies how to tackle this challenge, but to my surprise the babe made a shocking revelation.
She told me that the mum has actually being informing her of one spare part dealer who is from Anambra who she wants her to marry (true story), and that she has visited the guy severally (ehn ehen?).

On hearing this people i change am for hear. WHAT DO YOU MEAN? WHAT NONSENSE? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN? YOU VISITED HIM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION? Screaming at the top of my voice. I angrily went home that day from our meeting joint.

To be fair with her, she later called and tired to calming me down asking; "what do i do"? By then i have already Googled the dude from the names she gave me (serious under cover sh#t). And my people Wetin i see nor help matters oh, the guy already has a car and am still using my most trusted two leg slabaquin.
I told her to follow her heart, which is the most stupid advice i have ever given. I tried analysing it for her as a wafi man,
- you Stick with me we try make it in life together, i graduated top in my department, a chartered accountant, currently doing my msc in accounting, though no job yet but tomorrow MAY be better.
- you go with them, married the guy within the next two years, and thing may blossom between you two.
I decided to ask her one question which i didn't get the answer till date- do you love him? She replied that he is a cool guy (ukpabiokpabio okpokicha, cool guy).

I discharge her that day thinking say my qualification go save me and thus decided to give her the silent treatment. Two weeks later she finally broke the silence with an outright personal invitation for me to their wedding (i die stand) this is a girl i have dated for the past 12 consecutive months, no break. See Wetin first silent treatment bring me, i almost poisoned my friend who gave the silent advice.

Well, that's about my experience with an Anambra babe, she is now married with one issue, leaving happily.

So bigfrancis21, i do not give what i don't have, this is my true story. That our forefathers are corrupt does not mean you should be corrupt, that everybody is going left does not mean you should go left (check ur boko alert before you move oh), that ever tribe is tribalistic dies not been you should be.
Further revelation from her on the negative pressure she received from her parents and siblings (whom i chat and play with every visit)was so shocking that i didn't even bother to go discuss with any of her family members.

I tort i was igbo until i met a lady from across the niger. just one bridge made me realised that there is difference between IGBO and IBO. Today, if you referred to me as IGBO i might slit your throat.

ADVICE: tell your friend to ask the guy directly if he is serious, thereafter discuss marriage possibility. If you must be a relationship ref, you have got to be good in what you are doing. Life is too short for wasting around.

PEACE OUT

jmoore:
Osi Umenyiora(Anambra) engaged to Leila Lopes(Angola)

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kayciano:
THANK U...
U know that this THREAD is as Useless as the OP..
OP, may ur kids never follow ur footsteps..

vivalavida:
Dont mind them. 3 yoruba men dumped clarion chukwura and we didnt make any noise. Because no one is proposing to her abi her friend,she is creating a thread

datibo:
I am very ashamed of some pple. Igbo this igbo that. Dem use igbo pple do una. U guys av ur own problems instead of u to address it,u luk 4 tins that wil bring down the igbos.its quite unfortunate. U feel so happy when people insult the igbos. The igbo r stil the highest in inter tribal marriage. I know many yoruba family that wil prefer to marry an iliterate yoruba instead of an educated sound igbo. I am proudly Ikeduru,Imo and my girlfriend is from ijebu in ogun state. And we planning a great future 2gda,if God wills. Stop creating enemity btwn igbo n d other tribes. Its enough. Remuv d sand in your eyes before u do 4 someone else. NONSENSE.

tonychristopher:
Udo diri gi


Igbo will always marry igbo

Be it from any igbo states be it in southeast and Niger delta

Now. Non igbo

Why are you so keen to marry us while we don't want to marry you ?


Igbo rocks


Nnewi south boy talking
Ndi ogo m na ukwuani ...ana m ekene

Igbo dalu



Hot ofe nsala

stunningjudy:
I didn't feel like tongue lashing her even though she deserved it. I won't be surprised if she is the 'friend' in question.

Peppyluv:
please blow the trumpet loud and clear! i know about 5 non Anambra girls whose prayer point is to marry Anambra men. obser e when they come for ashoebi them no dey gree go . haters keep hating. we dont care. i no wan marry you,na by force?

PoorUgly:
and Boko

megacity:
The Igbos are of Jewish descent, a royal and peculiar people. Traditionally, Jews weren't supposed to marry gentiles....

Dominiquez:
When I meet a girl I will try as much as I can to know her tribe before any emotion will set in cos I know my boundaries. So instead of arguing with my parents tomorrow I better get it right today.

Sorry Op I can't marry non-igbo.

Subom1:
It's normal for someone to marry from their own tribe/culture. Everyone is entitled to marry who he/she wants and I believe that if a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you are from.


It's not only Igbos who tend to marry their own. Same can be said about other tribes and nationalities. I know a lot of Yoruba folks who will not marry anyone non-yoruba.

If I want to marry a fellow Ekiti man because he is the same tribe as me then no one should have a problem with my decision.


It's the ladies fault dating a guy for 6years with no intention to marry you. Trust me when a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you come from.

I really don't see the big deal in people marrying their own if they choose too. It really is not the end of the world

Chukwugekwu:
oh my goodness every time igbo, igbo what is that. .....

For me my tribe babe's are so nice and precious. .....mmwwaa.
I can't wait to get married with my tribe

mascaraWand:
See them!
This is so unfair

stunningjudy:
Babe, why are u drinking paracetamol for ur friend's headache? Did she complain to you about the guy not proposing or him being tribalistic? IMHO, mind your business and leave Igbos alone.

BabaO2:
Really it is biblical to marry your tribe so that all your blessings will remain on the land/tribe which God has blessed you with. But these days, because of canal, we are modernizing/ trivializing instructions of God to our biblical fathers.

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Igbo people are tribalistic, they are evil, they love money, yet you want to marry them? Seriously?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tri be that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu

kelvin100:
I've come to a conclusion that all these attacks are to forbid Igbos from marrying from within.

Why would others want to marry Igbos?

An Igbo man would very likely going to be a middle class income earner and they are reputed to adore and lavish affection on their wives? Which girl wouldn't want that?

An Igbo woman is reputed to be beautiful, loving, very hardworking and supportive of her husband financially. Most importantly, an Igbo woman is less likely to cheat and less likely to divorce than most others. Which man wouldn't want that?

Now they all want us to abandon our own so they would profit from our good traits.

Lie Lie!

menix:
No 1 on my list wuld b:
Amuneke; prik nd ass
Obasanjo
Amosun abi Amosu
Ekpo (masqurade)
Ada; real full name Adanshi (dwarf)
Benson (dat guy go smoke die)
Eteh (dwarf)
Otunba; (no to pu**y)
Ama; full name amadioha
Dickson; expect u will castrate him
Adara; dat pikin ga agba ara(madness)
Bimbo; soap no go dey last 4 ur house
Elisha; cursed wiv bald head frm birth
Mohammed; pevert

Mk I go sleep jawe..

safarigirl:
Most times today, we watch music videos that depict women as sex objects, nothing more and maybe something less. Future mothers are seen as playthings to satisfy a man's pleasure and be done away with.
Most times, when we see such, we curse out the artistes and go on the internet to rant and rave for good measure

But why? I mean, can you really blame those artistes? Can you really blame those men who see women as sex objects, not people with brains in their heads, with great ideas, sharp intellects, just someone that would 'make sense' for a bang and brag?

No, I choose to not blame men, I choose to blame women. Because women have made fools of themselves more often than not while men look on, because women feel the need to take pictures of their naked thighs and overflowing breasts in bras and shirts that are two sizes too small and post them on social networks like Instagram, twitter, facebook, and even 2go (for christ's sake 2go? Are you for real?! )in a bid to snag one empty-headed, dimwit (the only class of guys who pay attention to such ladies)...who funny enough, after shagging her will feel the sick need to announce to the world about his latest 'conquest'

Case-in-point, there are these two chics on twitter who let's just say, aren't known for suggesting anything creative (...well, not in areas that affect humanity )...they had this fight on twitter where they both basically accused each other of sleeping with men for 'chicken change'

I mean, I'm not saying you shouldn't hustle, but for the sake of all that is intelligent, keep yo' shiit to yo'self ....the entire world need not know how many men you have kpanshed. I mean, we're all glad that certain people have active sex lives and insatiable libidos, hell, we're ecstatic for you, but we would rather concern ourselves with more pressing matters

I won't even go into the embarrassing and befuddling stewpidity which that Jombo chic that komole'd with Davido displayed by posting pictures of herself with a passed out Davido after a night of (what we assume was) sex.

Ladies, looks will only take you so far. Not everyone is Kim Kardashian or Amber Rose, and nobody can be either of those two ladies on this obodo naija that we are (unfortunately), you will only end up like either Afrocandy or Maheeda (3kobo po-rn 'stars', no be better market be that )...so kindly stop advertising your wares. You're not the only one with a phat assss and perky boobiess, there are about 3.9 billion other people in the world who share those traits as well, so you have to distinguish yourself with something else

I doubt anyone knows anything concerning Chimamanda Adichie's physical 'gifts' because like I told my roomie, people are too busy analysing her 'brain' to give a rat's genitals about the size of her assss, if you're talented enough, people won't care about your physical attributes (ask Lupita N'yongo). Stand out, don't just be an asss and boobiess, be a person

God bless