Double dating - I mean having more than one girlfriend or boyfriend - is it wrong or right?

This issue of double dating is prominent among guys compare to the girls, but generally, I think it should not be. There's no crime in being faithful to your partners, even if you don't have the intention of getting married.

Lolz what a question to raise? But first of all have I ever double dated before? Not really because double dating to me would be asking two ladies out at the same time for a date but then again I have gone out with two ladies at the same time. I mean sincerely. Reasons? it just happened. Well you cant say I cheated on my first lady or something, nothing really happened between me and the second one, Honestly. it was just a few days.............and besides come to think of it, I didn't tell the first one I was going to marry her or I was in love, it wasn't official.

I think Double dating an official lady is wrong. Apart from that, I think it's ok, if you know your limits. Just be principled.

I think it is right to have more than one girlfriend, especially if you have no intention of getting married with any of them.

Why should you allow someone who's going to sump you sooner or later to suck up all your attention and prevent you from starting a relationship with someone else, whom you may actually marry and have children with?

The practice of "commitment without marriage" is just not efficient. I mean it's a waste of precious time . But since ladies insist on it, the men play along in public but do the right thing in private.

Ladies and gentlemen, I also believe that double dating is right!

Very, very, very wrong my dear.

seun:


Ladies and gentlemen, I also believe that double dating is right!

Seun you amazed me sometimes,why on earth will say double datingright is for any reason,i thinks i will have to advice girl to go ahead and doubledate since [b]seun[/b]could say so.

The man from planet Mars you suprise me, seun

mosiate:

seun link=topic=375.msg3476#msg3476 date=1117802560:


Ladies and gentlemen, I also believe that double dating is right!

Seun you amazed me sometimes,why on earth will say double datingright is for any reason,I thinks I will have to advice girl to go ahead and doubledate  since [b]seun[/b]could say so.

The man from planet Mars you suprise me, seun

Mosiate, it would be really wonderful if you wouldnt make such sexist statements implying only men double date. There have been several instances of girls who not only double date but also triple, quatro or even five date sef. See you don let grammer broke my teeth. Things like this is down to human nature pure and simple. I have known a number of women who though married have boyfriends. It is not also strange for women to get pregnant for their so called boyfriends and pass off the kids to thier husbands. The world is not fair my dear and it will always continue to be so.

In my own opinion, it is very, very wrong to double date. I would not say more than that.

How can you condemn double-dating when we have not even been able to come up with the definition of dating?

I condemn marital infidelity, but I feel that dating outside engagement and marriage is not serious enough to warrant expectations of 100% commitment. Bieng 'committed' to a relationship that is going nowhere is a waste of time. Do you understand what I'm saying?

seun:
Do you understand what I'm saying?

Seun, I don't understand, but the long and short of this issue is that [I]what is wrong is wrong[/I].

only men double date.

Yes that's just it. Guys double-date more than ladies do. Infact, if you'll permit me to say this, guys make ladies to doubledate, when they would not be faithful with them.

Well to me what is bad is bad. Double-dating is not good, ok, so what is not good is not good.

I know its wrong...but one may find himself/herself in a particularly tight situation which may warrant stuffs like that...its stressful I can add and men it involves a lot of lies to keep up multiple dates...so its wrong, though we do it some of the time!

There is a differances in dating and being in a relationship. Dating means meeting people sporadically from one to another. To be able to choose the right one, and i guess we all know what relationships are so people what can be wrong with double dating INFACT who even needs dating sef

Well, as far as i am sincerely concerned, Seun is very right to make such pronouncement. What should be considered is the reasons for double-dating and not double-dating in its literal sense.

Finf out, of all premises given, where the elemnt of commitment lies and then you will find how justifiable double-dating may be in some cases.

So, given the justification and critics, it may be right or wrong on a 50-50 basis

I don't think there's anything wrong with double dating. Sometimes you just meet different people at different times and if you haven't really made a commitment to any of them what's a girl to do?

For example, I met someone about a month ago. A week after I met him, a friend set me up on a blind date with someone. Now I don't even know guy #1 long enough to be committed in anyway with him, and I kind of trust my girl to hook me up, so I went on the blind date. So I guess you could say double dating but I'm still trying to know both guys so what am I supposed to do?

Abeg, ladies open your options and think well well. Don't commit to someone just because they're there.

its wrong but people will always do it

funmibaby: abeg, ladies open your options and think well well. don't commit to someone just because they're there

Those are words of wisdom!

Allenpowered:

I know its wrong...but one may find himself/herself in a particularly tight situation which may warrant stuffs like that...its stressful

Yep! i have been in a tight situation like that b4 where it was really stressfull for me .... then i had this boyfriend i was calling it quit with but he wont buy the idea at all.. n the process of us struggling to keep it or break it..... i met some1 Else & i started dating him, yet my friends said i was double dating....
so i know double dating is totally wrong but i was in a Fix for crying out loud

How can you admit that double-dating is necessary under some circumstances, and then in the same breath say it's wrong?

You see typical Nigerians? You say that something is wrong, then you go ahead and do it! That is what is killing our country.

If it is wrong, then do not do it. If it is right, do it. Personally, I think double-dating is inevitable, hence you can't say it's wrong. I believe that where there's no marriage there's no commitment.

Some people are of the opinion that double dating is not wrong. To those people i poise this question: is it wrong to flirt around with a guy, even though he has a girlfriend. Bearing in mind that it is nothing serious and he does it with other chics and its just for your own amusement. When u are tired, you end things and move on.
Is that acceptable?

Seun:

You see typical Nigerians? You say that something is wrong, then you go ahead and do it! That is what is killing our country.

seun believe me or not, i was in a fix.. to me i had stopped dating the old guy but to him, we were still struggling to make it work....so u see the difference?

ezinne1212:


even though he has a girlfriend. Bearing in mind that it is nothing serious and he does it with other chics and its just for your own amusement. When you are tired, you end things and move on.
Is that acceptable?

this is called FLING............ & it sure happens alot..but some girls dont have the liver, they just get hurt

"Yes that's just it.  Guys double-date more than ladies do.  Infact, if you'll permit me to say this, guys make ladies to doubledate, when they would not be faithful with them".

That one na big lie, its either way

My people, its a little bit of this and a little bit of that, okra is not same as egusi, abi.

However, most people double-date as a defensive mechanism to avoid heart break, irrespective of gender. what I don't really like is [I]one night stand[/I]. However, lets not forget the etiquettes of the game.

I will like to create another school of thot which says " double dating is no issue". Commitment only goes with marriage. The only thing is the need to be as truthful and fair as possible to both parties (if you can), if not you will be guilty of  a crime, not of double dating but of "419ing"

mine it is right some how for a gay or a gurl to have more than one friend, if it comes to boyfriend and girlfriend level, why i'm saying this is when a gay is depending on one person, main u're rousting co's u won't always be satisfied, at times to eat ur own is a problem, why co's shakara has entered due to the love u bestowned on her, come to think it, in this modern world it's not easy to see a gay havin one lafan ooo.

but, I will encourage us to try and be contented with what we have, we are the future of tomorrow lets try and settle down and let go what is under skirt, AID no dey show for faceoooo

debugger:

why I'm saying this is when a gay is depending on one person,

GAY OR GUY? wat re u talking about & which re u referring to

Ordinarily its not very easy to double date but some pple do it, i once tried it but i almost got caught in the act, especially when its a more COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. But again if its just a dating stuff, i will say it is allowed.

Double dating might be right and it might be wrong depending on the situation that surrounds it.

I used to double date and I didnt see any big deal in it but I later met someone who changed that in me.And to say the fact double dating is not that easy because you have to divide your time and there's no way you can satisfy two people at the same time and equally.

At times it also depends on your g/f or b/f.If I have a boyfriend and I realise he doesnt cherish me I'll get another person because relationship is not a do or die affair.If you cherish your heart then you'll not want someone to break it so if I see a red light in my relationship then I'll quit and I might not tell the guy immediatley that I'm no more interested because at times it not easy to say it but action will definately speak louder than voice.

So its good in a way and its not good but once you find a soulmate that you are "compatible" with and you "love" each other I don't see any reason why you have to double date.

Well,to me,let me just say i can double date depending on the kind of situation i found myself. If i know that what i'm having wih my b/f is a child's play,why can't i double date?But if its really a serious relationship that might one day lead to marriage,i can never double date cos i would want him to trust me.But it aint easy to double date cos u'll want to satisfy them both which is somehow hard.U might even make the mistake of calling another person's name in his presence just as it happened to my brother.It aint easy so i pray i do it no more.

Doble dating is a cruicial issue its has to do with alot of sacrifice and commitment! I mean people who double date try and get a grip please its not just right! beside wat wud u tell ur children about ur past? or wud encourage the same thing to ur younger ones?

The fact is that it is wrong.
Yes agreed but You see, in this days of [b]sss[/b]for both sexes...single and still searching, how will u find, if you do not seek. How will you seek and find if you don't experiment as the Chemists do. So here lies a justification to double date... if the circumstances warrant it please in my opinion do... am talking of circumstances like lack of trust, direction, focus and commitment in a relationship. these calls for a reassesment of the relationship and this calls for another date...shine your eyes. No lay flowers for one basket. but if u are married.... pls your chapter in dates is closed. fulstop.

I believe Bro. GREATPETER on this NAIRALAND should be able to tell us why they do this.

good-day panel of judges(yes them dey), co arguementators and on-line viewers, I am here to oppose, propose and dispose of this topic that guys should jeun soke!
 
A friend said, "variety is the/a spice of life. agreeded..........................