The love of a mother for her child and that of a wife for her husband, which is greater?

I have to go with "mother" That's a difficult one, infact i don't know

But i think most women would say "mother", which made it head turning when a lady appeared ion Oprah and said she loved her hubby more than her kids. It was a great show.

At the end of the day, she did make out her points of view, at first the other mother-ladies were startled but at the end of the show i think many would change their life styles and prioritize their husbands too!!

But @ whiteroses, if you look at it the other way round

The child is part of the mother, the child came out from the mother, a husband you can divorce or annul, a child even if disowned share your blood and will forever be biologically related to you.

You can choose your spouse but not your kid

I am still confused though, need to be convinced, I'm neither a wife nor a mother yet, just going from other's points of view and experience

no. capital no!

Hold on, is the "Mother" and "Wife" in this context one and the same person?

A lot of women may love their husbands 100%. This ALMOST ALWAYS reduces once they have the 1st child. It seems, a greater chunk of their love, their attention is switched over to the new. In effect, the husband feels less loved. I know a marriage counsel that said she had a lot of clients/patients that break up as a result of this.

True, the joy of having a child is very great, but as a guy I wouldn't want my wife to give my any less attention when we start having kids. I know some would ask "How is that possible when you have a new member to the family?". Well, no one said the woman only should be the one raising the kid(I would change diapers, bathe the kid, , if the time comes).

Bottom line, like whiteroses said, she got to know the husband way before the child. Love him no less after you have a child. I feel that would be fair.

Blood is ticker than water.
A baby grows in a woman and is one with the woman till it is born.
The Love for a child is never the same as the love for a man.

What ever no Man in this world can take the place of my children .
And i can not love any man more than my children.(not as long as my children are dependent on me,
@ the bible Quoters. If the Bible says you shold love your Husband blabla,
it never said dump your children.

There are situations in which the woman would choose the husband. She might also choose the child in other situations. It all depends on relationship that exists btween the husband and the wife. But all things being equal, the wife is likely to be closer to her hussy

the only true love in the world is that of mother and child. when a child look at the mother he/she see the most beautiful woman on earth.  A woman can love her husband but somebody  or something can easily put asunder. but mother and child  NO WAY

Of course, love for a child is unconditional and permanent. Love for a spouse is generally conditional and not always permanent.

BigSis - I co-sign your powerful post!

BigSis:

Of course, love for a child is unconditional and permanent. Love for a spouse is generally conditional and not always permanent.

You've hereby succeeded in convincong and not confusing me that "the love of a mother is greater than that of a wife"

But the answer cannot be a one way traffic thingy, i therefore put in that there are those "few" who fall out of the group

The love for the husband and wife should definately be the best one there is.

I have seen women make the mistake and love their kids more than they love their husbands, personally, i feel thats just wrong.

I think women should love their husbands more and have a stronger bond towards their husbands rather than the other way round.
Afterall,when the children get older and leave the home, then the husband and the wife are left together- and thats when the love they have enjoyed between each other comes into play.

I think most mothers love their kids more than their husbands.

That doesn't mean that they love their husbands any less than they ever did. Love is not like a cake where there is only so much to go round and if you give one person a big slice, then another person has to have a smaller slice than before.

They can love their husbands just as much as ever. But, somehow you love your kids that little bit more.

Question: If a father and child were in a dangerous situation and the mother could save the life of just one of them, who do you think she would pick? I reckon the vast majority of mothers would save their child. I would.  That's your flesh and blood and it's every mother's duty to protect her children, whether you are a human being or an animal, the children come first. IT's the natural instinct.

Most women definately love heir children more than their hubands its a inert feeling and emotion.

I'm sorry but ma mission here is to get to bigsis,cos this her last post,that girl vexed me big time, i bumped into her post via google, calling nigerians 419 and she got only negative views about Nigeria, i can't help but to dislike u, if u don't like Nigeria, why are u on nairaland? This aint dollarland, poundsland or whatever country you manage enter.
@ Topic , everyone aint the same, some are, some are not

dapsycool take it easy on bigsis, democracy permits freedom of expression.

I think they are two separate things. By that I mean that I will love both unconditionally (and vice versa) but will always have in mind that my sweet husband came first and is a part of me now but at the same time bear in mind that our kids are also part of us. To me its kinda like comparing the love I have for my parents and the love I have for my husband (future husband I mean). I will love both unconditionally (and vice versa) and do my best to make them happy but they are kinda like separate institutions. In general I try not to compare such cause I love both parties very much and cant choose. I just gotta handle them my own way.

nothing compares to the love a mother has for her child.

It's a good thing this came up and it has really thrown light on gross misconceptions we have pertaining to the two kinds of love. We need to understand and define the two relationships:

The woman is just a temporary caretaker of the child who himself/herself has a different life purpose and destiny to pursue which more often than not is exclusive of the mother once he/she has attained the age of reason and responsibility and the mother's tenure as caregiver is over.

The woman and her husband however ARE ONE.
The deluge of people that are foolishly mishandling this sacred union should not make us deviate or lose sight of the teleological design of MARRIAGE. The two become ONE.
We need to blow the dust off God's original blueprint for marriage and the home.

NO WAY. you can't compare d two[i][/i][color=#990000][/color].

The love of a mother for her child cannot be compared with any other.

Most women show more love to their children than spouses, A major reason for this is cause the child has cost them more (their lives, literally) as humans we value what we've paid the greater price for.
Many women have had spouses on the cheap, in some cases when they weren't even looking for spouses. Such women would have a tendency not to place a high value on their husbands.
It's not that women are more loving than men,(like many women like to allude to), saying things like if the men would do their bidding more or would be less of jerks, they give them the same amount of love they shower on children( some children cause more heartache for their mothers yet enjoy undying love) It's a case of children coming at a higher price/sacrifice(child birth is a life or death ordeal) than men, hence more value and love.
If the process of child birth were less risky, less laborious and painful, I doubt women would love their kids the current levels of devotion.

Normally, the love of wife should be greater than that of the mother to the child, because they have known and been together b4 child(ren) came, but it depends on the relationship btwn both of them.
Do you expect a woman to love a husband whose responsilities are all borne by the wife?or a husband who seems to love his own siblings and mother more than his wife? So, it depends on how the man placed the wife, it goes a long way for wife to be choosy in this scenario.
As for me, presntly, the vote goes to my hubby, because, that is how he also place me, next to God in his life, and i think, one good turn deserves another.
May God help us all.

I love my husband as my husband and my child as my child none can overide each other.

BigSis: Of course, love for a child is unconditional and permanent. Love for a spouse is generally conditional and not always permanent.

Correct big sister

Another potential sexist topic... shoulda been "Love for Spouse v Children"

Love for Pikin wins most of the time
Even fathers love their children more than their wife

ish

biolabee:


Correct big sister

Another potential sexist topic... shoulda been "Love for Spouse v Children"

Love for Pikin wins most of the time
Even fathers love their children more than their wife

ish

na true sef.all this sexist thread don dey taya me

^^^ LOL