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To my consideration, we are 1 year and plus months away from the day this topic was posted. We would want to know what the aftermath of this story is, because if it is a Nigerian movie a sequel of part 4 would be in the market now.

I took my time to read Shangy's heart outpour!

Ol boy, I know how it feels but it is really a good experience that shappens one, if you are lucky to go through it!!!

Please go face whatever is your souce of livelihood and become an expert in it. When you get tot he top of your chosen profession, you will be an attraction to many, both male and female. Check out for my posts. It has happened to me before.

Initially, i withdrew to my shell, later i moved on. The shock really propelled me to move on in life, after an elder told me if a wife (or girlfriend deserts you, do not commit suicide. A woman that deserts you today will still come back to you tomorrow, if you are hard working!

Years back, I started having the last laugh! As I write, God has been so merciful, I'm in a position to attract any woman without making much effort. Frankly speaking, women cannot resist successful men. Be a success in your field. She, or a better woman/better women would come into your life. As I write, I know a lot of those I dreamt of wooing but could not due to my level then, who make all efforts to get my attention today. Such is life. You will get over it, the pian only lasts fr a while.

If you are still alive some five year's time and you take my advise, look back, you will discover that it is not worth dying for. You would have been strong enough to be able to attract and retain any woman you desire. The key is hard work.

You may keep in touch via my email, if you will, I will share some life experience with you.

Shangy is possibly not gonna read ur advices cos he posted this since Jan 2006

However, am wondering why its such girls that dont wanna care what or how we guys feel
we're usually crazy about.

Am presently in a similar situation, my babe tells me whatever she feels like saying not minding how or what I think, she sees me only when she feels like it. If she doesnt feel like, she practically tells me that regardless of what i may think.

Funny enough I still love her, av tried times without number to replace her but no one else can make me feel the way she does.

Funny hun?

E pele o. Ndo o.

wetin concern me/us if the guy STARB ur heart, i dey there wen una dey lock the relationship, abi na my present u for dey enoy the guy fuckin, abeg carry ur wahala go another place, this ur topic no make sense, if i start to dey tell una how many gals dont starb my heart with bottle una go pity me till nest year


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shangy! shangy! shangy! how many times did i call u? leave dis girl she is not matured enough , i think she change her mind cos she feels she has d opportunity 2 travel out if gives in to d guy in abroad , d truth is dt d girl does not love u cos if she does she would think twice .just go on with ur life , at times love can be very sweet and be very bitter, u will get someone good 4 u ,just take ur time .

bro,u saw it coming bt prefer 2 ignore it.now dat it has happened don't settle 4 self pity,move on.i can easily advice u 2 move on,2 4get her,2 delete her from ur memory and i will go home and sleep cus i have never met her,dont have any feelings 4 her,so i dont care bt da prolem is u.u are da 1 with da prolem,u are da 1 dat has sleepless night,u are da 1 dat feels pain inside, so u alone have da answer 2 ur problem.look inside urself and u will find it there.



BE APPY OH

The thread might be old but other people needs such experience to learn from in relationships.

@topic
Well shangy, perhaps the guy has promised taking her to yankee and she's living up to that.
and using u to furnish her emotions while she is waiting.

its so sad dear but u've got 2 move on. A girl that doesnt know what she wants does not deserve your tears. she is not serious at all so just forget about her and do better things with yourself. Take heart dear

ur post too long so i no fit read am finish bt, wht i will tell u is dat u shld move on with ur life.

Sorry man. It's obvious dat u really like dis girl, but wat i'l say is sit down and do some analysis on yourself to be sure dat it is not because of one thing or the other dat she doesn't like abt u dat caused d break up. Afterwards be a better person and wait for ur true girl, one dat will luv u 4 who u are and will not break ur heart. Move on wit ur life cos dis girl is not worth ur love. She is a confused girl and CAUTION, do not use this opportunity to start playing around and jilting other girls cos u r going to reap just wat u sow. Such things as dis happen in life and u have to face the present and the future and never live in the past.

where is d shangy u people r advising?

common guy,forget this girl.Many babies are on ground.Life goes on for the survival.

It`s not a big deal.Mind u, e dey happen everywhere.Be a man.

Shangy dear, 1st i must say dat was a really long story, read it but next tym try to summarize especially as from the 1st paragraph i could see dat she never really was into u, u wer just available. som girls n guys could be mean u knw, just take heart n move on. ur angel is on d way

I'm not replying shangy cos i know the guy 4 don vex enter yankee, but 4 any guy in this position. This na 2007, never love a woman 100%, if u do, i'm sorry for you, Girls tend to fall for bad guys, the more love u show, the more foolish you become to them, abi u never see the movie "Last American virgin?" Na so them be, daughters of Eve. Anyway sha me i don borrow Romeo my heart,so, i got no heart for any puss'y to break, trust me most girls are muthafuckers.
Be wise

Could always be worse, yaknahmsayin?No matter what though, gotta keep your head up to the sky
It's all wrong but it's all right
It's a small world; matter fact it's a small life
We all trip but the way to survive
is hold your head and make sure you fall right
And it's a quite fact, that whatever goes around comes right back
It's just like that
And you can breathe long as you keep your head in the sky

-Jadakiss

I'm so sure she'll be back someday and U musta move on then.
Take a lil more time,love will found U

sorry o,my dear, you will getover it, everyone doees, take heart

@poster
been der b4. i tried enlisting the services of cultist so dey can inflict some things on her beautiful face. mine was worse. she told me cos im yoruba,shes hausa,im xtian,shes muslim. these stuffs she never raised when we started. I later found out,the Ahmed guy she told me shes done with came back with a check of N3million after selling a land in Abuja.

Ask me in private what you can do to her. shes a fool. That guy will leave her soon.

na wah oooooooooooo
well, 2 many babes ahead dnt b despair!!!!!

you were jilted by your girlfriend?what were you doing that made you blind as to the 'writings on the wall'?
I'd say if she really loved you as you thought she did,she shouldn't have left you but there's no use crying over spilt milk, get out there and party,you'd definitely meet someone with more qualities than her, i can guarantee you this cos i've been there, but be Good

cant people just let go ?

guy ,sorry ennn

Hello Everyone , first I will like to say Thank You for all your posts and responses to my post, its been what now? over a year I posted this and like some of you rightly said, I must have gotten over all this and moved on and yes I have.

For those who want me to learn to 'summarise' your comments have also been noted. For those who offered wonderful advice and also have to learn to move on and live, I really appreciate the tips, more power to your elbows.

Actually I wonder y Seun brought back this post to the fore, guess it made some impact and he wanted others to read, learn and share, just one of life's lessons eh!

I do visit nairaland almost daily and read the posts, I actually have a post tracker for this post and was amazed by the activity level again all of a sudden! I enjoyed reading every bit of the replies.

So for those who want to know who the tale ended,

I'm still much alive and I have moved on to be a better and wiser person. as for her, I don't know cos honestly I have been busy making tracks in life for meself.

Guess this pretty much wraps up the whole saga.

Ciao

story story, storrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry! the only reason i never yab u na because i no dey sure if this na true story or u just dey make am up. if na true story, pele. now to the facts, na u create your own wahala. from wetin u write, the girl had given u early signs, why didnt u slow down and handle her as just friends pending when things are cleared. girls can hurt u badly but Nigeria girls will kukuma kill u pata pata. i will tell u from this experience of mine that alot of times, when we slow down and do more observations, we save our hearts lots of pains. for nigerian singles in the states, na common thing when a guy meets a fellow Nigeria girl that is also single, he will begin to mentally evaluate the girl if she bi marriageable material or someone he will just have a thing or two with. na so i met this girl, we became very good friends and me sef don dey think say she probably will be the one oooo, i dey do my observation quietly. i even invited her to come to my place for vacation since she just don graduate. na me dey pay the air tickets ooooo; this girl go my hi5 page see one small pikin wey bi my niece, the girl blew up saying she dey disappointed in me, say why i dey hide say i get pikin. na hin i begin dey probe the girl, i con ask am if i get pikin wetin happen, long story short, she begin dey miss yan, i con knw say, that relationship no go ever happen. even now she still think say na my pikin. so bros, slow down and u will see better, love is not as blind as u think ooooo.

FYI: use the mirror of life simulated problems well in your relationship, it always reflect the true image of people.

Dude, sorry to say, you are a mugu. The signs were there all along but you were too naive to pick them.

Btw, I still handle my ex-girlfriend in Naija whenever I visit, regardless of whether she's dating someone or not.

@ Shangy,
Thumbs up for you Buddy! I'm glad you woke up and went on with life. I'm so proud of you. Shit happens and we all fall now and again, but the most important thing is that when we fall, we must get up, pick something up from the fall and move on with life.

That's what makes life worth living, that's what makes life beautiful. Keep keeping on. I'm glad you're not bitter, glad you learnt to love again. Life is good, life is sweet, life is beautiful and life is too short to be spent hating anyone.

Love you Buddy!!

we all hurt some time in our lives but we also move on, see this as good riddance to bad rubbish, women have not finished in the world, there are lovely sisters out there who would add meaning to ur life. do not give anyone the power to hold u down, she is not worth the headache.
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hello friend,
i really do not when this post was made but about this boy /girlfriend thing, guys wake up to this reality: you are the man in the relationship, you are the BOSS, but not domineering, you dictate at what pace things should go, why allow a woman play you 'BOJUBOJU", .
Take note of these points house, if your guy/gal feels uncomfortable to answer calls when you around or she goes to a far distance or runs to the toilet to receive calls please don't hesitate to end the relationship because there OBVIOUSLY is something fishing, such people shouldn't be in our lives. i didn't bother to read all your complaints because i know where it will end.
secondly guys, don't EVER allow your girls to dictate for you in any relationship,but listen to them when they speak, the truth is girls hate or are not attracted to guys they can control ,it simply means to them you are not man enough, and real women love real men,men that know why they are doing a particular thing even if that thing will kill them, sometimes a woman cannot explain why she is attracted to a guy its simply because of his personality not necessarily because you are nice or try very hard to kiss up her ass and hand over the power in the relationship to her, if you do not like what she is doing tell her and that if she continues the relationship is over after all there are a million men and women on the outside whose sexual talents have not been discovered or underutilised.

in my opinion you were trying overly hard to please her, you really didn't need all that, learn to do things the way it pleases you and be yourself if she loves and is attracted to you she will ditch Sean combs( p. diddy) to be with you without knowing why.

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Cheer up friend.Look at it this way-he was in her life before you came along.You should have prepared for this.When a babe tells you that her ex is outside the country then anything can happen,even if she swears that they've broken up.I only hope you were able to shag her properly while both of you lasted.At least she'll always remember that about you.
Stop hurting and look for another girl.There are many energetic girls out there without boyfriends.Goodluck.

Let the babe go you are hurting someone somehere who dearly cares about you by still morning over a girl that jilted you open up your heart for someone new

sorry my dear such sh*t happens.
believe me the best reply to this your award-winning but heart-breaking story is that
posted by yimiton,being also a lady(i suppose),she is well-placed to tell you nothing but the naked truth,.After all said and done,it is allowed for you to grieve now cos you gave the relationship your,but try and find succour in the old saying that "every disappointment is a blessing"Because every body is prone to mistakes,count her as your worst and prAy to God to give you the fortitude to forge happilly ahead in life.
All the best my brother cos i feel your pain.