We have all at one time or the other felt this way. It is in fact part of our existence as humans. Someone once said that the challenges of day to day living are what make life interesting. uhhmnnnnn so?? You are sad when something bad happens to you. You get moody even when you can not pin point what is wrong. Fact is, you want to feel otherwise, you want to be happy or at least feel differently.

So many ways have been deployed by people to flee the sad moments of life. We seek money, food, good life, spouses, children in the bid to fill some vacuum, hoping happiness would surface only to find other loopholes. In the case of someone who fulfils this need by making more riches, at some point would realise money isn’t it and at this time could have gone very deep into money mess, Eating could have led to obesity. Children, only for family planning to become an urgency. And oh spouses?? Until a heart is broken .

So, what do we do when sadness comes in, when we feel so moody or when despondency sets in? Allah has gives us a way out by saying-

‘verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest’ (Q.13:28)

SO when next you feel sad,
1. Take your Mushaf (Qur’an) and recite. You’d be surprised at how relieved you would be.

Or
2. Say this, as taught by the prophet (S.A.W) -

Allahuma inni ‘abduka ibnu ‘abdika ibnu amatika, naasiyateebiyadika, maadin fiyyahukmuk, adlun fiyya qadaa ‘uka, as ‘alukabikulli isminhuwa laka, sammaita bihi nafsaka, aw anzaltahu fee kitaabika, aw allamtahuahadan min khalqika, awista thartabihi fee’ilmilghaibi indaka, an taj’alal quranarabee a qalbi, wa noora sadri, wa jalaa’a huzni, wa dha-haabahammi.

Meaning-( Oh Allah, I am your slave and the son of your slaves. My fate is in your hands. Your judgement upon me is assured. Justice upon me is your command. I ask you by every name you have taken for yourself, revealed in your book, taught anyone of your creation or taken unto yourself in the realm of the unknown, to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, and the light of my bosom, the banisher of my sadness and reliever of my despondency.)





and I tell you it has worked for me over and over again.

3. How about preventing this state as much as possible. Many of the time we have choices to make. Realising we have made the wrong one can make a wound, long to heal in our heart. The prophet taught us Istikhara and one of his sahabahs narrated that He (rasulullah) taught Istikhara like he taught them surahs of the Qur’an(stressing its importance). With Istikhara you can be rest assured that the best decision is made and even when things go wrong in it, you believe strongly that something better /more beneficial would come out of it. Isn’t this the rest we seek??



Istikhara can be done on even what we term the least significant like choosing what to wear, what route to take and what food to eat to the more important ones like whom to marry and which house to buy.

How istikhara is performed
There’s so much more to Istikhara (requiring much details) but the basics of its observance is two rakaats of salat after which its duaa( supplication) is recited thus-

Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi ilmik, wa astakdiruka bi qudratik, wa asaluka min fadlikal azzem, fainnaka takdir wala aqdir, fa ta’lamu wa la a’lam, wa anta a’lamul guyub, Allahuma in kunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr (mention what you want to decide on) khairun lee fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa aaqibati  amri, faqdirhuli wa yassirhu li thumma barikli feehi, wa inkunta ta’lamu anna hadhal amr  sharrun lee fiddeeni wa ma ‘ashi wa aaqibati amri, fasrifhu   ‘anni wasrifni anhu waqdur liyal khayr haithu kaana thumma ardini bihI.

Meaning- (Oh Allah I seek the counsel of your knowledge, and I seek the help of your omnipotence, and I beseech your magnificent grace. Surely you are capable and I am not. You know and I know not and you are the knower of the unseen. Oh Allah, Surely you know, so if this matter(mention it) is good for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come then ordain it for me and make it easy for me, then bless me in it. And if this matter is bad for me, in my religion and in my life and for my welfare in the life to come, distance it from me, and distance me from it, and ordain for me what is good wherever it is to be found and help me to be content with it. )



If in a situation where the rakaats cannot be observed, saying the supplication is enough.

With the counsel of Allah sought, the mind is at rest that the decision taken is for the best. While moody, reciting the dua of the prophet is enough and while really sad, reciting the Qur’an( dhikr) might be all the heart needs to find rest!

IF you know of other ways to fight despondency, Share! A brethren might find it helpful!

Tanks for dis cos I need it.

hayorbaami:

Tanks for dis cos I need it.

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