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i called, begged and pleaded with him to come and pick up his phone, just for me to see him and resolve the issue, but he refused.

he's just finding a way tu get rid of u

His friend was blaming me that i pushed him to do what he did, not that what he did was right. I got home called him and was still pleading because i was feeling like i accused him wrongly.

My dear, u didnt accuse him wrongly, ofcourse - any1 in ur shoes will notice sth strange abt the whole thingy! His frend just wants to be on ur boyfrend's side.

He angrily stormed out of the place leaving his phone with me

There's sth strange about that statement that I am trying tu figure out

Did she call throughout the time his phone was with you

I called and insisted that i wanted to see him and he started yelling on the phone and refused to pick at times i was so hurt and angry that i called him at night, when i did, i heard the girl's voice in the background.

It's so painful when innocent loving ladies like you fall deeply in love with wrong, stupid guys

That is where I knew that the other girl is not just a frend, and ur boyfrend is trying to get rid of you, mah dear, forget him and forge ahead, Mr. Right 'll come ur way!

So here I am feeling rejected, upset, hurt and heartbroken, seeking answers, explanations, asking questions, feeling cheated, not understanding what just went down. I know something is wrong somewhere, for sure, I love this guy so much and I'm serious about this relationship. Lem hurting, can't sleep, can't eat, can't concentrate, all muddled up inside not knowing what to believe or what to think, I feel so betrayed!

Please dont feel like that, like I said, forge ahead with ur life and forget that dude, okay!

Dump the guy girl.

The funny thing is the other girl doesn't seem to have a problem with the fact that your ex has a girl and she just doesn't give a damn. why do women do such things to each other.


@ poster you already know what's going on i think you should cut your loses and move on and yes i know it hurts so much when you care about a person but time will heal your heart.

obviously u were snooping on him - the thing is this - Yoruba people say - ti eti oba gbo yinkin inu o ki i baje - meaning, if your ear no hear anything bad - then your mind no go spoil - u said u wanted to admire the phone, but u were busy checking the picture folder, checking the calls and reading the texts - so u see, what u looked for was what u got - me I no pty u sha. Next time, try and trust absolutely.

Me thinks u nag a lot and the guy has gotten enough - yes, serves u right - next time, keep your hand for pocket when u are tempted to check your boyfriends phone.

@Holiness-m, I assume youre a guy and thats why you re being sentimental about this issue,

you mean she got no right to look at the pics in the phone or if she suspects any thing strange she should not find out.

@ postre,
your guy purposedly bought a new phone for his illicit affair, he actually wanted to be dating the both of you together not knowing that your heart was clear with him and thats why you found out,

or maybe he has been using that phone secretly without your knowledge and luck shun on you that day and then you found out,

I will advice you don't commitedly or devotedly love a guy that way any more, as far as am concern men are nothing but heart breakers, they will claim innocent and sincere to you but what they are you can never imagine.

Please go on with your life, your true love will surely come, its obvious that this guy loves the other girl more than he does to you, so watch and see that some one else who will respect, love and adore you more than he do will surely come.

Its not a new thing, we ve seen them, experience them and what ever you can say, but that God Ive learnt my lessons.

@Chinne -

I pity u o.

@ Holiness
That's not fair. She is going through a lot of pain.

@ poster
I understand how you feel. It is going to hurt for a long while. believe me when i say you'll get over it. I did

I also got over mine - yea - i am a man - my girlfriend - a lady - got preganat for another man. So top that.

@ Holiness
That's not fair. She is going through a lot of pain.

@ poster
I understand how you feel. It is going to hurt for a long while. believe me when i say you'll get over it. I did

@ Poster you know the guy for like just 5 months. I call this in the getting to know you phase.
Your posts are full of i demanded and i insisted.
If my daughter told me this story but the other way round with her bf demanding and insisting.
i will demand and insist she breaks up with him .I have no son but equal rights i will not want my son with a girlfriend that will not give him a break.
Do you not have girlfriends?. Must he be with you all the time?
Think very hard. He told you sunday no show could you not wait till Monday to call him.
He is slowly cutting you off-.
You want to keep him?
THEN STOP DEMANDING AND INSISTING

@holiness
Very sorry about that, you still need to have some empathy towards others plight

@Mamaput

In fact - i need to marry your daughter for that beautiful post u just made.

sharing him with someone else and he said "OK". If he really cares and loves me like he says, how could he just say "OK"

Guys are known for this crap and I HATE it with a passion.   the whole trying to act indifferent. In your case, he was probably just putting a show for the girl.

anyway your dude is now trying to play the victim and make you believe that you caused all this. If he didnt have anything to hide, just wanting to see a new phone shouldnt be such a big deal. Although I really wish people would stop being so obsessed with other people's phones.
My philosophy, you don't need to see my phone and I don't need to see yours. Whatever he/she is hiding will come out eventually.

Anyway, stop begging him or whatever, don't call him anymore or try to get to his friends,  he's taking advantage of your emotions and trying to make you feel terrible. If he cared at all for you, he wouldnt be trying so hard to hurt you. Simple.

@Thief

Are u sure u have a man in your life? I am not talking about your brother or your neighbour - I mean a man wey dey sex u?

actually. I am a man. Im the man who impregnanted your gf, you cad.

@Thief

ha? u r?

Holiness_M:

@Mamaput

In fact - i need to marry your daughter for that beautiful post u just made.

we talk about that when we agree on more  topices.

Guys are known for this crap and I HATE it with a passion.   the whole trying to act indifferent. In your case, he was probably just putting a show for the girl.

or he is fed up or he wants her to learn the hard way, or he is the "don't look back type.
I had a boyfriend that did that to me once i too just said OK. 2 weeks later he came back.

lol not surprised. They can be so predictable sometimes.

Mamaput

dont u know that u often always disagree with someone as a sign of love? u shld know i love u, thats why.

well, am sorry the way he treated u. he is lookin for a way out of the relationship. if he really cares about u, he wouldnt just blank u like that, please dont beg him again, hew dont doesnt deserve someone like u. its a shame people like him give bad names to guys. please its not all guys that are like that. open ur heart, dont luck in, some out good wiil come ur way. experience a terrible heartbreak from my ex, it took a year to come out of it, it has healed but am taking my time. am a guy, it happens to us too, unless other guys want to lie about it. so my dear, talk to ur friends cos they will comfort u and u will move on. best wishes

Dear Ann,
Please i want you to forget about this guy.I know its hard but u know what?that guy that will really love you and respect is out there waiting to be found.Drop your Ex before God and let God heal your hurt and ask God to give you that person that is meant for you.Take kia.I know how it feels.

Thanks uyai

and that "trying to force yourself to feel something" was an old "diease" lol of mine as well. tsk

What did the guy do wrong?
Is he not allowed to talk to other girls.
Was he not always good to her?
Is it not his right to move on if he dose not like or love her anymore?
Is love now by force?
Take the good times with you forget the past learn from your mistakes.
That relationship was just 5 months.
For me 5 months is a getting to know you time almost too early to get committed,
he was taking her to family functions how many girls can boast of that?
Its not only girlfriends that write messages. It could be something personal from mum dad or sisters what ever.

@ Holiness
That's not fair. She is going through a lot of pain.

But she will keep going through that pain if she dose not know how it came to be

dear oge,
what did this guy do wrong?
he liked you before and no more likes u now, period
so move on with ur life na
or what exactly has transpired?

Mamaput, what are you talking about?

The dude was playing games. if he didnt want to be with her anymore he should have just said so and that would have been it. Mere "friends that are girls" shouldnt be a reason for him to be fuming and ignoring her calls. Obviously more to it.

I too have a problem with girls that believe their guy should only speak to them or guys that think their girl should only talk to them, point still remains that he was unnecessarily defensive about the issue

and to make matters worse he's making her feel horrible by saying she pushed him into the hands of another woman just for wondering about his sudden behavior. It's all bullshit and a very old game.

There is this boy i know, he is just 18 and he was telling me he was thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend because he could not take her telephone terror and interrogations any more.
The only problem was that he did not know how to tell her without hurting her.
An example like i said he is 18 the oldest son and both of his parents have epilepsy.
After a long day of telephone terror he put off his phone and his dad had an attack. well his phone was off but they were able to trace him through his friends.
He slept at the hospital that night.
The next day , madam girlfriend called and ask whats up. When he told her she first called him a lier and later demanded why she did not tell him that he was in the hospital.
he answered her that she was the last person on his mind as of then and broke up with her.
But she still kept calling to ask if he has changed his mind.
What i wanted to say from the moment he made up his mind to break up his eyes were already open for new girlfriend but i advised him to keep it clean and break up with the girl first,

so in other words there was an actually reason for the "phone terror".

Inother words he wanted to break up because of the telephone terror.
all there "were are you" calls
just maybe you are out with the boys/girls
just maybe you are having dinner with your family
just maybe you are taking you sick mum to the DR
Just maybe you want to be on your own

No. you said yourself that he had his eyes on some other woman anyway so like i said the phone terror was probably warranted in this case

He set his eyes on another girlfriend when he decided to break up with her.
But had not broken up yet.
And he broke up because he did not need the stress.
For one he is still in school and for 2 he is responsible for his parents.
Good its not the good old gentleman way.
But when i have already made up my mind to break up . then mentally am free.
I only have to say the 3 words : baby its over