How long do you guys think two people should date before getting married? Is it ok to meet someone and know that they are your soul-mate and get married within a year??

Depends on which sex is involved. You see, after all the games, a woman finally gets desperate to settle down while, for the man, its the beginning of life! A woman will not mind settling with u in weeks sef, saying she's found the soul-mate that she's been searching for since the last 10-15 yrs,
A man will want to date for at least 2yrs cos women can hide their true behaviours, i've seen couples that dated for over 4yrs b4 anything oh

whitelexi:

Depends on which sex is involved. You see, after all the games, a woman finally gets desperate to settle down while, for the man, its the beginning of life! A woman will not mind settling with u in weeks sef, saying she's found the soul-mate that she's been searching for since the last 10-15 years,
A man will want to date for at least 2yrs because women can hide their true behaviours, i've seen couples that dated for over 4yrs before anything oh

Word

it all really depends
if you think and know for a fact that he's the one for you then i guess it's alright to go ahead and marry him but if you're not too sure i guess it would be better to wait for some more years marriage is a life long committement

Guy is better one year is a real long time on one condition
if you two are far from each other then 2yrs

u no experience is the best teacher

Guy is better one year is a real long time on one condition
if you  two are far from each other then 2yrs

u no experience is the best teacher

from my own view ,boy is not too short 4 someone to get married becos one year is a long period to undrstand or study one partner .

because one year is a long period to undrstand or study one partner

When studying a woman, one yr is way too short cos they can pretend so very well, kai!

I believe 3 years should be the minimum, plus u never know a woman fully until u start leaving under the same roof

Adam: The woman(Eve) whom You(GOD) brought into my life, gave me the apple.

GOD: you disobeyed and blamed me for finding a wife for you. I will never find a wife for you, whenever you are ready show me the woman I will bless you.

It does not matter the time(year). Just ask GOD to bless your marriage when you find her/him.

whitelexi:

Depends on which sex is involved. You see, after all the games, a woman finally gets desperate to settle down while, for the man, its the beginning of life! A woman will not mind settling with u in weeks sef, saying she's found the soul-mate that she's been searching for since the last 10-15 years,
A man will want to date for at least 2yrs because women can hide their true behaviours, i've seen couples that dated for over 4yrs before anything oh

True word bro!! You are right on the money. I just came out of a longterm relationship (almost nine months) and i can attest to what you said. People can be nice when they want something but they can only pretend for so long.

So guyz take your time and study the girl o. Love is important but it is not everything. Some of us have relatives that we love but would rather not live with. Word for the wise.

6 Months, 1 Year, does it really matter. Marriage is like a gift wrapped up in a package. Anything you find inside after its been unwrapped, you take and make the best out of it. It takes eternity to know someone. Human beings pretend a lot! N we are sooo unpredictable. So just pray and ask God to take control.

babymine:

6 Months, 1 Year, does it really matter. Marriage is like a gift wrapped up in a package. Anything you find inside after its been unwrapped, you take and make the best out of it. It takes eternity to know someone. Human beings pretend a lot! N we are sooo unpredictable. So just pray and ask God to take control.

No, i don't think so. I live in a society where you have a high divorce rate because people never took the time to find out anything about who they are getting married. There is no point rushing into anything only to rush out.
I understand the part about God, but don't expect God to clean up your every mistake.

whenever u r ready, pray to God, make the vows n kip them!!!!!!!

Nothing like pray to God and make your vows because heaven only helps those who help themselves, are u gonna blame God when u pray and the woman misbehaves? I wonder what ebele was thinking when she asked this question sef? Ebele, if u were a guy, knowing women of nowadays, will u marry after one yr?

y r u so agressive abt it all.
Nomatta wat happens la8r, first put things in the very careful n loving hands of God ok n the rest will come.

I'm not aggressive about anything, I just like to be realistic.

its not always women that want to marry fast! my husband first asked to marry me after 6weeks and kept on at me until i relented and we married after just 5mths .it was an excellent marriage ,but my husband passed away two years ago he was only 31 and i often wonder if deep down he knew he would not have a long life and wanted to squeeze everything in.

  I personally think if you can not imagine marrying someone after 1yr then you must question why you are with them. and to the men who are saying that you must wait 3 years or so to see a womans true character 1st of all it works both ways and 2nd if you keep a woman hanging about for 3/4 years you are going to see a change in her coz she is annoyed at this waste of her time.

marriage can be hard work and if you go into it looking for a perfect partner without fault then you shall be surely disappointed.

Weev,Sorry you lost your spouse,sounds like he was a great husband! I met my wife in NYSC camp in July,by July the next year,we were married and have remained so till date,9 years after. There are people who court for several years,and divorce soon after they solemnize the relationship. The decision when to get married depends on a lot of factors. The age, status(still schooling ,job searching etc),and may be financial situation of the guy. a guy will not be in a rush to get married when he is still young,jobless or not sure of his financial situation. However, once you meet someone, your heart tells you is the right person, you will probably want to get married as soon as possible. For those who want long courtship,to study the potential spouse, goodluck oh! You can not know all about a person,as long as they want to hide a trait from you. A marriage based on a firm religious foundation is more likely to survive,than one where the partners do not have religion. BUT, marriage is indeed hardwork(As Weev said),and you have to work hard at it to make it work.

I personally dont think itz too long, infact coutship needs to be extended further to ensure a better, happier and longlasting marriage

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Depends on which sex is involved. You see, after all the games, a woman finally gets desperate to settle down while, for the man, its the beginning of life! A woman will not mind settling with u in weeks sef, saying she's found the soul-mate that she's been searching for since the last 10-15 years,
A man will want to date for at least 2yrs because women can hide their true behaviours, i've seen couples that dated for over 4yrs before anything oh Grin

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I think it may be best to spend at least 18 months together, but if both parties are sincere then why wait? I don't agree w/ putting artificial restraints on a relationship & saying, "I can't be this person's wife b/c we've only been dating for 6 months or 36 months etc." That's annoying & not very honest to the other person. If you have other doubts or don't think that you really know the person, then that's another story.

I don't think one year is too soon to get married

whitelexi:

When studying a woman, one yr is way too short because they can pretend so very well, kai!

A woman dat will pretend for 1 whole year, can pretend for 3 years. Trust me on dat

IF like take a whole decay to court a lady that does not granty successfull mariage. To me any time after 3month marriage can take place if both party are sincere with each other. My dear it is not how long a courtship but how well

Hmm, well as for me, my hubby proposed to me after 10months we met and we got married 7months after that. So i guess one yr and up is good but regardless, you should follow your heart. After all there are people that are introduced and they do it right away and i know a few that have been married for a long time. So its really yup to the person and how they feel.

well sha 1 yr is too long. my parents got married after 4months of courtship and they r still married after 24yrs datin someone u want to marry for too long would give u so many reasons not too marry the person. marriage can also called an adventure so i feel u shold leave the things u didnt learn durin courtship for mariage.

i dont mean to barge in or go off topic but luvlymoi the puppies on ur profile are C U U U U U T E !!!!!  




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it doesn't really matter. i dated my hubby for almost 6 years and in marriage, i feel i've never really known him.

well to me its to soon to start thinking of marriage,yea long courtship has its disadvantages,but if you compare and contrast it with short courtship you would find out that its benefits surpasses the benefits of short courtship.marriage is not something one just rushes into and rush out of.when i get married its for life   ;Dso i dont see the need to rush.  

ThoniaSlim:

well to me its to soon to start thinking of marriage,yea long courtship has its disadvantages,but if you compare and contrast it with short courtship you would find out that its benefits surpasses the benefits of short courtship.marriage is not something one just rushes into and rush out of.when i get married its for life   ;Dso i don't see the need to rush.  

ur true talking about rushing i guess, but gating marriage in a yr i dont see any big deal on it, cos God can make anything posible u know, and beside ppls r even gating marriage in months not even a yr, so i guess u should just pray and gate the right man though!

@needeeg
hhhhmmm you know its a different thing getting the right guy and also a different thing making him stay as the right man.

chinani:

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Didnt quite expect a standing ovation from the female folk but many guys have already concurred to this. Women of nowadays cannot be trusted easily because of all that they do when they do what they do especially abroad, Smart men go all the way back home from countries abroad just to get married cos what they see our girls doing here is unbelievable. when girls finish playing and realise the need to settle down, they start looking for the unfortunate dude for child benefits and stuff.
Its all changing, cos the birds have learnt to fly higher and the hunters have learnt to aim better