boy, girl, does it really matter?

These days even us so-called new generation Nigerians are so crazy about the boy thing. Does it really matter? You want your name to last? Well, you won't even know it is lasting, because you not going to be there to see it lasting.

Why not just love kids boy or girl? Personally I want two kids. Two boys? Two girls? Boy and girl? Who cares, I just want kids. I want to know why you want as many boys as possible or vice versa.

Well I think it matters. I want a bouncing baby girl first of all, and after that whatever comes is fine by me. Girls can be sweet if given parental attention, but most young boys are just rough, rough, rough!

Yes, it is true that the girl will no longer bear my surname when she gets married, but that is not a problem, because the surname isn't mine anyway!

Besides, I know that all my childen will be great, as I would be, and if they are bearing the same surname then when people mention my surname("Mr. XYZ" it would not be clear which one they are talking about. "Do you mean XYZ senior or XYZ junior?"

But if the she's a girl then after she's married that would no longer be a problem - I'll have my precious name all to myself and my wife! So I prefer to have daughters but male children are equally ok.

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seun,.. you got a really great sense of humour, was just laughing all through.
wetin be that ya beautiful surname sef wey you no wan share.

Yeah, you can say it doesn't matter but I bet you it would matter to your wife if you have only girls, she would never feel secure or comfortable with the fact that she doesn't have any boys.

Personally I think girls are more caring than boys, they know how to pamper their parents while boys would only send money and wouldn't have time for other activities.

I am just happy that the guys are the ones saying "girls are better than boys".

Personally i want two girl and a boy.. IF the two girls can come as twins..i will be the happiest i have ever been!

Or better yet four.. two girls (Twins)
Two Boys (Twins). Ohh God answer my prayer!!

A big Amen 2 dat.

Oh my God! Hot-angel...that is exactly my dream! I want 2 girls and a boy, and I want the 2 girls to come as twins. What a coincidence of desires LOL! Twin daughters can be really marvellous especially if they are beautiful.

Both sexes are just perfect for the family.

I prefer to have a male child first before a female child.

In fact I will like my last born to the only female.( 2boys, a girl)

Twin daughters can be really marvellous especially if they are beautiful.

Welll for the kids to be beautifull the parents gotta have some beauty parts too.. lol. Anyways true talk.. I want my twin girls to be beautiful!!!

Great peter u better start like and prefaring either sex, else u will end up having a nursery school in ur house
just bcuz u are looking for a particular sex.(just an advice)

Boy or girl child doesnot really matter so far they are doing fine.Iprefer girl cos they listen to parents and esay to control

why is every body prefaring girls girls girls anyway.....?
who says they are easy to control

Girl or boy it doesnt matter all that matters is that u have a baby u can call your own.
Africans like baby boys cos they carry the family name along with them unlike gals that will get married,they answer either her husband's name or her husband's family name.

All girls, all boys or any mixture would be fine. All that matters is that they be healthy and bring me joy in my old age

Joy in your old age? Well I have discovered that whatever expectations you place on your children to make you happy would probably only lead to dissapointment in the end. My duty to my children will be to teach them all they need to know to make themselves happy; that's all.

cool one from seun...but u know kids naturally is like joy to parents.
i think wat justimoi means is that at ur old miserable age ....when u look at ur grown ups , u get happy again, knowing they came from u.

In practice it tends to mean more than that. What if you look at your children and they are not exactly what you wished they could be? Isn't this the reason for much of the "domestic warfare" we have today?

hhhhhhmmmmm
i think seun has a point there

agree with seun partially...
dont u think a wise parent will love his child 4 d child.
the existence, and the uniqueness...?
its not only about the child being great or being what u hoped.

every child is unique to d parents, weather good or bad.

a mum will still prefare to take the bullet dat is mend for her armed-robber child.

@ Makgod, you totally get me.

@ Seun, by bringing me joy in my old age, all I mean is that I want them to grow up to be well adjusted, happy adults as opposed to menaces to society. Their happiness is what is going to bring me joy. I realize that kids grow up, develop a mind of their own and that any attempt to live their lifes for them will only lead to heartache. It wouldn't matter to me whom they marry, what they do for a living(as long as its legal). As long as they are happy and fulfilled then I'm happy.

male child or female child both are very important in a family.

i want twins,
and i know i will have them cos it is in our lineage
my mother had twins boy and girl.
my grand mother had twins 2 times
the first set was 2girls and the second set 2boys

don't count on dat though...,
u might hurt urself.

Heh.......this is interesting! but let try and know that weather it is a boy or a girl, try and lay a good foundation for your kids, because the stone which the builder rejected might become the chief coner stone of the hosue.

It doesnt really matter whether i have boys or girls. I just want children. Family name my ass. Dem dey use am collect money?
Girl child is ok. Most africans don't want the family name to cease. In that case your daughter could get married and still bear your name. Its possible. So waz d fuss?
Anyone i get...Ok by me. But i'll really want a mixture. 2 boys & 2 girls.

i want both boys and girls. 4 kids to be exact. two boys. two girls. boy- girl- boy-girl.

Boys eh,may God have mercy on you ,if you are rich man,because they will be asking when this old man will die so he will be in control of everything.But girls they will look after you very well ,make sure you lacks nothing,girls are more better.

Well all depends on God.
I will take whatever God gives me.
But I pray I have male and female children.
Two boys and a girl.
QED.

to me it doesn't matter if it is a boy or a girl that comes first because we are not God who gives children so we have to be grateful for the one he gives to us

Just a little doubt here.. why should someone even pray for a particular gender...dat means its not all in Gods hands as u all say. U still got ur wish.u all just pretending to be modern..

what if he doesn't answer and give u all girls... will u still be a happy married man..?

@Makgod Nah wah

it doesnt matter at all,
but it matters to some people

No it doesn't.