^^^may god punish any woman who is deranged enough to do this act!

^^what's scaring you?

you're raining curses now but would abuse the woman in question for doing the same.

^^^^^^^ Tpia i don laugh tire, No mind MBJ, e don dey fear, dem plenty jare, toto washers.

how i no go fear when some people are doing such act?!
yes i would rain insult on such woman, is r/ship by force?! is this nastiness really necessary? come on now!!!!

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To be honest my friend is a gentle guy. He has on numerous occasions told her it won't work. The girl would then call his family and do everything possible to make sure the relationship went on (cry, cook for all the guys friends, give him toto and so on). He tried to break up with her when they were 5 years together, girl refused to leave. He tried to parade another girl in front of this girl, girl intimated the new girl to the extent of bribing the police to beat up and lock up new girl for 3 days (this happened when they were 5 years in the relationship). In the 7th year guy again tried to break up again nothing worked. Every move he makes girl follows. Every plan guy makes to leave;  girl will topple. My friend told me the girl is obsessed with him(he calls the girl one man army). The girl's family have told her to leave the guy, girl has refused. She said it is him or nothing. The guy's family finally told the girl to move on as they can't force him to marry her. Girl said it's him or no one. What should he do? Or should he just marry her out of pity?

blackcat1:

To be honest my friend is a gentle guy. He has on numerous occasions told her it won't work. The girl would then call his family and do everything possible to make sure the relationship went on (cry, cook for all the guys friends, give him toto and so on). He tried to break up with her when they were 5 years together, girl refused to leave. He tried to parade another girl in front of this girl, girl intimated the new girl to the extent of bribing the police to beat up and lock up new girl for 3 days (this happened when they were 5 years in the relationship). In the 7th year guy again tried to break up again nothing worked. Every move he makes girl follows. Every plan guy makes to leave;  girl will topple. My friend told me the girl is obsessed with him(he calls the girl one man army). The girl's family have told her to leave the guy, girl has refused. She said it is him or nothing. The guy's family finally told the girl to move on as they can't force him to marry her. Girl said it's him or no one. What should he do? Or should he just marry her out of pity?

Blackcat1, tell your friend that he didnt do his breakup and didnt stand his ground very well. if he was really serious, he wouldnt have been going back to her in the first place . She locks up a gal that he paraded as a galfrnd, so bloody what!!!! does that mean he should have gone back to her. the reason this girl is doing all this things is because HE KEEPS GOING BACK!!!!!!

You cannot keep  gal for 10years and counting( BECUASE WE NEVER SURE IF THE GUY NO NO GO BACK TO THE GAL   and then keep going back when she throws tantrums!!! Hope you will make sure that the gal doesnt know you are not in her team or she will lock you up too

your friend laid his bed, let him sort his issue out. She cooks for his friends, i'm sure that includes you and all of una go eat  then your gentle guy friend goes back and collects all she offers, mschewwwwwwwwww . A gal cannot force a guy to date her for 10years, e no fit happe, does she rape him back into the relationship   ,  i am confused o!!!!except if the guy is a weakling or there is more to it that he cannot bring himself to tell you, inshort something/secret is holding them thats why he keeps going back . After all this her manaic behaviour, HE COUNTINUED FOR TEN WHOLE YEARS!!!!!

let him carry his cross, if he satyed 10years he can as well stay forever

Chaircover, it is so true, i remember seeing that ''mad man'' too, so that was what happened to him? OMG!!!! God should please forgive us all.

Nigerians have a high level of mental problems though.

This man was blaming his own on the girlfriend he wronged?

Lord have mercy, if e easy like that, about 90% of nigerians would be wandering the streets, seriously. A lot of nigerian men dont exactly have a good track record when it comes to relationships.

tpia@:

Nigerians have a high level of mental problems though.

This man was blaming his own on the girlfriend he wronged?

Lord have mercy, if e easy like that, about 90% of nigerians would be wandering the streets, seriously. A lot of nigerian men dont exactly have a good track record when it comes to relationships.

VERY TRUE.

2shuz:

Blackcat1, tell your friend that he didnt do his breakup and didnt stand his ground very well. if he was really serious, he wouldnt have been going back to her in the first place . She locks up a gal that he paraded as a galfrnd, so bloody what!!!! does that mean he should have gone back to her. the reason this girl is doing all this things is because HE KEEPS GOING BACK!!!!!!

You cannot keep  gal for 10years and counting( BECUASE WE NEVER SURE IF THE GUY NO NO GO BACK TO THE GAL   and then keep going back when she throws tantrums!!! Hope you will make sure that the gal doesnt know you are not in her team or she will lock you up too

your friend laid his bed, let him sort his issue out. She cooks for his friends, i'm sure that includes you and all of una go eat  then your gentle guy friend goes back and collects all she offers, mschewwwwwwwwww . A gal cannot force a guy to date her for 10years, e no fit happe, does she violation him back into the relationship   ,  i am confused o!!!!except if the guy is a weakling or there is more to it that he cannot bring himself to tell you, inshort something/secret is holding them thats why he keeps going back . After all this her manaic behaviour, HE COUNTINUED FOR TEN WHOLE YEARS!!!!!

let him carry his cross, if he satyed 10years he can as well stay forever

My friend doesn't know why he hates her when she's not in his presence but immediately he sees her he becomes powerless.
Hope she hasn't washed anything for my friend sha

blackcat1:

My friend doesn't know why he hates her when she's not in his presence but immediately he sees her he becomes powerless.
Hope she hasn't washed anything for my friend sha

Indeed!!!! powerless!!!! indeed!!!, Your friend never hala!. He does not know what is biting him yet!

blackcat1:

My friend doesn't know why he hates her when she's not in his presence but immediately he sees her he becomes powerless.
Hope she hasn't washed anything for my friend sha

funniest tin i have ever heard. gal did not wash anything 4 ur friend @ all. if she did, she will not need police action to chase the other gal away. all she will need to do is show up and he will become powerless like you said.

the man seems like a questionable type.

even if he breaks up with the girl [not sure he really wants to], he'll probably go after someone just like her.

blackcat1:

My friend doesn't know why he hates her when she's not in his presence but immediately he sees her he becomes powerless.
Hope she hasn't washed anything for my friend sha

if she had washed something for him he'd have married her by now.

your friend has issues.

Blackcat1, tell your friend that he didnt do his breakup and didnt stand his ground very well. if he was really serious, he wouldnt have been going back to her in the first place . She locks up a gal that he paraded as a galfrnd, so bloody what!!!! does that mean he should have gone back to her. the reason this girl is doing all this things is because HE KEEPS GOING BACK!!!!!!   

You cannot keep  gal for 10years and counting( BECUASE WE NEVER SURE IF THE GUY NO NO GO BACK TO THE GAL   and then keep going back when she throws tantrums!!! Hope you will make sure that the gal doesnt know you are not in her team or she will lock you up too

your friend laid his bed, let him sort his issue out. She cooks for his friends, i'm sure that includes you and all of una go eat   then your gentle guy friend goes back and collects all she offers, mschewwwwwwwwww  . A gal cannot force a guy to date her for 10years, e no fit happe, does she violation him back into the relationship      ,  i am confused o!!!!except if the guy is a weakling or there is more to it that he cannot bring himself to tell you, inshort something/secret is holding them thats why he keeps going back  . After all this her manaic behaviour, HE COUNTINUED FOR TEN WHOLE YEARS!!!!!

let him carry his cross, if he satyed 10years he can as well stay forever

you've said it all.

he should continue eating and enjoying the makeup s.ex but he should also stop endangering other girls by pretending he wants to be with them.

ladies ladies ladies!!!!
if after the OP's latest explanation of this situation, you lot still believe that the guy was wrong, then i can safely say that you ladies are dishonest in your replies.
the fact that he dumped her and even brought his new gf BUT you still blame him is just . . . . . . . . . . WOMEN!!!!

as if you have to BEAT someone away from us? the guy even brought another damsel but she was chased and "beaten away" by his insane GF. this crazy lady has decided that she will marry this man AT ANY COST.

actually this guy's life has been taken hostage, he has been with her for this long AGAISNT HIS WILL. this is no different than KIDNAPPING!

Yes, its kidnapping when his nostrils are smelling the food she's cooking and he's sitting there waiting to be served.

Its kidnapping when his mouth is busily swallowing her pounded yam or whatever , maybe jollof rice, and he's lounging there washing it down with small stout.

Its also kidnapping when his legs dont lead him out the door but instead take him to the bedroom where he'll be groaning in ecstacy or maybe annoyance while pounding her mightly on the bed. Why couldnt he carry his stuff elsewhere long before now or did she use handcuff to pin him down.

It serves the chick right. Dude made it clear to her but she decided to stay.

They deserve each other.

tpia@:

Yes, its kidnapping when his nostrils are smelling the food she's cooking and he's sitting there waiting to be served.

Its kidnapping when his mouth is busily swallowing her pounded yam or whatever , maybe jollof rice, and he's lounging there washing it down with small stout.

Its also kidnapping when his legs dont lead him out the door but instead take him to the bedroom where he'll be groaning in ecstacy or maybe annoyance while pounding her mightly on the bed.  Why couldnt he carry his stuff elsewhere long before now or did she use handcuff to pin him down.

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heheheheheh. you must be a genius!!!!

the situation he finds himself is what happens to people who are not firm over issues in their life. both male & female alike. People like this also have to learn to live with the consequences of their lax attitude. He didn't have the balls during the 'dating' after 10 years of wasting time, including his own time, he now wants to break up. Hohohohoho, dat na laugh wey d villain  dey laugh 4 movies

if he can stick around for 10 yrs. I'm sure he can stick around for 35 more years. then after that, he is free to drop dead.

Somehow I don't buy the story that a girl will stay with a guy for 10yrs with no marriage proposal. she must be a member of dundee united club. wasting her years like that. For the guy, I mean come on. even in marriage, after 6yrs the "romantic love" is mostly gone. duh. What made you date for 10yrs and u expect yourself to still be in love?
And I certainly don't buy the "pity" thing on the guy's part. He seems comfortable enough to remain in the r/s for that long. There are many ways for a guy to leave a r/s but he choose not to. he just wants all the frills and benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. ie trying to eat his cake and have it.
definitely not pity. more like guilty conscience is now worrying him.
even if he goes on to marry a new girl he "loves" after 6 or so yrs. the love will fade. then what?

abeg, if he can do 10yrs, he can do 35 more jare.

sista Tpia, are you saying that he should starve to death (or se.xually starve) simply because he is in "captivity"?!

many women are in such desperate r/ship too, they get threaten etc so they are too scared to leave. is it right, no? but if it is acceptable for women, shouldnt it be also acceptable for us? or do you assume ALL men are strong like that?!

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The wahala people enter into in the name of having relationships.

Smh.

But actually, this type of thing is more common than most people know.

I've met a number of women who were dumped by their boyfriends after ten years of dating with no marriage.

Jeez, these guys should have a heart nah.

Dont string someone along for ten solid years.

The women too should keep it moving if no marriage proposal after two or three years. Because afterwards the guy will start telling all kinds of stories like this one.

MRbrownJAY:

sista Tpia, are you saying that he should starve to death (or se.xually starve) simply because he is in "captivity"?!

many women are in such desperate r/ship too, they get threaten etc so they are too scared to leave. is it right, no? but if it is acceptable for women, shouldnt it be also acceptable for us? or do you assume ALL men are strong like that?!

who is in captivity here- the man or the woman?

If they can manage,endure and pull through 10 years of "yes-no" dating they surely would enjoy atleast 20 years of marital bliss.

They both deserve and compliment each other. , a wussy guy and a sassy chic.lol

@poster are sure you are not disguising? Na you dey in dilema no be your friend cos me too dey in this type of dilema rt now. Mine is just six yrs. But when we started this girl is strait and portable but now she don fat and she con dey too short for my liking. But she better job and she get bastard money but me no love her anymore. And she keep saying; dem no born me well to go marry anoda lady dat she would kill me and kill herself. Now I don found my darling angel and i have engaged my new love within just one yr. The problem now is how to face her cos i no wan die. Pls advice me

^You lot are pathetic,wonder where they manufacture men like you.Twa!

You enjoyed her money,connection and kini for 6 solid years and now you wanna bail out?

Thank heavens you've got a fiery,sharp woman.Breath or try any kurukere moves and you are gone.

I can just picture you sneaking out and all shaky when you wanna go see your nwa baby. . .hahaha.You call yourself a man?

Carry your cross jejely biko.

^^^^He's an eediot. Saw his numerous posts and couldn't be bothered. He never jam. Useless eediotsss

tpia@:

who is in captivity here- the man or the woman?

well, let's see: ONE has enough of this union and wants to leave, while the OTHER wants to stay in this r/ship at all costs, even threatening other possible applicants.

but then again, reading how most of you women answered this thread, i now fully understand why this desperate damsel act the way she does. . . . . . . . .  and aint surprised as to why the society is as fukced up as it is.

Don't marry anyone out of PITY you will regret it and you won't be able to make her happy cos you don't love her. Make her understand now instead of making both of you unhappy for the rest of your life.
By the way it is not a good thing to date someone for so long when the love is not reciprocate. Your friend should have finish the relation earlier.
It's just my opinion

Elizadath:

@poster are sure you are not disguising? Na you dey in dilema no be your friend cos me too dey in this type of dilema rt now. Mine is just six yrs. But when we started this girl is strait and portable but now she don fat and she con dey too short for my liking. But she better job and she get bastard money but me no love her anymore. And she keep saying; dem no born me well to go marry anoda lady dat she would kill me and kill herself. Now I don found my darling angel and i have engaged my new love within just one yr. The problem now is how to face her cos i no wan die. Pls advice me

@ Elizadath no be me na ma friend. In your case though it's not yet 10 years. Let her go now before it's too late. I would also advice you to move from your place of residence, change your mobile number and unfriend her from facebook. Just up and disappear.

^^^
Y don't you give that advice to your friend??