Ok, I have been sitting here reading these posts for 2 days. My 50 cents,

What are you ppl so afraid of? That the native Nigerian, now In Greece, would actually want to return with his American wife? Who are you protecting? Certainly not Michele, most posts have been nothing but negative. Yourselves? Because you see a native Nigerian with an American?

What exactly is the problem here?
She is in love with a man, a native Nigerian, they have had a long distance relationship for 5 years. And you think she doesn't know him by now How many of you have actually conducted a long distance relationship? Do you know that when talk is all you have, when the "physical" aspect is removed, you learn all about the person. The sound of their voice on different occasions, the way they think, the way they feel. How they go that "extra" just to be with you?
Michele came here looking for advice, thinking she would get some from the very ppl she is coming to. What she got was bashed. What was the point of that?

The "white and fat" comment, whoa, that just reeks of insecurity. Now, tell me again, with the response she has gotten here, what kind of attitude does she now have regarding the Naija ppl?

I also am in love with a Nigerian man. We have had a long distance romance for 2 years. If you think for one minute that I do not KNOW my man, you need to think again. If you think for one minute that we have not spent COUNTLESS hours together, both online and via phone, you need to think again. We have spent holidays, birthdays, and every other special ocassion you can think of together, sharing our lives, on cam, with headsets, talking, laughing, loving, being a family. My kids adore him, they chat with him, they text him, he IM'S them. They know him and he knows them.

There is not a doubt in my mind that Michele has not done the same, and knows her man well.
She came here looking for advice, and got very little usable advice. She got attacked.

"Unmasking the vice of fraud?"
Don't think for one minute that she hasn't heard THAT a million times either. Do you really think a fraudster would spend 5 years of his life with her? He could get that easy, somewhere else.

Where is it written, in the big book of life, that because we are women, we are stupid? I am a lot of things, but I in no way am gullible. Make NO mistake, I am NO man's fool. Nor do I believe Michele is either.

Good luck Michele, you will do what your heart and your brain tells you, and do it for no one but yourself and your man.

I know there are going to be negative responses to this post. Quite honestly, I don't have time for replys, I have a life to lead, not bashing to be dealt with. Ya'll need to suck it up.

[/quote]I have to agree that Naija men have poor dress sense, they try to hard to copy the american style 'over-sized' clothes, but when the naija guys wear it, it just looks cheap. Not only this, but it is not good seeing a guy wearing tight jeans 

And its also not good seeing guys wear denim shirts, ewww!

ToH
sooo true sunglassess to cover up their jaundice red eyes.

However, when Naija men are wearing the native atire, damn do they look hottt![quote]

Are you Kidding me?
My guy wears native and western and looks sooo sexy turned out in both. "Tight jeans", we American women cannot deny a guy who can fill out a pair of tight jeans. Ditto for the denim shirts!
Sunshades, well, He looks damn sexy in all of it!

As an outsider looking in, this is all very confusing to me. I think I have the jist of things, but then you start throwing in
"curses", "this tribe blames that tribe", for what? Etc.

Can someone please tell me, in English, what all this madness is about? All I know for sure is, the love of my life is there. In PH, all he will tell me is he is safe, and that "the military is in control." That just today. He just doesn't want me to worry.

What I know is what I see in the news, and it doesn't comfort me.
Anyone?

Marcia