Koife, you just told my story. As I read yours, it strengthened my faith in God. There is nothing He can't do within a short period of time. However, I wonder why the loyal and good ones are the ones that got hurt most

[i][/i]my dear, tell them!
@ Op..... Don't ever consider separation and/or divorce as a solution to marital problem. Its like jumping from a frying pan to fire. The ability to withstand 1st to 5th year marital problems will give you both happiness and satisfaction that can never be rivalled. Instead of listening to all these advice above telling you to man up, look for a marriage counsellor that can use the Word of God as a guidance. If you can't, check on familylife.com, marriagetoday.com and read all the articles on marriage. Let your wife read them too cos her behavior is really getting out of hand. Get some books from a nairalander here known as SHOBAM. The books will help you enhance your character. Its good to remove the plank in your eyes 1st so as to see clear in removing the straw in your wife's eyes.
All in all, your problem is comical compared to real marital problems. If you are the type that lacks patience in fixing things with care, I'm sorry for you.

Gift7428:
Poster check yourself properly to see if its not you.
Maybe you are not doing something right.
How do you treat your wife?
I can see your wife has no faith in your marriage;just look at the savings issue and how she brags about it.
How you treat a woman matters.
I am talking from experience.
My first few years of my marriage were full of insults Blows flying up and down because of how my hubby treated me.I was a tiger .
8 years into the marriage we separated.
Somewhere along the line we reconciled and went for conuselling( Not a church).A proper certified psychologist.
We both realized we have been doing it wrong all along.
Thank God for us now.We are not perfect but we are better and stronger.

What am i saying?
Cant you find a way to provide help to your wife?
I can see she has anger issues and pride.She is only suffering from ignorance because she feels her ways are the best.I believe you saw other good virtues in her.

This seperation people talk about everywhere on social media, its not as easy as you think.Nigerians are talkers .
Why will you want to deprive a child of her mothers love.
Hear this very loud and clear, no woman on earth will love and care for your daughter more than her mother.
Take this to the bank.
When i left my hubby, most guys were only interested in me and not my daughter.The ones who accepted were all faking for the time being.
Please find a way to work through this phase.
Shalom

How so sad! What a life!!!
I missed that guy. Wanted to ask what happened to him.
Hunger bad is troublesome. I liked him
Very sarcastic... Yet I still like him
Show massive support for Buhari... And I love the loyalty and intelligence that emanates from him.
How mortal we are, like a dew that dissipate during the day. May almighty God comfort his family at this trying time. My deepest sympathy to his loved ones

The way the word 'divorce' is flying right left and centre from most commenters makes me wonder how our society ll be in the next 10yrs. Op, if I were you at this moment, all you need is to calm down first. With the way you are sounding, you may end up regretting your words in 3months time. Spouses are not material thing you can easily replace because of clusters of problems arising in a particular period. What both if you need now is a professional marriage counselor that will upbuild and help you make your marriage beautiful again. Stop ranting in nairlaland in order to get sympathies n to score cheap points. Children are gifts from God. Listen to the inner voice of reason and calm down. I ve seen so many people that have gone through this path you are following now, they ended up regretting on why they didn't work more on their first marriage. Most times they strongly wish to go back to their first spouse despite the alleged badness found in the wife. Both of you are so hurt in different level, however the high tension existing between you two is blinding you to the voice of reason n making you focus on the negative traits. Stop involving your parents and siblings. Your wife is your main family now, others are extended. Let Love, Commitment, Faithfulness, Closeness and Honesty be the watch words in your marriage. In 5yrs time, you guys ll look at this problem and laugh it off. You ll equally be satisfied and happy that you guys were able to stand against this trial. May God bless you and your wife and provide you with all your heart desires.