negozi, no hard feeling ohh, ignore yorisb
my statement was referring to yorisb not you

give me ur email i will email u.

check ur mail

hehehe yorisb
your picture alone scared the hell out of me.
even though i know thats a joke.

give me your email, i will email u

I LOVE SEA SIDE. {NIAGRA FALLS}
NATURE IS A GOOD WAY OF APPRECIATING LOVE.

IT DOES NOT MATTER WHERE U STAY,
ITS WHO YOU SHARE THAT MOMENT WITH,
IF U ARE MADLY INLOVE WITH SOME1, IT DOES NOT MATTER WHERE U GO,

YOU WILL BUTTERFLIES IN YOUR STOMACH
, HE WILL BLOW YOUR MIND AWAY
, ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS LAY BY HIM ALL NIGHT
, WITH LAUGHTER AND GIGGLES
, THEN IF HE PROPOSES, ITS AN A+

LOVE IS AMAZING, MERRY XMAS EVERY1
I WISH EVERY1 LOVE.

@ FREESIA: my dear i had to let go jare, not entirely because of my parents preference for igbo guys but also because we had so much differences and i couldn't hold on.
i know my parents want the best for me, so i will try and bring an igbo brother home, hopefully i find one whose accent isnt so annoying {lol}
BUT IF NOT, i know at the end of the day, they will come around and accept my choice.
so my dear, if u feel u love some1, hold on to them regardless of tribe,

DEEMAIN: from your response i can tel u are very mature. thanks btw for your response.

DeeMain:

Nnemdi, your response ''I'm feeling desperate, not that am acting desperate" struck a cord in me. This is not a diss. I'm serious.

My advice is: That feeling is a disaster in waiting. It's a time bomb. Kill that feeling. Take some time off for yourself. I usually call it ''project me''. Sort yourself out. Find urself, who u truly are, your beliefs, values, needs, temperament, behavioural patters, attitudes, goals, dreams, purpose. Then after u have done this. LOVE yourself. What I mean is: fill yourself with so much love that it overflows, diffuses, emits, from all over u. The word is ''Love urself die!" . Do affirmations, nfesstions and engage in coactivities that are in resonance with loving urself. Bottom line is : that feeling must vanish.

First of all, i love myself. i understand what it means to love your self before u can love any body else. one quick question for you, you dont think anyone can achieve all these by having a man or a woman by their side?
its ok to feel this way, majority of the response i got from females made me understand that its normal to feel a lil desperate some times especially when u are leaving that adolescent stage, that does not mean i let desperation cloud your sense of reasoning.


I have read your posts and I feel u are an intelligent and mature girl. But it takes more than that. Many good and intelligent men and women have made Richter scale shattering mistakes because of this little feeling of ''desperation''. The implication of the that ''little desperate feeling'' is dire. It means there is a void somewhere, which u can't place your hand on and which u need someone to fill. That's where d danger lies! In marriage, it's a no no! For marriage to work 1+1 =1. The meaning is that you must first be ''1'' . 1 is a whole number. That is: not needy, not desperate, whole. It's a synonym of the injunction : Love thy neighbour as thyself. Loving thyself is key. Love does not feel '' a little desperate'',

there is suppose to be a viod. its very normal. i cant possibly fill up every void i have in my heart. thats why even a man with all the money of this world cant be happy if he has no wife, children or love from family,
as a human being i crave happiness, i want to be able to fall in love with a man a build a family with him, thats a void money cannot buy, its a void "a families love" can not fill, its a void education can not buy either. its just very normal to feel this way as a human being.

I repeat: do '' project me'' achieve growth in other areas of your life, achieve other goals while u are at it. Grow in confidence and love. Then u will be ready. U will see more clearly and your decisions on your Mr RIGHT will be more like it and the likelihood of heartache in marriage itself will have been minimized.
but thanks, i will try the whole "project me thing", every advise i can get is worth a try. thanks



















Only when that feeling has vanished can u conclude that you are ready for marriage. Only when u have enough of love on your inside to give out will u say u are ready for marriaage!.

CHAI SAGAMITE, U MAKE ME LOOK SO BAD ,
BUT U ARE RIGHT THO

STEVE DNT WORRY, I WILL EMAIL U

claremont, when i said i wanted a christian man i meant some1 who believes in the same faith as me.
IS THERE ANYTHING bad in wanting to marry some1 WHO shares your religion, its just my personal choice.

i am not looking for a "praise the LORD hallelujah kind of man"
COS I KNOW THAT SO MANY MEN IN CHURCH ARE WOLFS IN SHEEP CLOTHING
I AM NOT HUSBAND HUNTING FOR MEN IN CHURCH.
IT DOES NOT MATTER WHERE I MEET HIM BUT HE HAS TO SHARE MY RELIGION AND FAITH, IT JUST MAKES IT EASIER WHEN WE ARE HAVING KIDS, SO WE BRING THEM UP UNDER ONE BELIEVE/RELIGION.
I KNOW religion has nothing to do with relationshipS BUT IT MAKES IT EASIER TO KNOW THAT SOME1 SHARES IN YOUR FAITH.

@SAGAMITE, LMAOO, I AM REALLY NOT DOING SHAKARA, I'M SURE STEVE IS AN AMAZING GUY , BUT,
I JUST HAVE NEVER MET SOME1 ONLINE BEFORE, THE IDEA OF ONLINE DATING OR MEETING SOME1 ONLINE SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME

freesia,

are u referring to the thread i made a while back?
about yoruba vs igbo?
jst wanted to be sure before i give u my honest response

no i'm not

steve na wa ohh. ;d ;d ;d ;d ;d

MR TPIA@
I DO HAVE MY WEAKNESS AS WELL, ONE OF THEM IS NOT "DESPERATION."
MY RESPONSE WAS MADE TO THOSE PEOPLE WHO THOUGHT I PLAYED OUT MY DESPERATION TO MEN ON THE STREET.
ITS HOW I FEEL INSIDE, I HAVE NOTHING TO BE DESPERATE ABOUT.

BUT IN MY DEFENSE, I DO HAVE FAULTS, ALOT OF FAULTS ACTUALLY, EVERY1 DOES,
AND WHEN I MEET MEN I DONT PRETEND TO BE WHO I AM NOT.
I'M NOT THAT TYPICAL GIRL THAT STARTS OUT BY PLAYING THE "I AM A SHY GIRL GAME" AND THEN HER TRUE COLOUR COMES OUT EVENTUALLY
I AM REAL TO A FAULT, I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO FAKE IT,
BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, I AM NOT SEARCHING FOR MR PERFECT, JUST SEARCHING FOR MR RIGHT.

THNAKS ALL THE SAME.

to every one who gave me an honest response, thank u so much. i needed to hear that.

and just to address some general point,
when i said i was desperate, its just a feeling i have inside,
it does not mean i go around showing the whole world my desperation,
i only wanted to know if its normal to feel this way, cos i never feel desperate, i am a very confident woman. i am smart, beautiful, career minded, fit, an amazing cook{especially okazi and affang }, a lover of Jesus christ and above all i come from an amazing family,
i'm not that insecure girl that needs a man to supply all my needs according to his riches in his bank account.  even though he has to be very comfortable, when i say he has to be comfortable and career minded, i am not being selfish, he just has to be able to provide for the children he brings into the world, not for me.

ALSO, when i say my family pressures me into finding a man, they are not forcing me into some arranged marriage crap
my both parents are very educated and they are still pursing education even at their old age.
their theory: they believe that anyone can achieve all their goals in life even if they have a husband. having a wife or a husband does and should not limit you.

when i said western culture, i meant the rate of divorce; how women always want to act like the boss, and how most people dnt understand the value of family and marriage.
call me stupid but i dnt believe in divorce. even though i want to achieve every educational height in this world, i still believe the man should be the head of the family.
that how my bible says it should be.
ALSO,i think if two people love themselves enough to commit to marriage, they should be able to back their union up with prayers, understanding, sacrifice and lots and lots of patience
you just dnt meet some1 for two weeks and marry him/her.
its just common self

@ chillbabe, i have nothing to say to you, but remember this: AFRICAN WOMEN ALSO WORK VERY HARD FOR OUR FAMILY, AND WE PUT IN AS MUCH AS WE CAN FINANCIALLY TOWARDS THE FAMILY WELL BEING. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN US IS THIS : WE DON'T BRING OUR MEN DOWN AND MAKE THEM FEEL SMALL AND LESS A MAN. WE HELP THEM, SUPPORT THEM , LOVE THEM AND STILL LET THEM BE THE MAN.
BUT HEY, YOU ARE ENTITLED TO YOUR OPINION, SO NO OFFENSE TAKEN.

ALSO, TO ALL THOSE CRITICIZING THE FACT I SAID I AM A CHRISTIAN, GO AHEAD AND MAKE YOURSELVES HAPPY,
THE FACT THAT I SAID I AM A CHRISTIAN DOES NOT MEAN I HAVE NEVER SINNED AGAINST GOD OR MADE MISTAKES IN MY LIFE.
I JUST THINK YA'LL ARE IGNORANT SO I AM JUST GOING TO IGNORE YOU.

thanks for your honest opinion.
i just wanted some1 to tell me i am not crazy. lol
it feels so good to know that some1 feels the same way too

i live in a small town so i haven't really met alot of people.
so u might be right, there are good Christians in Canada, i just haven't found them.

i think i am desperate mostly because of the fact dt i hvnt found any suitor that meets my criteria. of course family pressure nd friends getting married adds to it. thnks evry1 for ur honest response.

even though i dont voice it out loud, within my heart i have this desperation to find a husband.
i dont know why i feel this way. atimes i feel i am weird to feel this desperate,
i just want some1 to tell me this is absolutely normal
for the major part of my life, i have been focused on school, now i am almost rounding up, i beginning to feel this pressure to be married.
i am still very young but i feel so mature inside. i have had a few bfs in my life but now i want something more serious. i want commitment, i want love, i want a family.
coming from a typical igbo family, marrying young is something the family is excited about
my family is constantly reminding me of my single status and how they would love to have a son inlaw
it might sound a bit strange but 75% of my friends are married.
sometimes i feel so jealous. my youngest friend just turned 20 and is married as-well and heavily pregnant.

i have been in Canada for a couple of years and finding a husband here has not exactly been easy. or should i say finding a man that meets my criteria is very hard.
its hard to find true christian men, men that are comfortable and serious with life, family oriented men and men that would love me no matter the situation. the western culture has clouded our believe so much that no one ever really marries for the sake of love.

i love "LOVE", i breath love, i think love is so beautiful and i would never want to settle
but with the pressure from family and most of my friends being married i feel the urge to want to settle down.
i'm just 23 years old, is this feeling normal?
i feel so mature inside and sometimes i feel the need to hang out with people who are not within my age group.

i am not a desperate girl, i know my worth and i know some day the right man would come.
so how do i quench this feeling?
is there anyone out there in my shoes?

I'M IN A VERY HORRIFYING SITUATION.
I'M AN IGBO GIRL {ABIA} BUT FOR SOME REASONS I'M ATTRACTED TO YORUBA MEN.
INFACT I COULD GO FOR ANY TRIBE EXCEPT IGBO.
DONT GET ME WRONG, I DO LOVE MY IGBO BROTHERS, BUT I JUST DONT SEE ANYTHING ATTRACTING ME TO THEM.
THE MOMENT A GUY TELLS ME HE IS IGBO, I LOSE INTEREST.
I DO HAVE THIS STEREOTYPICAL REPRESENTATION OF IGBO MEN IN MY HEAD AND IT JUST PUTS ME OFF,

MY FATHER HATES THE "TRIBE YORUBA", HE HAS TOLD ME ON DIFFERENT OCCASIONS NEVER TO BRING HOME A YORUBA MAN.
MY FATHER IS A GOOD MAN, AND HE HAS HIS REASONS; HIS TWO SISTERS WERE MARRIED TO YORUBA MEN AND THEY WERE NOT TREATED RIGHT.
MY COUSIN GOT MARRIED TO SOME YORUBA MAN FROM CANADA 4 YEARS AGO,
AFTER THE WEDDING, HE STAYED WITH HER IN NIGERIA FOR A MONTH, AFTER WHICH HE LEFT FOR CANADA. WELL BOTTOM LINE IS HE NEVER RETURNED TO HIS WIFE, AND UNFORTUNATELY FOR HER, SHE WAS PREGNANT AND NOW HAS A SET OF TWIN {BOYS} BUT NO FATHER.

WHEN my Dad FOUND OUT THAT MY LAST BF OF FOUR YEARS WAS YORUBA, HE TALKED AND TALKED AND TALKED
FRUSTRATION DROVE ME TO BREAKING UP WITH HIM.

AFTER TWO YEARS OF SEARCHING FOR THE PERFECT IGBO GUY, I MET AN AWESOME YORUBA GUY "again" lol
HE IS THE SWEETEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME
HE MAKES ME HAPPY IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE AND "YES" I DO LOVE HIM
RECENTLY HE HAS BEEN TALKING ABOUT RINGS,  ASKING ME WHAT TYPE OF RING I like, TAKING ME TO JEWLERY STORES TO LOOK AROUND,  I SUSPECT A PROPOSAL


BUT I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE THE LOVE OF MY FAMILY
AND AT THE SAME TIME I DO LOVE THIS GUY,,,
I CANT SIT AROUND WAITING FOR THE PERFECT IGBO GUY

i need some advise

ps:and please i do love every tribe,
and so does my dad,
but i am just not attracted to igbo men