₦airaland Forum

2c- i confess take da cell phone off voice mail
i confess u just flattering me
i confess i know they are not so good
i confess i know u just found out am so ugly

queenzy - i confess ill love to know who ur boo is

@queenzy - i confess i was about to log out
                   i confess i may stay a little longer
                   i confess its because 2c is here
                   i confess am wondering if a bride price is paid in australia
                   i confess i worked in calabar for some time
                   i confess i really had i nice time in calabar

i confess my sunshine is now online,
i confess its nice to see u here,
i confess pic in ur box,
i confess my heart is beating fast,
i confess 2c wellcome

White garments, no shoes,praying at the beaches and on top of hills, ive also seen a cele male pastor baptizing stark naked lovely bodied adolecent girls at the bar beah in lagos - u telling me the PASTOR - was not thinking what i was thinking, looking at the lovely naked bodies of those stiupid girls??

there are lots of cele prophets,lots of them, u think all those many, many cele prophets are real, ??, not fake, ??

i saw a 9 pm news documentry of a cele prophetess who burnt the palms of a young girl ( about 10 years old), the palms were very badly burnt on a kerosine stove - she was trying to make the girl confess to being a witch.

the cele way of doing things is too ritualistic

very, very wierd

id like to say i think the celestial church of christ is a wierd - very wierd church
id like to say hi to my hitman - GREED. -

ok, will go check

2QUEENZY,
I confess am using a work place computer/network,
i confess instant messaging is blocked to stop people staying online for too long,

queenzy,
i confess its nice to see u here
i confess i asked u a question and u didnt reply,

@ Shanon.

Am yoruba

Ask him to tell u the kind of people his parents are, and thier expectations of a daughter in law.Dads and mums have different personalities, and have different degrees of openess and acceptance, which of them is more open and accepting by nature . Ask him

Ask him if he has told them frankly that u are white American - and what / how did they feel

Being yoruba, ill tell u his parents may be just as apprehensive as u are.Reasons, ?? - yoruba women like to have a very very close relationship with daughter in laws. in fact yoruba women consider a daughter in law , to be her own daughter - she will be wondering how both of u can click being from differnt cultures .

Be freindly, try to make break the ice, make them relax, show u are nice warm and freindly - BE AS RESPECTFUL AS POSSIBLE WITHOUT BEING STIUPID OR SUBSERVIENT.

Be urself

My younger brother is Nigerian American.he is married to an African American - my parents, especially mum was very apprehensive - her reason was simply - how am i going to get along and make freinds with an American, ?? how will she be like my daughter, ??.

They did are getting along and are good freinds - however ill give u funny examples of some sources of tension between them

(a) She complains that her daughter in law calls her mrs( her maidien name) - instead of mummy like the other Nigerian wives of her other sons - advice - dont do what u wont feel comfortable with call her what u think is most appropriate, comfortable for u and u deem respectful enough

(b) her daughter in law has not grasped, understood and accepted the extended family system way of life of Africans - u should expect , visits and to host ur inlaws , and relatives often - they simply expect u to be nice , accepting and accomodating - my mum sensed that her daughter in law did not like her coming often to thier home in the US - her feeling was HOW CAN SHE NOT WANT ME TO VISIT MY SON IN HIS HOUSE, .

(C) The socio-economic background of his family is an important factor to help u judge certain things - is he from a rich, average or poor Nigerian background ?? - this will dictate if he is - a major breadwinner for immediate and extended family and therefore also cloud how u will be percieved - a future barrier towards contact with thier son - if they are a comfortable family - thet will percieve u as less of a threat
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GENERALLY JUST ASK HIM THOSE QUESTIONS, BE RESPECTFUL, FREINDLY ,WARM, FLEXIBLE AND READY TO BE SLIGHTLY AFRICAN IN NATURE, LEARN QUICK FROM HIM YORUBA EXPECTATIONS FROM A DAUGHTER IN LAW. -

chinani:
I think it's all about pride. At the Uni I go to (down in the dirty!) most African and Nigerian brothers refuse to say the "n" word and definitly not in the company of African ladies! We also promote our culture and pride in our culture. It's to the point that boys who want to holla try to come up and greet me in Yoruba! I'm not Yoruba, but it makes me smile. Then they'll be like "Dang, you must be Igbo or Edo or something. Shoulda known, shoulda known", etc etc We hold it down w/ our ASA and other groups. Some Nigerian entrepenuers/peers even make clothes. I have a hat that says "NAIJA", shirt that says "NIGERIAN. AMERICAN." and the newest slightly controversial shirt that reads "I AM NOT AN AKATA".

In this shirt the non-offensive meaning of word Akata is meant. Akata = Black American not thug or ghetto. When people ask we're like, "I'm Nigerian, this shirt speaks for me" etc. Now akata people wear the shirt and they're like "Well some slaves came from Nigeria, so I can be Nigerian too, right?" And we're like, "Right! Everyone's invited!"

Chinani, u make me laugh !!!, yeah everyone is invited after all many AKATAS have Nigerian ancestors, lol, nice talk chinani, good to know u guys are proud of our Naija and show it

Greed i understand how u feel - just try to educate them - remind them if a wht person called them a "n" - it doesnt sound funny, so y do they call themselves niggers, ??.Ill tell u some thing i noticed, using the n word is kind of a freindly familiar way of two blk young people talking to one another, but that word makes me sick .

An African american who is a role model to me let me down so much, when he said it is in the culture of Nigerians to be corrupt, !!!! ( General colin powel) even if its true i dont think its right to say bad things about ur people in public- and i felt we are all one people - Africans and Afro americas.

I feel u GREED, i understand ur anger and frustrations, i love my race with a deep pride, and desperately feel pain at the problems of the blk race - to see some Afro americans behave the way u say will make me so sad

Greed - i feel sad when i hear of african americans making fun of Africa - one big problem is they have been made to feel ashamed of thier Africaness from the days of slavery - slaves were made to feel that being african is synonimouus with being primitive - Sooooo many tried to distance themseleves from thier african origins. But there was a re awakening of pride in thier african origins in the 70s.However , lets call a spade a spade- has Africa offered these blacks in dispora anything to be proud of, ?? - its always talk of poverty,disease,bad governance,coups,currouption, faminewars etc,

a nairaland party sounds like a good idea

i confess its nice to know 2c is here

basharu:
mr.nubian, remember u are discussing about religion here and this are issues that deserve mutual understandig so u please b considerate in your choice of words.most of all this crisis we have been having previously arent religious totally.people wiz intrinsic ideas wait 4 d relevant situations,when tension is high in d society they strike and when its high d world sees it as religious(islamic) crisis.These people can b muslims or nonmuslims and do not care who may b affected,even if its dia relations.so this issue you are talking about should not be blamed on muslims alone.often times, your so called applauded christian members cause d problem.


Internationally as u have cited Ben Ladens statement as a national threat here,what would b your comment about Americas occupation in Afghanistan,Iraq and sopme happenings around d world.please b fair as a decent human bieng.

I sense agression , u could bearly hide the anger in u .There is hot volcanic anger simmering under all u have said - this again is the usual pattern with islam - a violent reaction to any critism.

U also showed a poor understanding of the issues i raised - or are u saying it is non muslims who are giving islam a bad image, ? . my so called applauded cristians are the ones causing the problem, ??( thats what u said), NA wa o , !!!!!.

Did u read and digest my thread well, ?, did u understand it,

As for the American occupation of Afganistan , Iraq and other happenings - this is my comment - our muslim brothers in Nigeria can go ahead and kill more Nigerian christians because the Americans have invaded Iraq and Afganistan ,after all its now a normal thing for them to find an excuse to massacre christians who live in the North at least once every six months.

sircool147:
Nubile Nobility

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Ill like to say Rhodalyn and 2c - make my ribs crack with laughter - thier jist about BANANAS,is real funny
ill like to know if Rhodalyn still hasnt FELT kens BANANA.
2c wants a banana - - i wish i wasclose by

nubian:
2c - who or what is confusing u,

2c - is it what i think is confusing u, that is really confusing u, ??- sweetheart ill talk with u about this later today

i confess i enjoy teasing Rhodalyn

2cantango:
I'd like to see and end to abortions

ill like to know if 2c always prctices safe sex - so she wont ever get knocked up by mistake and need an abortion

nicetohave:
nubbylovesbigbananas

is niceto have male or female, ??

2cantango:
I confess I am confused about someone/something

2c - who or what is confusing u,

- ok Rhoda if u say so,

Rhodalyn:
i know who that person is, is 2c init why don't you just tell come on go ahead
i aint ever felt his banana nubiano

Rhoda, u are my sister, i care about my little sis , so much, pls try and "FEEL'' HIS BANANA, tell ur big brother if its a BIG BANANA, so i can know what my sister will go through next year at 19.Besides i dont blive u have never felt his BANANA b4, u guys never smoosch,