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Hello all... I'm a starlight in kwasu. If you are coming into economics dept, you can ask me any questions here.

quote author=CHARLYX9 post=35298361]i am telling you the fact and you are saying that am wishing you what if you can read from the beginning of the thread(1-58) you would see alota people saying that they are suffering from depression,schrizophenia,SAD,MD(mental disorder).continue bunch of hypocrites[/quote]

CHARLYX9:
awon chronic masturbators continue guys i promise you some of you would die of depression while some of heart attack and while some will suffer SAD,Schrizophonia,MD continue happy introverts

Wow!

Do not wish for others what you do not wish for yourself.

And thank you for the advice...

Has anyone read: How to read a book by Mortimer Adler or The Well Educated Mind by Susan Bauer?

On it...

You always like to spend time alone as you prefer to focus on your inner world. People may think your living style is boring but actually you enjoy yourself so much. You may not be shy, but you think having a few best friends is better than having a bunch of Facebook friends.

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Olarewajub:
what you wrote is quite conflicting with the information on BBC in respect to the Somalia war http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-14094503

Getting back might be a good idea. I have been so busy I find it difficult to update the diary...

And thanks for viewing...

Olarewajub:
Please continue what i just liked @ nurd

I haven't seen the like. Maybe you point that part out so I continue...

Meanwhile, blublahd has raised a vital issue. I think the discussion here should be multifaceted. Let's talk about books, current event in the world, particularly nigeria, work, education etc., to make this lounge more educative.

At this stage, we all know this is a gathering of introverts, so let's expand the scope of things we discuss.

Disneyboy:
can I join u

Ur welcome... lotta space to accommodate u...

Hello everyone.

Hope ur all enjoying your weekend. I plan to dedicate this weekend to reading. Probably some classics I've been wanting to read for some time.

iamayodeji:
Lemme start from your signature...Lol..
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Susan Cain is my female hero..she opened my eyes to a lot of mystery about the introvert world.
are you new on this thread? if yes, welcome home.

I have read that book like two times and still plan to re-read it. The part that gets me every time I read it is where Introverts are forced to develop and exhibit extrovert characteristics. One thing I hate and I'm still trying to hate it more is small talk. It just wastes my time and make me feel empty. And that is mostly what extroverted people want almost all the time. Such shame.

MarilynNash:
Good afternoon everybody, I have a little problem. I recently stumbled on an article on Social Anxiety Disorder, I know I'm an Introvert but I exhibit some SAD symptoms highlighted on the article like excess sweating, trembling, stammering e.t.c when I walk around school and when I'm with people I don't know, I thought it was normal Introversion stuff until that article and I'm worried because the effects of SAD are frightening, so I'd like to hear from other Introverts who may have this disorder. Shout out to abel14 and Bidexluv.

Sweating, trembling and particularly stammering does not really translate to having SAD. Maybe you are reading too much into the article and your own experiences. Sometimes when you worry about some things, you tend to read into other things that have a link to those things.

I do stammer and sometimes tremble when I'm talking with people, but I'm very normal. It happens a lot when I'm with strangers. What I do is to sit down, take a deep breath and stay in a relaxed state for a minute or two. After that, I'm back to normal. You can try that too. Just try to be yourself anytime you find yourself in such situation.

You should only worry if these things distrupt your daily activities or if they prevent you from achieving your goals.

[quote aauthor=angieberry post=35073688]Hello wallflowers,
So, I have a brief question. Does it ever happen to you that sometimes you don't feel like talking to anyone, you don't take calls, you don't reply messages, you just ignore everyone? I go through this phase sometimes, but it never lasts as long as I'm having it now. This is the seventh day.
I'm not depressed or sad or anything, but the thought of actually talking to someone irritates me or seems like a chore. I know it's a bad habit as people may have been trying to reach me to no avail but I can't just help it. Does anyone else experience this? How do I break this habit? Does it have anything to do with being a recluse?

Olarewajub can you answer?[/quote]i think this sometimes happen do to an event that has happened in the the past. i sometimes experience this. when im hurt by someone, i just try to break away from ppl for sometime. i think MOST introvert dont have the strength to hurt ppl, so when they are hurt, they try to withdraw from ppl.

however, since u stated that ur not sad or anything, it means u just chose be in that state. since its a thing of the mind, i advice you take action everytime you experience this.

just pick up your phone, call ur mum or dad or brother or sister, and tell them u have missed them. just brace up and reply those messages and cheer. thank God u know its a bad habit . so break it by reply those messages, calls, talk to ur family. JUST DO IT

My opinion...

hemor:
Is there anyone who has been able to overcome problem of maintaining conversation for long and stage fright? It'd be nice if you share how you were able to overcome that.


I think this should extend to every other common issues like being shy e.t.c. Instead of just sharing our problems we should also help ourselves overcome it. If the Op can rename the thread to Introverts support group I think that'd be better what do you guys think?

Practice is the best way to conqueur stage fright. try to create a situation where you can talk in front of people. your friends can help you in this. you can start with two of them and then move on. let me share two examples with you:

1. i had stage fright when i was in 100lv in school. fortunately, i was made classrep of a large course (ecn 101) and there are about five departments offering the course. every time i need to announce something, i will just climb the podium (despite being afraid to the point of shaking) and make the announcement with a shaky voice, and even sweating. i do this while face hundreds of faces, although ALWAYS SWEATING. I MAKE SURE I DO THIS WITH AS MUCH CONVIDENCE I CAN GATHER. However, with time and constant practice, i can not only face the crowd and talk, i can also deliver a tutorial to crowd. if you read QUIET by Susan Cain, you will find the same pattern.

2. last semester, i did a course and the lecture gave a group of us a topic to research and present. i was the leader of my group and was asked to present. what i did: when the doc to present was ready, i took home a copy and read it severally. when i got back to school, i asked my group to gather so presented to them twice or so. later, i presente to my close friends at the hostel and again at school. the result: i made a superb presentation on the DDAY.

MORAL: make sure u are well prepared (be very familiar with the topic you want to dicuss) and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, AND PRACTICE ONCE MORE

Hi all,

I think it's good being able to express myself freely here.

I remember my first experience at being an introvert: I was taken to a party when I was very young. At the end of the party, all members of my family were taking pics together and I was called to join. I just hid in one corner just staring blankly at them and refused to join them until it is time to go home. I hate parties (except if it is family party) as much as I hate taking pics.

I also remember the first time I presented in my class. Contrary to what I have read here, I actually wow the whole class taking applauds intermitently as I move on. I think being able to sit alone and plan, practice endlessly is part of what helped me.

I also enjoy the curious looks I get from people. They are probably wondering what I'm thinking... :p

im in

It is a shame this mosque in my area will pray today (about now). I wont pray with them though. I will have to wait on the Sultan's announcement.

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Chylo:
Hi Matthew, you should be searching for articles regarding the effect of Nigeria's "Land Tenure System" on the efficiency of the economy. Maybe start by describing the land use act and then demonstrate why it may not be the best (sub-optimal). Also, consider looking into possibilities of "Land Reform" and how a modification or reform can improve the efficiency of the economy.
Remember that as an economist, the efficiency of an economy would be measured by the ability of all markets to clear i.e. that demand balances out supply in all markets, among other things. Do a little research and you should be fine. Cheers.

Is it advisable to do an M.sc in Economics after a B.sc in Economics?

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tbaba1234:
Having committee in mosques is for the purpose of organising events and consultations. There is nothing wrong with it.

As regards the suspension, the man was relieved of duties for hitting a person in the mosque showing disregard for Allah Himself. If he was given a duty in the mosque to perform, he can certainly be relieved of it. Imams can be fired a well if they stump to such lows.

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with what has been done. They have not stopped him from coming to the mosque just from giving lectures as a result of indiscipline.

Thank you for the prompt reply. I appreciate that.

In the early hours of yesterday, after Subh prayer, a scholar (alfa) was suspended in the Mosque. He was relieved of his duty in the mosque (i.e., giving lectures). I sat there quietly and listened as to why he was served the ban. Apparently, He had slapped another person the night before right in the mosque.

This is not the first time I have witnessed suspention being dished out in this same Mosque. And to top it, the suspention verdict was placed by a committee. Note that this committee is permanent and perform other functions too.

Now my questions are:

Is it permitted under Shari'a to suspend someone in the mosque?

Also, is it Islamical to set up a committee in the mosque, irrespective of functions?

DanjaNinja:
Pls check ur spam folder. Anyway, i manually forwarded it to you.

i sent u a blank mail. Waiting patiently

@OP

* The two of you should avoid sleeping on the same bed. Since she wants to stay for clearance, I suppose she won't stay long. You just endure for a few days.

* Tell her not to dress provocatively.

* Try be matured every time your in the house with her.

1. Adoring Boyfriend
This kind of boyfriend is extremely caring. Ladies generally feel blessed for having such a guy. This guy takes good care of his lady, adore her, and try to please her in every way. Ladies, if your boyfriends normally enchant you with sweet words and still goes on to prove it in his action - by doing what's mentioned above - then he falls in this category.

2. Mugu/Maga Boyfriends
God save these guys from runs-girls. These guys can sell their father's land to please a lady. No wonder ladies like to rush them like hot shoprite bread (abi na lie?). I think some romancelanders fall in this category considering the number of threads that has been created on this issue

3. The Serial Cheaters
These guys sabi perform film-trick on several chicks in a row. They are very talented in this matter. Some of them are players and it is very difficult to detect them. Many have suffered from their spell.

4. The Jealous Ones
Some guys are not normal. Once they start dating a girl, they start acting like their dad, haba... Ladies, if your guy fall in this category, hmm, shm for you. If your going out, you must register. If someone call you, he must know who is calling.

5. Hit and Run Boyfriends
I like these guys. Very sharp. And smart too. At least they are better than the serial cheaters. They have very tasty throat and need to taste fresh meat every now and then. Girls fear them ehn, especially during this time of surplus women.

6. Broke Niqas
They curse the government and blame others for their predicament. Worst still, many of them are very agressive. But there is a positive side to them: they are very patient. They are good story tellers too. E.g., shey u no say nobody knows tomao, i can be d dangote of tomao, ya know.

7. Rich Niqas
Ladies, they can spoil you with gifts (and the much needed recharge cards). Even better if he is adoring and simple. He becomes irresistible.

8. Not Ready for Marriage Boyfriends
"I'm not ready now, let's wait till..." is a typical response. If you like pester them with marriage till tomorrow, you will always hit a wall. Dem no send u.

Oya ladies, where your boyfriend fall?

Evina:
Wonderful post.

In addendum:

Respond to posts and not monikers: some people are just too immature to be allowed access to a social forum. You see a post you disagree with, instead of stating your disagreement logically, they attack the poster, store the moniker behind that post, hold a grudge and stalk the moniker. LOL.

You know them, when they suddenly attack you when you make a contribution in any thread. They will not contribute to the thread but make you their contribution. LOL.

nice one

I have written this just for fun. I didn't set out to gall anybody. If however, you are hurt by any of the points below, quietly swallow it with pinch of salt.

Without further ado, let's begin:

1. Post Meaningful Comments
The amount of absurd comments on Nairaland is overwhelming. It has become the habit of some Nairalanders to make unnecessary comments on innocent threads. E.g., do the needful... Who is doing the needful, hun? Kk... We know that already. If you don't have anything useful to say, just view. Simple.

2. Love Your Fellow Nairalanders
When I say love, I mean, don't hate. Many threads abound where haters spew derogatory remarks at the poster. Even if a poster really needs help and asks a simple question, some vacuous people will still bash the poster. Start acting responsible.

3. Share Meaningful Posts
This simple act of Nairalanders has helped a lot of Nairalanders. If you see a post that can help your fellow Nairalanders, please share it. This is even more applicable to the Job/Vacancy and Career sections.

4. Try Read Longer Posts
Although, some people prefer to read short posts-mainly for fun and leisure-it is far better to read longer posts. I may be wrong but I know the benefit of the latter far outweighs the former. It widens your knowledge, vocab, and comprehension power. Try it today.

5. Write Legibly
Why do some people write in shorthand that makes it difficult for others to comprehend their posts? Am not condemning shorthand per se, but try to make it readable. No be by force to write in shorthand na . E.g. Sm ppl cn rite dis way n espet ppl 2 undstd what dey wrote.

6. Make Constructive Criticism
Some Nairalanders have won a slew of throphies for their habit of derailing and throwing insults on threads. This is very annoying. If you no get better thing to say, just siddon for one corner dey look. If u dey this group and u no wan stop, we go soon invent e-slappers. Just wait.

7. Use Nairaland Effectively
Nairaland is a blessing in disguise. Kudos to oga Seun. Although some people have totally missed the point. Fun, education, entertainment, information, current events, etc., you can enjoy all these and more on Nairaland. Don't limit yourself to only a section, explore others too.

8. Use The Search Box
If you have a question in mind, why not use the search box before creating another thread. You might be surprised by the wealth of information that is already on old threads. If you have not use it before, try it now.

This is just for fun. Add yours if you don't see it here.

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