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ahnie:
Hahaha,same thing happen'ed to me.i had high hope of havin a baby boy.i was so obsessed with it.i bought male clothes,had to restrategized after delivery and starts buyin female clothes.

. Please dear, in which month can I confirm the sex of my baby. I want to start buying pino pino. Am so excited!

Congrats ahnie. I hope you're enjoying motherhood. I pray and believe mine will be safe and successful like hebrew woman. Though am carrying 2016 baby lol. I give God all the Glory

Sarcastic

Babymama, you talked about marrying a wealth man if you're still in the market. I don't think is a good statement been that you married the man you love and also many young girls in this forum look up to you; They might not understand it that you might be scastic and is misleading. Just saying.

Ahnie dear, God shall do it for you. You shall deliver like hebrew women IJN. Doc thanks for all the advice you rendered. Expect my own question but I no it shall be for good am still in my first trimester.

Floodgater:
@ eagleeye2 the truth is, like you no one person have all the answers as a lot of factors can be involued. The reason one should not hold certain opinions too strongly. In regard to your questions, the fact is the kind of inlaws painted above wont offer any tangible help in such trouble times. The leopard cant just change its spot. So such a woman should prepare herself on how to survive without them should such a situation occur as the inlaws have proven beyound doubts that they are no support to lean on. Yes care should be taken, but the 'face front' stand should be obvious for all to see and know their boundaries else those inlaws wont know your yea or no and the wives might not be able to assert their positions some of such times. The fear of what might happen tommorrow may make one not to enjoy today and a lot of preventable shyte can happen between today and that tommorrow that might not come. Funny enough some of the victim Dil today will become tommorrow's monster-in-law. I dont think it has to do with bad marriage circle and the likes. A lady who can not accomodate or tolerate with love another lady outside her family circle will easily make a bad Mil. I began with some opinions should not be held strongly, some Dil here who want to make a good Mil tommorrow may become bad Mil if they end up with a very bad Dil (tommorrow is packed with uncertainties). Not too long ago on this thread a lady was chastize for her good motive gone sour cos she and her family already prepared 'too' strongly to love their Sil to be only to feel disappointed when Sil did not accept the love way they anticipated (making Sil bad). Time would have made her and the Sil to be understand each other on how they give and take love, things respectively as their backgrounds differ. My point is she had good motives which she didnt even know when it started turning bad cos she held too strongly her opinion on how give and take love should be. This latter part of my post is looking at the issue from another angle.

. I love you post. So unbiased.

Dear Santa my Christmas wish is to concieve twins; that has always been my wish and I believe it shall come to pass IJN. 2ndly, is to get a good paying job I don tire for all this one man business Amen. 3rdly, for all my single friends to locate their own husband and also for my brother to locate his God chosen wife.4thly, for all my friends,relations and colleagues seeking for the fruit of the womb be surprised with double babies come 2015 ome go oh.

Rhukie:
@nwababy, if I was your brother's fiance you would complain till thy kingdom come and I won't change. what you termed love and acceptance I see it as imposition of thoughts of what you think is right.

I dated my husband (if registry will count as a wedding) for years and I never for once liked any form of familiarity with them, rarely attend his family function and when I do, you will not find me till in am about to leave for my house. food sef I no go chop before they will say she didn't do anything but knows how to eat.

why should she help you pick money at an event when your younger siblings were present? and don't you think she was trying to avoid an embarrassment from people who don't know who she is while picking the money. and why should you make such statement about her family, when you know nobody likes their family to be bad mouthed and I am sure if the situation had turned around and your brother told you his fiance said what you told her, you may react worse than she did.

there are so many loopholes in your narration and what you termed love actually seem like a controlling and overwhelming act.

. I don't know why some people will not digest or at most tried and read what is written before you drive to conclusion please quote where I said she should help us to pick money. If you don't know what to say, is not a must to comment.

Accept my condolence ego, and may His soul continue to rest.

+ I was the maid of honor so was even busy. Was it not the look out I tried and she ignored me? We all agreed that we want our brother to be happy and also marry the girl he loves. And then what happened now? My brother is broken cos is clear that the girl didn't love him as much as he does. Am just pained and feel for my brother cos we know he loves her. My dad recently adviced my brother to move on with his life since the girl didn't even try convincing her people. Nne, the girl is not pregnant. We were even saying that if the girl really loved my brother as she claimed she would have taken in. Abeg I don tire for the matter

@ Chaircover please try and digest what I wrote. I think I have tried my best explaining. Am not perfect either. Did you read my explanation on how I called her severally to enter a car cos she didn't notice there's no chance and she totally ignored me or are you trying to be biased. She's of the same age with my kid sister and we loved her when he brought her home(we even taught her my brothers best food so I don't understand your assumption) Biko am still going to have a sister inlaw if I wished or treated her bad, I believe in Karma. I believed she never loved my brother, cos 2months ago; she was pushing my brother and my brother was able to convince us. But now that the reverse is the case she couldn't fight for their love. And she decided all of a sudden to quit just within 2weeks cos she couldn't bear the pressure from the uncle. They have separated cos she didn't want to convince her people or even reach out to her maternal uncles as my dad adviced them to. My brother cannot go to their village and convince her uncles for her na.

Chaii May his soul rest in perfect peace.

@Cococandy we were not giving her any laid down rule. My mum's urged her only son's fiancee to sit beside her to introduce her to our relations and also get to know her as mother and daughter and you're saying is been controlling? Odikwa mma for your side sha. Meanwhile, we are all igbos but different states.By been bossy you mean am now in her position and she's in mine? I don't understand what you meant abi you know read wetin I type ni. I said she wanted to enter the car meant for bridal train and I noticed it wouldn't accomodate and I didn't want her to be stranded. Shebi she tried entering and saw it can't enter her till my brother came and took her to the car that she entererd. Or am suppose to laugh with her sheepishly when she told me in an insultive whether am not suppose to pick. 2ndly, you said maybe, if we had allowed him the first time, it wouldn't be this way haa. Nne, his getting married is not this year he wants and december but he was told to exercise little patience already since is still this year. Nobody told him not to married. Can't a family have an agreement as my fiance's family all agreed that we should wait. Did I leave him already?

Ok after the ceremony and we all got back together and my brother brought up the issue of his marriage this year, my mum talked about her experience with my brother's fiancee and I also said mine. My brother asked us to understand that at least she's not pretending as many girls does that we all are human and bound to make mistake which I understood cos of the love we have for our brother. Meanwhile, my mum is no more comfortable with her(she adores her earlier and she always prays that my brother marries a girl that will accept her like mother and she her daughter). Fast forward to when my fiance's people told us to hold on, all of a soon my brother started indirectly pressuring me pinging me every week to ask me update about our plans that he wants to get married before the year runs out. I was down so I couldn't even say much but my elder sister insisted that my brother been a man should exercise patience till after mine; my brother gave all sorts of reasons that his rent will expire and the girls too, that his fiancee wouldn't have chance nxt year cos their company will be busy. My elder sister keep asking why the girl should be in a hurry to get married(I love my brother and was even weak cos of my situation) my brother insisted on travelling all the way from where he stay to see my dad upon we insisted that he should talk whatever he wants on the phone with my dad. We all agreed that the girl and her mum was pushing him been that they stay in the same state. It wanted to bring issue between my brother and us cos he didn't want to listen to our plea to wait(though I haven't even said my mind cos I don't want the girl to go through what I went through). My parents on the other hand ws already having a soft spot on only son ish. Even my brother was becoming sentimental and was like what s wrong in our son only wanting to get married. But I told him to stop that only son crap I had to speak for the first time. Luckly for us all, my fiance's family gave a go ahead and my brotherly quickly fixed his date two weeks after mine. Notwithstanding, my brother was having understanding issue with my sisters cos of me; it was me that called them and made them understand that he will wait for me. My brother's fiancee's father is late and she gisted my brother on how her uncle and aunties are diabolical and killed her father cos they didn't want her father to marry her mother. We were even like diabolical people can even make issues to crop up probably that's why the girl is having issues with us. So, one week to the girl's introduction, the mum called my parents that she went to a night vigil and the pastor told her to go and do family liberation that her husbands people prepared for her diabolically. She became scared to go to the village(she has been living in fears since her husband died and doesn't even visit the husband's village for a long time) so, we started putting them in prayers even my brother started running around) everyone was panicked already. After their prayers, though they haven't even gone for the family liberation; the mother informed her husband's people about introduction and they told her that the girl will not marry outside their state. Meanwhile, I called my brother's fiancee and sympathised with her on the diabolical ish and told her to be steadfast in prayers before the recent happening. Even my dad called her uncle and he pretended they will pray about it. My brother and I are very close, he pinged me and told me how heartbroken he is; that the fiancee told him that the pressure is too much that if she can't bear it, she will have to quit. I called the girl immediately and pretended I didn't hear anything and asked her what's happening, and she told me. Meanwhile, this were the relations that didn't no how they are surviving cos her mum is trained her and is still training her siblings. She said that they threaten to disownn her if she goes against their wish. I was like that it wouldn't make any difference since they weren't in their good record before (I was trying to side her oh but it didn't know I was on my own) she told me in an unfriendly voice that they are her family that that doesn't mean she will disrespect them( meanwhile she wants my brother to disrespect her own family when they told them to wait) and that she cannot bare for then to humiliate her mother and she( I was like in my mind does this girl knows the meaning of humilation) I asked her if she's hearing me and she said yes and I told her to do what she wished and want and and dropped the phone. This was I girl that was pushing my brother all of a sudden the spark has vamose. I just pity my brother cos I don't think she loves him before. Just in a space of 2weeks. I know the girl can't do anything but at least try first. My parents called her mother and told her to take her people and visit the husband people and ask them their reason why they don't want their daughter to marry outside their state whether is tradition or their own making. Bu, they didn't even tried. My brother was even considering doing the traditional marriage in where they reside that if every option is exhausted but they didn't even want to try any. They have even sown their traditional wedding attire and my brother has told his friends and thr picture is on social network with engaged sign. He's problem is that he's always in a hurry in making decision. He's own is she took me to spa and chinese resturant on my birthday. I keep telling him that's not a sign that someone loves you it could be a sign of desperation. Ones bitten twice shine at least his eyes are cleared now. Abeg I don tir e to type. This one of my longest post ni

Where will I even start! My brother is 28years old and my immediate younger and only brother, we love him so much.(I especially) He brought this girl home that he will marry her for approval and we really loved the girl cos she's nice or so we think. My brother is the kind of person that over does things(he's an extremist) if he plays, he's a good player; if he falls in love, he crashes lol. Meanwhile, he brought the girl to our elder sister's wedding. On the D day, after church service, when the bridal train were about entering their car I noticed the car wouldn't accomodate her(she's not in the bridal train but cos my kid sis is in and they are mates, she's always with her). I told her to follow me let me make space for her in another car and she totally ignored me(maybe cos she taller than I lol) it wasn t funny then cos I see her as been disrespectful; I called her like twice and my brother came immediately and called her to follow him (coincidentally to the same car I was urging her to enter. That same day, as the couple were dancing, I was the one in charge of those picking money. My brother's fiancee stood beside and was like what are you doing standing instead of picking money? Maybe she was joking oh but am older than her with 6years and she was been insultive; with the beat of the music I called her closer and asked her if she's aware that am her fiance's elder sister and deserves some respect( I was really bittered) I called my brother almost immediately and told him to caution his fiancee. I forgot the issue( or pretended to forget) when our family friend urged us to take a picture with them. I told my brother to call her so that we can snap together and she refused coming. On my mum's part, my mum urged her to sit beside her for quick introduction whenever any of our relation comes but she didn't. Before you say jack she's in the midst of my sister's inlaw that's her mates. We all found this behaivours very disrespectful. But later that night she came to apologise and I forgave her but the relationship were not same again. You guys know that I have been in a long term relationship and I have a sister inlaw who is as older to me as iam to her(ok like 10years old) for the 12yrs I've been going to their family I've never been disrespectful to her and I pray I will remain that way always. I just want to give you guys laydown of her behaviour before the issue at hand.

Thanks all everyone that wished me well I really appreciates. God is indeed awesome. Am coming back with a story about my younger brother and the girl he wants to marry but it didn't work again. My do love really dewindles within a short period? When I give you the details you will understand.

Hello Nlanders, I have good News! Am so over the moon and am thankful to God for giving me a patient heart; though it wasn't easy for me then(I thought mine is always different)I didn't know that God is planning mine in a special way. I almost disconnected from things around me cos of the lingering. Is only someone in my shoe that will understand how I feel. Meanwhile, the good news is multiple sha. God indeed maketh all things beautiful in his time. I thank God that I didn't persuade my fiance (though I tried severally lol I abi trouble maker oh I even reminded him of how almost all my suitors has married is well sha) the Uncle turned out to be nice and acted the role of a father very well on the introduction day. (Sponsered everything they came with monetary wise, it was a surprise) my traditional wedding has been fixed by God's grace, and am running around for the preparation no time self. Finally, God blessed my fiance with a better job now a multi national. His blessings are so enormous. Who am I that his mindful of. I only hear this kind of testimony as a story now am sharing mine. Word aren't enough to express how grateful iam to God. The white wedding shall be next year by His grace. I believe that everything shall turn out successful IJN. Baba God dalu.

Thanks Phema.

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Accept my condolence. Your father is already resting in the Lord. Don't ever worry yourself, everything will turn around for your good. Just believe.

chesterlee:
Oct 21st...October babies rock!!!

. You're my birthday mate. Good to know

Happy belated birthday to Nash and Buka. Wish you so many happy years in good health. I guess you had lots of fun. Mine is 21st oh

Exactly she doesn't act her age. She might be showing off innocently to celebrate her hardwork; but lots of us are already misunderstanding it. How can you snap pictures of all your cars and displace it publicly in this Era of kidnapping, jealousy and jazz. This is africa for crying out loud. Anyway, whoever that fetch an ant infested firewood is welcoming lizards

Another experience I had was outside the bank at their ATM machine. This begger perhaps is a ritualist lol. Was in a queue waiting patiently for my turn( was the last person) when this neat jeep called out to me but I pretend not to hear cos I thought is a chyker. He drove back and called me miss can I ask you for a favour; I decided to hear what he has to say and went to him. He said please I forgot my wallet at home and I don't have money on me, pls can you spare me with 1k? I wasn't expecting such I thought he wanted direction or something else. I looked at his neat jeep and me on leggadis benz and told him politely that I don't have and that's the reason am queuing her. He was even if it means calling you and refunding it to you. I told him I don't have biko and left him. Lekwa nu anya a rich man on a clean ride didn't have enough money on him and he drove a car without fuel. How does it affect me biko kwa.

Mine was that I was really down and unhappy so I decided to go to chapel for quite time with my God.(Am a Catholic) After praying, as I was going out, this guy neatly dressed approached me and started telling me that he's a married man with 2 children that I should not allow hunger to kill his children; that is not as if he's not working that he's an artist just that work is not easy to get if I can help him to find work this and that. I was just down don't even have strength for anything and I was with money and very gullible at the moment. so, I gave him 1k. I felt guilty after giving him the money cos I felt there are people that needed the money not a grown up man and abled. 2 months later I went to another parish to pray in their Chapel. After praying, on my way out the same guy walked up to me and started his blabbing. I screamed on him immediately; he didn't even allowed to finish and he disappeared I walked a distant and turn back couldn't see him in the church premises and I even wondered if I saw him before. I was like so this kind of thing has entered the church. Bunch of lazy men walking up and down the street begging.

May your soul rest in perfect peace. Oh Lord cleanse our land from the snare of the evil ones and guide your children

Apart from Plagiarism, She was flaunting her wealth and success as if she's staying in abroad. She was just broadcasting all her moves and all that; In life, everyone that laugh with you is not a friend. Is a pity but I learnt a big lesson from her.

She's a young girl and my mate. I kept asking her what separated the the divorcee and the wife and she said is personal. (Which means she's interested in the marriage) what I noticed in life (not every one) is that most girls that dated married men end up becoming 2nd wife or divorcee 's wife. Meanwhile, I don't advice in such cos same thing happened to another of my friend when we were 27yrs. This divorcee married for 10yrs (but didn't have an issue with the first wife)asked for her hand in marriage only if she gets pregnant. She told me and I assured her we were still young (they always think am not a correct girl cos I've been dating a particular man for a decade lol) she went to her correct friends for advice and married the man; and started giving me attitude. I started minding my business since then na. She was pregnant when she married the man. So when she delivered, she sent a random sms and I called her to wish her well. I asked her if she's still in the hospital and she said she delivered at home .( That the husband sis is a midwife and he said there's no need to go to hospital) I was cold. I told my mum cos she nos her well and she pitied her. The man in question is rich oh that's the reason she accepted him.

How old are you people? Chai. Is called be in love!

Cos she cooked two pots of food for you, you're feeling loved. Some men sha; let me try and open your inner eyes when a girl truly loves you, even if the most handsome guy passes she will pretend not to notice (even though she looked oh)vice versal. Meanwhile, you're her mugu she collects money from another man to cook for you lol. You're on a long thing oh

Ok let me break the slience. I've a gist but the person in question doesn't need advice. This my friend chatted me up last week and was like that a divorcee with four boys wants to marry her(the man is loaded). I was like haa and how did you meet him? (She's not an honest person though I know she dates married men but have never met her with one) she was like you know na; I asked her what her answer was to the man's proposal and she was like that if she must marry him that he will re locate her to london and the man accepted. She asked me to advice her. I told her that I don't give advice in this kind of situation oh. That she's old enough to differenciate the right from wrong.(I know she has already decided what to do) if she hasn't, why will she tell the man that she will like to relocate to london. After 2 days, I chatted her and asked her what she decided and if she has told her mum( cos her dad is late) she said is her decision and nobody's. She told me clearly that if she's marrying the man it will be cos of his money not cos of love. I told her to prepare her self for the consequences that comes with it good or bad. She was like that if she can't stay in the marriage she will get divorce na; I asked her if that's what she want to do with her life and she said shit happens lol. Some girls strong pass me oh. What a life!

@ Coogar at times you're correct not all the time sha before you start feeling cool. This reminds me of my Aunt that's always having issues with the husband. He cheats on her, club till 2am, lazy ass man, beat her(but she too dey craze cos she don break bottle for her husband's head before) doesn't help her out at home(always wanting people to be serving him n she does serve very well) except washing his clothes. Meanwhile, my aunt is the bread winner oh; every day she keeps saying she will leave the marriage that she's not scared of leaving afterall her sister left 2 marriages. Most of her friends have left their bad marriages excluding her. one day, I witnessed in her closure when she was praying asking God to change her husband. For my mind before,i been think say she serious to leave.