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Chocolate brown goes perfectly with gold blouse with red accessories. A friend used it in a traditional wedding and was looking very beautiful

My Aunt knows he doesn't go to any burial. He's always looking for an excuse to spend his weekend outside their home. They dated for a long time too and she knows he's like this all this while cos when they were dating she was living her life too just like an open r/ship. Am even suspecting that their marriage is an open marriage too (I don't trust her too). Many years ago he cheated on her with my Aunt's relation from her mother's side. The worst is that he refused the girl staying with them but my Aunt insisted cos the girl was looking for where to do her IT. My Aunt helped the girl to get a placement in her coy and was retained as a contract staff cos she doesn't have anyone to train her(she's a child of a single mother that has mental problem) so, she's always pited. I was the very first person that noticed they were having affair when I came to her house for holidays while I was awaiting admission to Uni but I didn't say anything for fear of been labelled marriage breaker. I left their house cos I wasn't comfortable again. Infact I tired of hearing my Aunt's complaint. The husband is so unrepentant.

If you're looking at what's happening in marriage, you wouldn't venture. If you're talking about infidelity my Aunt's husband's name is infidelity. This morning, I met my aunt in the church and I decided to go with follow her home. On our way home, the husband called her and told her she should prepare food for him that he's on his way home and very hungry. My aunt asked him if he didn't stay for burial again and he said they postponed it. This man travel for burial every other weekend. He has been like this since they married. The worst is that my aunt is the bread winner and she doesn't if bother herself.(very non chalant)their is not example of a good marriage at all

@ Coco, of course I know 30yrs is not old. I have already adviced her to think about her gettiing married to the guy or probably cos we are rushing to get married before 30yrs knock at our door. Meanwhile, I told her the effect of family in decision making during marriage preparation and she thought mine was different now, she knows better. I prefer honesty than been deceptive.

Amen to all your prayers. @ B I cannot write in details what we went through but he's worth waiting for though he's not perfect. Well, my fiance had to listen to his people though I didn't understand at first. Their reason was for him to save up and all that. Not that we wanted to rush and do everything at the same oh. Every members of his family had to agree with the elder except him. He had to take excuse @ work and travelled to go and talk with them again; when he came back, he told me that he doesn't want to have issue with his people or his people using because of our getting married to have issue. Infact, it wasn't easy cos I made sure (unintentionally oh) and remind him that I wouldn't wait for him forever. He sat me down and told me that if am willing to take the after math of our getting married against their family that he will do it. But, I don't want my own to be different. I don't want to wait all this while and cause problems between siblings. I had to wait since Dec is almost here. He said he's waiting for my mum to come back from Omugo to start reminding his people. So far, he hasn't disappointed me in any way. Just as the brothers said that him alone cannot marry me. 2ndly, I have a friend that's a banker that's going through same but in a different way. She's earning more than the fiance and they agreed to get married without knowing the guy's people are not in support. Reason the guy is the last born and has three elder ones (including 2girls) non of them are married.the guy went with his friends for my friends Introduction but her father told him to come with his people. The fiance told my friend that they will do her introduction and pay her dowry and she agreed thinking is a way of saving money. He cancelled the date of the Introduction giving reasons about his church saying they will have to start marriage course before anything. Their R/ship is a long distant one. So, she travelled to pay the guy a visit(he's still staying in his family house) and the fiance's mother sat her down and told her that they told him to wait for some time but he went behind them to do everything. The guy is soo desperate and wants to rush everything. Now, my friend is thinking probably the guy wants her money.(My friend is not willing to pay for her wedding Lol) she's very angry with the guy for not telling her the truth. She was like how she wish she will meet another man just that there's no time. Meanwhile she's going to 30years this year.

@ Sofun, you have to be steadfast in prayers cos pastor ish is really a big problem in our house hold now. I guess everyone has a story to tell. I didn't want to share before but I guess I was been selfish reading others and not sharing mine. I dated my fiance for 11yrs now. Reason for the time wasted was he's inability to get a reasonable job(he was in Insurance coy) and it yield little or nothing. I was working but my work was able to sustain I and him when needed(he doesn't ask me for money I just knew he needed money and give him). I had wanted to get married twice in the first 7years of our R/ship but I couldn't leave him I love him so much and still in love with him; so, I decided that against all odds I will stick with him. He called me after 5yrs of our R/ship and told me that if am not willing to wait for him that I should marry that he couldn't bare to put my life on hold for him. I told him that am willing to wait (thinking that waiting is easy)5,6,7yrs nothing. I prayed, fasted and cried he reminded me that he told me that it wouldn't be easy journey but I was just myopic thinking love alone can lead us through not knowing love works hand in hand with patience. I decided that if am willing to wait for the one I love that I will sew a cloth like patience and wear it all the time. Sorry I got carried away hope am not boring people with my write up. Have decided to bore it out today. He did hse certification and went to many interview yet no out come. Then, 2yrs ago, he did another certification and God blessed him with a good job this year. In the first quarter of this year, we wanted to do my Introduction.We Went to his elder bro's house and talked about how and when to fix the date. The brother told the elder that's suppose to come with them about my fiance plans to get married and the date we fixed and he was like is it not Papababy that got a job barely 5months ago that wants to get married. When the immediate bro called us and told me that their uncle said I shld wait from now to dec haa. I cried and even unintentionally started shouting on the bro(if not cos I am now like a family, they will say am bad wife)My fiance was mad and stood up for us(he's the last born) I had to start calming him oh. It was chaotic that day. This an elder that doesn't know the genesis of how and when the job was gotten but, I believe that all things worketh together for those who trust in the lord. Though, some days am moody and all that seeing how my friends own goes smoothly without issue. But I guess this world is a personal thing( to each his or her own) Am been steadfast that I will share good news soonest. Wish me luck. N.B: I type with my phone pardon any grammatical error abeg

I mean disengage yourself by showing seniority abeg

Abeg make una no vex oh. I don't blame that guy that sang 'Kolomental' *singing this party eeh na for crazy people make you mental. Chai, women. Please don't carry over the epistle abeg. Am enjoying this thread sliently and so are many others cos is so real. Aisha2 I respect a lot in this nairaland but pls don't disengage yourself from this. If, here's is secondary na senior we go dey call you oh no fall my breast jor

Op, when you're ready to face the repercussion. No forget Juju get expiration date

Ndii ba anyi 'day oh' for those that don't understand. ' Abeg make una helep me put 'day' for my post na over joy cos am.

A new has come, fresh beginning, fresh stories lol. Let by gone be jor. Let's keep ourselves company in this wonderful thread.*singing* Oya may we go oh oya, oya day don break ooh. Don't mind me ladies can't sleep

Same thing happened in my area. The man waited and on the wedding night, he discovered that she was deceiving him all this while. The guy divorced her sharply no too talking and no coming to ask stupid question in Nairaland sho. If is really you will no pple don't joke with such

Well, I was in same situation and I know he will get a job and we agreed to get married till he get one and am reaping it. *singing* so good so good loving some body when some body loves you back.

These are our song 'A new day' Celine dion, 'Queen of my heart' West life, 'Still the one' Shane Twain hope the spelling is correct. Am one lucky girl have been with my first love for 11yrs now. And am not ashamed of it. I waited and it was worth it by God's grace. We are so going to play it on our wedding day by his grace. Guys real love do exist but aren't easy @ all. NB: waiting no be beans lol

Jnrbayerno: Bless us Oh Lord and this your gift which we are about to receive for your bounty, through christ our Lord Amen!

. We prayed same prayer in my family too.

Many people believed that a man with potential is a man who is finacially stable, though there are some lazy ass men. But, in my own opinion, a man with potentials is a hardworking man that aims higher. Is not easy for most men in Nigeria. But, will always use myself as an example. My fiance read a course that doesn't give a good job easyly in this part of the world and he knows it with well. He's life was as complicated as heaven don't want to say hell. He had issues when he was in school for years and came and started looking for job all to no avail. Then, every woman would have said he doesn't have potential. But, I saw something in him and believed in soo much. 6yrs after his NSYC and + 5 he wasted in school I was neck down with him.(Pls add it up lol) he had a job but it wasn't worth it at all and he knew. 3years one of his friends told him about a certification in oil company he started preparing for it. It took him 6months to get prepared cos it wasn't his field. Finally, he passed it and he got a good job infact, by the special grace of God his one of the best in department . Potentiality is God's grace, favor and mercy jor

Op, op, op eeh. How many times did I called you? Most people in their lives have passed through difficult period. There's no how you will describe your situation to be the worst of all. Many people are passing through tough situation yet they find time to smile. It will never be easy Never. You have to brace it like a man call your family together and keep be steadfast in God;there's nothing again you can do as a christian but to pray and believe. nothing good comes easy. Nobody here can give you the answer you're seeking for. You seem to knw the word of God use it and keep the faith. Do not relent. You're human, you will get to complain but after complaining pick your faith and keep trusting in God. One day, you will forget all your sorrow within a twinkle of an eye. That day is near just believe But remember it will never be easy!

@ OP, Nobody is useless except you want to believe you are. So far you are hardworking, one day God will surely remember you. My fiance is a testimony (big one) he had lots of issues before he got a better job. Stayed without a good job for 7yrs(excluding the issues in had in sch pple even said he didn't graduate his problem were so complicated as if some1 is remoting it) he braced up and I kept encouraging him cos my instinct kept telling me that he can make it. I believed in him more than he believed in himself; he worked harder cos in didn't want to disappoint me. It was tough very very tough. Years of tears and laughter cos one minute we are happy another minute na crying.people mocked him, laughed at him At times, both of us will start crying and later we console ourselves. Look at were we are today. God is truly awesome but at his own time. Stay positive and never lose faith. Tough time Never last but Tough people do!

I pray her case will surely be different IJN chai there are lots of alignments in this planet earth. Is a pity

Awww Babymama get will soon Jor. Meanwhile, let me continue with my slient reading Lol no strength to type boo

Hmmmmm. All I have to say is God is our strength. Marriage aren't easy @ all but will I use cos of its challenges and not venture? Lie lie. Am going to carry my twins next year by God's grace. Meanwhile, my fiance just got a job and I lost mine irony of life(though mine was just 10percent of his salary). When I was working and he wasn't, I made sure he knows his responsibilities as a man and that doesn't mean I don't help him out. I made sure I searched for laziness trait in him lol. He was without a job for a decade and got the best by God's grace through certification and Almighty God.@ Godmystrength, try agreement prayers with your hubby; pray without ceasing. I will assure you that it wouldn't happen immediately oh but with time God will change his situation He did it for me, he can still do for you. you're indeed a strong woman.

RIP Vivian Chinaza. May your soul and the soul of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God rest in perfect peace Amen.

OP shebi you were having a crush with your school mate abi na FB friend. Are you done with the crush?lol. Seriously, there are lots of good women out there. Open your inner eyes I mean pray harder.instead of worrying on how others including your brothers and friends has gotten married. The bible even said be anxious of nothing in everything resort to prayer and supplication together with thanksgiving bring your request before God. If you don't know how to go about it, tell your sisters, cousins and friends that are responsible to introduce you to their friends. Dalu!

My neighbours are 6 in number. The Delta guy is a single father very Razz and womanises. I've met tons of women in different shapes, colors and sizes. The funniest thing is that he fight with his girl friends even the ones he just met. Come and see abuses and this guy is an Engineer and works in a reputable power company. The 2nd are single girl like me living with the sister and cousin and some other girls comes to sleep there @ times they are 5 in a self contain. When her Razzness starts, she will come out with her bottle of Hernessy or red label and her cigratte afterall is a free world. Abeg can't wait to pack out soon. Just that I have gotten use to there but am so packing out come July

NRI PRIEST: Ok;So I was having a chat with some of my unmarried friends and they were just being curious and started asking me some fidelity questions. Osy,how is marriage life ? Do you mean you will never hit another woman all your life ? What happens when she is preggie or just put to bed ? These question got me thinking and I was quiet for a minute. Then I started thinking about my wife who is my best friend,my sister,my lover and my world. And I told them this..May God take my life the day I stick my "utu" on another woman. Kai,I love my wife to bits! And I said to them,I love my wife and she is smoking hot. My friends talk about how hot my wife is and I said, how do you expect me to leave all that and go start ffucking around ? One said,you are not faithful to your wife because she is beautiful, rather you are faithful because of the principle which you live by because there are always more beautiful ones out there. Reluctant but I had to agree with them. Truth is my woman is an exceptional being and there is this character she portrays that makes me want her more. We knew each other for over ten years before we got married. Infact,I got married to my best friend. We play like little kids,all the time.

@ Nri Priest, are you my fiance? Seen our look alike oh. Dated my hubby to be for 10yrs. It wasn't easy I tell you. Na money matter waster the time and he's a good man so waited. And now am reaping my wait. I bless the Lord. He just started a job this jan(A good job oh) Am still singing and dancing everyday. So, finally, my enemies and those that were laughing at us are shamed. God, am so grateful, thankful and my mouth is ful of praise. I can't stop thanking God

Njide aka Baby Mama.*run away*

Nice thread. @ baby mama ur sense of humor n a something else. Am runing out of patience oh. I can't wait to join the train and not feel guilty of som kind things. By God's grace this year, I will have the certificate to kpekus any how. Yes is Nwa baby. Time adiro

Happy new year my people. Lots of love frm Nwababy

I blive by God's grace that after Trad, we wil live together as husband and wife. Who knows, might get pregnant b4 wedding cos such thing u wouldn't say I wil or wil not cos am not God oh. Is only God that nos how happy iam cos is undescribable. Infact am confused at d moment

I've placed everything in God's hands. @ carry bella, hmmmm na God hands I dey too.

Thanks @ Baby mama. Dancing Skelewu

R/ship experts I hail oh. Very soon, b4 the ist quarter of 2014 by the special grace of God Nwa baby will be joining the institution. My God has answered my prayers. My R/ship of 10yrs will be sealed. It took us many years to do this cos we didn't hav reasonable job. Infact I wouldn't call that job. This dec, the Almighty God, the God that maketh impossible things to be possible blessed my fiance with a very good job in an Oil company. Oh God! I don't no how am feeling. Am sharing my testimony; am I dreaming? is it for real? Is it a rumor?Though it talis, it has come to pass. Sorom too chukwu(praise God with me)