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[quote author=UniQue84 post=128431811][/quote]she pay house rent ke? .. No brother I pay house rents.. God no go let us broke to not pay house rent in Jesus name.. I rather sell a property to pay house rent than my spouse pay house rent..

Juliearth:
Overfamiliarity breeds contempt. I think she has gotten too comfortable and has "seen you finish". I am tempted to say that the Egypt you see today, you shall see and experience even more when you marry her, but let's not judge too quickly.


First, you need need quit cohabiting with her. Infact, you two should be separated for a while to figure out what you truly desire. If after this separation a reparation occurs, you can carry on with the relationship and then marriage.


Hold on with the marriage plans for now. One doesn't marry because he or she is of age. One marries because he or she is ready in all fronts and has met the right partner who is equally ready.

Note that you need to be fully convinced that she is not cheating and has fully changed before you settle down. Old habits die hard.

All the best!

about distance my last business trip late last year was the longest.. I spent 3 months then came back to a total different stranger.. I tried to break up.. Because I really can't take it no more like she just keep having different new friends this party to that party every weekends night out.. Omo I said am not doing again she came home from work that evening with 2 of her female friends to help her packed her loads (this friend she just made in space of 3 months I traveled). Omo I shock... See the way their are hyping her while she was packing sef lol.. A week later she came back begging I no answer her she begged and begged for 2 weeks swore she won't do it again and if I don't take back she will commit suicide.. That period she like went back to normal not until I noticed something and behold I checked her phone omo what I saw I was shocked.. I was like again?

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Thanks all really do appreciate

Thanks y'all for your contribution really do appreciate .. Most time I feel guilty because 2 years i was down financially.... she held me real tight.. She paid almost all home expenses excluding my house rent (never by God's grace will my spouse pay rent) after I got scammed I was depressed almost 2 years she did everything even upkeep money and outings she sorted all bills.. Now am back on my feet I actually have done my best for her like I use to do... Her recent actions these days is what I don't understand.... Is it the outings night life? hell yes I can testify and beat my chest when I met her am not a night life person.. But when I actually saw maybe it's her kinda of life.. I did my best on all outings and vacations we go.. All trips and hotel food and everything on me.. Her personal monthly allowance na me.. Like wetin this girl still dey find outside.. At 26 years old? ... Is she not tired?.. God help me so I don't make a life time mistake that will lead me to early grave Amen.. I think I will just move on it's hard but this will pass.. Thanks again y'all

Hi guys am not a good writer and will try to keep this post as short as possible.... I met a girl 5 years ago at first year we are just fiends and bedmates, a year after we decided to take things serious.. First forward to covid 19 she moved in with me a year after my precious business collapse due to China scam.. She tried her best to contribute the little she have even upto changing my boxers and money for hair cut she provided... The relationship has been good with the off and on.. But my gf have a bad habit that she is quickly to adapt to things both good or bad things.. Which to me I worry a lot... she cheats on me with other guys one time I hacked her WhatsApp I saw all her sexpades with other guys... I talk to her about it.... she begged but to no avail she refuse to change.... Fast forward till last week I keep complaining how she always come back late.. Snext 2 days after complaining she texted me with a picture that she is out chilling with her girls.. I was so angry because we just hard a semilar argument about, late nights days ago I told her if she didn't drive home next 30min she should just remain there.. She replied she is on way.. I was so angry and tell not to worry omo this girl stayed back.. Went clubbing and stayed in the hotel next morning she sent me a video of her and the girls in the hotel.. I didn't reply because I was angry.. Talking to you like this she is yet to come back to the house since Friday called all her siblings.. She was with none of them. .. and I began to wonder na person wey I Wan marry be this? what if we get married and it got worst? Thank God I got back on my feet in business and now am doing all possible best we get married this year and relocate to abroad next year.. One part of me have actually decided to let go and just block her off the other part is not willing.. What should I do guys.. Because me am am 33 years and trying to settle down..

MrMcJay:
Your business should be your business, not these girls who have turned you into business.
Ignore the leech and focus on the important things.
About that your supplier who scammed you, have you written a petition to the Chinese Embassy in Nigeria?

no sir how can I follow up please?

boxer022:
From what I just read, I couldn't find anything bad that you did. She understood your present financial situation and obliged to see to some if the expenses. You wrote somewhere that her friend she came with was not happy with the fact that she was supporting you financially, there must have been discussions among them in your absence that has to do with you which led to the attitudinal change you noticed. You did everything within your present capacity to make her stay comfortable but due to their discussion in your absence she felt you were tired of their presence in your house and talked about moving out. You event went as far as kneeling down (which is humiliating) to make her stay the night before leaving in the morning but due to her lack of understanding what a joke is and what an insult is, she opted to move out that night taking the risk. Supposing something happened to her that night she moved out if your house, you will be part of the people to be blamed for that but thanks to God she arrived get destination safely. Rather than cool off and call or text in the morning apologizing for her actions, she allowed anger to make her send you that text. I am happy with your response to her, you need now to focus on how to help yourself by starting another business or vocation.

exactly my thought her friend was the spoiler ... Maybe I got weak or can't control my emotions... But I bleeped up and has learnt my lessons... I was so scared the night because her family knows she was in my place... But I allow my emotions take over me

Ninejaywon:
In your recess, ask yourself this important question. How has this girl being of any benefits to the improvement of my life asides the "sex"?
If you are going to be very true and honest to yourself. The answer to that question should spur your next action.

we both have tried for each other but I did way more better

czarr:
It's tough love bro. Do better cos you deserve better.

Thanks bro... I guess I was carried away with the help she promised

You guys should please easy on me... I might not be stable or lost control @ledrock
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Jmarjr:
Op i tink she is fed up with u, nd looks like she came 2 visit sum1 else not you.

I thought as much...

So guys please help did she fumed this drama to make jest of me? or she can't find a way to say no then started the arguments so she can leave and I won't call her.. Because she know I really needed help...

Notice: please am not a good writer and I tried to keep this story short... Thanks for your understanding.

Good day guys I will need a little advice from you ... So my ex came visiting from the North as always just that this time am super broke as my Chinese supplier who I have been doing business with for 2 years scammed me couple of millions 2 months ago of everything I have... well I told her before she embarked on the journey what happened to me she said I shouldn't worry she will see to all the spendings... last money I have not even upto 100k I tried to show the little hospitality I can( I make sure food is always available and fuel for gen... Even begged a friend for Netflix account) 3days after she was here I asked her for help if she can link me to anything or any kind business am ready to do it. with my state of living I can see she actually have that pity... And promised once she get back to North she will hook me up with 1 or 2 people but under probability... Later I noticed her friend she came with was not happy of her supporting me.. Next day I came back from my daily feeding hustle.. she said I came back moody and unhappy that her friend feels like my mood shows that am tired of them staying in my place... (Me that was so tired of the daily hustle) ... Since then I notice she try to pick any little fault blame me and all. I try so hard not to cause problems (if i talk she says I talk too much if am quite she says am being moody) So she was already saying she will leave my place on the 6th day i try to convince her to stay a little bit more... On the 5th day, a day before she will leave we were having this little aquement of the uber guy I recommended adding extra 5k to her ride I was trying to calm her down and tell her it's lagos hold-up and distance that's why on that I jokingly called her you this girl you like wahahla and said the word w-a-n-ka I don't know in hausa actually the word meant your mother.. She poured her anger on me that afternoon I begged and apologise even text her to apologise again but she really kept a strong face with me all through... Not until around 11:pm she wanted to go get water down stair told her she should take from the one I got she won't answer me and kept shouting I should give her keys to the door... I jokenly tell her that all this pride and gra-gra will take her no where she should just drop all this with my state of mental health and emotional health. She should be encouraging me not the other way.. Omo this girl sparked and said first I insulted her mom and now I tell her she has pride.. That she is leaving my house that night and its already 12 midnight she parked her bag.. me and her friend was begging I knelt down to beg her hold her not to leave she was forcing her sef to let go and to grab the Key she hit me with objects to free her but I didn't she injured her self with her fixed nails I was still begging her since you actually leaving tomorrow its midnight already just stay to the next day but to no avail.. till her friend said I should free her so I did... I followed her down stairs to the main gate and in the street begging her she didn't respond... And she enter bike seams she called someone to come pick her up at the bus-stop ... And later sent me this...