₦airaland Forum

I don't agree with posting the pictures of other people's children ---- 

U're certainly an akata--

^^^^^ no mind the chicken----

nicely stated stogis---

^^^^^^ Jesus ; you look like that u've had a tough life.

sexyZee:
toothbrush   ^{(som1 i wanna  embarass)}

Ur booboo--- no dey BRUSH hin teeth ?

Fhemmmy:
why do we have to worry about the legal backing, if most of the responses has been "marriage cos of God" and " cos of family" why cant we just worry about the God's backing and that of the family backing.
How come the woman dont go to the family to seek divorce not go to church to tell pastor that dem no do again, why the court then?

Exactly---- well abroad--- legal backing matters--- lol, esp for women who marry men for reasons other than love. <hahaha>


But in Nigeria, I think people marry because its the "next thing to do" its like enrolling in University. Divorce in Nigeria ? that woman aint getting jack sh**t

The structure of family is very important to me---- however I see commitment more important than marriage.

BUT I HATE WEDDINGS.

OAM4J:
I understand you. Just that sometimes I think the legal backing creates more problems than good. Makes it difficult for us to settle our differences amicably without the complication of seeking divorce. If things change as friends or we find it difficult to relate as friends we just move on, but not that easy with marriage because it has legal backing, that looks more like a bondage than a good thing to me. - just my opinion.

Totally. I heard someone say recently "Marry someone who values family as much you do, that will allow you to weed out many people"  and I think that this person makes sense, many people marry for very selfish reasons, or just want to get married and the person that they get married to may not "value family" as much as they do.

OAM4J:
Sorry, what is the importance of marriage that cannot be achieved in friendship?

marriage has a legal backing, friendship doesn't. Anyways, I think marriage is important but I HATE WEDDINGS. I do agree with Femi's school of thought that you can be committed to someone for life without "marrying them"

I don't think she's lying either. She bleeped her EX.

OAM4J:
What is most common to man is change. People change, opinions change, desires change, feelings change, ambitions change, and goals change. Whatever reason you have for wanting to get marry can change, and then what happens to the marriage? All the people who are divorced now or tired of their marriage used to be best of friends and lovers, what happened? They change!!! Trust me apart from God saying it, it aint worth it.

People will get married anyways because they want to love someone. Its part of their life purpose whether the person changes or not.

In this day and age, If people can't take ordinary friendship seriously---- how will they take marriage seriously----  Both parties need to understand the importance of marriage and the main reason why they are getting married.  People need to stop marrying simply because of what others think.