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@ post

i have one question for u - WHY DONT U GO FOR HER?

Money is not the basic tin but just like the bible says money answereth all tins it also said the love of money is the root of all evil, so to me there shd be a balnce. it plays its own good part in a relationship. its just like a lubrican(oil) in a car/vehicales, it cant takre the place of fuel/petrol. hope u get me. so that is how money is tooo, it has its own good part only that in todays relationship it is over exagerated by both parties.

it also shows the focus of the relationship cos some ladies just want to wack ur money without being ready to settle down with you, while some men/guys feel they can buy love or the lady with thier money,. the qquestion is wat will hapen if the bank goes dries,

so plu and minus, it is important and necessaary to meet basic needs and do some a lot of tins but not BASIC.

lady t

u tink so
hahaha!!!!

Tx Kate
angel.

u are great,, thnx for this piece, really commendable

helping a great deal

more and more

GOD BLESS

Hi Doli,

U are great. I have read all ur posts and i like ur passion, its commendable the way u go abt ur job ,pls keep it up and i pray God grant u all ur heart desires for a job for ur hubby and all for ur sef in life

dont mind any one calling u names cos very soon u will be celebrated. in Jesus name.

GOD BLESS

@POST
Its a pity what hapend to you but i also wonder if this is what life is all about , ?

Thank God u av not been hooked by one of these pple to now get the greatest heartbreak,

Just focus now and lt God lead u in ur decisions. I will advice u to draw closer to God and give Him ur life. The fact that a born again broda did same does not mean everyone does same. ok. what matters is ur own relatiionship with God, not Reveend, pastor, Xtian broda and so on

Then PRAY MORE , He has a plan for ur life and i know he will heal ur heart and hurts and HELP U

IT IS WELL

NO MATTER HOW BAD OR BATTERED A MAN/WOMAN'S PAST HAS BEEN , THE FUTURE IS PERFECT AND SPOTLESS

PEACE

anger , ver rare , it takes some tin serious very serios but u can hardly catch me angry , but i may not like wa\t u do and there and then i tell u and its gone,

cos anger is small madness , one word short of DANGER and removing the r FROM revenge and putting l from LOVE makes it ANGEL,

i try to maintain my cool if it hapens , i will ask myself some questions,
- maybe i am the one wrong afetr all and give the other person benefit of the doubt, esp if he/she is not there and i make sure i resolve such tins anyhow before going to sleep,

@ POST,
lets start by -

1. How old is he
2. has he ever had a girl frend before
3. is he a shy person, as in introvertial
4. position in the family
5. then family background then siblings ratio
5. religius and spiritual inclination,
6. who are his close frends
7. temapraental life style
8. does he have any internal problem as in a man

pls ansa and lets know, or give us more insight to knw how to help him


chers

it is welll



many more

wat kind of relationship do u have with her??

are u sure ur brother is not the first to date her

u av to beware lest she is just using u guys for herself and also, check up if u are wrong first.

@ post.

i understand what u mean cos i av seen such too but after careful onsideration and analysis i found out that BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER.

But b4 i go on, we need to define what beauty really is, and i wld ask the house the same question

cos to me beauty is more of what u are inside.i mean ur xter, attitude, lifestyle, way of doing things. positive mindset, the fear of God (i mean reverence for GOD) and respect for men in every thing we do, wisdom in handling issues, maturity(not age ooo) , etc and so many others,

it is more than ur looks cos most times, i say most times some of those beautiful pple u see dont have manners  and u cant even take them home to show ur siblings, not even mama, unless u just want a fling,

The bible tells us more , Read Proverbs 31 verse 28 to 31.

Permission to please re phrase ur question ;;;

WHY DO GOOD PEOPLE FALL INTO THE WRONG HANDS


My counsel is not to look at beauty, what u just see outside, the colour, well set teeth, height, education, etc , while these may be good and ok they are not very good indicators of beauty.


i like the best

all hope is not lost for her,

God has a plan for her life no matter what, so she shd look up to GOD. I knw it is not easy but God rewards the faithful,

She will meet some one very saincere and loving very sooon.

Jer 29v11,

More so, she shd see her spiritual leaders i mean her pastor for counselling and proper advice

GOD BLESS

It has been said, that the haert of a woman is like a deep well, the more u dig(try) to know the deeper it gets, and it only takes the grace of God to really discern and understand her.

i think there major problem is indecision and also wanting to eat thier cake and having it.
also many are just smarting out of hurt and herat breaks so they are very careful
to be continued plsss, servder down here

i admire her courage , she shd keep it up but my question is does it mean all the men that have come her way in life always want to sex b4 marrying her or she has deliberating driven them away b4 now even , wat has she been doing all this while to wait till 35

God is alive and very soon she will meet that man of her dream. she needs to pray more and trust in God , work on herself all round and be the best God wants her to be at all time. Mind u it is not only lack of sex that can drive a man out of a relationship, there are a lot of factors,

i dont believe in sex before marriage oooo

GOD HELP HER

u guys need to meet and talk. do u visit her often wen last did u see her

moreso, are u also sincere and honest with her??

does she behave like dis b4??

Hi @post
pls go thru this , i just copied it , it may help


Faith vs Family
by Michael Webb
http://www.50secrets.com/?wp_ml=0

A few years ago I was traveling to California to do a television
taping.  A man sat next to me and we struck up a conversation.  When
he found out that I wrote and spoke about relationships, he asked me a
question that had been on his mind for some time.  He wanted to know
what advice I would give to someone who wanted to marry a person of a
different religious faith.  He grew up Jewish and his girlfriend grew
up as a Christian.

How important is it that couples share the same religion?  Some would
have you believe that all religions are equally good - just different
strokes for different folks.

But picking a religion is not like going to an ice cream parlor with
32 flavors to chose from.  At the ice cream parlor you might go for
vanilla while the person you are dating chooses fudge ripple.  In ice
cream, there is no "correct" choice.  By nature of religion, there are
many wrong choices.

Here are just a few of the religions and their teachings on eternal
life.

Christianity teaches that the only way to eternal life is through the
gift that Jesus Christ gave to the world -- living perfectly then
being sacrificed so that all might live with God forever.

Islam teaches that Jesus Christ was only a prophet and that to claim
he is God is blasphemous.  To go to Paradise one must repent of his or
her sins and then strive to live a life of goodness.

Judaism believes that Jesus Christ was not the promised Messiah.  To
worship Jesus Christ is blasphemous.  A relationship with God is built
by following certain rules and laws as outlined in Old Testament
scripture.

Hinduism teaches that one is reborn over and over again and based on
good works, one might achieve a higher level each time.

As you can see, all these religions cannot be true as almost all
contradict each other.  Therefore, most people who are truly convicted
in their religious faith cannot possibly believe that "all spiritual
roads lead to heaven/nirvana/paradise."

Even within religions there are subsets of traditions and beliefs.
Some groups stay near the core beliefs of the faith while others
venture out to the fringes, emphasizing practices and teachings that
are not embraced by most in their religion.

So, how does religion affect relationships?  If you are convicted that
eternal life rests in doing things a certain way, would you not deeply
desire for your sweetheart to understand that concept so you could
share eternity with them?  And if the two of you had children would
you want your mate teaching them one way to live their life while you
instruct your children to do things much differently?

Just because your sweetheart isn't practicing his or her faith now, it
doesn't mean they wont in a year or two.  Many men and women suddenly
have a yearning to reconnect to the religion of their youth once they
have children.  Also, tragedies can cause some to suddenly realize
that there is an emptiness inside them that can't be filled by
material things and they begin a spiritual quest for real meaning in
their life.

While tolerance, love, joy, peace and understanding are hallmarks of
most of the world's main religions, someone with deep religious
convictions must put God/Allah/Buddha etc.  first, even before family.
A truly dedicated follower would never loosen their religious morals
and value just to keep peace in a relationship.

If you are considering dating or marrying (or have already married)
someone of a different faith, think about doing these things:

* Commit to do a formal study into each other's religion.  Try to see
if the church has some sort of "new believers" class or workbook.
Converting" without fully knowing what you are converting to shows
that you really don't care about your spiritual life.

* Attend several religious services with your sweetheart.  You might
find the traditions and teachings rewarding or revolting.  Better to
know sooner than later.

> > * Pray to your Creator to guide you to the right spiritual path   "
> > not just the one that seems the easiest.
> >
> > * If you are intimate with your girlfriend/boyfriend and you curse,
> > get drunk and have a mean streak, don't expect them to think highly of
> > your religion.  On the other hand, if you chose to remain pure, and
> > you are gentle, loving, kind and giving, it will be far easier for him
> > or her to be interested in finding out what makes you that way.
> >
> > * Discuss in advance what each of you would teach your children about
> > these issues: - Who is the Creator?  - How can they know the One who
> > made them?  - What is their purpose here on earth?  - What happens to
> > people when they die?  - Why is there so much suffering in the world
> > if there is a all-powerful one who can stop it?  - How many good deeds
> > must one do to get to heaven/nirvana/paradise?
> >
> > A strong faith shared by a couple can be one of the most important
> > elements in building a blissful relationship.  But different faiths
> > are powerful enough to destroy families, marriages and even countries.
> >

@ post

I read ur post and at first I did not know what to say,

But here is my humble counsel/advice to u

Firstly, I understand u are in love(but for this I call it lust) – sounds harsh and do know how u may be feeling but ma broad apart from the bible u need to see and hear the voice of reason,  u cant date ur relation not to talk of marrying her.@@@@!!!!!!

U asked for bible passage and I want you to Read Leviticus chp 18. Take time off to read from verse 1. I know it is a fairly long passage but it will settle this issue.  I trust God u will do as the Spirit of God says.

Look for some one else. Don’t let love blind you. Let that girl go free. It may hurt u now but it will heal u better tomorrow. Don’t sacrifice the future and the eternal on the altar of the immediate. It is simply called incest.  That is my advice.  

TAKE HEED!!!! GOD LOVES U.

men like this are very selfish, and self centred, ,,//''''---===

pls women shd run from them

how would u feel if she is ur younger sister?

most men like dat continue even after marriage,

@Tola,
All is well that end well. Thank God for the victory in Christ Jesus,, May God help and keep u strong.  Read Romans Chp 7 vs 13 to end and Chp 8vs1  to end. U ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR.

@Virgin20


Keep on ur good work of counselling and encouragement, i thank God u looked at it from a broader and brighter perspective , u have saved a soul , that is real love. Virgin20, i say may God bless you real good.  U are gonna be used of God greatly. MEET U THERE!!!!

I was called for ETB interview , can anybody in the house tell what to expect and how to approach their questions

kindl help

God bless

Tola, are u sure u are one year marreid
why is he not woth u
do u suspect him??

how did u meet him??

where

wat type of wedding

pls respond,


meanwhile,
binble says, my son if sinners entice thee, consenbt thou not, so dont entice ur sef, stop dressing to pelase him and talk more with your hubby,

remember the marriage vow,

GOD BE WIOTH U

Pls lets go back to the topic and stop shooting at ourselves

meanwhile, where is To;la77, ??is she still around , tola are u there?
op u never ,

meanwhile, there are lots of questions Tola has to answer ,