Because u need to learn how to mind your business

I wonder if you know wot my business is?

@poster
I can imagine the kinda situation u're,long distance relationship are kinda difficult but u need to realise the fact that this is not a boyfriend-girlfriend htingy,u're a married woman and you need to realise that fact.I know it ca be difficult sometimes,nevertheless,please and please don't fall for this strange guy at the office,you can always try to avoid him,get yourself together and move closer to your man,you have to be very close to him now and remember the stuffs you've done together,why you got married to him and stuffs like that,there are loads of things that you can think about that will help you for the time being,don't fall the strange guy because he is just going to satisfy you for a very short period and will definitely affect your entire life,your home,marriage and your kids,

Wetin be this,your keyboard no complain?

@hot chic
Thanks for bringing us back to the "matters arising"  oh jare! There is a high level of boredom on Nairaland tonight and we are forced to attack each other in frustration.   Due to absence of virginity and Mouth Action topics!  The poster is somewhere wrapped around the "slick willy Nick's" legs and surfin' the waves of illegitimate passion---the sweetest of course---as some of you noted!  Her eyes go clear by tomorrow morning when the booze wears off!

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@ Militia

I see oooooooooo,no virginity n blow jobs n pussy lickin thingy on nairaland 2day,

LOL u people are funny

@militia: haba, empathize now, at least she hasnt done anything yet.

@ poster: it not a big deal being attracted to someone, but it is when u become vunerable and it shows. i think u can survive this cos if u were goin to fall, u wont be sharing this.also u are married and thats a no go area for u. this is what i do, atimes when in such a situation, i scare myself with the consequences of my actions, i make this fear so real more than what i feel at that moment and i live in that consciousness.  think of matters most at the end this, this passing feeling for a stranger or your love for your man.  peace.

lady i think the demon of promiscuity has caughtup with you ,vanity, vanity vanity is his favourite saint,its like butterflies wings onese touch they dont get off the ground ,his favourite adage is ''hide,hide, Bleep na im sweet pass'' .my sister relocate, get a transfer ,resign or better still fleeeeeeeeeeeeeee, from experience if you hang around that long ,the dude will pounding you in no time and you are going to enjoy it, while hating yourself for your action and then you go on and on and on until you are caught.ones i was in such a mess and i ended up pounding my junior coulleague until i was caught by another couleague who happens to be a nympho,they have both bleeped me dry that there is no sperm left for my poor wife.who knows who might catch us next,so my sister if you have respect for the devine institution called marriage and you love your life fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, !!!!!!!!! i failed in my own test i might pay for it someday so sealed your wet pants and use your head and fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee   you will smile at last

@poster
I believe stuff like this happen to everyone, doesn't make u an ashewo or 'tart'. Its common babe. we all get to have the hots for smne who's seemingly got something our partners av not. the important thing is wat you do with the attraction. Don't humor urself though, i think you're already playing the flirting set and thats where the problem comes. If u realy love ur husband, u'll stay far away from this Nick guy, hang out more with friends, call ur hussy to tell him how much you love him (do that like 3ce as much as u used to), just do everything to work on ur mind, thats where the real job is!!!!

Having said that, you realy have a lot of work to do on ur mind o! cos if ur marriage is less than a year old and you're having hots for another this seriously already, u don't need a calculator to calculate the outcome of the next five years be careful!!!

ghengis:

Having said that, you realy have a lot of work to do on your mind o! because if your marriage is less than a year old and you're having hots for another this seriously already, u don't need a calculator to calculate the outcome of the next five years be careful!!!

you don talk my mind finish. Only 1 yr and u are attracted to Nick with the caucasian nose. It seems you want to divorce ur husband and go with Nick by the look of things and u are already regreting why you rushed into marriage in the first place. pele.

MILITIA:

@hot chic
Thanks for bringing us back to the "matters arising" oh jare! There is a high level of boredom on Nairaland tonight and we are forced to attack each other in frustration. Due to absence of virginity and Mouth Action topics! The poster is somewhere wrapped around the "slick willy Nick's" legs and surfin' the waves of illegitimate passion---the sweetest of course---as some of you noted! Her eyes go clear by tomorrow morning when the booze wears off!

Sharrrraaap!

Pls lets go back to the topic and stop shooting at ourselves

meanwhile, where is To;la77, ??is she still around , tola are u there?
op u never ,

meanwhile, there are lots of questions Tola has to answer ,

Tola, are u sure u are one year marreid
why is he not woth u
do u suspect him??

how did u meet him??

where

wat type of wedding

pls respond,


meanwhile,
binble says, my son if sinners entice thee, consenbt thou not, so dont entice ur sef, stop dressing to pelase him and talk more with your hubby,

remember the marriage vow,

GOD BE WIOTH U

Tola, are u sure u are one year marreid
why is he not woth u
do u suspect him??

how did u meet him??

where

what type of wedding

please respond,

What about, where do you live?
whats ur phone number? how old are you? Is blue your best colour or red?

PLEEEEAAAASSSEEE!!!! leave out all the personal stuff query, this is smth that's personal to smne and u shd respect reading about it online and not start asking for the color of her underpants on her wedding night!

Tola its not yet a crime if your only physically attracted to him as long as you love your husband dearly.
but if youve got his pictures like a motion picture in your head then and you feel like being in his arms and,
then you need help. then it could be said that ur attracted to ur husband but love ur colleague dearly,

@Gbengis, Thank you so much for your wise replies

Thanks to you others also for your contributions, it feels so bad to be refered to as ASHEWO and to say I might not have genuine love for my husband,  , we have no kids yet, we had The traditonal wedding, registry and church. Looking back and recollecting those vows was actually the more reasons why I came here for help, I REALLY DO NOT WANT TO, thanks for contributors who made me realize that it is not a strange crime to be attracted to someone else, Nick is not a white guy He is a Delta guy, but I have never been attracted to a non-yoruba guy, (no offence please) this so exceptional, I am sorry if coming here to ask was a mistake in the first instance, I just thot I could get advice on how to handle and avoid this temptation, I wish I could develop a supernatural self control powers to resist these strange feelings without exposing myself here to all these contempts 

i know how these comments can make one feel esp wen its smth that means a lot to you. but my dia u just take these things wit a pinch of salt, you've to realise that Nairaland is just like Nigeria, at least 40% of members wld be whisked away to an institution if they ever had any psychlogical evaluation.

More seriously, u don't need any supernatural powers to avoid the errors that ur being attracted to another guy aside ur husband can lead to. U need to take each day at a time and tackle the feelings day by day with determination. It wont just zap away but grradually and steadily, i believe u can win the battle, thats in ur mind

@Tola77

Tell us the truth?  All these ya croc tears na becuz de booze don clear for ya eye?  How wuz Nick's "brushes"?  Look, it is not a crying matter.  My dear, personally I have been there and that is why I am so hard on you to realize where you are heading---DOOM!  Like you can see, I am still standing in my marriage despite the temptations and pitfalls!  This is not going to be the first or last time.  It is an ongoing struggle.  MARRIAGE CAN BE STALE!  KAI! It is not easy to wake up everymorning and see the same face next to yours for 1 year not to talk of 40 years no matter how cute!

So do not take these comments to heart.  Afterall, we do not know you.  So ya secret is safe. JUST DO NOT MAKE ANY PEROSNAL FRIENDS HERE ON NAIRALAND OR CHANGE YA SCREEN NAME TO COVER YA TRACKS! If not, na die be that! So my dear, tell us the truth.   Where do you go from here?  Are these your tears for guilt, regret, remorse, nostalgia, longing more for Nick, missing ya husband, or what?  Do you plan to see Nick again by "brushing" against him or are you on your way to Naija to meet ya husband?

@tola

So the guy is Naija , he will fu ck you then dump you like a piece of trash, then dispose you afterward.

And don't you realize Nigerians abroad knows each other, everyone are so connected that it will shock you if this guy happens to know your husband(This na small world) , nothing is secretive especially among this so called Nigerians.

As a married woman are you suppose to be brushing on another guy ***Rubbish******

You are a disgrace to be called a Married Woman .

I have a feeling you will soon sleep with this guy , you will soon feel into his trap

just 1yr of marriage and you want to start cheating , btw did someone force you to marry knowing you weren't already

@Omo Eko










I just can't stop! So naija boys are no good eh?




In fact I wan die!

MILITIA:

@Omo Eko










I just can't stop! So naija boys are no good eh?




In fact I wan die!

Majority of them OOOOO , especially those ones living abroad

@Omo Eko
I hear you oh!  In fact it is by the grace of God I caught one myself.  He just happened to be visiting from Nigeria.  Before we say amen- belle don come!  Since he is family oriented, he too was committed and I had green card to offer too!   So I just use style "KOLOBI' am before these our akata sistas contaminate am with too much "OBOATIOKO" lickin' and eatin'!   As for the naija guys here, anyone wey don stay pass 5 years for America-- I no gree touch am!  Full of silly games. I think they are beta off going to pick their brides from Naija!  I hear you mai sista!

_{Laughing my farted ass off}

I can't laugh anymore

OBOATIOKO= FERLIE which is a guy

@Omo Eko
A hermaphrodite I guess!

LOL, i don't know but his nickname is PERVERT, that was what we gave him

@Omo Eko
Talk true!  You know I  am fairly new to this Nairaland tin!  So I am learning how to deal with the numerous xters here.  Good therapy for me to release stress and laffter when I am not working or playing madam of the house with my rug rats stressing me out with their cute rubbish!

@Omo-Eko
Shame on you ! for talking to another woman like that. Atleast she got the decency to open up b/4 she f*ucks the guy. Most of our Nigerian women are not like that. They would have forked the guy about 15 times b/4 they start feeling guilty. Every man and woman, married or not goes thru the same thing Tola is going thru. Especially when they are long distant from each other. Body is not made of steel. It's so easy for you to glorify your hubby now but let's wait after a year and see what happens. Don't crucify her for being human ! Get real and wake up from your dream and smell the coffee. Do you know what your husband is doing right now?? Never say Never !

@Tola
You have done the right thing, baby . But please DO NOT go to bed with this guy !! It is human to feel the way you feel right now but it is also human to curb yourself. I'm proud of you that you have the decency to feel concern about your attraction to this Dick ( Oh sorry, Nick) but please becareful. A good man will not want to destroy another man's home ! You are one of a kind Nigerian woman, most of our women think after they would have slept with the guy. They think with their booty !

@ sweet T
u sound like her collegue in question!!

@Tola
follow your hear!!!

@ogbdcm
I'm not the guy. I don't fool around with married women !

@Tola77
I am still waiting for feed back oh! Please don't keep us waiting too long! We want to know how the story ended oh!

It seems u re just horney and missing ur husband. Its natural to feel attracted especially if the guy is handsome and u see him everyday while u husband is absent and there is nobody to cuddle. However as much as this feeling is natural and strong, God has blessed us wit a strong ablity to say no thats wat differentiates us from animals.
Marriage is an institution that includes God in the picture, if u break the contract u not only have a legal case but a moral one. sorry to sound preachy but i will advice u to hold on wait for ur husband.