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Be careful. There is no one can fit all situations here. Have you wondered why of all of God's favoured ones in the bible none was monogamous. Food for thought eh.
If it didn't work for you that does not mean the same applies to everyone.
In the traditional African society the concept of a free woman is strange. Every woman was spoken for, except the newly widowed. The society catered for all persuasion. It is this your type of posturing that has bred the army of unmarried women in our country.

Just curious. How come all the great friends of God in the bible none is monogamous?
There are women whose only memory of a real relationship and caring was with a married man.
In this generation, there are many women whose only hope of any meaningful love relationship will be with a married man. She will search all her adult life for a single man and not find one.
This is not a one size fits all matter. Let every woman by guided by wisdom. It is this kind of thinking that has led to so much competition for the few available eligible bachelors. We re Africans. The concept of a free woman is a strange in out traditional African community. By the way I have only one wife.

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Well, I ve decided to position myself in this life in such a way that I can determine who can live next to me. This way I won't be forced to see this end times scenes.
Soon you ll av next flat neighbours of same Sex and married and me no fit stand that disgusting sight

Op the matter is complex. Factors ranging from over supply, to the economy, unemployment which has raised the age most men are able to cater for family.
What is the average age guys marry these days. 32-35. Guess what they will pick a 22-24 year old
So what happens to the over 25s. Let's face it. In this age,there are many ladies who will not taste marriage unless they opt for polygamy. It has nothing to do with their morality. They just did not meet a man who was prepared for marriage in that magic age bracket. Prayer may help you manage the pressure but those who do get married mostly don't pray. Develop yourself cos at the end of the day a woman greatest protection is some money of her own.

The prehistoric folks had their way of choosing mates. The males looked at their female, noted the girth of her waist, the strength and nimbleness of her body,her bosom. He is sizing and reading her capacity to bear children and be a help in farming. The woman also looked at her potential mate and to note of his strength and manliness. She is deciding if she could trust him to provide for her and her children. In the modern day. Nothing has changeec except that all those sizing is now cash denominated. A woman wants a man who can look after her and the family.if she settles for anything less it's for other reasons not rational

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It's too early to consider divorce. The first three years of a marriage are critical but the first year is the most critical.
Your wife is obviously childish and thinks you re still dating. She has read you as being slack because she sees how much her behaviour affects you. You need to get someone she respects to come have a talk with her. If that doesn't work then pull back a bit and let her taste a bit of her own pill.whatever you do don't get physical with her.the threat of getting physical is more powerful than the actual beating up. Develop new interests to keep you occupied on your own. Her malice will die if you don't acknowledged it. You take her too seriously. Pull back a bit.observe from that distance. As she tests your determination and notices your new strength, she will start a painful process of adjustment but she will continue to be the shrew she obviously is if you continue this your nice guy behaviour

Nice one. It's ok as long as you keep behind your mind the reality that every clime has its challenges. Don't come with any expectations and live one day at a time. Also it will help greatly if you have good source of income. There are no social security arrangements in Nigeria

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only for the first few months o jare

I fear for your future when I read tha type of sexual liberalism that most of you are advocating here.I assume it will be cool if in a few years from now you have children who tell you they want to be bi.
To the OP Pls stay away from that woman.there is something inherently spiritual about sex and sexual deviance has the most spiritual repercussion.
Dont corrupt yourself with this woman.The times of ignorance God overlooks but now all men are called to righteousness.There are still many heterosexual women out there.

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Where I come from,it willbe rgarded as a mighty insult for my wife to express a wish that my FACE is farted on.It is unimaginable that She would say talkless of do actually do it into my mouth.I still cringe when I imagine what happened to you.
You young men are the ones destroying the marriage institution.I bet you have condoned a lot of other demeaning acts in the past which may have happened playfully and you saw nothing wrong.These things are progressive.Women are much better at reading body language than we are and she will not usually deliberately do anything to threaten a marriage that means anything to her.
You have not done anything wrong if we agree that all the niceness was to set the tune for the marriage as you would desire it to be.Welcome to the real world you now know that your early posturing will not work with this particularly woman.You need to pull back and watch her reaction which will tell you what the marriage means to her.There are no textbook theory here but if she calls your bluff.Well it means it does not mean much to her and then you have to decide how much you are willing to do to keep the marriage on the same terms.
If you love her so much and want to keep the marriage I suggest you pipe down.If you love her but insist on certain amount of reciprocal respect and self dignity then call her bluff.At this stage anything will be possible.If the marriage survives this you will both enjoy it because you boundaries would have been well stated.I wish you balls

It is impossible to have any universality of viewpoint regarding the pros and cons of living in Nigeria or vice versa.This is because depending on your experience of Nigeria,any country is better than Nigeria.
I am mid forties,I have worked and lived in Nigeria all my life.I travel regularly to europe because my spouse for now prefers to stay there.I have the option of staying legally but consider it inconcievable to live permanently in europe.Aside from the annoying weather and restrictions,I wont make what I make in Nigeria.
On the other hand ,a fellow whose only experience of Nigeria has been its school and and unemployment will go to latvia if you give him the opportunity.
I am investing seriously in Nigeria because the returns justify the risks. I am an opportunity seeker not a job seeker.It is not possible for me to see this country from the same perspective as a job seeker.Therefore the argument between those who say there is nothing like Nigeria and those who if given the opportunity dont mind going abroad on a canoe

I agree with the poster only as far as the advice to moderate the desperation for marriage.The fact is that is this generation,the one before and the one after it,there will be many good women who will not marry in their lifetime.This is not because they are the worse women around.They may actually be very good women but for some inexplicable reason they would have never met and dated a man who at that point in his life was ready for marriage.
Marriage is not compulsory but in or world today not just in africa but even so in the developed world,there is simple anecdotal and empirical evidence that the companionship,friendship,sharing and the opportunity for shared parenting that comes with marriage makes it something worthwhile.
Do not be deceived by headlines of a few marriages that did not work or news of growing divorce rate.Probably true but their is a much larger number of ordinary folk out there for whom life would have been horrific but for the gift of their patners.
It is not easy to advice women about marrital choices because every case is unique but you must respond to the hand that fate has dealt you adjust your expectations as the days go by.
Africa had a safety valve to manage down the number of eligible but single women by way of various forms of poligamy.But christianity and the brainwashing and misinterpretation of the scripture coupled with a rise in awareness and living standards and certainly not helped by economic forces have combined to force men to keep one wife and play the field.The decision to marry or not to marry have serious ramifications for the individual and the life he or she will live.In africa an enduring marriage is a large part of our social security plan.

I joined this site because I get entertained,enlightened and sometimes educated.Pls keep this place free of this level of childishness and triviality.

If not Buhari, who?
By Uche Ezechukwu 0803 622 3337 [email: onukwube1@yahoo.com]
Monday, April 04, 2011

Last weekend, it looked as if Nigeria was marshalling for war and not just elections. The preparations were not only physical; they were more psychological, to the extent that the government created an overall impression that the elections which debuted with the National Assembly polls last Saturday was not just routine activities which Nigerians should have started getting used to after 12 years.

Even some schools were ordered shut as parents and wards were suddenly invited to evacuate their wards, even before they could take their examinations. It did not matter to anybody that they had earlier lost three clear weeks to the voters registration exercise. Any government which creates the impression that it cannot protect its youngsters and children in school has no business governing anybody. For, even during wars, schools remain in operation.
Harassed crowds at the banks, airports, motorparks and other public institutions rushed around like people on last rites of passage. In the midst of this bedlam, what seems to have become a universal feeling is that the Nigerian politician has become like a leopard which is incapable of changing its spots. It has been taken for granted that rather than change, the Nigerian political class will remain corrupt, undisciplined and therefore, dangerous, especially to his own kind. In that process, he has become dangerous even to the most unconcerned of bystanders – the rest of us.

Of course, anyone who does not agree that the only obstacles standing on Nigeria’s road to greatness and phenomenal development are the twin evils of indiscipline and corruption must be either dishonest or naive. There is no evil today that cannot be ultimately traced to those two factors. It then goes without saying that if these two are eliminated from our society and body politic, our nation can easily rub shoulders with the equally gifted nations of the world. It is these two evils that ultimately combine to make elections a ‘do-or-die’ affair as President Obasanjo shamelessly prescribed, but which Goodluck Jonathan, in his disarming naiveté and innocence, is trying to change. In that determination that has been sabotaged from the onset, he wants to roll out a gargantuan arsenal to prove us naysayers wrong.

Next Saturday, Nigerians would be expected to move ahead of last weekend’s ritual to elect the president who would hold the present and future of our country in his hands. As usual, emotions would dominate logic and commonsense in the choices made by our lopsidedly uneducated and uninformed citizenry. Primordial sentiments will still play a crucial role in the choices that most will make. But as next Saturday comes nearer and nearer, the God inside every voter will come alive and conscience will nudge him and her to allow the head, rather than the heart to take prominence.

In many Nigerians from all the cardinal points of Nigeria, their heart will instruct them to stand behind that suave looking, gentle and innocent looking gentleman in a bowler heart, who looks like a neighbour next door. He is likeable and even wears a name that invokes Godliness and panders to our growing woeful and disastrous surrender to the divine benevolence as the solution to our many man-made predicaments. Jonathan will appeal to most people who are incapable of thinking deeply and are, therefore, incapable of placing what has been and what could be, side by side.

Those are people who have been unable to keep mental records as to remember that no promise that have been made in the last four years has been kept. ‘My people’, without any proof or indication, already believe that their ‘brother’ would turn their tattered landscapes into El Dorado. The likes of Gov. Peter Obi and his brother governors have been boasting of how the South East would suddenly be transformed into the Candy Mountain when not one of those lofty promises was captured in the 2011 budget. If Nigerian voters had only hearts and no heads, Jonathan would sweep the polls.

However, I have every reason to believe that at some crucial point in the life of an individual, it is his head that rules. It is the head that queries about the prospects for the better future, after a clear-minded assessment of the past and the present. It is the head that queries whether you are better or worse now than you were 12 years, eight years or four years ago. It is the head that queries about how far past promises have been fulfilled, and that even though the head and the senses have been befuddled with the endless rattles of beautiful adverts, it wonders whether any of those adverts has been able to stand the test of truth.

The voters who use their heads would recall that we have received excuses and no action and would start to reason that Nigerians deserve better than excuses, especially excuses that have become insults. Like the one which claims that we cannot get our refineries to work because ‘cartels’ that import refined petroleum would not let us. Then the other one that we cannot improve our power supply because the cartels that import generators won’t let us. The thinking Nigerians would start to reason that for us to escape from these quagmires and more into whose prisons corruption, indiscipline and lack of patriotism have held us hostage, it goes without saying that we must have someone with the capacity to give battle to these evil, especially someone who has shown the ability to do so in the past, and who has been proven to have never wavered from those commitments.

Muhammadu Buhari might not be the most qualified person to govern Nigeria at this point in time, but he is definitely the most capable among all those who have presented themselves for the 2011 presidential race. He has remained incorruptible and ramrod in his sticking to principles. More importantly he has proved all his critics wrong in all the things that have been invented against him. He has been accused of being uncompromising and rigid, but in the condition that Nigeria finds itself today, those could only be salutary recommendations.

One great shortfall of Jonathan’s aspiration is that he is a pigeon among the hawks; no matter how much he might want to act in his natural good nature, he will be frustrated by the evil leviathan that is his party. It would therefore be great folly of him to believe that he can grow above his shadow which is the PDP. On the other hand, Buhari is uncompromising in his principled fights in any direction that has been adopted. You cannot come back to ask him to make compromises in order to accommodate self-serving interests. I know because I have served him as the director of his media and publicity in 2003. His fair-mindedness is legendary and in spite of accusations by Lilliputians that he is extremist and discriminatory, no one has ever been able to come forward with concrete evidence.

It is not for nothing that he is reputed as ‘Mai Gaskiya’, the truthful one. He has never told a lie and will not do so, even to win an election. It is needless to say too many words to convince Nigerians that our present and future can only be safe if we put them in Buhari’s hands next Saturday and that is the only way that the next four years will not see us a country that will be competing with the other failed nations of the world.

The challenges of the present and future are enormous but they will be a child play if we do not rescue Nigeria from the stranglehold of the marauders who are holding us hostage. Buhari does not only have the capacity to end indiscipline and corruption. He is also capable of bringing back accountability at all levels of governance because he will lead by example and transparency conduct of governance. He is prepared to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve it. He has the guts, the courage, fairness and a will of steel to salvage Nigeria and bring about security of lives and property which have defied all the previous lip service that has been paid.

I endorse Buhari because he is the solution to the hydra-headed problems of Nigeria which look insolvable but which can be swept away by a determined, iron-willed and honest leadership that is committed to the present and future of this country. Nigeria needs that type of leadership now than ever.
If it is not only Buhari who can raise Nigeria from its knees, who else, among all the candidates can? Use your head, not your heart.

If not Buhari, who?
By Uche Ezechukwu 0803 622 3337 [email: onukwube1@yahoo.com]
Monday, April 04, 2011

Last weekend, it looked as if Nigeria was marshalling for war and not just elections. The preparations were not only physical; they were more psychological, to the extent that the government created an overall impression that the elections which debuted with the National Assembly polls last Saturday was not just routine activities which Nigerians should have started getting used to after 12 years.

Even some schools were ordered shut as parents and wards were suddenly invited to evacuate their wards, even before they could take their examinations. It did not matter to anybody that they had earlier lost three clear weeks to the voters registration exercise. Any government which creates the impression that it cannot protect its youngsters and children in school has no business governing anybody. For, even during wars, schools remain in operation.
Harassed crowds at the banks, airports, motorparks and other public institutions rushed around like people on last rites of passage. In the midst of this bedlam, what seems to have become a universal feeling is that the Nigerian politician has become like a leopard which is incapable of changing its spots. It has been taken for granted that rather than change, the Nigerian political class will remain corrupt, undisciplined and therefore, dangerous, especially to his own kind. In that process, he has become dangerous even to the most unconcerned of bystanders – the rest of us.

Of course, anyone who does not agree that the only obstacles standing on Nigeria’s road to greatness and phenomenal development are the twin evils of indiscipline and corruption must be either dishonest or naive. There is no evil today that cannot be ultimately traced to those two factors. It then goes without saying that if these two are eliminated from our society and body politic, our nation can easily rub shoulders with the equally gifted nations of the world. It is these two evils that ultimately combine to make elections a ‘do-or-die’ affair as President Obasanjo shamelessly prescribed, but which Goodluck Jonathan, in his disarming naiveté and innocence, is trying to change. In that determination that has been sabotaged from the onset, he wants to roll out a gargantuan arsenal to prove us naysayers wrong.

Next Saturday, Nigerians would be expected to move ahead of last weekend’s ritual to elect the president who would hold the present and future of our country in his hands. As usual, emotions would dominate logic and commonsense in the choices made by our lopsidedly uneducated and uninformed citizenry. Primordial sentiments will still play a crucial role in the choices that most will make. But as next Saturday comes nearer and nearer, the God inside every voter will come alive and conscience will nudge him and her to allow the head, rather than the heart to take prominence.

In many Nigerians from all the cardinal points of Nigeria, their heart will instruct them to stand behind that suave looking, gentle and innocent looking gentleman in a bowler heart, who looks like a neighbour next door. He is likeable and even wears a name that invokes Godliness and panders to our growing woeful and disastrous surrender to the divine benevolence as the solution to our many man-made predicaments. Jonathan will appeal to most people who are incapable of thinking deeply and are, therefore, incapable of placing what has been and what could be, side by side.

Those are people who have been unable to keep mental records as to remember that no promise that have been made in the last four years has been kept. ‘My people’, without any proof or indication, already believe that their ‘brother’ would turn their tattered landscapes into El Dorado. The likes of Gov. Peter Obi and his brother governors have been boasting of how the South East would suddenly be transformed into the Candy Mountain when not one of those lofty promises was captured in the 2011 budget. If Nigerian voters had only hearts and no heads, Jonathan would sweep the polls.

However, I have every reason to believe that at some crucial point in the life of an individual, it is his head that rules. It is the head that queries about the prospects for the better future, after a clear-minded assessment of the past and the present. It is the head that queries whether you are better or worse now than you were 12 years, eight years or four years ago. It is the head that queries about how far past promises have been fulfilled, and that even though the head and the senses have been befuddled with the endless rattles of beautiful adverts, it wonders whether any of those adverts has been able to stand the test of truth.

The voters who use their heads would recall that we have received excuses and no action and would start to reason that Nigerians deserve better than excuses, especially excuses that have become insults. Like the one which claims that we cannot get our refineries to work because ‘cartels’ that import refined petroleum would not let us. Then the other one that we cannot improve our power supply because the cartels that import generators won’t let us. The thinking Nigerians would start to reason that for us to escape from these quagmires and more into whose prisons corruption, indiscipline and lack of patriotism have held us hostage, it goes without saying that we must have someone with the capacity to give battle to these evil, especially someone who has shown the ability to do so in the past, and who has been proven to have never wavered from those commitments.

Muhammadu Buhari might not be the most qualified person to govern Nigeria at this point in time, but he is definitely the most capable among all those who have presented themselves for the 2011 presidential race. He has remained incorruptible and ramrod in his sticking to principles. More importantly he has proved all his critics wrong in all the things that have been invented against him. He has been accused of being uncompromising and rigid, but in the condition that Nigeria finds itself today, those could only be salutary recommendations.

One great shortfall of Jonathan’s aspiration is that he is a pigeon among the hawks; no matter how much he might want to act in his natural good nature, he will be frustrated by the evil leviathan that is his party. It would therefore be great folly of him to believe that he can grow above his shadow which is the PDP. On the other hand, Buhari is uncompromising in his principled fights in any direction that has been adopted. You cannot come back to ask him to make compromises in order to accommodate self-serving interests. I know because I have served him as the director of his media and publicity in 2003. His fair-mindedness is legendary and in spite of accusations by Lilliputians that he is extremist and discriminatory, no one has ever been able to come forward with concrete evidence.

It is not for nothing that he is reputed as ‘Mai Gaskiya’, the truthful one. He has never told a lie and will not do so, even to win an election. It is needless to say too many words to convince Nigerians that our present and future can only be safe if we put them in Buhari’s hands next Saturday and that is the only way that the next four years will not see us a country that will be competing with the other failed nations of the world.

The challenges of the present and future are enormous but they will be a child play if we do not rescue Nigeria from the stranglehold of the marauders who are holding us hostage. Buhari does not only have the capacity to end indiscipline and corruption. He is also capable of bringing back accountability at all levels of governance because he will lead by example and transparency conduct of governance. He is prepared to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve it. He has the guts, the courage, fairness and a will of steel to salvage Nigeria and bring about security of lives and property which have defied all the previous lip service that has been paid.

I endorse Buhari because he is the solution to the hydra-headed problems of Nigeria which look insolvable but which can be swept away by a determined, iron-willed and honest leadership that is committed to the present and future of this country. Nigeria needs that type of leadership now than ever.
If it is not only Buhari who can raise Nigeria from its knees, who else, among all the candidates can? Use your head, not your heart.

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Your guy needs to make himself employable.If the degree he holds in Sociology is a typical degree from a typical nigerian university,I can imagine what kind of skills he will be trying to market.
There are lots of post graduate professional certifications that can make him more employable otherwise he is not likely to get any job paying above a 100k in Nigeria.
Concerning your concerns for his age,you dont mature for marriage by your age alone or by the lenght of your phallus.
If he marries anyone in Nigeria with that pittance of an income,I assure you that he will either prepare to be a footmat in the name of humility and perseverance or the marriage will break up.Nigerian women,especially the half educated ones (who are in the majority by the way) loath poor men like a plague.

are you sure what ou need is an mba?

No wonder majority of us are still abjectly poor.I cant believe the kind of thing a grown man who should be busy doing stuff with his time has the time to post here.How does it concern me or anyone here for that matter that one adult got another adult pregant? Pls get something to do