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Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by boluyongp(m): 7:21pm On May 11, 2015 |
I honestly don't have sympathy for any woman anymore. Check their life history and see how they've mocked, played games like 'hard-to-get' and messed guys up in their younger years, now they've "turned a new leaf" and are finding it difficult to get a man. Well, karma is a bittch. In all you do in life, always remember tomorrow. Now, they'll jump on anything in trousers. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by abbey621(m): 7:21pm On May 11, 2015 |
adconline: Yes people do but if you speak to any marriage counselor or any couple that has been married for over 20 years, you'll learn it takes much more than physical attributes to make a successful marriage. Physical attributes will fade over time but mental attributes and personality lasts a lifetime. Agree or disagree, the fact remains simple, responsible guys look for way more than physical attributes when seeking a life partner! 3 Likes |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by bizmogul(m): 7:29pm On May 11, 2015 |
DeeTus: Alright. They are good as far as I know. Until you get into a relationship, then you know more... |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Nobody: 7:31pm On May 11, 2015 |
winie:Please send me a pm. There's something i really want to tell you. Cheers! |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by koyyess: 7:34pm On May 11, 2015 |
Op, if you are a good person and a good friend, you will help those desperados by looking for suitable dudes you know for them. The civilized whites call it 'match making'. NL is a place filled with unproductive miscreants so you will not get reasonable answers from most people here. You shouldn't have bothered at all. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by koyyess: 7:44pm On May 11, 2015 |
rallymento:And that's the basic truth. Men generally do not like desperados no matter the age. As long as you keep and look busy, responsible men especially will always want to be around you. Most the comments here are just pure trash. ....Nice observation. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Sundayme(m): 7:45pm On May 11, 2015 |
bizmogul: I know God's Time is the best, and that God alone knows all things. If she is indeed a true child of God, you can tell her to pray to God to miraculously arrange the meeting of herself and her spouse. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Dav24(m): 7:51pm On May 11, 2015 |
Where are they from? |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by saintfizzo(m): 7:57pm On May 11, 2015 |
precisionindepth:Mind if we discussed it outside here? i'll seriously appreciate ur opinion and ideas |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by precisionindepth: 8:08pm On May 11, 2015 |
saintfizzo:lol. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Nobody: 8:10pm On May 11, 2015 |
First of all..I'm not a church fanatic or religion. I have had my own fair share of disappointments from all the churches that preach financial prosperity and make us think God is Father Christmas. Ladies close to 30 and desperate for marriage should know that there is no brother Sunday in church. Stop going to church to deceive yourselves. There's is no amount of fasting and prayer that would get you a husband. Cut The bullshit. You really think you getting a husband is more important to your almighty God than the people dieing and suffering everyday expecting a miracle. Personally I do not believe in God and never will though, I have tried. My deduction is marriage is not for everybody as I was once told. Not everybody would get married. Infact my friends father told me all the bad girl frm his school days married good husbands and the good ones married bad men(they are probably more experienced and knw how to filter these men. So, you should start doing things differently because it sounds like you won't even marry for love. I, myself have made up my mind if I don't get married before 30, that's the end of marriage. There's nothing to be scared of because it is societal and traditional norms that make marriage compulsory in Africa and the Rest of the world. 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by donem: 8:30pm On May 11, 2015 |
Professurr: Sire dont take that peckharm born Londoner serious, he is kinda clowny, its like you're new here? |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by ogianyo(m): 8:39pm On May 11, 2015 |
Op the matter is complex. Factors ranging from over supply, to the economy, unemployment which has raised the age most men are able to cater for family. What is the average age guys marry these days. 32-35. Guess what they will pick a 22-24 year old So what happens to the over 25s. Let's face it. In this age,there are many ladies who will not taste marriage unless they opt for polygamy. It has nothing to do with their morality. They just did not meet a man who was prepared for marriage in that magic age bracket. Prayer may help you manage the pressure but those who do get married mostly don't pray. Develop yourself cos at the end of the day a woman greatest protection is some money of her own. 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Neemee: 8:39pm On May 11, 2015 |
That's the problem with these girls. There's a girl I have come to love without reservation, but, guess what the obstacle is? She got a guy she's been dating for years now, a guy that hasn't even formally paid a bride price on her, promises her love on earth and in heaven. I have tried everything to make her see my own side of the story, but she wouldn't even oblige me neither a date nor a brief meeting, all because her heart, body and soul are fixated on some else line, hook and sinker. Ladies, a little descent friendship with the other guy wouldn't bit; otherwise, u never get to decipher who your suited hubby is. Stop falling in love on emotions or for the wrong reasons. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by saintfizzo(m): 8:41pm On May 11, 2015 |
precisionindepth:I'm for real... not asking U out or anyfin like it... giv me a channel to interview u one on one... u sound like my preffered audience... pls grant my request |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by precisionindepth: 8:44pm On May 11, 2015 |
saintfizzo:the project is for real? |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Nobody: 8:54pm On May 11, 2015 |
[size=13pt]Guys are struggling to get jobs and money to settle down, while women are worried about getting married. Guys want to get married but the finance is just not there yet. Marriage and family is a huge financial responsibility to go into. The guys like the girls but they don't have the jobs or the money to marry them. Men need finance to marry the girls they like, girls want a man to marry and care for their financial and other needs. Neither of them is getting what they desire[/size] |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by saintfizzo(m): 9:05pm On May 11, 2015 |
precisionindepth:Yes it is.... I'm researching the topic "Fear of being alone" |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by nepp(f): 9:25pm On May 11, 2015 |
saintfizzo: |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by laudate: 9:29pm On May 11, 2015 |
Toks2008: How many men have proposed to a girl while they were struggling or jobless & living in a one-room apartment? Do you know of any, as am yet to see one. A lot of such men will tell the girl directly and indirectly that they are not financially ready to take a wife.....some even go as far as telling her to hold on by promising that things will get better. And in some cases, the poor girl does exactly that. She may even assist the guy financially from her meagre earnings, once in a while. Once things improve, many guys start looking for excuses. That is when you hear stories like: "She is too old for my taste!" Guy, you met this girl when she was 24, but now after spending time waiting for you to make up your mind and praying to God to improve your lot, she is now 32 years old. Suddenly, she has become old, abi? God dey! Other stories you will hear include: "She is not from my area.." Bros, when she was using her small salary to go to the market and cook for you while you dated for more than 7 years, and when she was helping you with small loans in order to ease the financial pressure on you as well as letting you slake your lust in her body, you did not remember that one oh! Dia ris God, oh! Or the last one: "My people said she is not good for me!" Chai! When you were poor and you were telling her to stick around because tomorrow would be bright, you did not ask your people's opinion oh! Now that you have exchanged your 'leggediz-benz' for a Kia Cerato, your family have suddenly decided to voice their opinion.... There is something called karma.... 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Creamychic(f): 9:44pm On May 11, 2015 |
abbey621:so childish |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by braine(m): 9:49pm On May 11, 2015 |
Who would marry 28/30 year olds, when there are cute 21/23 graduates ripe for marriage? Lol. They should move to one corner jare. 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by PreacherxSon(m): 10:19pm On May 11, 2015 |
The beautiful Husbands are not yet born... #BuhThatsNonOfMyBusiness !!! |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by PreacherxSon(m): 10:21pm On May 11, 2015 |
The beautiful Husbands are not yet born... #BuhThatsNonOfMyBusiness !!! |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by MRBrownJ: 10:35pm On May 11, 2015 |
rallymento: ALLELUJAH!!!! the good women never stay too long on the market... and thats a FACT! |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by MRBrownJ: 10:39pm On May 11, 2015 |
Neemee: so are you saying that women should just settle for ANYONE who ask for their hand in marriage, without a say on the matter? she is in love with some dude, and although they aint married yet, she believes in him, and is willing to wait for when the time will be right. go find another babe jo! abbey621: the above in bold is the main point of this issue.... a responsible guy knows a liability when he sees one, and if these babe are overlooked by "all" responsible guys then something must be really fishy about these leftover babes. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by rapmike(m): 10:52pm On May 11, 2015 |
bizmogul: I have heard a couple of these stories about decent girls who seem not to have decent guys as husbands. I have a few notes about them and girls generally. 1. Very Few of them have a sense of purpose/vision: am not talking of a job here, I mean something that drives you, makes you cry/shout/work/stress yourself without feeling the stress. Something that your heart wants to build on and work on, whose only gain ( at least temporarily) is the satisfaction of it been done. Many of these 'decent' girls don't have these things and I believe its one of the few things that really attract decent men. Check out most of the ladies in the coporate world who suppose to be there( as per its their purpose) they have fiancés/ husbands on time (unless they are in the banking sector, lol) or at least they have men propose to them. Am sure most of those 'bad' girls fall into that category. 2. They are not ready for marriage: this is the worse part of it, they wait for 'so long', try to put themselves so much into the 'marriage' market and finally get a man, then they don't know how to manage 'themselves'. Most of these ladies do not know jack about marriage, try and probe them you will see it. They see marriage as an end instead of a phase. God in his wisdom will not lead some of them to their husbands because they are not simply ready for the kind of guy they will marry. Imagine a lady who is to marry a minister of God who has to travel and go through some level of stress, its not just any woman that God will drop at his laps. God himself is not a fool. A good number of these 'decent ladies don't know what they are obsessed about, for if they know, they will exercise patience. 3. They don't understand the word 'human': this is for some ladies- there is no perfect person; man or woman! Some ladies cannot see beyond the faults of guys (esp those who are working on themselves). I mean simple things that guys do that they may not know is offensive, like talking/speaking with a particular accent, not been able to dress as good as a celebrity/decent enough dressing (ladies know what am saying). They automatically shift into inyanga mode when such men shift towards them and then when he sees that he leaves (no time). Then later on they begin to look for Mr Available when they realise that Mr Perfect is not there, hence guys using and dumping them. 4. Many ladies are myopic: Very Myopic, cannot see beyond the shirt and trouser a guy wears. This has been explained previously by other posters. 5. Pressure: especially from non-understanding parents. A lot of parents have chased away potential suitors all on top 'grading system' not knowing that conditions are temporary. My advice for such ladies is to find their purpose/ passion and then follow it. They should bury all marriage stuff for the time being. I believe in chasing the former they will find the latter. 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by alobam1: 10:53pm On May 11, 2015 |
bizmogul: You see broda..Thats why some men prefer marrying a street girl to the core than most of these so.called born again/religious girls even though I don't subcribe to it..Those guys feel at home with those ladies.. |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by butanep(m): 10:54pm On May 11, 2015 |
naijainfogalery:You said it all bro |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by winie(f): 10:58pm On May 11, 2015 |
holamiday:sorry o, I don't know how this PM thing works. Don't even knw how to access it. Its well. Cheers! |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Nobody: 11:32pm On May 11, 2015 |
lolaredvelvet:am not trying to discredit what your saying, but sometimes things aren't always black and white. I know a lot of "lively" and "sharp" girls who are still looking for husbands, going for girls night out every weekend from one lounge or bar to another. some get attention from men but not from devoted men. i had a friend who was referred to as "boring" and reserved, she just got married a few weeks ago to a young and promising dude, funny thing was girls who always used to tell her to loosen up and be more social and acted like they knew all about attracting guys were there as bridesmaids and asoebi wearers. its the same way some people work very hard and still amount to nothing, Gods ways are not our ways. 1 Like |
Re: How Can These DECENT Ladies Get Their Dream Husbands? by Nobody: 11:39pm On May 11, 2015 |
In their early and mid 20s, they looked down on the decent guys. Somehow, I don't pity unmarried ladies. They should keep searching for that thing they are seeking in a man, surely they will find it, maybe in their 50s. |
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