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There are so many ways to this thing..which are quite easy.

You can even make him ask you out. I tried this, and it worked.

I've got a package on it... You might love to Whatsapp me to understand this and more.

This is quite touching and I feel so sorry you are going through this.


First of all, please suicide should be the last thing on your mind, commiting suicide has no benefit, it is just leaving this earth to continue the hard treatment elsewhere.


I don't know what to say about your mom, and concerning the jobs you ain't getting, why not try out lesser jobs which are easier to get?


It might be way below your standard or level of education, but you need something to start with.


I don't know your gender, but jobs like sales assistant, a join man (if you learnt any handwork), delivery person, laundry assistant and the likes can help you gather something to start your POS business until other jobs click.



To save your sanity, please find somewhere else to stay, a church, a mosque, anywhere good to lay your head. You need space to think and breath fine. You will go back for your son when you are balanced.



You will be fine..

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Sometimes, I think it's only God that can explain the use of I'm and Am to people.

But then, let me quickly address the use of those two words in the simplest form I know.

I'm is the short form of "I am"
Am is different from I am.


Instead of explaining what part of speech they are, let us just check out the usage.

(I realize people remember examples more than explanations)


I'm your friend ✔️
Am your friend ❌

I think I'm feeling dizzy ✔️
I think am feeling dizzy ❌

I'm the best version of me ✔️
Am the best version of me❌


These examples � indicates that, you don't use "am" in sentences that requires "I am".
Since "I'm" is the short form of "I am", then that is what you should use.
If you don't understand which short form to use, please use the words "I am" and avoid blunders.


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Am I your friend? ✔️
I'm I your friend? ❌

Am I to pay the fees? ✔️
I'm I to pay the fees? ❌

Am I leaving with the boys? ✔️
I'm i leaving with the boys? ❌


These examples � explains that, "am" is used to start sentences that are questions. Using "I'm" in a sentence like "I'm I your friend?" Is like saying "I am I your friend?" Which is wrong.


Study these examples, learn the use by heart.

Feel free to ask questions, and also drop your contributions and/or corrections.

mariahAngel:
Hilarious!

I was waiting for the part where Florence got served...it never came

Lol, it never came o

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Quite a number of people live each day as it comes, clueless of what else the next minute holds.
They engage in so many things for the sake of seeking fulfilment, but keep going round the circles.

There are five major steps to coming out of this web of frustration, which I will quickly address.

1. The Listening Habit

The benefit of listening more than you talk can never be over emphasized. There are 101 things you are yet to learn, and if all you do is talk about the things you know, denying others the benefit of depositing some values in you, you will continue to remain where you are.

The more you listen, the higher your state of reasoning, that is like gathering knowledge from different angles, comparing and contrasting till you get the best of it.

Imagine if all you do is to give out, how then will you ever receive?


2. Setting Boundaries

There is this neighbour of mine who jokes a lot to the detriment of another. I mean, he can be so insulting and say things you will remember for life, all in the name of jokes.

I have been enduring his words just so I don't appear strict or unfriendly since no one else was complaining.

But at a point, I told him clearly to his face, right in the presence of everyone, never to say certain words to me again, I also made sure I warned him of his touchy ways. He wanted to laugh it off as usual, but I wasn't in for it. I stood my ground and created that boundary which brought back respect from everyone.

You need to understand that, there are certain things you need to say a big NO to, don't ever be intimidated to accept everything because others are accepting it. You are not everyone.


3. Daily Records

This is something that has helped me grately, each day, I pick a book and write out what I was able to do that day. I check out my mistakes, the words I said which I shouldn't have uttered, and what I desire to do the next day.

This process has brought about tremendous change. Why? Because I am now accountable to my inner mind. I won't want to repeat the same mistakes over and over again, instead, I get the chance to rewrite my ways.


4. Positive Words

One thing I have learnt to do is, never to say "I can't", when I haven't tried.

Why can't you when others can? You become exactly what you say to yourself.

If you have that believe that you can't achieve something, my dear, you won't.

The universe has ears, whatever you say to it is what it brings to you and makes you work on.
Do your best in avoiding negative words.


5. Be Selective

Yes, you read that right. Be highly selective when it comes to people you keep close. Don't be all about pleasing people or making friends with everyone. You don't need them, you can never please them.

Position yourself in a way you attract only people who will add value to your life.

Who has excess friends helped in this life? Instead it brings a lot of negative energies and frenemies.

Only people who are not ready to grow will tag that pride. If that is the price to getting your life on track and influencing your tribe, please pay the price.



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I remember several years back when I was in primary 4, it was a public primary school, apparently, there are many pupils in the class.

There was this girl named Florence, I can never forget her name in this life and hereafter. She has a bigger stature, and yes she was a year older.

Several times, she torments everyone with her big stature and a voice thicker than her age. Unlike people like me with tiny voice and body that can be swayed off by small breeze.

I have never been a good fighter, but I had this very sharp tongue, I give it hot hot.

(Moral: if you can't fight, learn to work out your way).

One day like that, we were in class, she said I should teach her one class work, I refused, I asked her where she kept her brain when the teacher was explaining.

She threatened to beat me up later after school if I don't teach her, I was scared, but I told her "dem no born you well, olodo oshi".

(Moral: never show your opponent you're scared).

When class ended, I waited till she had gone, I never knew this nonsense girl with animal bone was lurking around.

I was walking home jejely, suddenly I felt someone drag me by my collar, it was Florence. She started spitting trash and telling me "if dem born you well, talk".

I didn't talk o, not like I was scared of her o, but was I there when mother gave birth to me? How will I know if they born me well?

In a nutshell, Florence beat me up, all my trial to beat her back only earned me more beatings.

Later, some elders came to separate us. Rubbish people, where were they when she started?

(Moral: don't be an unfortunate elder, when you see two kids fighting, separate them asap, before the stronger one kill the weaker vessel).

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After that day, I started planning my revenge, I watched kung fu movies and wrestling. I practised with my neighbours' children. I learnt how to keep blade in between the fingers and strike it against my opponent's face. I also learnt how to pour sand on my opponent's face, fall down the target, mount the target and stuck sand in the target's mouth.

I learnt so many tactics, and I was certain I would beat her up.

(Moral: if you put your mind at it, you can achieve it).

I informed my friends, we all planned to beat her together so that she will stop tormenting us. Enough was enough!

After school when all was set, I and my friends left the class early to waylay Florence, we were raging. I tell you, there is nothing sweeter than team work. The energy was there.

(Moral: team work brings better result).

We saw Florence coming alone as usual, she was a one man gang. We were happy, I was the ring leader, so at my order, we charged towards our victim like a wounded lion.

I walked up to her and stood on her way, my eyes showed so much anger. I remembered all she did to me just because I refused to teach her. Then I said, "first to do no dey pain o, now I will do my own back, I will beat you up times two of what you did to me, you this dull brain!"

(Moral: be bold and face your fears).

She looked at me and laughed. I was boiling, I raised the hand I placed blade between and aimed to strike her face, but she was fast enough to grab my hand. She began to twist my flexible hand.

I applied my kung fu skills and kicked her leg so hard, it got to her, so she released my hand. I was happy.

(Moral: never give up no matter how tough the beginning appears)

I bent down to pack enough sand for her eyes, before I could gather the sand, Florence used my collar to pull me up, she blew air on her palm, and twaaaiiiiii!!!!! It landed on my cheek.

The slap was so hot I turned 360 degree. As I was turning, I realized my friends had all ran back, and they were watching the show.

(Moral: never trust human. Walahi dem no get conscience).

I didn't know when I started crying for my mummy.

In summary, Florence gave me times two of the beating I received the first time.

Worst of all, I couldn't report at home.

(Moral: in this life, ya on ya own ahswear).

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