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I pitch my tent here.

Hoping to get the best motivation to start mine. If only it is really worth venturing into d biz.

Cosmetic chemist is my mentor. Hoping to tap from you too.

Everyone does dirty things and regret later
. he will still get to know later so you make the choice marry Jim and tell him later then loose him or tell him and loose him now.

Who knows he might love you that way
. just ask God for wisdom

Whaaaat

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JARUSHUB:
Coming from a family of chartered accountants , I think I heard about the examinations of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria (ICAN) at a quite early age, probably from primary school. I heard all such tales about ICAN exams. I used to see ICAN exams as one monster.

To compound my fears, when I crossed from being a science student to a commercial one in second term SSS 1 in 1998, apart from mathematics, accounting was the subject I dreaded most. Thankfully, accounting, unlike math, has some theoretical parts (all those ‘name 5 types of account’, ‘what is a subsidiary book?’, etc questions), so I still managed to pass, banking on those ‘story’ aspects.

In the university, studying economics, I had option to take elective courses in departments such as Management and Accounting, Sociology, Geography, Demography and Social Statistics, and psychology.

To add insult to injury, my school’s management and accounting department was not the most organized of departments as my friends in the department used to complain about cases of loss of scripts due to the high volume of students. So I found in Sociology and Psychology departments elective allies, and the Alphas were almost always guaranteed, never mind the headache those abstract Sigmund Freud theories in Psychology 204 gave me.

I was still able to avoid accounting in the university. At least, I remember a friend's accounting exams script missing in our 200 level. That was definitely not an experience I would like to have, further fuelling my hatred for accounting.

From my interactions with folks, especially the less informed ones, I have come to observe the reason why people dread ICAN and their exams. The following are the 4 major myths about ICAN:


1. ICAN DELIBERATELY FAILS STUDENTS: Giving the failure rate recorded in ICAN exams, I can pardon people for believing this. But this is actually a lie. I personally hold that no examination body will deliberately fail you if you pass, not least ICAN. I have heard all sort of tales like ICAN fail people so as to make money from exam fees. This is a big fat lie. As far as I know – and I think I know farthest – if you score 50% in any ICAN exams, you will never fail that paper. Of course, there was a time when if you failed woefully in one subject, you will be required to rewrite other papers you passed in same diet, but this was not a secret as the system was made known in their students guideline. This system has since been jettisoned, except at the final stage when you are required to pass a number of subjects for you not to rewrite others you passed. So students should purge their mind of this erroneous belief. I never believed it anyway, and anytime I get to advise ICAN candidates, including in my first class in the ICAN center I was lecturing a while back, the first thing I do is cleanse their mind of this pessimistic mindset. How can you go to a war with a mindset that your efforts will not count? ICAN will not fail you if you pass, and there is no way you can score 50% in a subject and marked failed.

2. ICAN IS A YORUBA AFFAIR: I was having an introductory class with some ICAN students last year. They were preparing for Foundation examinations and that was their first attempt. In the process of ‘sermonizing’ on how students bandy unfounded myths around, trying to demystify their self-inflicted fears, one student from the eastern part of Nigeria asked me, ‘Oga, but I heard ICAN is a Yoruba body. Only Yoruba people do and pass it’. I laughed. I knew Nigerians are incurable ethnic wolf-criers, but I never knew it had reached that extent. I am aware Nigerians like to raise ethnic false alarm and cry tribal victimization when something doesn’t go in their favour, but I never knew such thoughts could be nursed of a professional body like ICAN. Well, I told her it’s a big fat lie. ICAN is not and can never be a Yoruba affair. Irrespective of where you come from, if you pass ICAN exams, nobody will deny you based on your tribe.

3. ICAN IS A SOUTHERN BODY: I have heard a couple of northern friends, especially those in public service, accuse ICAN of being a southern thing. For this reason, many northerners believe they are being sidelined. Many northerners prefer to go for a rival accounting body. Again, this is naked myth. Besides, northerners have being presidents of the association.

4. ICAN IS A CULT: Given the solidarity and bond that exist among ICAN members, you can forgive those that hold this myth. I have heard people say ICAN is a cult, that they only admit certain people. Naija people sha. ICAN is the most transparently run Nigerian professional body I know. Everything about it is transparent. Of course, they are like a family, with young members treating the older and senior ones with high reverence.

http://www.jarushub.com/4-myths-about-ican/

Planning to write this exam by next year. Hope I can write and pass all in 3-4 diets.

Read a page or topic pause ask yourself what you have learnt. Try explaining what you read to yourself as if you are teaching someone else. Anywhere you have difficulties go back and read and still explain to yourself again.

Then ask yourself a question what are the possible questions to come from this page or topic. Write them down then answer it one after the other. During your exam you will see most of those questions . try this and thank me later

This is not correct.

Thanks for this

angels09:
As at the date of the scan. She was 5 weeks and 4 days gone. Use your head.

Can you check the scan result and confirm that her EDD is April 2018

How can almost everyone here not read and know that the scan result is different from what the OP is saying

wendixx:
Am I the only one who can see? EDD according to that scan is April 2018, and that is 9 months after the lady met the man.
Therefore he might be responsible for the pregnancy.
Moral: Don't believe everything you see online.

I thought I was the only one seeing this.

[quote author=makydebbie post=64358551]That means you played your match before the wedding abi?
If not you no go fall for this kain thing. I don't still understand how they tied your hands and legs and forced you to marry the woman abi you cannot make decisions for yourself?
The girl and her parents and deceitful and you can sue them.
Stop this blame game and move on with your life, I think you're even lucky you know about it now. Imagine finding out after 20 years.
In this 21st century, you're doing ritual to "cleanse"?
The way superstition has eaten to people's reasoning has got me almost worried. [/quote
]

This is pure scandal. The man is gent on soiling that family.

Check no. 13 in the scan result the EDD is 24/4/18 which means she took in in August while they met in July.

He is not tellinging us the real problem.

Tessyama1:
A Nigerian man has taken to Twitter to share story of his friend who was forced into marrying his girlfriend who was pregnant for another man.

According to him, the man was even forced by the girl's family to do some fetish sacrifices after the marriage.

The Twitter user wrote;

"A friend got married last year to the pregnant girlfriend not knowing the pregnancy wasn't for him. The girls parents were aware the husband was not responsible for the pregnancy #scandal. The man is being pressured to perform some rituals to cleanse"

He continued;

"They met on July 22 last year and the pregnancy EDD in January 2018. Gestation period is 9 months. She was months pregnant before they met and she still package the pregnancy for the guy. This world is wicked"

The lady has also been in constant communication with the real father of her unborn child while married to the man.

http://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/01/man-calls-out-lady-whose-family-forced.html

This is pure scandal except I am not seeing clearly. The ultra scan shows that her EDD is 24/4/18 meaning she tool_in in August 2017 while you her in July. You want to Dodge responsibility or no more interested in the marriage there are better ways to do it than this scandal .

I sense you suspect your wife is dating the other man hence your bringing him into your scandal.

Not a judge but talking base on the write up and acan result

Transformation centre. My year of complete restoration

I missed a semester. Can I combine the missed semester with a new semester if my credit unit allow.

I missed 300 second sem[b][/b]
By march can I register 300 sec semester and 400 first sem .

I saw someone did it last year. I don't know if it's still possible

Waiting for the bar soap

aumeehn:
I dont know if its the cold or a disease, i went for Data capture last week monday for my E passport, the fingerprint scanner couldn't scan my fingerprints, so the immigration officer handling my case told me to wash my hands with diesel and apply olive oil for a week, i have been doing it since last week Tuesday still no improvement and tomorrow is monday, i really need to get this passport because the deadline for my school application is on 10th of this month. Please Nairalanders i need help!!!

Lalasticlal please help move this thread to the frontpage i need help urgently!!

I really wish to know the answer to this question. I get embarrassed each time I go to the bank for my finger print . in the different banks I always have the same issue. No Matter how I wash my hands.

[quote[sup][/sup] author=Jesse01 post=63635552]d bride to be is ugly, very ugly looking thing [/quote

E pain you ooooooo uuuuuuuh

ev4real:
It didn't go as we hoped for. Nevertheless we're still hoping they will reopen the portal. Just be on alert.

The reopening might be after festivity period. Probably after new year. Kuat hoping it comes to pass.

Thanks for your concern

Op pm or send me her phone no. I'll talk to her as a professional and with biblical references and as a young married woman with kids. I believe all will be ok.

ev4real:
I'm very sure they won't close the portal tonight. Atleast not with the various issues students are passing you.

My mind keeps telling me the same thing.

I would have been very happy.

I wish the portal will be reopened. I tried everything possible to get money yet no way. Oh God do it for my sake

Nice one.

If Anty grace hubby called nko!;!!!

Gud one. Very much interested

CosmeticChemist:
I thought we discussed this few months ago on WhatsApp ?.. you abandoned our chat.

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I loss my phone and contact .

CosmeticChemist:
your soap are so beautiful..

@cosmetic please how much do you think I can invest into this biZ for a start on commercial purpose. But I don't have backgrounded knowledge of soaping

ArchangeLucifer:
1. dpsam
2. josade44
3. lazygal
4. industrialfan
5. omoelerin1
6. tsmith
7. nyben4eva
8. mastercc
9. okangprecious
10. henribj




Dear Nairalanders, send your last messages to these monikers.

Since they refuse to listen despite my clear warning.

December will be their last on earth.

My Word is Bond.

May harmattan blast your anus

[quote author=betafuture post=62713728]I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.



What is good for the goose is good for the gander.


If you have not cheated before I would have advised you but since you did take it as pay back.


Why do men feel they can cheat any how and women are not suppose to.

Her action is bad though..

DOUBLEWAHALA:
I will appreciate anybody with a summary

lazy being sighted

SalamRushdie:
I always advice every woman never to give up the man they truly love for any opprtunistic woman, stay there and fight till your man comes to hia senses , dont make it easy for any mumu witch to take the love of life with ease ..These days I see women give up their homes because of common text they see in their husbands phones thereby making it too easy for opportunist stealer women to have their way ..Yes your husband will definitley get infatuated by a strange woman in course of your love journey but remembet those infatuation spells have short term span and could be over from 3 weeks to year but most women just easily give up to fight to keep their man at the sight of the first text message and thats how love stories are being spoilt daily in our generation .. Women don make it easy for scheming women to steal your man just like that.

This has just encouraged me to hold on and fight on. May God strengthen me

Onijagidijagan:
All females has lost their reputation in my sight..I can pick up 100% of girls even married or with boyfriends I meet and want to bleeb with my car.

Guys that are having problem with girls look broke and poor in their outlook.

Shut up! Don't you know there are women with conscience and integrity.

Stop using the character of call girls you always mix up with to generalize other women