MisterBanny:
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:

1. She doesn't allow my guy access to her phone. This guy doesn't intentionally check his woman's phone except he wants to send movies and pictures, but anytime he wants to do so, the girl gets instantly Nervous and starts fidgeting. She becomes restless & would come closer to see what the guy is actually doing with her phone.

2. They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old while my guy is 33. They play, kiss, romance, he gives her girl head but the girl doesn't give him head. Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.

3. She hasn't introduced him to any friend or family member. My guy had to beg & beg before she gave out two of her family members Phone numbers to him. Sadly, these two persons don't take him serious. If my guy calls to greet them, they hardly pick and then they miss his calls, they don't call back.

4. She doesn't post my guy on the social media, but my friend posts her always and even write romantic stuffs.

5. She has lots of male friends who call her everyday even on Video calls. She said she prefer male friends to female friends. Why should a guy be calling u everyday even during the midnight, like 1am, 2am and 3am? Is that proper?

6. She claimed her ex maltreated her, yet the ex still calls her and when she misses the call, she calls back or flash him to call. Is that right?

7. She traveled in December 2022 and ghosted my friend the very moment she took off from the park. She stopped picking his calls and never called back, for no reason. My friend gave up and moved on. After 5 months, she came back & asked for reconciliation and they started again & continued. My friend ask her to tell him exactly why she did that, but she said "Nothing". She promised never to do it again. She traveled again last December and she repeated same. This time, she picks my guy's calls but she hasn't called or chatted with my friend. My friend has moved on.

8. My friend had once read her WhatsApp chat with a guy. She pleaded for mercy and my guy forgave her.

9. She came to visit my guy, my guy helped her to lose her hair that day. I mean he losed everything while the girl was busy Playing with her phone. After he finished losing the hair, this girl couldn't even sweep my guy's room. It was my friend who slept the room after she had left. He swept it for days. U know how women's hair can be in the room. This girl has never swept or done any domestic chores for my guy before.

This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late

The name of your friend is Tunde and the name of the said gf is Debby

Opanka44:
Happy Sunday to everyone here.
I've been with this Beautiful lady for two solid years. She comes to see me every weekend, cooks for me and she's being exceptionally Nice to me. She kindhearted. The major issue that causes conflict between us is her constant communication with some other guys. Some guys call her everyday like they are dating. She keeps insisting that there's nothing between herself and those guys, and that they are just Toasters. I believe that if u actually Respect..He r your man, and he tells u he isn't comfortable with some certain behavior, you'd change. This is a very serious relationship which we plan to settle down together in two years time. I have seen her WhatsApp chats with some of these guys.
I have never had a Penetrative sex with her, except MouthAction. She claims she's a virgin. She's 28yrs of age. I've told her countless times to allow me find out by myself so I can be sure. I suck her pussy but she wouldn't allow me dip my fingers into her, anytime she notices I want to dip my fingers, she will move away. She will close her legs so tightly & ask me to mount her & insert my Dick around the hole so I can release. She asks me to stimulate her clitoris to make her cum, but I can't confirm her claim of virginity. I even asked her to dip her own fingers into it, so I can watch to see if the fingers can go in, but she doesn't. I'm really very worried and confused. I feel like I'm being played and dribbled here. I feel like I'm a fool. She has continued to SWEAR IN GOD'S NAME AND HER LATE FATHER'S GRAVE that she's a virgin. I am so so CONFUSED.
I know she loves me, but I feel she's seeing someone else and also lying about her Virginity. I'm not even bothered about any woman been a virgin or not. I just want a peaceful, good and accommodating lady.
Elders pls help me out

Your girl name is Deborah Samuel..With the description u gave that should be her name

Treasure17:
Greedy politicians who want to hold on to power at the expense of their health forgetting that life will go on should anything unfortunate happens.

P.O.C..Ibadan is a capital not a state

Think9ja:
Some people go just decide on a very good day to come nairaland come choke us with their achievements in the name of seeking advice.

If no be 1M job for naija, E go be visa or scholarship to Moon. E go come make you begin think like say na look you come this world come look.


E go better


God no go shame us

My advice is to join the Nigeria Army and work your posting to Sambisa.

I been dey reason am too...I dey even dey think if na me no dey serious with my life..

Bro I'm currently a teacher in a public school..My advice for you is to accept the job cos there are so many benefits attached to it..The pay is progressive since u won't remain on a particular level for long.Promotion is every 3 years b4 then ur step also increases which brings about increase in ur pay.. I assure u that u won't regret accepting the offer especially if it's Lagos State throwing the offer 2 u.(Lagos State civil service)

I guess the girl name is Deborah

Please is the girl name in quote Deborah..(Debby)

Please send me ur phone number Spiritualist Ade..I need ur spiritual help