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It's not a news that not every relationship is real. It shouldn't even shock anyone anymore that not every relationship will lead to something meaningful — some relationships are for sex and some are also just waste of time.

But what could be more shocking than when people cry foul due to break up, when they already knew the relationship wasn't heading anywhere?

Often times people don't know what the mission of their partner is in the relationship they are and they won't bother to ask or be sensitive by reading the red signs.

What are the red signs you say? We shall see them in a minute.

Some women wait till later in their lives to start relationship, thinking that their age equals maturity and it will help them stand a better chance of a successful relationship. Lie!

But verily I tell you, if any woman in the category mentioned above isn't sensitive enough to the signs of baseless relationships, they will still fall victim of a time waster, even though they've invested so much of their time and resources thinking they are in a right place.

So what do you do not to fall victim of being used and dumped by men whose only aim is sex?

Here are the signs every lady needs to watch out for in relationships if they don't want to be the next victim:


1. He will always want to touch you
There is no second time to make first impression. When you are meeting a man for the first time and all he wants to do is touching you all around. This is one of the ways men send red signals to their preys. Unfortunately, a lot of women don't take it to mean anything serious, but rather they discard it with a wave of hand, just like you may do about this salient point right now.

Honestly, I don't care if the man meant well, if a man does this to you all the time and it's not like you've been in the relationship for some meaningful period of time to know where exactly the relationship is heading, he might just be telling you his mission in your life.

Touching a lady carelessly is a very bad way of relating. Every guy needs to learn some relationship etiquette. Though some do it but don't mean anything evil but it's such a bad idea and it scares some women away men.

2. He will always talk dirty ([i]whether face to face, on phone or in cha[/i]t)
When a man loses his decency and he just wants to go vulgar when talking to you, you shouldn't over look this red signal.

A man may tell you casually, that he only wants you for sex or he may even look serious and say it frankly that all he wants you for is sex. Whatever form it takes, men won't joke with such a statement. If he says it, I can bet it he means it. So, please run! Unless that's what you want too.

3. It will be all about money
If all a man does is to throw money in your faces, I doubt it if he has any plan for both of you in that relationship. We all know money has an important role in a relationship. But it shouldn't be all about it.

If you, as a lady make your target in a relationship be to make money off the man, you might have set yourself up as a sex tool.

But on the other hand, if it's the man that always talks about giving you money, as if that's the reason why you are together, it might just be that's his perception of the relationship and the favour men usually ask for in return in relationships like this is sexual.

If all his answers is about money when you raise a vital point in the relationship, he doesn't have any further plans. It simply shows he thinks that's your mission.

4. He will create boundaries so the relationship won't progress
When you notice that despite being together for long, the relationship doesn't seem to be heading anywhere; he keeps creating boundaries between you, it may mean he has no further plan than using you for a sexual fun.

Or else nothing of such as sex had happened between you. Even at that, the relationship should have a vision without any of you hiding anything that could help move the relationship forward.

Whenever partners start to post pone, or avoid meeting of parents and family, it's a clear sign that nothing serious will come out of that relationship.

5. Immediately after sex he starts giving excuses
When you've tried all you could do either as a lady or a man to avoid sex in a relationship until you eventually gets married and your partner couldn't resist the urge but insists on having sex, it won't still mean that's their real target in the relationship.

But when as soon as this happens and they start changing characters like chameleon, that's it. That's when you can draw your conclusion. I don't know what reasons partners would give for holding on to his or her real colours until after sexual intercourse, when they've always been on their best behaviour before this happens.

I can assure you if this is a partner real mission, a soon as he's achieved it, there is nothing he is staying with you for anymore. He will avoid all good things you've both enjoyed together. He won't want to meet you again, he may not pick your calls or calls from anybody related to you again.

Some people are wicked but you would be tagged used and dumped if you refused to take note of these red signs.

You are right bro. I'd consider food as soon as am done with research. The reason why bloggers fail is because they just jump on niche having read a piece like this. But it's more than this. If you doubt me why did you think op has refused to go into some of the niche but he is "kind" enough to invite or lure us into it.

kingDELE:
E be like say if person no Call mods name, deir topic no go C promise land

My brother, i taya o.

tosyne2much:
I will rate them based on creativity as creativity goes with intelligence. However, intelligence encompasses a lot of things such as comportment, humility, ability to maintain peace when chaos occurs, sound judgement and initiative.

Intelligent people are not cowards, they don't derail threads, they don't bully people unnecessarily, they do everything possible to maintain their integrity as well as reputation, they don't shameless womanize on Nairaland

Therefore, the following people are considered intelligent in my own rating


1. Rapmoney

2. Wristbangle

3. Emusmith

4. Danceville

Where is Olulinks? The list ain't complete.

The boy is becoming irrelevant and unpopular in the Nigerian scene. He needs every trick and gimmick to come back alive. No thanks to Sony deal, those nigg*z killed Davido with their outrageous demand from the local singer.

Drew0:
Pointless, I wouldn't buy my lady a car for saying yes, kinda stupid like she some goddess you worship, but I can buy her a car for her to move around with when she most likely needs it, like when she is pregnant with my child, she deserves some extra comfort, not for some dumb reason, for the records I know my lady don't need me to get her a car, very independent hardworking lady, she can get herself one!

I understand you. I know your type.

ijustdey:
a cheater is gone like a candle in the wind...


seems the girlfriend have a pre-knowledge of this calamity for she to have warned him not to come.......

She didn't have any knowledge. Please analyse the gel's statement first, according to report, “The girlfriend said she told him not to come because he was married, but he insisted on passing the night at her house."

Is the girl saying she just got to know the man was married because the man wanted to sleep over at her place?
Or the girl is trying to let us think that was the man's first time of sleeping over even when she knew he was married?

So, you see the girl is just trying to play on the intelligence of millions of Nigerians reading the news.

slyIsaac:
at least he got laid...

You a wicked MoneyLander. Wait o, but you are right sha. That could be his death wish — to get laid before death.

slyIsaac:
at least he got laid...

You a wicked MoneyLander. Wait o, but you are right sha. That could be his death wish — to get laid before death.

chocolateme:
Hmm..
Please oga, for peace to continue reigning as it has been, even though it seems like you and your father in law are romancing a time bomb.. can it be possible for you to call and plead on your wife's behalf to her mother and sister to pardon and understand the situation at hand and tell them to make your father in law to understand.
By the way, i won't advice you to take your still fragile wife and a week old baby on a journey due to the wedding.

If it can be possible again, go over to spend some time and show your support a day or two before the wedding, then go home and take care of your family. Your father in law cannot make decisions for you because you are married to his daughter. He should mind his own home and business.

Nice try!

yetseyi:
I don't understand why issues like this should become issues, so even if the wifey had the baby a week before or was heavily pregnant almost at the point of delivery, do they expect her to travel with a new born child / in an about to deliver condition to another city entirely away from her clinic.

Do they really expect her to travel with an 8day old child, stressing the infant. Won't the wedding hold if she's not there? Travelling is stress IMO, you will stress your wife, your new baby and I don't think its worth it. If your wife won't speak for her self and the baby you should.
Explain to your father in law simple, doctors said she should rest and not undergo stress.EOD
This is not an issue at all.

Why saying you MUST?

Name your baby in your house with your pastors/ alfas let the others go for the wedding. Let the members of the family that won't go come for the naming simple.

The last time something like this came up in my family, those that couldn't go to abuja for the wedding attended the naming in Lagos. I can't imagine my cousins hubby being told to postpone the naming and travel to abuja for the wedding.

Brilliant. I think am taking your advice along with me.

EpicMaurice:
Please dont take this the wrong way.....








All am trying to say is........







Na jealosy go kill you....

It's too early to include Mayorkun in that list.

chocolateme:
Hmm

You never even bother to read.

Source: www.olulinks.com

Good evening ma’am

I know my wife isn’t on your Facebook page but you can still hide my name, that’s if you would post this.

I need your help on a matter. Not many people will find this issue serious anyway, but I think it really matters to me.

I have been married to my wife for about 6 years and we are supposed to have the naming ceremony of our second child on this saturday (we had a little delay)

I don’t know how to write long story, forgive me. So I would just go straight to the point. My father-in-law wants to scatter our home and I mean it.

My wife was delivered of a baby boy on Saturday. Our joys knew no bounds, because we’ve been a bit delayed and the baby is a boy. Our first child is a girl.

At around 11:10am I was driving home from the hospital to bring down some things and I was called on phone by my mother, who was in the hospital with my wife, that my wife has been delivered of a boy. I just parked and started thanking God by the road side there, though I was inside my car.

My wife was discharged in the evening of the same day, they said she was very OK, with the baby. So late in the evening that’s around 7pm my father-in-law among other family and friends came to greet us.

Meanwhile, my wife’s sister, the last child of the family is supposed to Wed on this coming Saturday, in Ibadan, Oyo State.

We are all aware of the family arrangement, that my Sis-in-law is getting married on this day but we never planned that my wife will deliver on the day that the wedding will come up which is supposed to be the 8th day which the Yoruba people do the naming ceremony of their newly born babies.

My father-in-law surprised me when he called my wife the second morning that she should tell me that we must shift the naming ceremony of our baby, because all of us are supposed to travel to Ibadan for the sisters wedding. I have never heard such move before.

But since the man never talked to me, I pretended my wife never told me a thing about it. But yesterday evening, he sent me a text in this regard and few minutes later, he called and he even promised us 200 hundred thousand naira.

I’m not hungry, I can never take this. But am in dilemma. I don’t know how to tell him NO, without offending my mother-in-law, who has been a very good woman since I married her daughter.

Please what do you think I should do?

Please, ADVICE HERE

The title of this post is supposed to be "THE FUEL GULPING VEHICLES USED BY IGNORANT NIGERIAN CITIZENS"

It's just one of the APC scam and nothing more. So, bro nor worry yourself about it. Nothing has and will come out of it. It's just like the chibok gels matter, all na scam.

Where are the Web designers that have been fumbling on nairaland to come answer this brother o?

KillerFrost:
Vloggers over to you

Vlogger nkwa?

Askech:
The best phone at that price if you ask me

But the 23,00 mah. It's a no, no, for me!

mubarak89:
He got 1million naira that day. How is that?

Nice one!

Source: www.olulinks.com

Who are the Western girls? Absolutely, they aren't Slavic girls. Slavic beauties are Russian and Ukrainian ladies. Apart from Slavic girls' same kind of fair complexion with the Western girls, they love easily with all their hearts unlike the Western girls.

Western girls are confident and always feel superior, while Slavic girls feel a lot insecure and they usually have brown eyes and black hair, especially the Ukrainians.

While Western girls don't mind working on their bodies to look masculine, Slavic girls glory in their feminine looks a lot.

Western girls are girls from America, Europe, Canada,, Australia, New Zealand etc.

Many Africans don't know the difference between these "yellow" girls, that's why the quick run over of the explanation of the two mixed up girls in the world. What some people thought was that all White girls are Western girls. No, sir!

If that is clear, let's move on.

The fact that you are an African guy has put you in the black book of the most Western girls. I hope you know this already. So you should be careful not to give these girls any further red sign alerts that can keep them away from you even from thousands of miles away.

Some guys were telling me sometimes ago, that White ladies, (Western girls) don't accept friends' requests from most African guys. Tell me why they would, with all the bad news going on around black guys from Africa.

She's fair in complexion and you are black. She is sincere, compare to you. These girls hate shady things like hell. They tend to think black skin is black brain even dark mind and thoughts.

Tell me what chances you have with these type of ladies? Western ladies, are seen as being more exposed, enlightened or even more educated. Though this isn't the absolute truth about them.

Western girls see black guys as scammers, Internet fraudsters and cheaters. Especially guys between the ages of 18 to 26.

I know some of you have already lost interest in reading this article, thinking you can't have these girls. Don't give up yet. Though, am wondering here myself why would these girls still wanna date some black dudes, if truly this is what they think about the blacks? Are they dump or stupid? No, they aren't any of these.

But let me assure you that at this end of this you would believe that everything is truly possible.

I'm gonna give you these tips for free, to make it easy for you to date any Western lady of your heart's desires. Just do all that I'd mention here.

1. Communicate in English language
Don't forget you are not into some "local". Avoid the usage of slangs or your native language. Speak good English language as much as you can. Don't form what you are not.

I can bet you, if you flow well in English language while speaking to any of these girls, apart from increasing your chances of gaining her attention, you would get to know if she is a Western girl or she is just a "yellow" girl among the Slavic.

2. Be a friend
You already know how friends do to each other. Just be a friend and everything between you will be smooth. In case, you don't have friend, thus you don't know how friends relate with each other. This is it, whenever you come online say hi to her, whether she is online or not. Ask about her day and how she is fairing.

Don't hang online expecting her to say "hi" to you first. Don't assume that she's seen you. Greet her first but don't ever choke her up with questions. Don't over react if she isn't replying you in time. Don't craven for unnecessary attention. Remember, they love gentle men and she has more than enough friends from her region before you net her. What this means is that don't ever rush things.

3. Be real
Be very real. Being real starts from your profile picture and information. Don't write what you are not, if you already did go and edit it right away and be real. If you already have photo-shopped pictures that say what you are not about you, go and take it down now.

If she is gonna give in to you, she must see that you aren't one of them (fake online lovers) Let her see that you ain't fake and don't fake it. Be yourself; be African. She already knew you are from Africa before she starts replying your messages or before accepting your friend's request. Don't play upon her intelligence, you will lose her if you do.

4. Don't ask for any favour whatsoever
Don't ask for any favour. I repeat, never should you ask for any favour at all, no matter how small. At least, don't attempt it at the initial stage of your relationship or friendship.

These girls already have these thoughts that Africa is poor and any black guy from Africa that comes their ways are hungry and they are looking for their meal tickets or an opportunity to escape from their God forsaken land. Asking for a favour will trigger her suspicion.

5. Never display flashy material things on your social media profile
Some of you guys are so myopic in thought. If you think because you display flashy material things online it will give these girls some reasons to think you are well to do, you are shooting for the wrong girls.

Have you forgotten the background you are coming from very quickly? Why on earth would showing off of material things online impress any Western ladies?

She can guess what you are capable of possessing, legally, at your age, if you show off what's more than her expectations of you she may block and blacklist you as an Internet fraudster. That's what she has always thought, so don't fuel the thought with your attitude.

If you are one of the African guys that so much desire Western girls, with genuine reasons, this is your opportunity to go get 'em.

.

I have been blogging with my tablet for ages. I appreciate this post.

Nice try. But that guy shaking hands over there, has he made any meaningful money from his 5.something CGP?

Anything to stay relevant. Acting nor dey play the bill again?

lilyqueen:
Interesting

Thank you!

Estharfabian:

All these 'Coz of one clueless dunce?



Lol. I'll pass! exes aren't supposed to be All evil tho. I mean can't A girl just be like "babe, I'm bored. you don't give good head these days. let's break up". and he'll be like ''yea, true... you don't kiss good too''


and Voilà, y'all break up. peacefully, without the Clash-of-the-titans vibe..

#exesAren'tDemons!

I wish it were that easy. If you know what some people are going through, you will write more suggestions on how exes can get back. Let's make the world a good place.

Oh, don't talk like that. Some people can die to bring their ex back into the game. Have you ever met someone that makes you feel like you are one in a million before?

Source: www.olulinks.com

If you've never experienced heart break before, you may not bother yourself abut this topic. But if you don't wish to experience it or you just want to see how it feels, you can come along.

There cannot be an ex, (past lover) without a break-up. There cannot be heart break without a break-up. There cannot be break-up without lovers. Wherever there are lovers break-up is looming around the place.

No mater how break-up happens it's always painful. Be it politely, harsh, on phone, through text or face to face.

It doesn't matter if the actors are mature people or teenagers, if it's a break-up it must be painful. It doesn't matter who initiated it; whether a male or a female. Once hearts are broken, it's going to be painful.

But not everybody really wants to let go. Sometimes, the initiator of break-ups have their regrets and want a come back, while the other party has moved on already. At the other time, it may be that the other party that has refused to let go, though he or she has been communicated the end of the relationship to.

So, when you hear ex, you must know heart(s) has been broken. But if you are in any side of this situation, whether you break-up with someone or someone breaks-up with you but what you want is for your ex to come back, this write-up will help you.

Even if you want your ex come back begging you, these are the 3 "wicked" steps to take.

1. Make them jealous
If you can make your ex jealous you are not far from wining the "war". No matter what might have caused the break-up, one thing that's sure is that they don't find the relationship interesting again. There is nothing new or challenging in the relationship, so they want to move on to where it is happening.

You can do this better if you can win their friends' trust. This can only work if you've been good to the friends. If you've been a torn in your ex flesh and you've always given their friends a lot of trouble, they won't be available to work with you. That's the primary aim of this approach.

Conspire with just a friend and turn your ex lovers head upside down. Make it look like you are dating. Visit them regularly, especially when you are already aware your ex will be there, and make sure you always get there before them. Give your ex every reason to be suspicious. You know how to do that, don't you? Good.

Don't stop there... Next!

2. Take the fight to the social media
I believe we all know social media is the next happening thing. Social media is where many films and actions are taking place these days. So take the fight to the reigning platform—social media.

No, no! Don't go and fight dirty over there, like we usually see these days between ex lovers or friends. You don't wash this dirty linen in the face of the public; what we want is a settlement but in a trickiest way.

All you will do this time is to unfriend him or her. Don't use block button. You need to give your ex something to wonder about. You remember I said it that one for the reasons for break-ups, is that your ex believes they have seen it all with you. So let them what you are up to.

If you block them there would be no way of spying on your profile to check you are up to. So just unfriend them and turn your profile to private. With this move, your ex can search and find you but won't be able to see what you are doing, uploading or writing.

Now, break his nose with this last punch. They must beg you!

3. Don't ever walk alone anymore
You are not working in the company of friends because you are afraid he might hurt you, no! You are just giving him more reasons to wanna crawl back to ask you what exactly is happening. They will come asking you what their offence(s) was in the first place that could have led to the break-up.

You are just going to be dressing very good and go where you are sure your paths will cross. It may be a party, recreation centers, games centers etc. Whenever you are sure they are also going to be available in any of these places, go there in the company of friends.

You have been visiting your ex lover's friend at home, whenever you know that your ex will be coming, this is the time to start going out together. Move to the next plan. Feel free to hold hands and rest on his or her shoulder whenever you notice your lover's presence. It's part of the game.

At the other time you can go in the company of your friends and catch all the fun. Laugh and play all the way. Remember, your ex is the target.

But please, don't lose the game, whenever you notice they've started to act humble give them a listening hear and from there do whatever you wish to rap up the game.

This trick could be very wicked. Of course, that's why we chose this trick. It can be used by singles or married. Heart break is heart break

Don't thank me later, thank me now, because it's sure you will see positive result.

We have lost our reading culture. Thank you all for your contributions. But I'd have loved it that you take your time to read the intro before the body of the article, then you will know that the writer wasn't one sided. We are all learning though.

Source: www.olulinks.com