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I spend an average of 800k monthly. Its crazy.

Mr. Man, you are playing with your life. This is the problem with you men, you see clearly that the person you are dating or married to does not love you, instead of you to take action and look for how to send her out, you stay there and complain and she disrespect you more and you work without enjoying the fruit of your labor.

My brother, before a woman will be so confident to do those things to you;

1. She is ill mannered - Not well brought up
2. She has mingled with bad friends or allow social media influence her
3. She has seen you finish, you have no boundary, you have put her on a pedestal, you have played mugu for a very long time, you reward her f**lishness with money, gifts and trips and now you can no longer bear it, and maybe you dont even look at another woman.
4. She is cheating on you.

But no matter what it is, Number 3 is the most destructive, and the truth is that you may not be able to recover from it, ever.

I will advise you, Start by ignoring her, if you live in your own house, move out and go rent your own space, reduce the home spending, stock the house with food, and start living apart, and henceforth, do not argue with her no matter what, whenever the family needs something, only provide what they can eat, cancel all holidays and trips, extra monies and all and face your life. If you are a very social person, go out more and have more s*x and avoid her. After sometimes, she will start begging and crying, dont bulge, later she will start insulting and calling you names, Don't Respond, keep your cool, and enjoy your life.

If your kids are old enough, get them phones for communication, visit them in their school etc, but dint have anything to do with your wicked wife. Avoid her and any Drama and i tell you, in no time you will be a far better person.

I tell you, when people think or know you care about them too much, most of the time, it dosent usually end well. You respect people as much as they respect and honor you, its a two way street. Never in your life honor those who do not honor you.

When a woman knows it looks like you cant do without her, she will definitely misbehave.

Your life and well being is as important as anybody, even your children. Dont kpai yourself trying to fend for anybody, worse come to worse, you divorce and go your seperate ways and in Nigeria, YOU DO NOT SHARE PROPERTIES, unless they contribute significantly to buy or maintain it, S*x and Cooking for husband is not part of it, so you no get wahala.

Best of luck to you as you break free from your boundage you call wife.

A man who decides to marry a single man is a man who is finished forever.

Klass99:
I think it should be criminalized across Naija to curb the excesses and arrogrance of Naija men when it comes to adultery.

I say this as a single woman who has been at the receiving end of far too many advances from married men. Most of them see nothing wrong with adultery, they make all kinds of excuses and arguments, to justify why it is not wrong.

Some will even argue that it is not a sin, it is an expression of love and feelings between a man and a woman. The way we practice this religion in Naija is too much, we over do it, blah blah blah blah. This is the latest argument I heard from a 60 year old married man .

I prayed for the salvation of his soul today. A lot of them think the bible is a joke and God is joking when he lists adultery as a sin. Perhaps making it a criminal offence may help to reset or rewire their brains.

You were making sense when you said it should be criminalized but lost your oblongata when you got to curbing excesses of Nigerian men.

It usually takes 2 people to commit adultery, so it will affect both sexes.

From your assertion, what would now be the purnishement for Paternity Fraud?

Na Mami water

Uchenna10:
How?

Stop placing bet.

If you want to stop betting, simply stop betting.

Illegitimacy cannot birth legitimacy.

RichBoy247:
City Boy has no equal

I agree, in destroying the economy.

dalongjnr:
We are finished in this country.
The court just slaughter the Nigerian people for their personal interest 🙄 😒 😑 😐 😕 🤦 🙄.

Nigeria is a free market. Prices are determined by forces of demand and supply for most products and Dstv is one of them.

FCCPC cannot fix price, they are only to ensure competition and ensure value for what consumers pay for.

It's cheaper to eat outside than cook at home and also, save you lots of stress.

I have tested it, way cheaper to eat outside.

Why do you think Aso Villa is now planning to go Solar? The tarrif is now crazy.

I just moved into a new place and the area is Band B, and the meter is Band A, they made a mistake. I recharged 20k and it lasted for just 3 days and we dont even have to 10hrs of electricity in a day. I have 2 units of 1.5hp AC with one fridge, TV, standing fans and bulbs.

By calculations, I would have spent an average of 200-220k per month. I quickly ran to them to complain and they changed to Band B.

Band A can't be for normal people.

Your sibling is not the person your blood relatives but those who have your back and support you. Blood is not thicker than water, its a scam.

If Someone has consistently put you down, send them away from your life.

LordBiden:
Still doesn't change the fact that Nigeria is the giant of Africa.

We have our own indigenous car assembling plants.

God bless the federal republic of Nigeria.

Lori Iro

Your money is gone. Go to Brekete family to recover your money if you want.

A lot of people struggle with this, and many have found ways to overcome it—including me. I used to be like that too. In my case, I was more shy than anything else—but not slow by any means. I’ve always been extremely smart.

Public speaking was tough for me, but I knew that if I really wanted to grow, I had to break out of my shell. So I started pushing myself. At first, I used social media to meet people—mostly girls—and went out on dates. The first few were awkward and embarrassing, but with time, it got easier. I also started reading about communication and small talk, and I began working out at the gym, which helped boost my confidence.

The key thing is this: you have to step out and interact. Join conversations, contribute your thoughts, become part of peer groups. It won’t happen overnight, but with time and consistency, you’ll definitely get better.

Mr. Man, stop crying and go to court—present your case, show your reasons, and let the judge decide based on evidence and what’s best for the kids. That’s how civil disputes are resolved. People go to court every day to demand justice—it doesn’t mean they’ll automatically win. Even regular citizens defeat governments in court. So why all the fuss?

Also, let’s be honest—people need to take responsibility for their decisions. The person you marry is your choice. If the marriage turns out to be a mistake, own that fact. Maybe you didn’t see it coming or hoped they would change, but the decision was still yours. It’s like boarding a faulty plane without knowing—it might not be your fault, but the crash will still hurt.

At the end of the day, life happens. What matters is how you respond. Look at the situation, weigh your options, take the mature route, and move on quickly. Dragging the matter emotionally won’t solve anything—clarity, action, and responsibility will.

Kobicove:
There is no basis for asking for settlement, it is either she provides evidence to prove her allegation or she publicly retracts the accusations which were obviously made in bad faith.

How can you claim someone sexually harassed you meanwhile the very next day you were seen in public fraternizing with the same person and acting all chummy?!

Agbakoba is not the court. He should take his case to the appropriate quarters.

ehikwe22:
Nigerian judiciary is a joke. To death for what? With scanty evidence of abuse, he should be punished but not this ridiculous punishment

You are not a serious person.

The husband kpai her and the evidences was presented in court.

This is very sad, but justice must be served.

I hope people learn their lessons.

Marriage is not by force. If you are no longer interested, please walk away.

So?

pharmagba:
Really?
Even Abure is more of a leader than Obi

hope no be this brain you dey use cross road

PressMyButton:
Wailers continue wailing, we like it like that. And as a reminder to wailers, please avoid the road, it is an highway to fraud. Leave it for us, let us enjoy our fraud in peace. If your father has any iota of integrity, you will back up your words and avoid using that road. But we sabi una, na una go call Lagos blue line fraud but rushed it after completion, na una go call 2nd Niger bridge fraud but as we dey talk, una dey use am everyday. Na una dey call Dangote refinery fraud but today, they're the praise singers of the refinery. The biggest clowns in the world are the wailers.



After God, na Tinubu 💪 God bless Nigeria

On top one road 🤣🤣🤣🤣

An adult can't take charge of his life, lol.

You started womanizing because you want to stop betting, how does it make sense.

Oya kpai there, you hear?

Na hunters

dettolgel:
These guys are jokers. World Bank projects in Africa are not meant to succeed but to improvise the people using our demonic politicians.

Most international projects are conduit for paying off corrupt politicians and for funding dissidents within the system.

Too many ignorant people on the internet.

Hold your leaders accountable.

World bank releases money to governments. They won't do it for you.

givedemwotowoto:
Didn’t Trump say he was matching tariffs by other countries? If that’s the case, why is everyone so mad about it?

Don't be a lunatic.

Is annexing Canada part of tariff??

Is this part of security? 😁😁😁😁🤣🤣🤣

madridguy:


The issue here is that Jagaban is always 100 steps of his mates.

Meanwhile, for people saying Jagaban needs 2/3 of the National assembly to suspend Fubara, I think this is a joke taken too far.

If Fubara can present his budget to 4 assemblies members, what is wrong in President Tinubu getting 10 assemblies members too?

How I wish Tinubu can as well follow the footsteps of Fubara and demolish both the assemblies complexes, denied both the senate and Rep from sitting down and start building a new complex maybe in May and still go on live broadcast and brag without him being the president there won't be senators and representatives.

Then start saying how many of them come to his house to eat on Christmas day, then seize their allocations.

Mugu, Jagaban is always ahead when it comes to breaking the laws and causing pain to poor people not to do something Significant

It's not hard to be wicked.

JASONjnr:
I carefully went through her petition and it's a piece of trash....


She claimed her husband was there when Akpabio fondled her hands and he didn't see it .....

She claimed that he told her she should make her happy.... Apparently, Akpabio never asked her for sex.... Making someone happy could mean so many things.... Could mean, help me with contracts or Information.

Also, she visited him after he called her on a legislative matters after 7pm which she claimed took permission from her husband who was abroad at the time..... If Akpabio was sexually harassing her and with this exact boldness, she would have refused meeting him at odd hours. But she went regardless.

Again, all these things happened years back and she never spoke up. But just when she violated the house rules and was to be punished, she decided to bring sexual harassment as a defence tactics....

This is a cleverless move......

Women are manipulators....

Hope it's not the empty brain you are using to cross the Road?

Matawalle was cleared but El-Rufai wasn't.

Come on!