₦airaland Forum

Hello Niralanders!
Tax people will never just close those stores like that, I belive countless notice must have been passed across to them. Our Governor is not an ordinary person, an advocate for that matter will never deep his hands into lawless issue, he knows what it is to deprive ones trade/business.

The only advice I can give d Government is to open the market and give them a deadline to meet with the target, moreso a proper Scheme should be made as regards to the tax payment, properbly every business owner should register under their local executive council so that a body will be hold resonsible for the whole burden instead of individuals.

But for Tax as a whole I belive 97% trades know about Tax, I wonder why some people in Niraland will be saying they dont know what it means, There is a great different between "[font=Lucida Sans Unicode]Ignoring/Avoiding Tax & Not Educated about tax[/font]" We hard alot of instances in the Holy books about tax.

So people should not use mouth to run down this government rather pray for wisdom to do it well.



Tony

I think I'm ok for you

i'M OK FOR YOU,
iF YES

can you cope with me,

I am Available see my pix in the attachment
Handsome man,

Let pray aginst Official robbery, for we Wrestle not against Principalities and phisical power but againt color descrimination.
But By the grace of God the Victory is for NIGERIA

Can any body Predict the scores and marry my 70th young lady mum.

Awon Belgium o ti e lee.
It is the grace of God, by strenght shall no man Prevail, I thank God foy our boys, let also pay the this victory shall be our owm in next few days.
UP Nigeria

The Bible says in Titus 2:3, 4: “The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things--that they admonish (or teach) the younger women to love their husbands, ” (NKJV).

Hmmm, I wondered, when that verse leapt out at me one day. What are some concrete ways to "get you husband love you"? Thoughts started pouring into my heart, and I grabbed a pen and jotted them down. They became the basis for my message for you entitled "How to command love from your husband." They're all based on scriptures, and I believe the Lord birthed these truths in my heart.


I'd like to share a streamlined version of them, below. May they take root in your heart, and may your husband love and respect you but you have to make some sacrifies below:

1. RESPECT HIM. "And the wife must see to it that she deeply respects her husband--obeying, praising, and honoring him" (Ephesians 5:33, LB). Respect means, “to consider worthy of high regard.”

Don't "talk down" to him or make fun of him, especially in public.[/i]

2. BE HIS CHEERLEADER! "And the Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18, NIV).
[i]Encourage and compliment him.[/b]

3. SUBMIT TO HIM AS YOUR HEAD. "Wives, fit in with your husbands' plans" (I Peter 3:1, LB). True biblical submission, according to the Greek, means, "to graciously cooperate with the headship of your home."

[b] Learn to be assertive without being threatening.[/i]

4. OVERLOOK HIS FAULTS AND CONCENTRATE ON HIS PLUS POINTS. "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8, NKJV).

[i] Remind yourself of his good points continually and try not to concentrate on his shortcomings.[/b]

5. RESPOND TO HIS SEXUAL NEEDS. "Because of the temptation of immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise, the wife to her own husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another, " (I Corinthians 7:2-5, RSV).

Be knowledgeable about sexuality, which God created. Read the two classics, The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHaye and Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat. Above all, ask the Lord to help you in this area.[b]

6. DON'T LOOK TO HIM FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. ", in the presence God There is fullness of joy" your hushand may not be happy at alltime he may also have some challenges in the office or else where them try and be his happiness so that he can get over it intime insteat of conplanind (Psalm 16:11, KJV). Always remember, lasting happiness comes only from the Lord, not a man.

All the copers in the house well done oooo
it is a great to thing to be a corper and it another thing to maintain your integrity as a true Nigerian Coper, unlike some fellows in my bunk who took advenatages of that liberty to over their girls although those people are good in accrobatic, yet our collages will never let them alone, I think their is need for HIV test for these corpers else we are running at risk by what they may be carring
May god forgive una ooo

let hope in the cofidence we have, and pray for their victry though Siasia is a victorious man and I belive it will be to our favour, b'cos all things worketh together for good for them that belives in sucess.
and predit 2-1 in favour of Nigeria

Thank you.

Since it is for the good our Lagos then lets endure, highest we will use flying boat or she should implement the use of train again, these means of transportation are not working again what is happing.

Halle Berry is the answer
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What can I say about a dead man? well since he is not opportune to get there I can't predit what he can do, well all i know Is that MKO is a Good man in his life time but he is not perfect in his ways so we can not use that as a yardstick for his perfomace in a presidency trone. The principal thing is God direction that is that If he even have the Mind of God, which i can't say, because my people in Yoruba will say 'ojulamo a o mo nu' 'timutimu kegbin dasin nu' in other words we can only read a man through his face and what he is saying but we can never know what her has in mind.

well MKO is a good person but it is a pity that he does not get to the presidency post, it only God that knows WHY? so lets leave this issue and think about the living suituations.

The way it is difficult for us to know where he is now "Enternity of Hell[color=#990000][/color]", that is that way we ought to look at it, ut you can detarmin where he his now then I think you can answer the Question

Thanks

The lords is good, let me tell the fact, if u decided to take spend the money it will bounce back on you and if you alat them with wisdom they will surly wants to compeciate you by giving you job, co's if u can do that then they can entruth anything in your care. think about this.

I love working on computer, writing of articles, presentation of talks

Good day,
Do you know that, being a business person, there are some things we need to improve in the business, both for Small scale and International business, we all need information and be updated about the new technologies of the business we are into.

Let me invite you the a seminar banquet where career, business and leadership are thought.

We invite you to register and participate in our upcoming Seminar Banquet slated for August and September 2008

See the attachment for the Topics and The time/date

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Wishing you success in all your endeavours.

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What Is career development all about?

The secret of a successful man is the quality of in the information he heard and utilized .
Information is all about knowing what you don’t know and working on them,

Harris Phillips Life Skills and Learning Center invites you to her Career/Self devolvement and Business Entrepreneurship Seminar Banquet.


PROPOSED TOPICS FOR THE AUGUST/ SEPTEMBER SEMINAR BANQUET
• Overcoming Challenges of Small Businesses
• Involving God in Business
• Identifying a suitable and viable business
• Using the Internet to Increase Personal/ Business Performance
• Leadership and Creating Effective Followership
• Effective Project Handling
• Increasing your Customer Base for your Business
• Cold Contacts, Hot Sales for Businesses
• Coping with strenuous relationships at work
• Increasing your earnings at work
• E- commerce in Business
• Quick books (Accounting package)

Speakers being considered for the Session include:
• Mrs. Taiwo Adejumo, CEO, Handikraft Interiors, Canada
• Mr Bowo Adejumo, Accounting Experts Canada
• Dr Sam Oyemade, CEO, Grace Business School
• Reverend Dare Adelusi, Managing Consultant, Founiks Services
• Mr. Samson Akinyosoye, Upperlink Limited
• Prince Tunde Akindele, Praiseville Fellowship
• Emeka Ogbu, Project Manager , Handikraft Creative Designs
• Mr. Yomi Ogunrinola, YBO Management Consultant
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For new registrants: Registration fee of N3,500 that makes you eligible for all our subsidized Seminars Banquet
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What Is career development all about?[color=#000099][/color]

The most success man in this world is achieve through information.
Information is all about know what do don’t know, even the world of God says my people perish co’z they lack knowledge and knowledge is the principal thing in life.

That is why Harris Phillips Life Skills and Learning Center inviting to her career/Self devolvement and Business Entrepreneurship Seminar Banquet.


PROPOSED TOPICS FOR THE AUGUST/ SEPTEMBER SEMINAR BANQUET
• Overcoming Challenges of Small Businesses
• Involving God in Business
• Identifying a suitable and viable business
• Using the Internet to Increase Personal/ Business Performance
• Leadership and Creating Effective Followership
• Effective Project Handling
• Increasing your Customer Base for your Business
• Cold Contacts, Hot Sales for Businesses
• Coping with strenuous relationships at work
• Increasing your earnings at work
• E- commerce in Business
• Quick books ( Accounting package)

To participate in this program register with 3,500 Naria only

For more information Visite us at

45a Sobo Arobiodu Street, GRA, Ikeja

To register Contact: Kenny or Tony on 07032973685/07032973682
Or harrisphillips@hotmail.co.uk
Or visit our office: Harris Phillips Life Skills and Learning Center
45a Sobo Arobiodu Street, GRA, Ikeja

For new registrants: Registration fee of N3,500 that makes you eligible for all our Free Seminars till the end of December2008 can be paid into these Banks:
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You can have two people with the same skills, training, education and, all things being equal, have the same qualifications. Why is it one will be more successful at landing job opportunities? Well there are several answers to this question. In a word the answer is planning. Planning gives your vision direction and helps you to effectively focus your efforts on those projects that are the most fruitful.

While it is true that luck can play a part in the process, such as being in the right place or the right time, it is your plan that ultimately is responsible. You have to network, have a well tailored resume, and utilize many different job searching avenues.

All of these ideas should be used as tools to get you to your goal. You have to have an understanding of what you love to do and your plan will help get you there.

Decision Making

Before you do anything, you will need to make a decision as to what direction your career will take. This is one of the most important steps and if done right, will help you get where you want to be.

Thoroughly research all of your opportunities before deciding on one. You should be patient and wait for the best opportunity instead of simply taking the first one that comes along.

Understand Your Limitations

Ideally, at this point you should already taken stock of all your skills, strengths, and weaknesses and thus have a good understanding of how you work best. Maybe you are the type that loves all the little details or perhaps you are great at coordinating things.

Either way, you should go after those opportunities that allow you to excel at what you do best. This gives you the best chance of success by doing something you are confident you can do well.

Your limitations also present opportunities. How, you may ask? For starters, they help identify those areas which you can improve on. When you dedicate time to those things that do not come easily to you then you increase your skills and thus your marketability.

Take the Initiative

Always put your best foot forward. Volunteer for extra projects, come to work early, or stay late. Doing so displays your dedication and willingness to get the job done right.

Don't be afraid to go that extra mile, as it will pay big dividends in the future.

Re-Assess Your Skills

You cannot just work on those things that come easy to you; you will need to dedicate even more time to your weaknesses. Your skill set is a work in progress and constantly changes over time.

As your skills evolve incorporate them into your resume and use them to your advantage.

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Nigeria Airways

Good morning, Ladies and Gentlemen. This is your captain (Boniface) welcoming you on board of Nigeria Airways. We apologize for the four-day delay in taking off, it was due to bad weather and some overtime I had to put in at the bakery. This is flight 126 to Lagos. Landing in Lagos is not guaranteed, but we will end up somewhere in the south. If luck is in our favor, we may even be landing on your village!

Nigeria Airways has an excellent safety-record. In fact our safety standards are so high that even terrorists are afraid to fly with us!

It is with great pleasure; I announce that since starting this year over 50% of our passengers have reached their destination. If our engines are too noisy for you, on passenger request, we can arrange to turn them off!

To make your free fall to earth pleasant and memorable, we serve complimentary Bongo tea and Okin biscuits! For our not-so-religious passengers, we are the only airline who can help you find out if there really is a God!

We regret to inform you, that today’s in-flight movie will not be shown as we forgot to record it from the television. But for our movie buffs, we will be flying right next to Al Barka, where their movie will be visible from the right side of the cabin window.

There is no smoking allowed in this plane. Any smoke you see in the cabin is only the early warning system on the engines telling us to slow down! In order to catch important landmarks, we try to fly as close as possible for the best view. If, however, we go a little too close, do let us know. Our enthusiastic co-pilot sometimes flies right through the landmark!

Kindly be seated, keep your seat in an upright position for take-off and fasten your seatbelt. For those of you who can’t find a seatbelt, kindly fasten your own belt to the arm of your seat …and for those of you who can’t find a seat, do not hesitate to get in touch with a stewardess who will explain how to fasten yourself to your suitcase."

Enjoy Nigeria Airways

Why Marriages Don’t Work – The Change Factor [color=#000099][/color]


Why is it that so many marriages do not work? Why does a relationship that starts with two people gazing longingly and lovingly into each others’ eyes, end with those same people not even being able to look at each other except in disgust? Why is it that two people who promise each other to do everything to make the other happy, end up not being able to bring themselves to even acknowledge the other’s presence?

Before you even attempt to answer these questions consider the following examples:

1. A guy I know met a lovely young lady during our first year in university and shortly afterwards, started dating. This “model relationship” continued all the way to graduation. They eventually got married a few years after university (they had been together for a total of 9yrs before they got married). How lovely! One might say. Well, they were divorced 6months after they got married.

2. An acquaintance had been dating this girl for about 6years. They broke up, she met someone else and she was married within a year of meeting the new guy. They were divorced 3months later.

3. I heard of a couple who had been together since they were in their teens. By the time they were married, they had been together for about 16years. They divorced 2months after the wedding.

Just in case you were wondering, these are real life examples. I could go on with so many more, but there wouldn’t be space for anything else.
There are about a thousand reasons why marriages do not work, but for the purpose of this article, I will just deal with what I call the change factor.
Is this a guy problem or is it a girl problem? Is it a parental problem or is it a societal problem?

When two people meet and discover they like each other enough to want to be together, it feels like a breath of fresh air. He’s met this girl who makes him feel like he’s never felt before in his life. She’s met this guy who makes her believe that God indeed answers prayers. They start off on this journey that would take only death to pry one away from the other. They become each other’s confidant, telling each other stuff they’ve never told anyone before; he’s the last person she talks to before she sleeps and the first person she talks to when she wakes up; all of a sudden, the cries of “I’m so busy, I haven’t got time for a relationship” become, “let’s take next week off, so we can go off somewhere”. In short, it’s a dream come true. Neither can see any reason why this cannot go on forever. In the not too distant future, wedding bells begin to ring.

When the wedding ends, the marriage starts. Unfortunately, the word marriage means different things to different people. I use the word, “unfortunately” because marriage should be the beginning of a lifetime journey of discovery and devotion, initially to your spouse and eventually to your new family, when children come into the picture. That in no way implies that the journey is or will be an easy one. But what makes it easier (not easy) to deal with, is the knowledge that you are devoted to someone else other than yourself and that someone else is as devoted to you. But the reality is that no matter how devoted a couple is to each other prior to tying the knot, marriage always brings a new set of expectations. Things that they used to laugh and joke about now become disrespectful. Statements like, “I’m your husband, you cannot talk to me like that” or “Do you expect me to be a wife without an opinion?” become frequent and before you know what is happening, everyday becomes about conflict resolution.

The Husband

When he was not yet a husband, he was the ideal boyfriend. Always attentive, extremely caring, generous, protective (not possessive), and a dozen other “Thanksgiving-worthy” adjectives. He is completely selfless in his love and devotion to his girlfriend. When a childhood friend says, “how can you be with that girl, I know about 20 people she’s been with”, he ex-communicates that friend. When another friend says, “you guys look so happy”, he glows and that one becomes his new best friend. He introduces her to his parents and they fall in love with her, as she is such a cultured young lady. He meets her parents and they are so happy that their daughter has found a responsible young man. He’s now ready to step it up, so he buys a ring and proposes in the most romantic, fairytale- way imaginable. She accepts and wedding plans start. HOLD ON! He calls up his new best friend and says, “I’ve noticed some things about her that I don’t like, and I never noticed them before. Was I so in love that I did not notice or are her true colours coming out?” His friend says, “don’t worry, no matter how much you love her, you cannot like every single thing about her, but maybe you should tell her about it.” He decides not to, because he does not want it to seem like an excuse to not get married.

So the wedding plans continue as normal and D day finally arrives. The wedding ends, the marriage starts and for the first few months, it’s all good. Suddenly, he wonders why he should go grocery shopping with her every month like they used to. He tells himself, “after all, we’re married now and I’m the husband. It’s her duty to do that”. Again, he wonders why he should help her out in the kitchen when she’s dead tired, like he used to when they were dating. He tells himself, “after all, we’re married now and I’m the husband. It’s her duty to do that”. Again, he wonders why she gets upset when he works late without telling her he’ll be late. He tells himself, “after all, I was out working like a responsible man and I take care of my responsibilities, why should I take permission from her to come home late from work?” Again, he wonders why she should use his phone without telling him or answer his phone without him asking her to, like they used to with each other’s phones when they were dating. He tells himself, “What right does she have to answer my phone without permission, isn’t my mobile phone supposed to be private?” Again, he wonders why she should argue with him when he wants to watch “prison break” while “sex and the city” is on, they used to take turns to watch their favourite shows together. He tells himself, “after all, I am the husband and pay all the bills, so I should be able to watch what I want in my own house.”

By this time, the relationship that was filled with so much laughter becomes one filled with so much tension, because she feels she has to practically walk on egg shells so as not to anger him.

The Wife

She was the ideal girlfriend; caring, loving considerate, thoughtful and selfless. A childhood friend tells her, “that guy is a player, I heard he’s a heartbreak specialist”. Her response, “I’ve always known you were jealous of me.” She knows he is the one and has never felt stronger about anything in her life. She’s waiting and hoping that he proposes to her. When he eventually does, she tells herself, “can life be any more wonderful?”
The wedding ends, the marriage starts and for the first few months, it’s all good. Suddenly, she wonders why he wants to go out with his friends on Friday nights, when he should be home with his wife. She tells herself, “He used to go out a lot when we were dating but should that not stop now that he is married?” Again, she wonders why she cannot answer his phone when it rings. She tells herself, “Now that we are married, should I not be able to answer my husband’s phone?” Again, she wonders why he spends so much time at work. She tells herself, “Now that he is married, should the overtimes he’s working not be reduced, so we can spend more time together?”

What you will notice from these two scenarios is that after the marriage, they both had different expectations from the other. They expected the other to be a certain way, “because we are now married.” Marriage is a journey and usually a difficult one, because you are no longer living for yourself but for someone else (well, that’s how it should be anyway). When a couple gets to the point where they feel like the other should change things that they initially had no problem with, because they are now married, it will take a miracle for that marriage to stand. Take one of the issues in the first scenario: This must have been a guy who would probably call and say, “I’m working late today darling, will be home about 9 or so”. But when he gets married, he believes as long as she knows he’s at wok, he does not need “permission” to be home late from work. You might be surprised at the number of times I’ve actually heard this line from guys. That’s not seeking permission; that is acknowledging the fact that there is someone else in your life and that person should be important enough know to why you are not home on time. I don’t think this makes you any less a man.

Admittedly, there is a behaviour on the part of a wife that makes a man feel that if he acknowledges this fact, it’s tantamount to emasculation. It’s possible, and it has been known to happen, for the wife to act in such a way that the husband does not feel like he owes her any kind of explanation. Consider this example: John is a hardworking man. He has a job that sometimes requires him to be at work till about 9 or 10pm. His fiancée knows this and in fact loves that he is so hardworking and takes his work seriously. They got married and after a few months, she started complaining about the time he spends at work. He is genuinely surprised because his weekdays have always been like that. She believes now that he is married, he has to do something about it. The situation has always been like that and he cannot understand why there is a problem now.

He’s even more irritated because he goes out of his way to leave work as early as is practicable, but the nature of his job means he usually has no choice. It’s painful to him because he wonders how his wife can know all this and still act the way she is. If the wife in this case had an issue with his work hours before they were married, she should have mentioned it to him. It’s always much easier to deal with a problem when it rears its head than to wait for it to grow and fester. She could have thought, “Well, when we’re married, I’m sure he will reduce the hours”, forgetting he actually does not pick the hours he works. If she had voiced her concern before the wedding, it would have been easier to resolve, rather than wait till they were married (and in case you were wondering, it’s NOT possible that the work hours did not cross her mind before she accepted his proposal). This is where selflessness and sacrifice come in.

A couple needs to understand something very simple: it is NOT your duty or responsibility to make yourself happy, it’s your spouse’s duty. That probably does not make sense, but think about this for a second. If your priority in your relationship is to make yourself happy, and your spouse’s priority is to make himself/herself happy, what you have is a self-centred relationship. That sounds harsh but that is the reality, because in many regards, each one will try to ensure that he/she is happy and the other person’s happiness becomes secondary. You might argue that it’s possible to make yourself and your spouse happy, which does make sense. But what do you think would happen if you left that job to your spouse, while you concentrate on making the other person happy. If both are honest about this, that’s going to be a relationship that would be pretty hard to break. The problem of course becomes, “what if you know you are concentrating on making the other person happy and the other person is not doing the same, what then?” Well, it is more than likely that if the other person is not doing the same, there is a reason. Try to talk to them. Find out what is wrong and if there is something you’re doing or not doing. This sounds a bit mushy, but if you really want your marriage to work, you have to be willing to make sacrifices and if you consider sitting your spouse down (especially men!) and having that kind of conversation a bit much, I’ll say this; try it and see what happens.
People need to understand that marriage goes way beyond the festivities of the wedding and the anticipation of living together. Marriage involves an incredible amount of sacrifice. A very common problem is unwillingness to make that kind of sacrifice or just not realising that it takes the kind of sacrifice that you have never made before to make a marriage work. I know that sounds like a cliché because everyone says it, but have you actually sat down to really think about what those words mean? Before you pack your bags, ask yourself a very simple, but very profound question, “Have I done everything to make this work? If there was another chance, would I do things differently?” If so, “which things would I do differently?” If you can be honest with yourself and not let ego cloud your reasoning, your marriage CAN still work.

Sacrifice is about forgetting about you.

Sacrifice is about closing the door on your ego.

Sacrifice is about swapping convenience for inconvenience for the sake of your relationship.

Sacrifice is about acknowledging the fact that your spouse’s happiness is primary and yours is secondary.

Sacrifice is about accepting a view you don’t necessarily agree with for the sake of peace in your home.

Sacrifice is realisation of the fact that disagreements will arise, but they do not need to escalate to quarrels.

Sacrifice for women, is the realisation that no matter how strong-willed you are, your husband is the head of the home and should be accorded that respect.

Sacrifice for men, is the realisation that head of the home is not synonymous with dictator.

Sacrifice for women, is the realisation that ALL men are born with egos and when you try to compete with a man’s ego, the marriage is the sufferer.

Sacrifice for men is the realisation that her being married to you is a choice she made and it’s your duty to make sure she does not ever regret making that choice.

Sacrifice for women is the realisation that you cannot understand a man’s ego because you were not created to understand it.

Sacrifice for men is the realisation that women were created to be loved, not understood.

One of the reasons why there is such a sharp contrast between when people are dating and when they get married is because in the former, they tend to be more tolerant (either because he feels, “I’m sure when we’re married, she will stop doing this or that”, or she feels, “he is not my husband, so he should not expect me to be this or that way”). Obviously, there are things that responsible men and women should stop or start doing when they are married. The problem is that men and women expect the other to know what changes to make as soon as marriage sets in. People are stuck in the mind frame of, “a man should know what he ought to do” and “a woman should know what she ought to do.” So I guess the obvious question is, “if you should not expect someone to change as a result of marriage, how are you sure the person knows how you want your marriage to be?”

The answer to that is quite simple; Talk about it, BEFORE the wedding! The problem is so many people spend so much time planning their wedding, but not their marriage. And if you think a talk about a subject like that may be awkward, then maybe the relationship is not as strong as you think or want to believe it is. If you had issues with certain things before the wedding, why do you think marriage will change it? When you were dating, you used to go grocery shopping together, you’re married now and feel it’s the wife’s duty. While I don’t have a problem with a man or woman’s duties, men need to understand that things as simple as grocery shopping mean a lot to women. For women, it’s a lot more than grocery shopping; it’s about doing something together as a couple. If during the pre-marriage period, they hardly or never did that together, that’s fine. But if you had no problem with it before you were married, why is it a problem now? Someone might argue that, “I’m the only one that works, I get back home and I’m tired. Is it too much to ask her to do just that?” That’s a valid argument, but the question in that case would be, how was that issue resolved before you got married? If you were not living together before the wedding, then there should have been a discussion about issues like that (it does not have to a formal, serious discussion). I’ll say this again, so many people spend so much time planning their weddings, that they forget to plan their marriage.

A lot of people believe they can change the other person. The fact is, no one can change anybody. Someone can decide to change because of someone, but can also decide not to change. My point is, if you met and fell in love with someone and did not like certain things, but were quiet about it, don’t expect marriage to change them. If you have an issue with things he/she does, sit down and have an honest conversation about it. Unless you’re married to a psychic, don’t expect the other person to know what you want or expect without telling the person and then get upset when they act the way they’ve always acted.

The bottom line is this: The way a relationship was prior to getting married does not have to change because of marriage. If anything, marriage should make that relationship deeper. Spouses should make sure that their priority is the happiness of the other. If we can all be honest about this, the sky will be the starting point, not the limit.

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We made some mistakes in our first coming, says Sylva

BAYELSA State Governor-elect, Timipre Sylva, whose victory was re-affirmed by the governorship election re-run on Saturday, spoke with reporters shortly after he was declared winner on challenges facing his administration, and declared that his main pre-occupation is to continue from where he stopped. MOHAMMED ABUBAKAR was at the Presidential Lodge, Yenegoa venue of the briefing. Excerpts:

WHAT scuttled the peace initiative you started before your first outing was nullified?

It was quite unfortunate that the peace process got jolted because of the annulment of the election. But luckily, the acting governor was already a member of the administration as Speaker. He was familiar with some of the things that I had done because I was also close to him and we took some of the decisions together. He was able guide the process in a way that it was not affected significantly. I would say that it wouldn't be difficult for me to kick-start the whole process all over again. Nothing really has happened in Bayelsa State negatively since I was away, so I think it is something we can easily salvage.

How do you see your victory?

I receive it with mixed feelings. Naturally, I'm very happy about it. It is splendid to be back here. But at the same time, it is challenging and humbling because when I saw the massive support and the genuine love from the people, it really challenges me. In fact, I told my wife the other day that my problem was how to cater for these teeming supporters; it is really a challenge. The only thing to do is to keep delivering the dividends of democracy, infrastructure and manpower development.

The peace agreement you signed with militants is for a year, which is fast coming to an end. What is going to happen after the expiration of the one year? There are fears that some of them are getting ready for a showdown. How do you intend to handle the situation?

I can assure you that there will be no more attacks. When you are used to a different style and the new one is paying off, you will not want to go back to the old style that gives you bad image, will you? I do not believe that they are ready to go back to the previous ways of doing things because they have seen that the previous strategy of kidnapping expatriates did not give them anything, any mileage. So I think that as far as expatriate kidnapping is concerned in the Niger Delta, that chapter is completely closed.

As for pipeline vandalism, if it is related to militant attack, that is also over, except the recent one that was related to community relationship with oil companies and so on. Those ones would take time and the companies will have to re-strategise and re-focus their relationships with the various communities where they operating.

What will be your attitude to the opposition, particularly, the Action Congress (AC) governorship candidate?

The first thing I will tell him is to advise him that it is against African tradition to be brandishing a broom day and night. So I would just advise him to drop the broom and come under the umbrella (PDP), because that is really where he belongs.

Secondly, he should look more into what we are doing in Bayelsa and begin to key in. If he has anything to offer as a person and as a party, let them come and look at what we are doing and key in so that they can contribute their quota. As far as I am concerned, that is the only thing I expect of them, nothing less.

How would you describe the election proper?

I am a proud beneficiary of a very transparent, free and fair election. Every Bayelsan has said that this is the best election they have ever had, and I'm very proud that I'm the beneficiary of the election. Of course, this poses challenges to me and I'm ready to deliver the dividends of democracy to Bayelsans.

When you were temporary out of power and based on what you did as governor then, what did you see that you would like to do differently now?

Yes, I saw something definitely, and I keep saying that there is no way you can run a state like Bayelsa for about 10 months and run a perfect government. I saw clearly that we didn't run a perfect government. But perfection can only be ascribed to God; we cannot ascribe perfection to ourselves. I saw that we made some mistakes. Our emphasis was mainly on infrastructure development, but you can also understand that. Coming into Bayelsa State, and this state is just 11 years old; it was like how do we create the infrastructure base for the state to kick off immediately? For me it was a passion, it consumed my attention and maybe I didn't look at the political side, leaving all the judicial processes to my assistants and commissioners. I said 'look, you guys should handle these' while my attention was clearly and completely focused on the infrastructure development. We can see the gains of that, but of course we have also seen that it has disadvantages as well because if I didn't pay complete attention to that and neglected the area of politics, I may probably not have had my election annulled.

When the election was annulled, I said one thing very clearly, which has come out to be true today. I said I saw the annulment as man's judgment and that I await God's judgment, and today, God's judgment has clearly shown that I have been vindicated.

What programmes do you have for the people in your new outing?

I already ran a short-lived government and we had got to a point where we were getting to cruising speed, and then they shot us down. Now we have to kick-start the engine and take off. But the beauty of this one is that we are going to take off from where we stopped. We are going to make sure that we pay more attention to politics and the judiciary this time around.