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There's no appease needed for anything. You only miss her and that's normal for a person in love. Get on your feet and forge ahead, challenges lie ahead, prepare to overcome them triumphantly.

They've been married for two years. So I guess they must have discussed their allergies. Perhaps she didn't take it seriously until now.

If they're compatible in other areas except this, then the lady just need a little extra effort to keep it working. First off, she should start thinking of her own business that she would do which should not be a fish business knowing the kind of hubby she has. She can still be helping her aunt for the mean time.

But while helping her aunt, she can find out as she relates with her guy if fish is a business she can continue with, it is very possible to be super meticulous with body smell. Once she's done with helping her aunt, she's not supposed to go to her guy's place straight-away. she needs to go shower using hot water and a good soap and a really good deodorant before going to his place. It would cost money though.

So what I see here is that she's not been able to switch between her job smell and pretty lady's smell. If she's disciplined in that area, she will be able to keep her man and the business successfully. She should learn from mechanics and bricklayers. When you see a light-skinned mechanic dress up going for outings, except you're told, you won't know he's the one.

First I don't know why these comments above quote the entirely long post instead of just replying..

Op you're puting the cart before the horse. You should have discussed the condition of your house with your niece before she comes in. After she moved in, you should have also discussed the matter with your hubby before suggesting she comes to use your bathroom.

Discuss with your hubby to negotiate with the landlord's son that you just want to put a hole down the toilet floor at the back beside the WC and you'll pay the plumber for the pipe that will be used outside and maybe you can share the payment for his services. You don't need a shower pipe n vent inside the bathroom, what you only need is where the bath water can flow through to the sewage tank. Anyone using the bathroom will bathe from bucket.

If you're waiting for the landlord to bear all the expenses despite the cheap rent, you will not get anything done. If you and ur husband can bear the cost alone sef, it'll make it faster. All you need is permission from the landlord. That's all

Lol. This quote and response is funny to me.

The little things that should matter in a relationship means nothing to them and they lack respect...like oga abeg leave me, talk better, do make you go, na you sabi, oga I no dey for all those ones abeg...etc kind of attitude. Like I've been there, there's nothing special in it...blabla. They won't say it, but it'll reflect in their character. It's now left for you to be sensitive enough to know.

A woman catering for a child and a young lady who has never had a child do not have same romance instinct. The single mother with a child will only think of romance or respect when there's a lot of money she stands to gain. A breadwinner woman is not a romantic woman. That's why you'd notice their rudeness to customers in markets as sellers. A lot of them have mouths to feed and fees to pay without any husband's support and that's why they're selling and working so you can't price their stuff and expect customer care.

Like they suddenly enter into maturity by force when they give birth outside wedlock and realize there's no helper anywhere to carry their cross for them. Their eyes suddenly opens ffiaam! Na woman weh no get any dependant dey dey respectful and romantic for relationship.

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Na beating design the face like that?

It's possible and feasible but such a woman must be determined, humble and selfless. Not the type that want to rub shoulder of equal rights with her husband.

However, it's rare because by the time women attain this maturity of humility and determination, they're usually aged. So what's common with many young wives who didn't know how huge the difference between being married and being single is before they married, especially those smallies in their 20s is that one area out of the three suffers. Most of these NL girls who argue with married and divorced experienced people are in this group

If she's a great mother and a career woman, her wifey nature gradually fades out. While some desire to work because all young wives are working and she doesn't want to be called a housewife ignoring the fact that she was doing well as a wife before taking the job and has started falling off the wifey threshold since she began the job, others focus on their career and ignore their primary duties to their husbands and secondary duties to their children.

Is this what you call beautiful?

BTW is it only one zenith bank that's in Jos? So once I see zenith bank in Jos, it's automatically the one with the round about

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Honestly it settles parental disputes without pandemonia and the earlier it's done, the better.

bukatyne:
Do I sound hurt to you or is this the new deflection tactics?

Take your own advise and don't speculate the source of a woman's livelihood when there is no reason to do so.

Buka, focus on how to be a Godly wife to someone and prepare for the challenges inherent. All this glory outside marriage is not what you're made for. Simple!

bukatyne:
I guess you are too slow to understand that your post did not hit on single mothers but on the income source of women.

I hear you that there is no single mother in your family. There is however none of them making good money for themselves else you will.not attack the source of income of a woman you know nothing about.

A financially handicapped married woman is not a flex except if your family believes a woman is nothing without a man.

Lol. Why do you feel so hurt with what's not your business in the first place pepperbody

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bukatyne:
Women don't make legitimate money in your family?

Fellow single mother. Single mother glory. Sorry my word hit you.

No single mothers in my family

Eyitayo29:
Thank you for your response, I have fear of commitment/marriage from watching my own parents fight and argue till my dad eventually died of a car accident. This made me stay away from women for most of my adult life.

I don't really have so much dating experiences is why I am asking this question. I am 26 and I recently ended my first long term relationship of about 1.8 years some one month ago and can't stop thinking about it. While I knew for a fact that this lady had a caring personality, I couldn't but help get frustrated at her strong personality and over-opinionated persona. Myself on the other hand, I am flexible and open to ideas and suggestions. I fail to understand whether I was not assertive enough or she was just very plain stubborn. She doesn't nag, but she knows how to go silent on default if the conversation isn't going her way, even when I am trying to explain what's best for her. I feel I cannot convince her to do Anything at all that she doesn't want to do while it's not so for me. This has made me lost, frustrated, and confused. Besides that, she is an actual decent woman. Over the course of the relationship , we have argued so much that it has really drained me, and I know it must have been the same for her too. This personality of her worried me so much that I am concerned I will be in a marriage where I have no say. And remembering what happened with my parents, I called quits with her as I didn't want to go into marriage with this unresolved issue, as she was subtly bringing up the topic of marriage.

I'm really sorry about your dad.

Having dated a lady before, seeing that she's caring despite her flaws and being flexible and open to ideas shows that you're psychologically balanced and your dad's incident did not embitter you. Keep it up

Seeing the good in a lady, being flexible to ideas shows that you're a normal man tending towards maturity and nothing is wrong with you, you need to learn to be assertive
though.

However being over-opinionated as a lady is already a bad signal. Switching off totally cus things don't go her way is another feminine manipulative attitude. Emphasis on manipulative. She does that so you would remain confused on whether you are doing it right or wrong. The truth is that she's not ready for any relationship yet so you're not guilty at all and you shouldn't feel guilty.

A marriage-ready good woman will submit and share her opinions submissively. It's a joyful thing for them to have a man who knows what he's doing give them rules and is crazy about them. If she's not like that, then she isn't ready.

Be assertive in any other relationship you enter. As long as you're sure you've done the right thing, certify it by yourself and don't wait for your actions to be certified by her. You're the leader in the relationship and your decisions should firmly stand

But I wanna ask, how did your mom take or react to the incident about your dad? I'd like to know.

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ebijimi7:
she's 27 boss one of thr issues we had last week was that she was pressuring me to wife her as quickly as possible then I told her to calm down I have alot to look out for then she got mad,at this point I was provoked and ask her in annoyance that why didn't any of your exes wife you then

I've been exactly in such a situation. I quit it in 4 months. She's now a single mother. If she can't wait patiently because her friends are all getting married, then let her go in peace

Is she employed? Does she have a job? It is not compulsory that its the guy who must initiate going out, she can too.

She must really be young. Her controversial nature especially to your sister whether your sister is at fault or not already spells that she's not ready to be a wife material let alone for marriage. So, that should guide your decision about whether you will marry her or not

BTW who told you 7 months is enough to decide on whether you will marry a person or not. Don't let women push you to what you're not ready for. They will always want it fast but don't be cajoled. You need more than 7 months to know many things she's keeping from you character-wise especially this one that's already putting up a quarrel with her in-laws. Good luck!

On this journey to marriage, your waka remain 990billion miles

Eyitayo29:
....on how to successfully select a good wife and how to be a good husband/father.

It begins with you by being the right person. That's what many men don't like to hear. To attract a good wife, you must be a good man but what's on many young men's mind nowadays is to remain in their comfort zone; not working on their attitude but hoping to get a 100% submissive wife. The reverse for women is also true.

So cut your excesses, tame your desires and appetite where necessary and build up lagging areas in your life, keep a high-discipline lifestyle and be success-driven after which you can start seeking a woman that match up to such standard.

First, your cousin is covetuous. Has she imagined loving the same guy without his money or as a broke guy? If she's not covetous, she would have acted firm against such extravagant spendings. No matter how wealthy a man is, spending anyhow coupled with absence of communication for over a week or more is a sign of unseriousness, lack of commitment and focus and no career ambition

As for the guy, you said he's either a yahoo boy or into drugs but you forgot to mention that he may be into rituals too and your cousin may have been used. She should go for spiritual check up. Sorry o, it's just the truth.

She should ask the guy what he wants and confirm from him. The guys intention is clear though but for her own emotional health, it's necessary. Once she does that, she should withdraw gradually from him, not suddenly at once (e get why) but I doubt if your cousin is mature enough to do that. You should also tell her to bear in mind that the man who will love her and want to spend the rest of life with her may not be as rich or a money spender like this guy and she might face a hard time trying to adjust to a new lifestyle of minimal spendings as her mouth is already widened by this give-away guy.

If you spend time on Facebook, TikTok and Instagram, you would agree that the speed with which women learn about life after becoming single mothers is more than lightning speed. Most women learn only in the hard way

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No ßrain to Reason of Technologies like China, U.s.a, Russia, France etc! Only s*x s*x all the time

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Too bad

Lol you must be really young.

Pray make she no reach ogun state

He must be a proud father. It's a good thing to see your son love God and keep the precepts you stand for

helinues:
Has she really been seeing anything before?

Did she see her divorce with Oni?

Make we no dey sakamaje ourselves jare

She just dey bear the title for bearing sake. With her mammy-water dressing